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Should there be a 'whos got you on their hotlist' button ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any thoughts ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are often talking about this but I know people who use their hotlist as a blacklist so could skew what you think is someone who wants to meet you!

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also means no 'private' stalking haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are often talking about this but I know people who use their hotlist as a blacklist so could skew what you think is someone who wants to meet you!

J "

Ive thought about it before but wondered what everyone else thought

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By *ildscent123Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

I absolutely agree... This would be a great feature. It would also allow people to work out those who are genuine (On their hotlist for a reason) and those who just use it as a quick tool to get to profiles for a perv....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judging by my winks and fabs probably better if I don't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely agree... This would be a great feature. It would also allow people to work out those who are genuine (On their hotlist for a reason) and those who just use it as a quick tool to get to profiles for a perv.... "

What's wrong with using it to perv, that's why I use it, if I like a guys pics I hotlist him so I can find the profile again easy for re perving

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Platinum members already have this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Judging by my winks and fabs probably better if I don't know "

Unfabs your pics asap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I'd like to know if I'm on anyones but I know people use their hotlist for different reasons so I'm happy to just accept fabs etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to know if im on anyones and I don't want people to know if they're on mine,If I want someone to know im interested then ill send them a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Platinum members already have this "

thought they might - haha

we use hotlist for many things - good and bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id they did add this option I would stop adding people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't want to know if im on anyones and I don't want people to know if they're on mine,If I want someone to know im interested then ill send them a message "

You were on mine but I took you off when we became friends

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Oh Lord no! Can see the whinging now . ...

I'm on people's hot lists and they don't message ..or why am I on their hot list when not what they say they want and filters block me from mailing them .

Okay if used purely as another tool , but would be another fixation for some. Rather not have the bother it could bring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't want to know if im on anyones and I don't want people to know if they're on mine,If I want someone to know im interested then ill send them a message

You were on mine but I took you off when we became friends "

Now im on the notlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell no! My hotlist is more of a shopping list. I monitor their profiles, statuses, forum comments etc. Whenever I sense one of them is ripe for the picking, I pounce.

If they could see they were on my hotlist they could then put in a pre-emptive block, foiling my plan.

Same applies if you could see who's block list you were on. It would be a wall of shame showing just how many had resisted the charms of Mr Marmite...

If Fred Elliot was still here he'd say "leave well alone, a'say leave well alone"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to do a bit of fab housekeeping. ..take those off the hotlist and that are now promoted to friends list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to do a bit of fab housekeeping. ..take those off the hotlist and that are now promoted to friends list

"

this is what we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to do a bit of fab housekeeping. ..take those off the hotlist and that are now promoted to friends list

this is what we do "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't want to know if im on anyones and I don't want people to know if they're on mine,If I want someone to know im interested then ill send them a message

You were on mine but I took you off when we became friends

Now im on the notlist "

Your on the dead list

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"Any thoughts ? "

Definitely NOT It is a private thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly don't think it'd be beneficial to either party if it were implemented.

Men would just be more likely to 'Hotlist' a fair few number of profiles. Not only that, but due to the ration of men to others - it'd lead to a woman or couple being 'Hotlist'-ed by probably, a great deal more people.

Sound familiar to anyone?

For women, it's a less efficient private message & practically does the same job as a wink. Further promotes laziness on by us guys. (You can view who has winked you & delete, which is handy.)

For men, I suppose the feature would be ever-so-slightly useful. Knowing who is interested is great... but once again, the Wink feature practically already does this?

I feel that if a women or couple were interested in a guys profile, they'd outright message as they know they are likely to get a response? The reverse is not true due to the metric volume of oogling guys.

If -additional- features were provided, perhaps it'd be something to look into... but purely not worth having the functionality coded in when similar functions already exist!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any thoughts ?

Definitely NOT It is a private thing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id they did add this option I would stop adding people "

Exactly my view, I'd clear mine & stop using it if people could find who's list they were on.

I use it for very random reasons not just people I like

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I don't use my hotlist, or winks. If I'm interested, I send a message. I don't look at winks sent so unless you're top of the list the day I delete, it's going to be overlooked unless I visit your profile, and I wouldn't check hotlist either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope...cue a raft of messages...I see I'm on your hot list, fancy a fuck?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Any thoughts ? "

god no!!!

people would just use it as another excuse to whinge if things don't go their way.... and there are enough people who are paranoid when mail goes unanswered this would compound that...

and not everyone uses the hotlist for the same reason.... like someone said above, I tend to use it more like a blacklist (why would you need to see the same updates on both the friends and the hotlist)......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Platinum members already have this "

How? I can't find it...

To answer OP, I don't mind if someone wants to hotlist me and I don't know about it, but now I know I have the option I do wanna look and see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be nice to know some ppl think we are hot

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

No from me.

I once had a brief go on POF and happily put lots of nice looking ladies on my hotlist to contact a few at a time. A week later I got some nutter accusing me of being a stalker because I'd hotlisted her but not messaged...

I didn't even realise she could see the hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YEs would be fun to see how many adds you, I don't wanna sound big headed but could be loadssssssssssss lol

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Christ no!! Mainly because my hotlist should really be renamed the shitlist!! Lol, x

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