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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do women like meeting married men? It seems meeting a married woman kind of turns me on but I don't seem to be having much luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were to be open and honest about being married.........maybe......just maybe a meet may happen. Majority of folk won't knowingly play with a cheat.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Some will, some won't. If thats the game you are looking to play you have to accept that you've made it harder for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope but I respect those that are honest on their profile..... Just a shame that they can't be honest with their wife's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also a few men like meeting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope but I respect those that are honest on their profile..... Just a shame that they can't be honest with their wife's "

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By *ilthydirtyfuckersCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all. "

Very true! This site can unfortunately be very one sided towards slating guys at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whether you're looking to meet married or single woman you might have more luck if you update your profile with text & photos.

I tend to delete one liner profiles & cock avatar pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all. "

How do you know? I get plenty of abusive messages about being a married woman. Probably not as many as if I was a man but there's still plenty of slating going on, don't worry!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all. "

Show me 5 threads raised by women asking why no one will meet them because they are married?? You'll struggle.

If more did start threads more would get slated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all.

Show me 5 threads raised by women asking why no one will meet them because they are married?? You'll struggle.

If more did start threads more would get slated. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I preceded married men as I'm married too so we both know we appreciate each other's views and need for discretion.

Plus it stops feelings developing too much.

As for cheating, yes ashamedly it is. But we all have our reasons for being here. My profile (although hidden at mo) is open and honest. This is my escapism. I'm not looking to replace him at all. Just have friends in similar positions and replace the fun.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all. "

That's because woman don't start threads moaning that they can't get meets...!!

The few that have, got mixed responses depending on their looks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not moaning I don't get cheats I just get a lot of abuse for being married I removed all text because if I didn't reply to a guy he'd give me loads of shit! I don't ever meet guys lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not moaning I don't get cheats I just get a lot of abuse for being married I removed all text because if I didn't reply to a guy he'd give me loads of shit! I don't ever meet guys lol"

Block men in your message settings if you're not interested in them and report abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not moaning I don't get cheats I just get a lot of abuse for being married I removed all text because if I didn't reply to a guy he'd give me loads of shit! I don't ever meet guys lol"

Well why don't you filter out guys then they can't message you.

Do you read profiles before messaging as maybe you're sending messages to women who state clearly that they don't meet married men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm Married & loving it!!

I was here a couple of years ago & had plenty of fun, I'm back again & looking for more fun.

Happily married, she knows I'm on here & when I go out to play. No lying in my house.

Maybe if your honest at home it might reflect how you are on here & people may look differently?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the point is that ladies can afford to be picky on here and if they choose not to meet married people they will still have a meet when they want one !

As for some guys they cant afford to be picky so morals thrown out of the window .

And in my experiances on here alot of ladies are married but there more open about it .

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all.

That's because woman don't start threads moaning that they can't get meets...!!

The few that have, got mixed responses depending on their looks "

OP: if you're specifically after married women, there are sites that cater for 'marriage dating' but carried huge subscription fees.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im as good as married (well, living in sin for 11 years) and am on here for no other reason that i'm in a relationship that is not forthcoming sexually. Been on here for two years and pinged a couple of mails back and forth but no meets or and inkling of .... not much love for a married man on here other than gay guys and that's not my bag baby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and hve a fb. My marriage unhappy hench reason for cheating. My fb and I are just enjoying some fun with each other/others as and when we want to invite others to play with us. Lots of people cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sry Jill Comber Couple posted previous thread.

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By *ilthydirtyfuckersCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all.

Show me 5 threads raised by women asking why no one will meet them because they are married?? You'll struggle.

If more did start threads more would get slated. "

LOL ..... Married women don't need to post, because there are guys lining up to help them cheat. A lot of them don't even declare the fact they are married. At least the guys that post are being open about it , even though it's still wrong. We get stupid emails from couples just as much as men. Too much guy bashing on this site. Obviously a lot of bitter divorcee,s on here .

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By *asterPSubslutCouple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Happy to meet married men as long as they are hung it is a turn on . Equally not my issue but theirs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all.

Show me 5 threads raised by women asking why no one will meet them because they are married?? You'll struggle.

If more did start threads more would get slated.

LOL ..... Married women don't need to post, because there are guys lining up to help them cheat. A lot of them don't even declare the fact they are married. At least the guys that post are being open about it , even though it's still wrong. We get stupid emails from couples just as much as men. Too much guy bashing on this site. Obviously a lot of bitter divorcee,s on here . "

Well everybody to their own. Obviously reasons why people cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a married man who has joined for some fun be it chat or meets, it's not as if I woke up one day and decided I was going to cheat on my wife. 10years spent trying to reignite the sex without any joy, still love my wife and no intentions of leaving but we all need a bit of loving now and then, don't we? X

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I think the point is that ladies can afford to be picky on here and if they choose not to meet married people they will still have a meet when they want one !

As for some guys they cant afford to be picky so morals thrown out of the window .

And in my experiances on here alot of ladies are married but there more open about it ."

Anyone can afford to be picky, some just choose not to be!

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally like to shag married women, the idea of the pusie is taken, makes my dick harder

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

I have my morals I always say no to married men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah the old "Married Men" chestnut again! I posted this a couple of weeks back on another thread and rather than retype it out again I've done a straight copy and paste so it may sound slightly out of context for this thread but it's just my perspective on why I am here. Apologies if you've read it before but so many threads get repeated on here!

Take or leave it but for me it's the truth.

- -

It's very simplistic to just write off the married guys here as liars and cheats - but sometimes it's not as simple as that.

I make no secret of the fact I'm married on here so everyone can decide right away and upfront if they want to block or meet me.

The simple fact is I love my wife very much, she is my soul mate, I'd take a bullet for her, no question about that.

In just about every other way we are perfectly compatible - same sense of humour, like the same sort of holidays etc. We get on famously together and very very rarely have disagreements about anything.

The only way we're different is sex drive. When we have it, probably 2 or 3 times a month (not a lot by swingers standards, but on a par with some other married couples from what I hear) it's great, we both enjoy it and are both satisfied.

But our needs are different - she is very vanilla, she won't experiment, use toys etc. She is body conscious despite me frequently telling her she's gorgeous (and she is) so won't allow photos etc, she's reluctant to dress up in sexy undies etc so the one area we really materially differ in our views is sex life.

And I have spoken to her about it and how I feel many times, very civilised and non-confrontational or anything like that.

She certainly would never swing (indeed we have been propositioned!) and has openly said 'no way' to anything like that.

So she has different needs and I respect that. I certainly won't force her to do anything or go down a path that she's not comfortable with - as I say we have discussed many times so I know what she does and doesn't want to do.

So where does that leave me?

Truthfully it leaves me wanting more sexually. But I'd never leave her, I love her. So the simplistic view of 'if you're going to cheat just leave her' is totally invalid.

So what are the options?

Have an affair? To me that's worse as that's about having an emotional attachment with someone else and I have no desire to do that.

What about buying sex off an escort or prostitute or whatever you want to call them? Yep. Done that in the past if I'm honest. Safe sex with genuine independents - no way I want to risk anyone who has been exploited in any way.

And the third way? No strings encounters with like minded people from sites like this. No emotional attachment - just a release.

I've not met anyone here yet but have from other sites.

Truthfully I feel I there wasn't options like this then the difference in our needs COULD become a wedge between us and drive resentment which could be damaging to our relationship.

Having this outlet relieves that potential.

Some of you may claim that's bullshit and a poor justification to cheat. And I can understand that. But for me, it's true. I don't do this very often (swinging or the paid sex route) just a couple of times a year.

Anyway, feel free to slate me, block me, be disgusted with me but that's just the way it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all.

Show me 5 threads raised by women asking why no one will meet them because they are married?? You'll struggle.

If more did start threads more would get slated.

LOL ..... Married women don't need to post, because there are guys lining up to help them cheat. A lot of them don't even declare the fact they are married. At least the guys that post are being open about it , even though it's still wrong. We get stupid emails from couples just as much as men. Too much guy bashing on this site. Obviously a lot of bitter divorcee,s on here . "
gotta agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was married and faithful to my wife for 24 years 2 gorgeous kids . Beautiful house . Then found out my wife had been cheating on me . Only people who have felt the pain i went through could possibly understand what cheating does to lifes

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ah the old "Married Men" chestnut again! I posted this a couple of weeks back on another thread and rather than retype it out again I've done a straight copy and paste so it may sound slightly out of context for this thread but it's just my perspective on why I am here. Apologies if you've read it before but so many threads get repeated on here!

Take or leave it but for me it's the truth.

- -

It's very simplistic to just write off the married guys here as liars and cheats - but sometimes it's not as simple as that.

I make no secret of the fact I'm married on here so everyone can decide right away and upfront if they want to block or meet me.

The simple fact is I love my wife very much, she is my soul mate, I'd take a bullet for her, no question about that.

In just about every other way we are perfectly compatible - same sense of humour, like the same sort of holidays etc. We get on famously together and very very rarely have disagreements about anything.

The only way we're different is sex drive. When we have it, probably 2 or 3 times a month (not a lot by swingers standards, but on a par with some other married couples from what I hear) it's great, we both enjoy it and are both satisfied.

But our needs are different - she is very vanilla, she won't experiment, use toys etc. She is body conscious despite me frequently telling her she's gorgeous (and she is) so won't allow photos etc, she's reluctant to dress up in sexy undies etc so the one area we really materially differ in our views is sex life.

And I have spoken to her about it and how I feel many times, very civilised and non-confrontational or anything like that.

She certainly would never swing (indeed we have been propositioned!) and has openly said 'no way' to anything like that.

So she has different needs and I respect that. I certainly won't force her to do anything or go down a path that she's not comfortable with - as I say we have discussed many times so I know what she does and doesn't want to do.

So where does that leave me?

Truthfully it leaves me wanting more sexually. But I'd never leave her, I love her. So the simplistic view of 'if you're going to cheat just leave her' is totally invalid.

So what are the options?

Have an affair? To me that's worse as that's about having an emotional attachment with someone else and I have no desire to do that.

What about buying sex off an escort or prostitute or whatever you want to call them? Yep. Done that in the past if I'm honest. Safe sex with genuine independents - no way I want to risk anyone who has been exploited in any way.

And the third way? No strings encounters with like minded people from sites like this. No emotional attachment - just a release.

I've not met anyone here yet but have from other sites.

Truthfully I feel I there wasn't options like this then the difference in our needs COULD become a wedge between us and drive resentment which could be damaging to our relationship.

Having this outlet relieves that potential.

Some of you may claim that's bullshit and a poor justification to cheat. And I can understand that. But for me, it's true. I don't do this very often (swinging or the paid sex route) just a couple of times a year.

Anyway, feel free to slate me, block me, be disgusted with me but that's just the way it is.

"

You don't feel that telling a load of strangers on the internet about the things your wife won't do sexually and essentially laying the blame for your behaviour at her door is a betrayal of her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah the old "Married Men" chestnut again! I posted this a couple of weeks back on another thread and rather than retype it out again I've done a straight copy and paste so it may sound slightly out of context for this thread but it's just my perspective on why I am here. Apologies if you've read it before but so many threads get repeated on here!

Take or leave it but for me it's the truth.

- -

It's very simplistic to just write off the married guys here as liars and cheats - but sometimes it's not as simple as that.

I make no secret of the fact I'm married on here so everyone can decide right away and upfront if they want to block or meet me.

The simple fact is I love my wife very much, she is my soul mate, I'd take a bullet for her, no question about that.

In just about every other way we are perfectly compatible - same sense of humour, like the same sort of holidays etc. We get on famously together and very very rarely have disagreements about anything.

The only way we're different is sex drive. When we have it, probably 2 or 3 times a month (not a lot by swingers standards, but on a par with some other married couples from what I hear) it's great, we both enjoy it and are both satisfied.

But our needs are different - she is very vanilla, she won't experiment, use toys etc. She is body conscious despite me frequently telling her she's gorgeous (and she is) so won't allow photos etc, she's reluctant to dress up in sexy undies etc so the one area we really materially differ in our views is sex life.

And I have spoken to her about it and how I feel many times, very civilised and non-confrontational or anything like that.

She certainly would never swing (indeed we have been propositioned!) and has openly said 'no way' to anything like that.

So she has different needs and I respect that. I certainly won't force her to do anything or go down a path that she's not comfortable with - as I say we have discussed many times so I know what she does and doesn't want to do.

So where does that leave me?

Truthfully it leaves me wanting more sexually. But I'd never leave her, I love her. So the simplistic view of 'if you're going to cheat just leave her' is totally invalid.

So what are the options?

Have an affair? To me that's worse as that's about having an emotional attachment with someone else and I have no desire to do that.

What about buying sex off an escort or prostitute or whatever you want to call them? Yep. Done that in the past if I'm honest. Safe sex with genuine independents - no way I want to risk anyone who has been exploited in any way.

And the third way? No strings encounters with like minded people from sites like this. No emotional attachment - just a release.

I've not met anyone here yet but have from other sites.

Truthfully I feel I there wasn't options like this then the difference in our needs COULD become a wedge between us and drive resentment which could be damaging to our relationship.

Having this outlet relieves that potential.

Some of you may claim that's bullshit and a poor justification to cheat. And I can understand that. But for me, it's true. I don't do this very often (swinging or the paid sex route) just a couple of times a year.

Anyway, feel free to slate me, block me, be disgusted with me but that's just the way it is.

You don't feel that telling a load of strangers on the internet about the things your wife won't do sexually and essentially laying the blame for your behaviour at her door is a betrayal of her?

"

I'm not blaming her at all. I take full accountability for my actions - I know I am the one cheating here and it's entirely down to me. My post originally was in response to a question of why there are married men on here cheating. As I said it's probably out of context for this thread.

As to betrayal - as you say it's on an Internet forum full of strangers. I would hope nobody can identify me, or her.

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By *utterflywingsWoman
over a year ago

Creswell Derbyshire

A cheat is a cheat, both men and women are in here cheating. Always amazes me why people take vows of marriage then want to shag around, try staying single. Too many problems are caused by people cheating and lieing, yes i appreciate we all have our own views on this and this is mine......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bitter divorcees (a gazillion posts ago)?

what tosh

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

You don't feel that telling a load of strangers on the internet about the things your wife won't do sexually and essentially laying the blame for your behaviour at her door is a betrayal of her?

I'm not blaming her at all. I take full accountability for my actions - I know I am the one cheating here and it's entirely down to me. My post originally was in response to a question of why there are married men on here cheating. As I said it's probably out of context for this thread.

As to betrayal - as you say it's on an Internet forum full of strangers. I would hope nobody can identify me, or her. "

So it's only a betrayal if you discuss her with people who know her or you?

If I were in her position I wouldn't agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You don't feel that telling a load of strangers on the internet about the things your wife won't do sexually and essentially laying the blame for your behaviour at her door is a betrayal of her?

I'm not blaming her at all. I take full accountability for my actions - I know I am the one cheating here and it's entirely down to me. My post originally was in response to a question of why there are married men on here cheating. As I said it's probably out of context for this thread.

As to betrayal - as you say it's on an Internet forum full of strangers. I would hope nobody can identify me, or her.

So it's only a betrayal if you discuss her with people who know her or you?

If I were in her position I wouldn't agree.

"

Fair enough. I respect your view.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"

As to betrayal - as you say it's on an Internet forum full of strangers. I would hope nobody can identify me, or her. "

It is a betrayal of trust, of confidence. You don't have to be identified to have betrayed her.

And all for some kinky sex a couple of times a year? Doesn't seem worth it to me.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Was married and faithful to my wife for 24 years 2 gorgeous kids . Beautiful house . Then found out my wife had been cheating on me . Only people who have felt the pain i went through could possibly understand what cheating does to lifes "

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By *arlamMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I'm a married man but my wife and I discussed sex in our marriage and she is just not that way inclined.

Basically I need it and we agreed that if I need it I should go and get it as long as I'm discrete and don't do anything to embarass or disgrace her.

So I respect her wishes and she respects my needs, what's so wrong with that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is different for everyone on here.

A lot of women on here will slate any man for being on here to cheat, without even trying to understand why you may want to. I know i will get abuse about this, but i think a lot of it has to do with their own insecurities.

They are worried about their other halfs, so reflect their anxieties onto other people.

Some people just think it's a shit thing to do.

Although they are happy to take their partners with them and shag groups of people. (it's ok because in their head it's fine)

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Wish I could meet men who are not married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all. "

Yes they do! I will not play wit harried women who are not honest about it. I do have a few friends from here who are married...but are upfront about it ...and importantly their hubbies know...I've net a couple of the hubbies too even tho they don't partake of the lifestyle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many reasons why people cheat. But who are we to judge if we dont know their circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are many reasons why people cheat. But who are we to judge if we dont know their circumstances. "

Although im not saying its right either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bitter divorcees (a gazillion posts ago)?

what tosh"
huh ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man but my wife and I discussed sex in our marriage and she is just not that way inclined.

Basically I need it and we agreed that if I need it I should go and get it as long as I'm discrete and don't do anything to embarass or disgrace her.

So I respect her wishes and she respects my needs, what's so wrong with that?"

That's not cheating. It doesn't mean that people like like myself have to play with you though, if our preferences do not include "single" married men/women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is different for everyone on here.

A lot of women on here will slate any man for being on here to cheat, without even trying to understand why you may want to. I know i will get abuse about this, but i think a lot of it has to do with their own insecurities.

They are worried about their other halfs, so reflect their anxieties onto other people.

Some people just think it's a shit thing to do.

Although they are happy to take their partners with them and shag groups of people. (it's ok because in their head it's fine)"

You just need to accept some people simply do not choose to play with married "singles". We don't have to justify ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bitter divorcees (a gazillion posts ago)?

what tosh huh ???"

I thought you might pop up .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is different for everyone on here.

A lot of women on here will slate any man for being on here to cheat, without even trying to understand why you may want to. I know i will get abuse about this, but i think a lot of it has to do with their own insecurities.

They are worried about their other halfs, so reflect their anxieties onto other people.

Some people just think it's a shit thing to do.

Although they are happy to take their partners with them and shag groups of people. (it's ok because in their head it's fine)

You just need to accept some people simply do not choose to play with married "singles". We don't have to justify ourselves."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bitter divorcees (a gazillion posts ago)?

what tosh huh ???

I thought you might pop up ."
lol do i sound bitter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bitter divorcees (a gazillion posts ago)?

what tosh huh ???

I thought you might pop up . lol do i sound bitter "

Do you taste bitter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bitter divorcees (a gazillion posts ago)?

what tosh huh ???

I thought you might pop up . lol do i sound bitter

Do you taste bitter? "
Thats for me to know and you to find out although never tasted myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bitter divorcees (a gazillion posts ago)?

what tosh huh ???

I thought you might pop up . lol do i sound bitter

Do you taste bitter? Thats for me to know and you to find out although never tasted myself "

Sweeten it man, sweeten it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There are many reasons why people cheat. But who are we to judge if we dont know their circumstances. "

We shouldn't but some people will happily tell you their circumstances giving the unwitting partner no chance to put their side of the story and presenting their actions as a gesture to save that partner distress. I feel entitled to pass comment under those circumstances otherwise I'm not bothered what people do within or without their marriage.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all.

Very true! This site can unfortunately be very one sided towards slating guys at times"

I've been slated before. I know I'm not to everyone's taste, but I just take it on the chin

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It is different for everyone on here.

A lot of women on here will slate any man for being on here to cheat, without even trying to understand why you may want to. I know i will get abuse about this, but i think a lot of it has to do with their own insecurities.

They are worried about their other halfs, so reflect their anxieties onto other people.

Some people just think it's a shit thing to do.

Although they are happy to take their partners with them and shag groups of people. (it's ok because in their head it's fine)"

There is a distinction between having sex with other people without your partners knowledge and having sex with other people with their full knowledge and encouragement.

I'm interested as to why you think women should try and understand the reasons behind another person's infidelity, do you think we should make a decision as to their eligibility based on what they tell us on here about their marital situation? Lol, as we know no man ever lied to get sex.did he...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I preceded married men as I'm married too so we both know we appreciate each other's views and need for discretion.

Plus it stops feelings developing too much.

As for cheating, yes ashamedly it is. But we all have our reasons for being here. My profile (although hidden at mo) is open and honest. This is my escapism. I'm not looking to replace him at all. Just have friends in similar positions and replace the fun.

X"

Same, well but reversed. My partner knows, has chosen to be celibate and given permission but asked for discretion. My friends on here are all aware too and it makes for a super arrangement for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man but my wife and I discussed sex in our marriage and she is just not that way inclined.

Basically I need it and we agreed that if I need it I should go and get it as long as I'm discrete and don't do anything to embarass or disgrace her.

So I respect her wishes and she respects my needs, what's so wrong with that?"

Ditto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was married and faithful to my wife for 24 years 2 gorgeous kids . Beautiful house . Then found out my wife had been cheating on me . Only people who have felt the pain i went through could possibly understand what cheating does to lifes "

I'm sorry you went through this. xx

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By *ilthydirtyfuckersCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Bitter divorcees (a gazillion posts ago)?

what tosh"

That's not even a real word ....LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when you married you made a vow to each other..cheat and you are the only loser..married men should sort their marriage out not come on here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah the old "Married Men" chestnut again! I posted this a couple of weeks back on another thread and rather than retype it out again I've done a straight copy and paste so it may sound slightly out of context for this thread but it's just my perspective on why I am here. Apologies if you've read it before but so many threads get repeated on here!

Take or leave it but for me it's the truth.

- -

It's very simplistic to just write off the married guys here as liars and cheats - but sometimes it's not as simple as that.

I make no secret of the fact I'm married on here so everyone can decide right away and upfront if they want to block or meet me.

The simple fact is I love my wife very much, she is my soul mate, I'd take a bullet for her, no question about that.

In just about every other way we are perfectly compatible - same sense of humour, like the same sort of holidays etc. We get on famously together and very very rarely have disagreements about anything.

The only way we're different is sex drive. When we have it, probably 2 or 3 times a month (not a lot by swingers standards, but on a par with some other married couples from what I hear) it's great, we both enjoy it and are both satisfied.

But our needs are different - she is very vanilla, she won't experiment, use toys etc. She is body conscious despite me frequently telling her she's gorgeous (and she is) so won't allow photos etc, she's reluctant to dress up in sexy undies etc so the one area we really materially differ in our views is sex life.

And I have spoken to her about it and how I feel many times, very civilised and non-confrontational or anything like that.

She certainly would never swing (indeed we have been propositioned!) and has openly said 'no way' to anything like that.

So she has different needs and I respect that. I certainly won't force her to do anything or go down a path that she's not comfortable with - as I say we have discussed many times so I know what she does and doesn't want to do.

So where does that leave me?

Truthfully it leaves me wanting more sexually. But I'd never leave her, I love her. So the simplistic view of 'if you're going to cheat just leave her' is totally invalid.

So what are the options?

Have an affair? To me that's worse as that's about having an emotional attachment with someone else and I have no desire to do that.

What about buying sex off an escort or prostitute or whatever you want to call them? Yep. Done that in the past if I'm honest. Safe sex with genuine independents - no way I want to risk anyone who has been exploited in any way.

And the third way? No strings encounters with like minded people from sites like this. No emotional attachment - just a release.

I've not met anyone here yet but have from other sites.

Truthfully I feel I there wasn't options like this then the difference in our needs COULD become a wedge between us and drive resentment which could be damaging to our relationship.

Having this outlet relieves that potential.

Some of you may claim that's bullshit and a poor justification to cheat. And I can understand that. But for me, it's true. I don't do this very often (swinging or the paid sex route) just a couple of times a year.

Anyway, feel free to slate me, block me, be disgusted with me but that's just the way it is.

"

If you only do it a few times a year, why bother???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am married. Wish the wife was too.

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By *ilthydirtyfuckersCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"when you married you made a vow to each other..cheat and you are the only loser..married men should sort their marriage out not come on here.."

Including married Women of course which you accidentally forgot to mention .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when you married you made a vow to each other..cheat and you are the only loser..married men should sort their marriage out not come on here..

Including married Women of course which you accidentally forgot to mention . "

Not all Married guys and girls cheat. Some are permitted and honest with their spouses

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By *ilthydirtyfuckersCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"when you married you made a vow to each other..cheat and you are the only loser..married men should sort their marriage out not come on here..

Including married Women of course which you accidentally forgot to mention .

Not all Married guys and girls cheat. Some are permitted and honest with their spouses "

I agree. We are a perfect example of this. My husband lets me play with Malcolm regularly both alone and with him. They are now good friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when you married you made a vow to each other..cheat and you are the only loser..married men should sort their marriage out not come on here..

Including married Women of course which you accidentally forgot to mention .

Not all Married guys and girls cheat. Some are permitted and honest with their spouses

I agree. We are a perfect example of this. My husband lets me play with Malcolm regularly both alone and with him. They are now good friends. "

excellent and why not I used to work with a guy who used to spend private time with my ex wife (no not the reason for our divorce). we were good mates. my ex and I talked about their erotic liaisons which enhanced our sex life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when you married you made a vow to each other..cheat and you are the only loser..married men should sort their marriage out not come on here..

Including married Women of course which you accidentally forgot to mention .

Not all Married guys and girls cheat. Some are permitted and honest with their spouses

I agree. We are a perfect example of this. My husband lets me play with Malcolm regularly both alone and with him. They are now good friends. "

That's great unless you & Malcolm become more than good friends ~ do you ever discuss that scenario as it can happen...(not saying in all circumstances!!)..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when you married you made a vow to each other..cheat and you are the only loser..married men should sort their marriage out not come on here..

Including married Women of course which you accidentally forgot to mention .

Not all Married guys and girls cheat. Some are permitted and honest with their spouses

I agree. We are a perfect example of this. My husband lets me play with Malcolm regularly both alone and with him. They are now good friends.

That's great unless you & Malcolm become more than good friends ~ do you ever discuss that scenario as it can happen...(not saying in all circumstances!!)..?

"

Interesting thought

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By *amamanMan
over a year ago

Inverness and around. ...


"I preceded married men as I'm married too so we both know we appreciate each other's views and need for discretion.

Plus it stops feelings developing too much.

As for cheating, yes ashamedly it is. But we all have our reasons for being here. My profile (although hidden at mo) is open and honest. This is my escapism. I'm not looking to replace him at all. Just have friends in similar positions and replace the fun.

X"

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"There is a distinction between having sex with other people without your partners knowledge and having sex with other people with their full knowledge and encouragement.

I'm interested as to why you think women should try and understand the reasons behind another person's infidelity, do you think we should make a decision as to their eligibility based on what they tell us on here about their marital situation? Lol, as we know no man ever lied to get sex.did he... "

Good point. I nearly always decline to meet attached men even when they play with permission, as all the couples who have approached me would confirm, it just doesn't feel right to me and I would rather avoid any chance of 'complications'.

But my biggest bugbear is honesty, I cannot stand deception in any form, lies really turn my stomach, even within the context of nsa.

How could I ever trust a man who was deceiving his wife not to lie to me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are loads of cheating females on this site but they never get slated at all.

How do you know? I get plenty of abusive messages about being a married woman. Probably not as many as if I was a man but there's still plenty of slating going on, don't worry!"

some people just love an excuse to moan and run others down. it wouldnt be my cup of tea but never say never and all dat......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish there was a separate section for married men and women who wanted to meet other married people. I would feel more comfortable meeting a married woman as you both need to have that mutual respect and trust. Plus you know it is purely just a no strings thing.

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By *ilthydirtyfuckersCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I wish there was a separate section for married men and women who wanted to meet other married people. I would feel more comfortable meeting a married woman as you both need to have that mutual respect and trust. Plus you know it is purely just a no strings thing."

Your on the wrong site. Illicit Encounters is the site for cheating .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope but I respect those that are honest on their profile..... Just a shame that they can't be honest with their wife's "

Im on here for no other reason then sexual, my wife wont play, we get on so well in all other ways so we wont break up and i need relief.

lots of people like me around,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm open about being a married guy, but I don't get abuse. I just get ignored!! But I can't and won't complain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when you married you made a vow to each other..cheat and you are the only loser..married men should sort their marriage out not come on here..

Including married Women of course which you accidentally forgot to mention .

Not all Married guys and girls cheat. Some are permitted and honest with their spouses

I agree. We are a perfect example of this. My husband lets me play with Malcolm regularly both alone and with him. They are now good friends. "

Same, I'm allowed to play, as long as she knows where I'm going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a distinction between having sex with other people without your partners knowledge and having sex with other people with their full knowledge and encouragement.

I'm interested as to why you think women should try and understand the reasons behind another person's infidelity, do you think we should make a decision as to their eligibility based on what they tell us on here about their marital situation? Lol, as we know no man ever lied to get sex.did he...

Good point. I nearly always decline to meet attached men even when they play with permission, as all the couples who have approached me would confirm, it just doesn't feel right to me and I would rather avoid any chance of 'complications'.

But my biggest bugbear is honesty, I cannot stand deception in any form, lies really turn my stomach, even within the context of nsa.

How could I ever trust a man who was deceiving his wife not to lie to me?"

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