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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I arranged to meet sum1 we swopped pics etc n met up

When i saw him in flesh he wasnt like pic much n wasnt really my type

I politely told him this and the situation didnt feel right to me and deeply opolgised!

Was i in wrong? Surely i shudnt of gone thru wiv any kind of sex as he seems to think i shud of as im now a timewaster?!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why worry about it, you didnt fancy him... end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you even question you are wrong.........Sex is mutual!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I kno what u mean

Jst dnt like ppl thinkin bad of me

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"why worry about it, you didnt fancy him... end of"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its about mutual enjoyment and pleasure ...if something doesnt feel right that you say sorry and walk .....nothing to feel guilt about

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers

Knew i was ok to do so bt he actin bit twatty bout it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should think so too

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"why worry about it, you didnt fancy him... end of"

Exactly!

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Cheers

Knew i was ok to do so bt he actin bit twatty bout it "
How can he act twatty if he is blocked

You did the right thing imo

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By *ikecornwallMan
over a year ago

launceston

u done the rite thing ....... I have even told someone to get in the shower or nothing would happen lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happend to me a cpl of weeks ago .

When i arrived the lady didnt look much like her pics and the house was very untidy so in my head i was questioning her hygeine . ( i have ocd so it matters )

I had to make an excuse and leave ..

I havnt arranged a meet with anyone since.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Happend to me a cpl of weeks ago .

When i arrived the lady didnt look much like her pics and the house was very untidy so in my head i was questioning her hygeine . ( i have ocd so it matters )

I had to make an excuse and leave ..

I havnt arranged a meet with anyone since."

Cheers man

Appreciate comments , even thought shud i of jst fuked him? Lol

And oi u, jst get meetin people man we aint all dicks haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"u done the rite thing ....... I have even told someone to get in the shower or nothing would happen lol "

Haha shit no way reall! Jeez man

Thnks 4ya comments appreciate thm

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It helps if you always explain that you will only go ahead with sex if you're completely happy .....before you meet.

Or make the first meet a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happens sometime your on the other side of it once had a guy ask me to put my shirt back on as my scar wierded him out despite him knowing i had it i just made excuses and left

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It's happens sometime your on the other side of it once had a guy ask me to put my shirt back on as my scar wierded him out despite him knowing i had it i just made excuses and left"

I like scars. On other people. I don't have any. Can I see yours? In fact....check out the lounge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always make the 1st date a social, be very clear you're not agreeing to sex just a drink/dinner that way you don't have to feel awkward saying no. safety 1st ladies, if it doesn't feel right don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's happens sometime your on the other side of it once had a guy ask me to put my shirt back on as my scar wierded him out despite him knowing i had it i just made excuses and left

I like scars. On other people. I don't have any. Can I see yours? In fact....check out the lounge "

Look on my profile it's hard to miss lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course your not! .. U didnt fancy taking it further. You could arrange strictly social meets then you can gauge em without them expecting more. give them reason later.. After the meet.. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not a time waster at all

You did the right thing, we had this happen to us and immediately I advised the guy, that it wasn't going to happen, as he was nothing like his photos

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't understand why people who look nothing like their photos would expect anyone to go ahead with a meet really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my humble opinion (no shows) are worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I arranged to meet sum1 we swopped pics etc n met up

When i saw him in flesh he wasnt like pic much n wasnt really my type

I politely told him this and the situation didnt feel right to me and deeply opolgised!

Was i in wrong? Surely i shudnt of gone thru wiv any kind of sex as he seems to think i shud of as im now a timewaster?!"

I am going to go against what most people have said. First off may I say if he wasn't your type and it didn't feel right you have every right to change your mind. One thing that would piss me off a little bit if I was this guy is the fact you swapped pictures. Unless the pictures he sent you were very blurry, taken from very weird angles or years old I don't get how you didn't know he was not your type from his pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I arranged to meet sum1 we swopped pics etc n met up

When i saw him in flesh he wasnt like pic much n wasnt really my type

I politely told him this and the situation didnt feel right to me and deeply opolgised!

Was i in wrong? Surely i shudnt of gone thru wiv any kind of sex as he seems to think i shud of as im now a timewaster?!

I am going to go against what most people have said. First off may I say if he wasn't your type and it didn't feel right you have every right to change your mind. One thing that would piss me off a little bit if I was this guy is the fact you swapped pictures. Unless the pictures he sent you were very blurry, taken from very weird angles or years old I don't get how you didn't know he was not your type from his pictures. "

He does say he wasn't like he was in the pictures.

Doesn't take years just months for a person's body to we change dramatically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why worry about it, you didnt fancy him... end of"

He's the time waster for not sending you pictures that looked like him..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I arranged to meet sum1 we swopped pics etc n met up

When i saw him in flesh he wasnt like pic much n wasnt really my type

I politely told him this and the situation didnt feel right to me and deeply opolgised!

Was i in wrong? Surely i shudnt of gone thru wiv any kind of sex as he seems to think i shud of as im now a timewaster?!

I am going to go against what most people have said. First off may I say if he wasn't your type and it didn't feel right you have every right to change your mind. One thing that would piss me off a little bit if I was this guy is the fact you swapped pictures. Unless the pictures he sent you were very blurry, taken from very weird angles or years old I don't get how you didn't know he was not your type from his pictures.

He does say he wasn't like he was in the pictures.

Doesn't take years just months for a person's body to we change dramatically"

Ah I didn't see that. Sorry OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have walked as well especially because of your grammar

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would have walked as well especially because of your grammar "

Soz 4 grammer common chav mucka, soz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Na he didnt look like the pocs and it wasnt a v good pic eigha...thinkin back i shud of asked for clearer or more pics

Bt i was as polite as i cud b

Thnks 4 ur comments especially a social meet up first ....thts defo an idea i will consider

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By *ynxMan
over a year ago

Stafford

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By *ynxMan
over a year ago

Stafford

I've had this too only I had a couple who drove to my place for a meet I saw them pull up and drive away. Told me he was going for a shower I assumed they got cold feet and I've not heard back from them since I don't mind that they had indeed changed their minds but atleast have the manners to say so.

Dude you were in the right if something didn't seem right or he wasn't what he looked like I would have done the same personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done this twice - one was clearly using photoshopped pictures from 10 years ago and really lying about her age and the other was only 1 member of a supposed "couple".

The couple one sucked, travelling to Kensington on a Sunday when the trains weren't working, just to be greeted by the guy wearing his wife's knickers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had this too only I had a couple who drove to my place for a meet I saw them pull up and drive away. Told me he was going for a shower I assumed they got cold feet and I've not heard back from them since I don't mind that they had indeed changed their minds but atleast have the manners to say so.

Dude you were in the right if something didn't seem right or he wasn't what he looked like I would have done the same personally "

Sounda like they could of been politer to you tho mate

Dont think i would of drove away haha

I just like to think im polite and hope i wasnt rude to him, dont think i was and it never happened before...a guy changed his mind wen he met me...he ses it was coz im not single and tht he cudnt go thru wiv it (he knew b4 we met but thought he wud b ok) and he was v polite n i was too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've done this twice - one was clearly using photoshopped pictures from 10 years ago and really lying about her age and the other was only 1 member of a supposed "couple".

The couple one sucked, travelling to Kensington on a Sunday when the trains weren't working, just to be greeted by the guy wearing his wife's knickers "

What did he think wud happen lol sum ppl r silly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if you got someone back to your or their place....if you then change your mind....either party should find it fine to stop proceedings...I see no point in doing anything you are not comfortable with....as long as manners and politeness is used then "sorry, but I have had a change of mind" should always be acceptable.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've had this too only I had a couple who drove to my place for a meet I saw them pull up and drive away. Told me he was going for a shower I assumed they got cold feet and I've not heard back from them since I don't mind that they had indeed changed their minds but atleast have the manners to say so.

Dude you were in the right if something didn't seem right or he wasn't what he looked like I would have done the same personally

Sounda like they could of been politer to you tho mate

Dont think i would of drove away haha

I just like to think im polite and hope i wasnt rude to him, dont think i was and it never happened before...a guy changed his mind wen he met me...he ses it was coz im not single and tht he cudnt go thru wiv it (he knew b4 we met but thought he wud b ok) and he was v polite n i was too"

Deano! Don't beat yourself up over it, the guy misled you he's the one who should feel bad not you.

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By *indingDeemoMan
over a year ago

Manchester

That's why people have social meets, cause there is only so much you can learn over phone and text.

You met and hit a roadblock cause the mutual attraction wasn't there, nothing to worry about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had this too only I had a couple who drove to my place for a meet I saw them pull up and drive away. Told me he was going for a shower I assumed they got cold feet and I've not heard back from them since I don't mind that they had indeed changed their minds but atleast have the manners to say so.

Dude you were in the right if something didn't seem right or he wasn't what he looked like I would have done the same personally

Sounda like they could of been politer to you tho mate

Dont think i would of drove away haha

I just like to think im polite and hope i wasnt rude to him, dont think i was and it never happened before...a guy changed his mind wen he met me...he ses it was coz im not single and tht he cudnt go thru wiv it (he knew b4 we met but thought he wud b ok) and he was v polite n i was too

Deano! Don't beat yourself up over it, the guy misled you he's the one who should feel bad not you.

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Thanku for ur comment lol

Hope it doesnt happen again, im defo being a little more cautious and askin for more than one lil pic lol

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

All because you arranged to meet someone, whether it be just a social or not, doesn't mean you have to have sex with them if you feel it's not for you. You have the right to change your mind at any time. It's always best to have a social and make it clear that it is and meet in a public place.

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