FabSwingers.com forum: Who in the right mind.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who in the right mind would arrange a "meet" purely through kik messaging (only). I was offered this way of meeting last night. The woman didn't want to exchange mobile numbers to chat on the phone to arrange things properly. But, we kik messaged for abit. Until I thought, my names is, Billy. Hunt. not, Silly. Cunt. Anybody other (fabbers) experienced this way of getting conned this way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet anyone based on chatting through kik

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't meet anyone based on chatting through kik"

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don;t use kik but I thought it was a way to talk without swapping numbers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it is no different to arranging a meet through fab messages? I have done this many times and the number of no shows I have had? Zero!

Though I do more often than not speak/text on phone too. But not always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done in the past but always come back to good old faithful fab.. Nothing beats it in my opinion

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I don't give out my phone number until I have met someone and only then if I intend meeting them again....

I've never conned or been conned and had plenty of successful meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don;t use kik but I thought it was a way to talk without swapping numbers?"

It is. Tho you wouldn't be subjected to site rules so if you got abuse you would just deal with it yourself. As with everything use common sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've arranged meets through here, via text/whatsapp & by Kik...all can and do work if you apply a bit of common sense. If you don't feel comfortable with any method then you don't need to use it...just as someone doesn't have to share their number if they don't want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I would want to speak to the person

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally I would want to speak to the person"

I totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't travel to a meet arranged via Kik. If someone refused to speak on the phone I wouldn't meet them at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not had a phone conversation with anyone I've met from fab and am very private with my phone number. Maybe it's a generational difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been messed about by a couple before, had their number, even talked to the lady. Ended driving round Weymouth being given direction after direction only to then be put on speaker and have them both shout "sad wanker" down the phone!

Funnily enough, unlos on fab before I had the chance to report...

A phone number is no more a guarantee of genuineness than any other method. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always start chat on here then move to kik. No problems from doing that x

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Kik's great for chatting to friends from FAB and quicker than the email on here but I've got to speak on the phone prior to a meet!

That said I've still ended up going to a meet having spoken and found all was not 'as advertised'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've rarely talked on the phone beforehand, but that's because I'm not comfortable on the phone and I don't do phone sex so just ends up a one way conversation..face to face I find it much easier to make conversation. I'll happily have a face to face social, but the few times I've attempted a pre-meet phone call I know I've not come across as 'me'. Guess we all have different approaches to meeting, and so far mine has worked just fine for me..but then again I've never claimed to be in my right mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always use kik to chat much easier than here sometimes and ive arranged meets on.there and never had a problem x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Each to their own. But, in my book. A telephone conversation a MUST.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not had a phone conversation with anyone I've met from fab and am very private with my phone number. Maybe it's a generational difference? "

I never ever give my number out, and have had plenty of excellent meets using just fab and kik to meet people. I just don't trust people to have my number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I would want to speak to the person"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally I would want to speak to the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've arranged many a meet without chatting first. No problem at all.....maybe I'm not in my right mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been messed about by a couple before, had their number, even talked to the lady. Ended driving round Weymouth being given direction after direction only to then be put on speaker and have them both shout "sad wanker" down the phone!

Funnily enough, unlos on fab before I had the chance to report...

A phone number is no more a guarantee of genuineness than any other method. .."

That's horrible ! What sad people they are to do things like that for kicks !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use kik & whatsapp to arrange meets but as mine are always social 1st arranging by text works just fine.

If it's going to be a while before we meet then we usually end up chatting on the phone.

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Well I've never used Kik and following problems I had in my early days on here I no longer give my phone number out.

If a guy doesn't trust me enough to meet me without speaking on the phone then I'll respect his choice, just like I'll expect him to respect my choice not to give my number out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who in the right mind would arrange a "meet" purely through kik messaging (only). I was offered this way of meeting last night. The woman didn't want to exchange mobile numbers to chat on the phone to arrange things properly. But, we kik messaged for abit. Until I thought, my names is, Billy. Hunt. not, Silly. Cunt. Anybody other (fabbers) experienced this way of getting conned this way?

No but surely its better than no reply at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to hear the voice might be a Barry White sounding mofo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have a phone chat first , I am quite quick in giving out my number but then I have a ipone so can just block if needs must. Having said that there are only a couple I have had to block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a phone call isn't possible then I have said hello on Skype. That's rare though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it really depends:

first I'd make it clear I have no intentions of needing a sex call.

I will check verifications in most cases

if its a couple, I may ask for a fem call(I've been on the end of a male half arranging the meet and I've sensed the fem half hasnt been aware...)

*in most cases people buy a cheap phone/sim...the technology is pretty disposable

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Personally I would want to speak to the person"

I insist on it: especially after meeting a man that looked like Daniel Craig but sounded like Joe Pasquale!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Each to their own. But, in my book. A telephone conversation a MUST.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I just don't trust people to have my number "

Yet you trust them with your body...yep, makes perfect sense to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just don't trust people to have my number

Yet you trust them with your body...yep, makes perfect sense to me!

Assuming I'm meeting perfect strangers? a few of my veris are from previous meets with an ex he was happy to give out his phone number. I see little difference between a kik convo with lots of instant messages and photos proving identity. Rarely meet unverified either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk on here for weeks its very very rare I give my number out its worked well for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I would want to speak to the person

I insist on it: especially after meeting a man that looked like Daniel Craig but sounded like Joe Pasquale!

Ahhh, but what did he fuck like?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We don't use kik / whatsapp or anything similar...But we do arrange most of our meets through messages on here and it works for us.

We are very selective about who gets our phone number and generally don't give it out before meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own. But, in my book. A telephone conversation a MUST.

for us too- as for people having our number - we can just block it if we want

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By *artinichilled1TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Always exchange mobile numbers before meeting.Better still chat on the phone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met several people without even chatting, just arranging a meet on here. Luckily turned out well for me but looking back probably was stupid of me.

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By *elshcouple91Couple
over a year ago

Llandudno

We have found that a separate number / phone for this purpose and nothing else to be the best solution to such problems.

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By *3rial Thr1LL3rMan
over a year ago

scotland

Out of all the meets I've had the ones arranged through kik have always gone as planned. The only one that turned out to be a complete fucking fruit cake was the one arranged on the phone. Practically begged me to meet her then when I was on my way and phoned for the address.....silence. Go figure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don;t use kik but I thought it was a way to talk without swapping numbers?"

This is exactly what its for. Or, in realistic terms- its for chatting to someone who doesnt want to give you their number.

So, if someone doesnt want to give you their number thats a big clue to where you stand with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not had a phone conversation with anyone I've met from fab and am very private with my phone number. Maybe it's a generational difference? "

think its more a trust issue- you know, how easily can i dump this person that i may regretfully have had some social interaction with. toys like Kik are perfect for this.

Whereas with WhatsApp you actually know their number - its just free messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really can't see the attraction in using any other way to communtcate other than fab and maybe a phone call. We tried a swing phone, whatsapp, snapchat and God knows what else and they were all abused by over eager horny guys that wanted a quick wank and were finished before we had chance to meet.

Most people have smartphones or tablets so fab is just a touch of a screen away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kik aint a bad thing I guess lots of people can't get on fab unless connected on wifi and obviously people are cautious about giving out numbers so while on your way to a meet kik can come in handy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've rarely talked on the phone beforehand, but that's because I'm not comfortable on the phone and I don't do phone sex so just ends up a one way conversation..face to face I find it much easier to make conversation. I'll happily have a face to face social, but the few times I've attempted a pre-meet

phone call I know I've not come across as 'me'. Guess we all have different approaches to meeting, and so far mine has worked just fine for me..but then again I've never claimed to be in my right mind

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this sounds like me, lol, hate talking on the phone, unless I know that person.........I've used whatsapp and had meets, which were fine. If they start been a pest, just block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kik aint a bad thing I guess lots of people can't get on fab unless connected on wifi and obviously people are cautious about giving out numbers so while on your way to a meet kik can come in handy"

So using kik doesn't use data then? The same as using fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave my mobile number to a female off here and now she wont leave me alone she,s now told me that if i want to meet her im not to come on here again

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I used to send ma messages via carrier pigeon until some pesky cat ate it, now I rely on smoke signals. 100% success rate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So using kik doesn't use data then? The same as using fab?"

kik is an application, primariy for smartphones - also has a website.

so yes it uses data,all smartphone/web interaction uses data.

the data you will use for text messages is small, but when you send/receive a picture that uses bit more(file size)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't speak on the phone, we did once but that was to meet a couple and they like to have the 2 ladies chat before a meet. But we prefer just messages xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

i not use kik whats app or any other app dont have skype or a webcam and my phone isnt connected to the internet

so its good old fashioned phone calls for me ,spoilt by pests tho at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never will meet without ohone number exchange and chat and if a couple this means both parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't need kik, and would take it as an hour to meet.

The usual procedure is a chat for a while on here, followed by a call, there have been a few where there have been a few male halfs and no female.

People worry about giving their number out, but in fairness, there is a few on the forums that have our number, and never given us bother.

Her

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I always start chat on here then move to kik. No problems from doing that x"

Same

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I always start chat on here then move to kik. No problems from doing that x"

Same

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I always start chat on here then move to kik. No problems from doing that x"

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely hate talking on the phone so it's usually kik or whatsapp or text before a meet.

Nice to have a phone number though in case lose internet signal an can't find the place though so can text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely hate talking on the phone so it's usually kik or whatsapp or text before a meet.

Nice to have a phone number though in case lose internet signal an can't find the place though so can text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Desperate people thats who!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never meet without seeing a face on cam/skype first

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

"Never meet without seeing a face on cam/skype first"
what if they havent got cam or skype ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough, unlos on fab before I had the chance to report...

A phone number is no more a guarantee of genuineness than any other method. .."

Some very deplorable people around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never meet without seeing a face on cam/skype first"

Alot of people won't cam or skype me being one of them. Just because they won't doesn't prove they are not genuine.

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