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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really annoys me that people assume that women get emotionally attached during sex when I've seen that far more often with men..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am emotionally attached to one man only and that will not change!

Emotions and sex on a site like this can spell trouble!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only once I have but that's over a prolonged period and we are amazing friends... And agree that normally it's guys that seem too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never! Lust, fucking, the drive to give that person pleasure, it is that simple

I give a kiss and smile after and that is my emotional attachment ended.

Mercy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup! Men get attached/jealous/hurt about sex but nobody likes to admit it because we are the strong ones. But mostly depends on the experiences they've had with women (Not only by how many they've slept with, but how many failed relationships they've had.) We learn and we become emotionally unavailable, the rest are wussies.

I think it's the same for women to be fair.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

But the 3 ladies above are very lovable.

I would not have sex with them for fear my heart would explode

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had big issues with meets wanting more. The men say they want no strings sex but emotions often cloud the experience and some want a pseudo-girlfriend quite often in our experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever been and ever will be one person I get emotionally attached to this site is about friendship, fun and sex end of

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had loads of men ask to be my 'cuckold' boyfriend. I think they just want a gf...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will you be my girlfriend?x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a guy asking me to be in a relationship with him and end my marriage - his offer he'll be faithful and I can sleep with as many men as I want to.

Well seeing as that's the case already and I don't know this guy I don't think I will rush into a divorce just yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever had with one person, my sheff and that was over a long period of time, I think the feelings took us both by surprise, now weve never been happier, everything else is fun and nothing more! Sadly I have to agree OP even ive experienced more men get emotionally attached to me and its never been mutual and the majority of the time, it tends to be the guys that go above and beyond to profess the want nothing but NSA fun or FWB

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London.

I think it totally depends on the individual. Some people can separate sex and Iove whilst others can't. Also men who have swing partners also have the advantage of more play generally than single men and its cheaper for them in clubs etc. So maybe thats an extra incentive for them because there are some bloody cheapskates about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen some women's profiles stating they only want someone who would be husband material and willing to settle down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some women's profiles stating they only want someone who would be husband material and willing to settle down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some women's profiles stating they only want someone who would be husband material and willing to settle down.

Omg no that's so wrong how dare they after all it's a swinging site and so should be fuck and go. I hope you reported them as can't have people using the site they way they want can we.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit a preference for married guys. Some singles get too attached afterwards. I don't need the hassle.

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London.

"I've seen some women's profiles stating they only want someone who would be husband material and willing to settle down.

Omfg, who the hell in their right mind would want to marry even in the vanilla world?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I tend not to meet single men anymore.. Too much hassle. Although couples have also started to do my head in! Lol

Parties and clubs are the way forward.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"I've seen some women's profiles stating they only want someone who would be husband material and willing to settle down.

Omfg, who the hell in their right mind would want to marry even in the vanilla world?

lol ... and as if a sex site is the exact place to start looking too! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Agreed

Once saw a couple break up in a club though

Basically don't swing if you are insecure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emotion through a keypad started relationship please!

If anything i might want round 2 is that being attached too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must admit a preference for married guys. Some singles get too attached afterwards. I don't need the hassle. "
tthat's why we're married lol!!! We're used to not being emotional

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its emotional attachment men feel on here its not wanting to loose a potential swinging partner, guys find it so hard to get meets, party invites, get in clubs etc that a lot like to keep hold of women they do meet as they see them as a stepping stone to getting better offers as a couple, I don't think they actually care for the woman

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I don't think its emotional attachment men feel on here its not wanting to loose a potential swinging partner, guys find it so hard to get meets, party invites, get in clubs etc that a lot like to keep hold of women they do meet as they see them as a stepping stone to getting better offers as a couple, I don't think they actually care for the woman"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Her

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I have seen some women fall for the 4th, 5th, 6th 7th and more guys that they have interacted with.

IT has ranged from falling for them after a few messages, to a meet, within a week & a month.

Within days, they are declaring their love for the man for all to see. Mostly, it is often to piss off the ex who are within the swinging world.

Some are desperate for love, desperate. I hope they find it, I truly do but I can get my head round the declaration to all.

But hey...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowt wrong with a bit of emotion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never! Lust, fucking, the drive to give that person pleasure, it is that simple

I give a kiss and smile after and that is my emotional attachment ended.

Mercy

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totally agree that's how it should be ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put every ounce of emotion into play... But then it's over. I find it quite easy to keep

A distance emotionally when the boundaries are set... I do find however a fair few single guys that don't want you to play with others x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good job she doesnt otherwise have a fair few bloody bfs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been married and more in love than ever and our sex life is the best it's ever been and I think that's the only reason we can swing as it's just fun with the other people but we have the emotional attachment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men like the idea of a sexually adventurous woman,they meet one then want to keep them to themselves or for bi mff meets. As someone else said they also want a swinging partner or a way into parties and club invites

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I like to be friends with my meets and not just a shag and go, but that is as far as it goes for me, no emotions shown on my part! Though I do think SOME men read more into it than they should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep....totally with you on that. I've had this situation 3 times now....jealousy, possessiveness but I've known it's just about no-one else biting!! Wised up woman here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over the years as a guy I've often felt a natural emotional attachment with women.

For the several years I've been playing as one myself however, it's the complete opposite. Need sex on a need to sex basis feels quite nice!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I just don't think you can generalize about gender. I'm in it for the pleasure and there's an attachment that's different to love with partners but steer clear if people announce quickly that they want more. Lots of different ways to be emotionally connected, but friendship and caring is about right for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found the men are unable to distinguish between lust and love... You want me coz of the sex, nothing more!! I have been able to totally keep my emotions separate except for one guy.. And now i don't trust myself to fall again.. Parties and club meets for me; no way am i going to fall for another like i did him and if that means me being a heartless bitch then so be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi this is Lee ...is it just me that does thing different if I had a meet I would go out for something to eat and a drink as an icebreaker and if we got on then take it further ..I do love the girlfriend experience the kissing cuddles and good sex but once I've gone that's it .there is no attachment ...if it's good then let's do it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some women's profiles stating they only want someone who would be husband material and willing to settle down.

Omfg, who the hell in their right mind would want to marry even in the vanilla world?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi this is Lee ...is it just me that does thing different if I had a meet I would go out for something to eat and a drink as an icebreaker and if we got on then take it further ..I do love the girlfriend experience the kissing cuddles and good sex but once I've gone that's it .there is no attachment ...if it's good then let's do it again

i know its slightly different for you blokes but isn't wining and dining someone and giving them the 'girlfriend' treatment misleading?? Its more like a date then a meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know its slightly different for you blokes but isn't wining and dining someone and giving them the 'girlfriend' treatment misleading?? Its more like a date then a meet!

Unless other intentions are discussed, you have to be fairly naïve to expect anything other than sex from someone you meet on a sex site in my _iew.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really annoys me that people assume that women get emotionally attached during sex when I've seen that far more often with men.."

Not sure why it would annoy you that much. Women are usualy more likely to become emotionaly attached than men because that's the way they are.

these days though there are a lot of women who act like men some more like men than men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know its slightly different for you blokes but isn't wining and dining someone and giving them the 'girlfriend' treatment misleading?? Its more like a date then a meet!

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no why is it its sumwhere where you can sit and chat in a relaxed atmosphere and calm people's nerves down and make them relax and enjoy and if you get on happy days if not walk away ..uve nothing to lose where as if you turn up for a meet and they Arnt as there pics or have the personality of a goldfish do you still go ahead and play ?? I agree club atmosphere is different and don't forget I know you x

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Really annoys me that people assume that women get emotionally attached during sex when I've seen that far more often with men.."

I see this far more often with men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen some women's profiles stating they only want someone who would be husband material and willing to settle down.

Omg no that's so wrong how dare they after all it's a swinging site and so should be fuck and go. I hope you reported them as can't have people using the site they way they want can we. "

I'm not saying they can't use the site the way they want but i'm a person who believes in letting things develop naturally rather than forcing it to occur.

It's these very same people who would then update a status saying something along the lines of 'you just wanted to fuck me and not want to be the one who makes me complete'. I mean. C'mon! Obviously now the guys would know what to say to get in to your pants.

Why not, not mention that's what you're looking for and suss the guys out like that? You're just giving them ammunition as to what it is they should say to melt yu and be able to get a meet with you.

For me, that's common sense. Right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know its slightly different for you blokes but isn't wining and dining someone and giving them the 'girlfriend' treatment misleading?? Its more like a date then a meet!

no why is it its sumwhere where you can sit and chat in a relaxed atmosphere and calm people's nerves down and make them relax and enjoy and if you get on happy days if not walk away ..uve nothing to lose where as if you turn up for a meet and they Arnt as there pics or have the personality of a goldfish do you still go ahead and play ?? I agree club atmosphere is different and don't forget I know you x"

you said the girlfriend experience.. Yes you know me and you know i never socialize, except the offer of a drink let alone a meal, some even buy gifts ( chocolates/ flowers ) and i NEVER spend the night with someone.. There's things i leave for my partner.. If you can't get a feel for someone off here first before meeting ie they are not like their pic or the spark isn't there then in my opinion you're not doing your homework right.. A woman likes to feel special and would gladly receive everything you offer to her but if you keep giving her the girlfriend experience.. She will undoubtably start to fall for you.. Its human nature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know its slightly different for you blokes but isn't wining and dining someone and giving them the 'girlfriend' treatment misleading?? Its more like a date then a meet!

Unless other intentions are discussed, you have to be fairly naïve to expect anything other than sex from someone you meet on a sex site in my _iew."

if only it was that easy.. If a woman is wined and dined on a regular basis and told how special she was.. Made to feel the best thing since slice bread.. Regardless of knowing it is just sex... Emotions do become involved.. Its not a question of being naive.. It called being human!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know its slightly different for you blokes but isn't wining and dining someone and giving them the 'girlfriend' treatment misleading?? Its more like a date then a meet!

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I've known you a long time and we have always had d fun bit I'd like yto take you out for a drink and something to eat ...we both know what we like and thunk we are the same in a male n female version but I still like to get to know sumone ...even the first time we met and didn't know one another we still chatted downstairs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know its slightly different for you blokes but isn't wining and dining someone and giving them the 'girlfriend' treatment misleading?? Its more like a date then a meet!

I've known you a long time and we have always had d fun bit I'd like yto take you out for a drink and something to eat ...we both know what we like and thunk we are the same in a male n female version but I still like to get to know sumone ...even the first time we met and didn't know one another we still chatted downstairs xx"

yeah chatted for 10 mins and i didn't even know you were coming.. Hadn't communicated on here before hand.. Im not an unsociable person, i can and will talk to my meets but its taking it too far ( for me ) the whole intimacy of the 'date' fuck me or not, i ain't bothered but Im hoping it doesn't take longer then 30 seconds for someone to know if they want to or not!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that there always needs to be some emotional connection, that is part of what makes the sex great...it is just a process of managing that emotion to make sure it is there for the intensity it gives during sex. Its best controlled by the presence of another person in the mix..,for me its the husband that ensures this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know its slightly different for you blokes but isn't wining and dining someone and giving them the 'girlfriend' treatment misleading?? Its more like a date then a meet!

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you are a very sociable person I know that but if I txt you and said do you fancy a drink and bite to eat ....o don't expect you to run for the wedding dress ...... Again xxlol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know its slightly different for you blokes but isn't wining and dining someone and giving them the 'girlfriend' treatment misleading?? Its more like a date then a meet!

you are a very sociable person I know that but if I txt you and said do you fancy a drink and bite to eat ....o don't expect you to run for the wedding dress ...... Again xxlol

pmsl.. Once bitten and all that shite.. You already know what my answer would be though.. The only food i consume with people, if i have time which isn't usually the case, is the free buffet at the party.. I only ever meet outside of fab with my girlie friends.. If Cali invited me; i would gladly accept

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I would ever see a swinging site as a dating site or somewhere to become emotionally attached...

My attention is and always will be on pleasing my other half...any meets we may have or have had, I have enjoyed but purely because I know that what I do makes him tick. Don't get me wrong I am a dirty bitch behind closed doors and love to give and receive pleasure but seeing and feeling how satisfied I make Mr Happy is what makes swinging so appealing. Can't ever imagine going after or falling for a guy I had a quick fuck with...After all the attention would have been on his cock not his personality ha ha

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