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By *olden_Road_to_Samarkand OP   Man
over a year ago

North Wessex Downs

I've had a couple of threesomes where both of us guys have cuddled the lady afterwards. Given that I generally have feelings for those I join (don't worry - nothing to threaten their relationships - just liking a lot) I rather enjoy this situation when it happens. However, some people think it's 'not on'. What does everyone else think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well after the action has finished I do say, quick group hug, but it's brief and not like what you are describing at all...not for me/us.

That kind of intimacy is for us only.

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By *olden_Road_to_Samarkand OP   Man
over a year ago

North Wessex Downs

LOL! I completely understand that as well! Don't worry - I'm not a compulsive cuddler. Being part of threesome with a couple is a huge priviledge anyway - but I've no objection if the other party initiates it - which is pretty rare anyway...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well after the action has finished I do say, quick group hug, but it's brief and not like what you are describing at all...not for me/us.

That kind of intimacy is for us only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh no doesnt seem right to me.......few of the 3sums ive had we generally high five each other, sounds weird but it works and stops any akwardness (if any) lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"LOL! I completely understand that as well! Don't worry - I'm not a compulsive cuddler. Being part of threesome with a couple is a huge priviledge anyway - but I've no objection if the other party initiates it - which is pretty rare anyway... "

I always initiate it, but it's like thanks time to go now.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh no doesnt seem right to me.......few of the 3sums ive had we generally high five each other, sounds weird but it works and stops any akwardness (if any) lol "

Love it, post orgasm high5's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After play a hearty handshake before we send him on his way,should be suffice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about 'right, you've blurted your muck, now feck off out of it '

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about 'right, you've blurted your muck, now feck off out of it ' "

Yep cum again soon

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By *upoftea2Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I just like to sleep, zzzzz!!

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kinda gave someone a manly hug it out kinda hug the other day! He asked for a hug after n I felt real akward should have def high fived instead!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuddling after a mfm 3 sum wouldn't appeal to either of us, after play we have tended to sit and chat and then when the gentleman is ready to leave a quick kiss from me and a handshake from Luke!

I once gave a single lady a cuddle after fmf but she was already a good friend

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

What's so bad about a hug?... I hug everyone I meet.

The world would be a much better place if we all hugged eachother - we all should do it more.

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By *olden_Road_to_Samarkand OP   Man
over a year ago

North Wessex Downs


"Cuddling after a mfm 3 sum wouldn't appeal to either of us, after play we have tended to sit and chat and then when the gentleman is ready to leave a quick kiss from me and a handshake from Luke!

I once gave a single lady a cuddle after fmf but she was already a good friend "

LOL! Yep - that sounds the most comfortable way to deal with it - I should add that cuddles have only been with ladies that I know very well and have met many times before - hence they're more sort of friends if that makes sense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No cuddles from me, that's reserved for hubby.

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By *ay2571Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I once spent the night with a couple after a threesome. She was in the middle between us. Work up and had another morning session then I left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well after the action has finished I do say, quick group hug, but it's brief and not like what you are describing at all...not for me/us.

That kind of intimacy is for us only."

Surely having sex with someone else is like going on holiday? I really don't get why, on holiday, we shouldn't lie around, take our time, and enjoy every nuance of a new experience. Then you pack your bags and you come home.

Intimacy can be visited for a night... it's not that threatening... unless of course your relationship isn't in a very strong place or is still very tentative and new

I personally think a lot of people make up all sorts of rules to prevent intimacy taking place... when it's not intimacy which is the problem at all... it's repeated visits and prolonged communications which stand a better chance of leading to a relationship break up imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

weve met our regular fem a few times and me and her snugs up after- whilst we all natter and calm down - its kinda nice but not with all

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Not for us no. Sex is just sex for us in a MFM.

Shake of a hand from Mr Ruggers and a kiss from me when they are leaving and that's it.

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By *nne CallanWoman
over a year ago

Nothing to see here. Please move along.

All post meet cuddles are restricted to my bf. Doesnt matter what sexual activity takes place. He has fucked a woman before and come to me for his comedown hugs. I do the same. Sex is sex but cuddles after are intimcy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well after the action has finished I do say, quick group hug, but it's brief and not like what you are describing at all...not for me/us.

That kind of intimacy is for us only.

Surely having sex with someone else is like going on holiday? I really don't get why, on holiday, we shouldn't lie around, take our time, and enjoy every nuance of a new experience. Then you pack your bags and you come home.

Intimacy can be visited for a night... it's not that threatening... unless of course your relationship isn't in a very strong place or is still very tentative and new

I personally think a lot of people make up all sorts of rules to prevent intimacy taking place... when it's not intimacy which is the problem at all... it's repeated visits and prolonged communications which stand a better chance of leading to a relationship break up imo"

No not the way we view it all.

It's just sex and fun for us. Making love and intimacy is not what we want or do from this experience, that is for our relationship only.

There are no emotions involved and no other could cuddle me or hold me as the OH does, nor do I want them to as I have no mental connection to any meet at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love cuddles, I don't see them as intimate, for me intimacy is a feeling not an act, I can differentiate the difference between fucking and making love, I can differentiate my feeling towards those I kiss and hug too

I like cuddles because they feel nice, its that simple

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

On occasion my meet and I have cuddled but I don't often do it. Only cos I've seen her a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree, love a good cuddle especially with our regular FB. if I didn't feel a connection with the other person then definately hi 5& go but when the chemistry is right hug away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about 'right, you've blurted your muck, now feck off out of it ' "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well after the action has finished I do say, quick group hug, but it's brief and not like what you are describing at all...not for me/us.

That kind of intimacy is for us only.

Surely having sex with someone else is like going on holiday? I really don't get why, on holiday, we shouldn't lie around, take our time, and enjoy every nuance of a new experience. Then you pack your bags and you come home.

Intimacy can be visited for a night... it's not that threatening... unless of course your relationship isn't in a very strong place or is still very tentative and new

I personally think a lot of people make up all sorts of rules to prevent intimacy taking place... when it's not intimacy which is the problem at all... it's repeated visits and prolonged communications which stand a better chance of leading to a relationship break up imo

No not the way we view it all.

It's just sex and fun for us. Making love and intimacy is not what we want or do from this experience, that is for our relationship only.

There are no emotions involved and no other could cuddle me or hold me as the OH does, nor do I want them to as I have no mental connection to any meet at all."

Fair enough All I was saying really was that if couples wish to protect their relationships from possible issues they're probably better off thinking about the frequency by which they swing, the number of times they revisit the same people for sex, and the amount of communication that goes on between meets.

Rules about kissing, cuddling, candlelit meals, marital beds, love making, etc... are really just token paranoias which are unlikely to deal with the underlying problem that people who frequently have sex with the same 'others', and who let those extra-marital relationships blossom into intense friendships, are much more likely to be susceptible to relationship chaos than people who kiss, cuddle, enjoy a romantic meal, and make love with someone in their marital bed and then never see them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's so bad about a hug?... I hug everyone I meet.

The world would be a much better place if we all hugged eachother - we all should do it more. "

Hugs!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like hugs and cuddles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I have had a mmf I love cuddles after with both my men it's like a soothing come down after all the fun and a nice way to relax

the world needs more cuddelers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well after the action has finished I do say, quick group hug, but it's brief and not like what you are describing at all...not for me/us.

That kind of intimacy is for us only.

Surely having sex with someone else is like going on holiday? I really don't get why, on holiday, we shouldn't lie around, take our time, and enjoy every nuance of a new experience. Then you pack your bags and you come home.

Intimacy can be visited for a night... it's not that threatening... unless of course your relationship isn't in a very strong place or is still very tentative and new

I personally think a lot of people make up all sorts of rules to prevent intimacy taking place... when it's not intimacy which is the problem at all... it's repeated visits and prolonged communications which stand a better chance of leading to a relationship break up imo

No not the way we view it all.

It's just sex and fun for us. Making love and intimacy is not what we want or do from this experience, that is for our relationship only.

There are no emotions involved and no other could cuddle me or hold me as the OH does, nor do I want them to as I have no mental connection to any meet at all.

Fair enough All I was saying really was that if couples wish to protect their relationships from possible issues they're probably better off thinking about the frequency by which they swing, the number of times they revisit the same people for sex, and the amount of communication that goes on between meets.

Rules about kissing, cuddling, candlelit meals, marital beds, love making, etc... are really just token paranoias which are unlikely to deal with the underlying problem that people who frequently have sex with the same 'others', and who let those extra-marital relationships blossom into intense friendships, are much more likely to be susceptible to relationship chaos than people who kiss, cuddle, enjoy a romantic meal, and make love with someone in their marital bed and then never see them again "

Aha that is definitely not us and not what we are about at all

When we first started swinging some two + years ago of course we did meets regularly, it's a new thing and like a child in a sweet shop...but that soon settled down after a couple of months.

I do agree though and can see potential hazards with what you've said, but for us that would never be a problem, I suppose it all depends on how strong the foundations of your relationship are.....and like you said communication and boundaries set and adhered to.

Still for us as I said - cuddling is not on the agenda and never will be as not something we want

I can understand singles doing it, or friends/fb's but again depends on the strength of a couples relationship and trust...if not yes your scenario is possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well after the action has finished I do say, quick group hug, but it's brief and not like what you are describing at all...not for me/us.

That kind of intimacy is for us only.

"

I tend to give the lady a brief kiss and the chap a shake of the hand when I / They leave.

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By *olden_Road_to_Samarkand OP   Man
over a year ago

North Wessex Downs

It all rather depends on who I'm with and what they'd like - I guess that currently as a likely third party I just go with the flow... Lol - but this has clearly sparked a range of views. When I was part of a couple my other half sometimes felt like a group couple, sometimes not. It was far more likely when we played with other couples than singles though.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

You can usually tell from their behaviour what a couple expect of you post coitally. If you're not sure you'll be able to tell, a quiet word with him/ her beforehand will do the trick.

In my experience, couples like to be left to themselves after a quick hug, as opposed to a prolonged cuddle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single fem and I'm going on my first couples meet tonight. But feel it can be off putting when couples set so many rules, I go with the flow and sex should be free an easy but remembering the rules and restrictions (hug/don't hug, kiss/don't kiss etc, etc) can sound to much like hard work and disjointed. Not fun at all,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the no cuddles camp.. Lee is very Much in the likes to cuddle up. I could maybe get over any other thing but cuddles are just not part of nsa In my book... And I want to cuddle up with Lee after not whomever I was with and If it was a separate meet I'd sit up or move away and talk but not cuddle up or lay there touching x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love cuddles, I don't see them as intimate, for me intimacy is a feeling not an act, I can differentiate the difference between fucking and making love, I can differentiate my feeling towards those I kiss and hug too

I like cuddles because they feel nice, its that simple "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We loves cuddles during and after fun as part of a threesome. All 3 of us cuddling up together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love cuddles, I don't see them as intimate, for me intimacy is a feeling not an act, I can differentiate the difference between fucking and making love, I can differentiate my feeling towards those I kiss and hug too

I like cuddles because they feel nice, its that simple "

I Dont think many women can though... And I've realised that many misjudge the guys that like to be like this. I've seen first hand the messages about how if a guy was like that they must feel something...

And in reverse I have in the past found that guys can misread just as much... But women if given cuddles, long lingering sex sessions with lots of kisses and tenderness seem to assume it's not just sex... Where as for the guys that's all it was... And then it causes all manner of problems x

Even seen my friends called heartbreakers and players for just being like that. Even though it was made clear it was just sex albeit passionate seductive sensual sex ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We once had a bloke ask us for feedback lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are def in the no cuddle camp. The intimacy of kissing and having hugs are just for the two of us, nobody else

A thank you is always appreciated though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love cuddles, I don't see them as intimate, for me intimacy is a feeling not an act, I can differentiate the difference between fucking and making love, I can differentiate my feeling towards those I kiss and hug too

I like cuddles because they feel nice, its that simple

"

And me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laying and hugging wouldn't be my thing but at the end of the meet I always give them a hug and a snog.

However if I saw them another time and we weren't playing would still always give them a hug and kiss on the cheek as greeting and leaving as a friendly gesture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think its a split between those in a relationship/partnership and the singles on those that think cuddles are a needed... ?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Do you think its a split between those in a relationship/partnership and the singles on those that think cuddles are a needed... ?"

It seems to be yes

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By *artsnikCouple
over a year ago

wortley

dont it a few times with regular meets that we have a bond so to spea with

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford


"Well after the action has finished I do say, quick group hug, but it's brief and not like what you are describing at all...not for me/us.

That kind of intimacy is for us only.

Surely having sex with someone else is like going on holiday? I really don't get why, on holiday, we shouldn't lie around, take our time, and enjoy every nuance of a new experience. Then you pack your bags and you come home.

Intimacy can be visited for a night... it's not that threatening... unless of course your relationship isn't in a very strong place or is still very tentative and new

I personally think a lot of people make up all sorts of rules to prevent intimacy taking place... when it's not intimacy which is the problem at all... it's repeated visits and prolonged communications which stand a better chance of leading to a relationship break up imo"

Great answer! Best post so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well after the action has finished I do say, quick group hug, but it's brief and not like what you are describing at all...not for me/us.

That kind of intimacy is for us only.

"

I understand this totally, a quick cuddle smile and kiss, is enough for me.

A show of mutual respect, for what you have just done.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love cuddles, I don't see them as intimate, for me intimacy is a feeling not an act, I can differentiate the difference between fucking and making love, I can differentiate my feeling towards those I kiss and hug too

I like cuddles because they feel nice, its that simple

I Dont think many women can though... And I've realised that many misjudge the guys that like to be like this. I've seen first hand the messages about how if a guy was like that they must feel something...

And in reverse I have in the past found that guys can misread just as much... But women if given cuddles, long lingering sex sessions with lots of kisses and tenderness seem to assume it's not just sex... Where as for the guys that's all it was... And then it causes all manner of problems x

Even seen my friends called heartbreakers and players for just being like that. Even though it was made clear it was just sex albeit passionate seductive sensual sex ,"

I only do one off meets so I doubt any of my meets that I cuddle will misinterpritate what I'm after

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