FabSwingers.com forum: snobs and fussy people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi we needsome advice first of all we are no oil paintings but we still have plenty of fun on here and in clubs. but iwe waswondering if our profile was right as well. why are a lot of couples fussy or snobbish on here you know think they are it full of themselves. we look at profiles go for our age group alot of people are like us no oil paintings as well we are on here for fun easy going as well. we are not fussy or snobbish ourselves just wandering what to do about it any thoughts about do you find the same thingxxxxxxxxmark and sheila

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's wrong to label people as fussy or stuck up, because they don't respond to your advances or if they make it clear they dont want to party with you.

You have preferences on your profile, so just respect other peoples views too.

You say you have plenty of fun, so just be happy for yourselves. Lots of people don't get any action at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi we needsome advice first of all we are no oil paintings but we still have plenty of fun on here and in clubs. but iwe waswondering if our profile was right as well. why are a lot of couples fussy or snobbish on here you know think they are it full of themselves. we look at profiles go for our age group alot of people are like us no oil paintings as well we are on here for fun easy going as well. we are not fussy or snobbish ourselves just wandering what to do about it any thoughts about do you find the same thingxxxxxxxxmark and sheila"

Im sure the people you have met will be pleased to be called no oil paintings lol

And its called choice,we wont meet someone just because that person is in our age range and they have emailed us,there has to be some attraction for us and maybe its the same for the people you are emailing???

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

As Jack says, everyone has their preferences. For us, there has to be an initial attraction in order for us to play, and we don't mind being turned down by anyone who doesn't fancy US, for the same reason.

Dont worry about it - when you do play, yo'll know you're doing so with people who want to be there.

Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im guilty of being fussy not snobby

just dont see the point if there is no attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would replace the couple photos you have where you are both clothed.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were vey fussy, and te amount of abuse we get because of it is unreal, people can't take rejection on here and that is what causes the problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with gusto,being fussy isnt being snobby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define fussy tho?

We all have our likes and diss likes, if you look at someone and think, no thanks they not for me, does that make you fussy? personally i wouldnt have though so, everyone has standards, i doubt anyone really would shag anyone who offered, i have my likes and dis likes, i say no thanks to loads of guys on a daily basis, i dont think im fussy tho i just know what i like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has personal preferences, but what annoys me is that some people seem so abusive when rejected. It's my - and their - choice who to meet. If I say no (yeah on the odd occasion I say no lol) it's only courteous to be polite about it. Why be heavy about this thing called 'fun'?.

See, Mr Nice Guy here, honest!

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

Im fussy and a snob...but I dont care

Pimms anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im fussy and a snob...but I dont care

Pimms anyone?"

It's one of my life's ambitions, to shag a posh bird, lol.

Suppose I'll get around to it, once I've shagged all the mingers

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

"Im fussy and a snob...but I dont care

Pimms anyone?

It's one of my life's ambitions, to shag a posh bird, lol.

Suppose I'll get around to it, once I've shagged all the mingers

That could take a while

hehehehehehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fussy and a Snob and still a Virgin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's wrong to label people as fussy or stuck up, because they don't respond to your advances or if they make it clear they dont want to party with you.

You have preferences on your profile, so just respect other peoples views too.

You say you have plenty of fun, so just be happy for yourselves. Lots of people don't get any action at all."

Well said that man!!

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

as most have said, everyone has their preferences...I don't get offended or upset if someone says no thanks to me, even if they messaged me first and then once they know my measurements I am shall we say too much for them to handle, I just say no worries as I know that not everyone has a taste for the larger ladies...plenty of fish in the sea and all those cliches...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fussy and a Snob and still a Virgin

u mite be fussy babes but not

sure the virgin bit is tru well

not after i got my hands on u

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

When and if we ever get to the point when we stop being fussy about who we shag then its time to pack this swinging lark in me thinks

Happy to be fussy

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When and if we ever get to the point when we stop being fussy about who we shag then its time to pack this swinging lark in me thinks

Happy to be fussy

Steve "

yea steve me 2..im no in the habit

2 just shag anyone for the sake of

getting a shag..no thanks id rather

do without an let my pussy heal up lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am a self confessed fussy cow...and proud of it...why...cos i am allowed to be...amen !!

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

"When and if we ever get to the point when we stop being fussy about who we shag then its time to pack this swinging lark in me thinks

Happy to be fussy

Steve "

I so agree...if I was out to shag britain from the messages I get I could have a meet everyday if I wanted...but, as like most I am looking for quality not quantity, there are many weekends that I don't end up having a meet at all as I also do not just shag for the sake of shagging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says your age range is 18-99 meaning there is no age range. Also it says your not interested in straight guys yet your only verification is from a straight guy. Now to me that just says you have no specific group its just what ever comes along. Maybe if you work out who you actually want to meet and what your looking for then send those people a polite email. But everyone is going to get rejected at some point.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

We have preferences, I suppose that makes us fussy......but to be honest, we would only meet with others if they were fussy too, I wouldn't want to play with a single male just because he happened to be horny and I was the only available person.

You can't expect everyone to fancy you, just like you won't fancy everyone, there has to be some attraction to want a meet and not just a mail asking for one.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Sorry but I have to find the woman sexy as I can't get a stiffy on looking at a minger

Steve

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By *t.Should.Be.FunCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Its just a personal choice thing isn't it?

We both spend quite a lot of time looking after ourselves and always make sure we're freshly scrubbed shaved and smell great before we go out and if thats the type of people we like in return whats wrong with that?

We've found people attractive from the age of 19 to late forties in clubs it just depends on the individual. We aren't in this just for sex with any old person there has to be an attraction and chemistry and if that means that we don't play with much older or really overweight people because we don't find them physically as attractive then who has any right to criticise that?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Sorry but I have to find the woman sexy as I can't get a stiffy on looking at a minger

Steve "

Not even if I put a bag over mi head?

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

Attraction is the key thing, if its not there then its not going to happen.. Just because this is a swinging site doesn't mean peeps have to shag anyone

but still looking for the best comeback to "your loss" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but I have to find the woman sexy as I can't get a stiffy on looking at a minger

Steve

Not even if I put a bag over mi head?

If it's a Harrods one I'm on my way lol

see standards

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Sorry but I have to find the woman sexy as I can't get a stiffy on looking at a minger

Steve

Not even if I put a bag over mi head?

Now I have been and checked out your profile I don't think a bag will be required as I think I began to get a stiffy so you passed the test lol.

Steve

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Sorry but I have to find the woman sexy as I can't get a stiffy on looking at a minger

Steve

Not even if I put a bag over mi head?

If it's a Harrods one I'm on my way lol

see standards

Now thats not just fussy - thats being a snob

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

We have to agree with the general consensus on here.. This is a preference and to expect people to play just because YOU want them to is naive at best! Have to agree with the comment that the day we stop being fussy is the day we stop swinging!

When we look for playmates, we tend to look at people close to our age and although we do have age limits, it is only the lower one that is set in stone. Build though is different! Like Steve said earlier, we have to find the other couple attractive and sexy. Big just doesn’t do it for us! It is the same way that very young doesn’t do it for us or bareback doesn’t do it for us!

I think it is a good idea to stand back sometimes and look at the direction that this is heading. You can be sure that if we found we were desperately arranging meets or looking for meets with anyone, we wouldn’t be here!

Fussy and snobs? Guilty as charged!

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By *arlot ScarlettWoman
over a year ago

Bolton

I can't say as we have come across many snobby people here! As all have said before, we all have preferences and because that may not include you, you can't call everyone 'fussy & snobby' thats totally ridiculous. If I were you, I would alter your profile text - it's extremely confusing and difficult to read, a bit contradictory too! Z

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

Well I don't consider myself to be fussy or a snob.....and I'm not posh either...but I do like the occasional Pimms

Choosy...now that I am....I choose to meet with people I find sexually attractive (and hopefully it is a two way process

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I don't mind being called fussy or a snob for not wanting to play with everyone that messages

It still won't make me want to play with them as each of us have our own type that we like

I also don't spend any time worrying about people that don't want to play with me,its pointless when there are so many other people t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im fussy and a snob...but I dont care

Pimms anyone?"

he he love it! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy - No, we just know what we like! As has been said already, we look after ourselves and consider ourselves to be attractive and we are attracted to the same!

Some people are attracted to opposites and I have friends who go for their complete opposites and have lots of fun! But it's just not for us at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

deffinitley not a snob .but i am fussy i would not just fuck anyone !

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I'm a snob but I'm not fussy at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction is relative though, you may play with a drop dead gorgeous (to you) couple but someone else might not find them attractive. Equally someone might find you attractive and someone else might not.

Someone said to us recently, that a couple who had turned them down were not as attractive as someone else they had played with .... see where I'm going with this? We are all different and not everyone can be for everyone. We all get "blown out" as they say once in a while, but cest la vie ... it will happen to them at some point too, variety is what makes the world go around

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its the WIIFM thing isnt it ?? there has to be something in it for me or its just not worth the time and space ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its the WIIFM thing isnt it ?? there has to be something in it for me or its just not worth the time and space ???"

Lets be honest ... we all want something out of this lifestyle don't we lol. But in simple terms it's just meeting likeminded people that we find fun and attractive without taking it all or ourselves too seriously ... well that's how we see it anyway lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its the WIIFM thing isnt it ?? there has to be something in it for me or its just not worth the time and space ???

me too! and if thats being fussy them so be it !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its the WIIFM thing isnt it ?? there has to be something in it for me or its just not worth the time and space ???

me too! and if thats being fussy them so be it !!

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its all about personal preference, i have messaged loads of ladies to which i have had no reply most get deleted before they even get read that's the way of things on these sites as a photo cannot put across all that that person is, its all about the first look if they don't like the pic then you're buggered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its all about personal preference, i have messaged loads of ladies to which i have had no reply most get deleted before they even get read that's the way of things on these sites as a photo cannot put across all that that person is, its all about the first look if they don't like the pic then you're buggered "

but if u like the pic you could be buggered too ?????

P.S.how far is it to rotheram ????

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Its just a personal choice thing isn't it?

I agree with you entirely i am a large lady and as you said not everyones cup of tea but i wouldn't take rejection to heart as i dish out rejection as much as i get it.

We are all on here for fun with like minded people that we attracted to and we click with in some way if that means being a snob and fussy then i fall into the catagory and i'm not about to change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im a large lady size 20-22

if i take pictures and think hmmm i dont let them go anywhere near a site like this i have to be confident i look and feel sexy

if you aren't happy with your photos get some more done, have fun and play that's what i do and learnt allot from taking my own pics

if someone messages me and an attraction is made the great but 99.9% there is not attraction for me i am fussy but thats my prerogative

if i dont fancy someone i couldn't sleep with them

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By *andacoupleCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

hi,i totally agree with you,we are all idividuals in our own right,we have the right to choose who we do and don`t meet.If there is no physical attraction or mental connection then there is no point in meeting for the sake of it...i dont class myself as a snob but i am fussy who i meet and won`t meet for the sake of it,when that day arrives i will stop swinging.We all face rejection at some point...so if being fussy labels me a snob then im giulty as charged.I agree we should all respect other peoples views too. xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"deffinitley not a snob .but i am fussy i would not just fuck anyone !"

I know that pic

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

I agree hun i won't put pics of me on here i'm not happy with if you don't think you look good in them then no one else is likely to (the odd one gets through the net if hubby uploads them)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy, damn right we are, we play with people we are attracted to, that is predominantly governed by personality but looks are important to us too.

Barbie dolls, Muscle men, Prima donnas, catwalk models don't do it for us, but average people with average looks and above average personalities win through everytime, our peers are what we like.

Stuck up, nobody that has ever met me could ever accuse me of being stuck up.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Fussy, damn right we are, we play with people we are attracted to, that is predominantly governed by personality but looks are important to us too.

Barbie dolls, Muscle men, Prima donnas, catwalk models don't do it for us, but average people with average looks and above average personalities win through everytime, our peers are what we like.

Stuck up, nobody that has ever met me could ever accuse me of being stuck up."
well said you, im fussy and im staying that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im fussy as had meet with an older guy with his fuck buddy and did not like how he treated her. His age was out of our limits and found he was abuseive and uncaring for anything but his needs hence the age cap.

For the younger guy I like to give them a chance if they follow our rules and dont push us or torment us to play on cam or ring us at all ours.

The thing is I like a meet to look different from hubby and make me laugh as no partner is shy and if the guy or couple can get a banter going ti means that we will all enjoy the time.

We do like to have a coffee and chat afterwards not just rush away as we want these people to enjoy experience as well.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Fussy - guilty - although not looks fussy (ell -ish) .. it's all to do with perviness and attitude..

But sometimes your radar (swing-dar?) fails and you meet couples who fall through the crack.. and one of us ends up taking one for the team...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im fussy as had meet with an older guy with his fuck buddy and did not like how he treated her. His age was out of our limits and found he was abuseive and uncaring for anything but his needs hence the age cap.

For the younger guy I like to give them a chance if they follow our rules and dont push us or torment us to play on cam or ring us at all ours.

The thing is I like a meet to look different from hubby and make me laugh as no partner is shy and if the guy or couple can get a banter going ti means that we will all enjoy the time.

We do like to have a coffee and chat afterwards not just rush away as we want these people to enjoy experience as well."

People sometimes wonder why some of us will play with couples but not FB's, we are such a couple and our profile says no FB's.

This for us is the reason, we have found that when a couple are in a relationship, be it long term or only just got together, they are committed to each other, they care for each other and are anxious to know that thier partner is having as good a time as they are.

We have met FB's in the past and in the worst case found that the guy has just "picked the first woman to say yes she will meet and play as a couple" subsequently he has had no interest in her needs, not even wanted to play with her in some instances, interested only in playing with Sasha and if his partner for the night isn't enjoying the experience he doesn't care.

As for the age thing, this is why we will not meet people whose age criteria we are not within and our profile says that (though it is annoying when people with 40 max age limits contact us)

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By *anndelCouple
over a year ago

farnborough hants

As many have said before us, there has to be some attraction, both looks and personality... If its going to be an arranged meet we always try and meet socially first as if personality's don't gel then a play meet just won't work. Personality is probably more important to us but looks do count.

If that makes us fussy and snobbish then so be it, but we are quite happy to accept a thanks but no thanks if people are not attracted to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought that was part of the fun being fussy, because thats what the scenes all about, having the choice and playing with the ones you want to rather than everybody because their there.

Dont think its being snobby, but the right to choice is one most swingers will stand up for. Its comes down to attraction in the end, if its not there it shouldnt happen.

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By *averiMan
over a year ago

Swindon to bristol

why have you blocked single blokes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why have you blocked single blokes?"

its their choice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We`re neither "snobby" or "fussy" (just check out our verifications you`ll get the picture).

OUCH!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Snobby' - A pre-conceived idea from one's self of being higher and mightier than others!

Get a life, we're all swingers! That come in various shapes,sizes and preferences. Just because you've been rejected, don't try and label it with the above title.

Nobody likes rejection, but it's a fact of life.

I say, just move on.

Bippy (as I'm now known as)

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By *entboy5Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I'm not posh or fussy, but when I view some of the profiles on hear I do feel like I'm watching an episode of Shameless sometimes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you meant here?

Hear and here have two very different definitions.

"I'm not posh or fussy, but when I view some of the profiles on hear I do feel like I'm watching an episode of Shameless sometimes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why shouldn't people be fussy?

It's their fantasy, their requirements and their rules. Why change what you want to accommodate a meet with someone you don't want to meet?

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