FabSwingers.com forum: Pissed off

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not really been meeting for the last few weeks and today finally decide to get the ball rolling again. Start chatting to a guy and then a quick phone call to sort out the meet. Now here is where my problem starts.

Is it wrong if a guy asks to go to a club with you that you should expect that he would at least offer to pick you up instead of telling you he will get the train so he can have a drink and then ask if I would wear a certain item of clothing for him, never mind what I would actually like to wear or am I just being stubborn and digging my heels in as I feel a bit let down and would have expected at least a gentlemanly gesture

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

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looking at your pictures and your smile, i think you can wear whatever you like

but seriously.. no harm in requesting, but really up to you.. and yes it would be good if he were to pick you up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wear what makes you feel sexy, and if you have doubts, dont meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair, if I met a bloke and he got the train, I would rather that, then someone I have not met picking me up.

As for asking you to wear an item of clothing, well depends, I wouldn't dance to their tune, but it can be horny, depending really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be fair, if I met a bloke and he got the train, I would rather that, then someone I have not met picking me up.

As for asking you to wear an item of clothing, well depends, I wouldn't dance to their tune, but it can be horny, depending really.

Her"

I do tend to meet guys a clubs rather than them pick me up but most at least offer.

I don't mind if I meet them regularly dressing up in what they like but for a newbie it pissed me off slightly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So don't do it then? Wear what you want and if he doesn't like it there will be others at the club that probably will like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair, if I met a bloke and he got the train, I would rather that, then someone I have not met picking me up.

As for asking you to wear an item of clothing, well depends, I wouldn't dance to their tune, but it can be horny, depending really.

Her

I do tend to meet guys a clubs rather than them pick me up but most at least offer.

I don't mind if I meet them regularly dressing up in what they like but for a newbie it pissed me off slightly "
yes that first meet, I would rather make my own way to start.

I have been asked about outfits, I didn't mind, as it was kind of what I was going to wear anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be fair, if I met a bloke and he got the train, I would rather that, then someone I have not met picking me up.

As for asking you to wear an item of clothing, well depends, I wouldn't dance to their tune, but it can be horny, depending really.

Her

I do tend to meet guys a clubs rather than them pick me up but most at least offer.

I don't mind if I meet them regularly dressing up in what they like but for a newbie it pissed me off slightly yes that first meet, I would rather make my own way to start.

I have been asked about outfits, I didn't mind, as it was kind of what I was going to wear anyway.

Her"

Your lucky. I didn't fancy being stuck in leather in a club all night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really been meeting for the last few weeks and today finally decide to get the ball rolling again. Start chatting to a guy and then a quick phone call to sort out the meet. Now here is where my problem starts.

Nope would put me off straight away... I also despise being "asked" to wear certain things and the saying "do you dress to please".. I dress to please myself not really a man!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So don't do it then? Wear what you want and if he doesn't like it there will be others at the club that probably will like it"

Don't worry I'm not doing. Already cancelled the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair, if I met a bloke and he got the train, I would rather that, then someone I have not met picking me up.

As for asking you to wear an item of clothing, well depends, I wouldn't dance to their tune, but it can be horny, depending really.

Her

I do tend to meet guys a clubs rather than them pick me up but most at least offer.

I don't mind if I meet them regularly dressing up in what they like but for a newbie it pissed me off slightly yes that first meet, I would rather make my own way to start.

I have been asked about outfits, I didn't mind, as it was kind of what I was going to wear anyway.

Her

Your lucky. I didn't fancy being stuck in leather in a club all night "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would you have been drinking at the club?..

if you werent I would say fair enough, he could drive

however..you have also pointed out he is a newbie...a club might just be a big step for a single guy...just as it is for a woman/couple

its a bit of a shame youve had to post this though...

*I wouldnt ever agree on telling someone what to wear or what not to wear of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be fair, maybe he doesn't have a car but he can do better than asking for train. At least organize a Taxi for you, plan it all with proper organisation and you would have been his...lucky bastard..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt wear what someone asked me to - apart from the odd special person but not first meet - i get the train so he can have drink thing though - if youre getting bad vibes already id take it no further

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"would you have been drinking at the club?..

if you werent I would say fair enough, he could drive

however..you have also pointed out he is a newbie...a club might just be a big step for a single guy...just as it is for a woman/couple

its a bit of a shame youve had to post this though...

*I wouldnt ever agree on telling someone what to wear or what not to wear of course"

Sorry I meant a newbie as in someone I have never talked to before and he has been to numerous clubs before.

As for driving I'm assuming he does as he first mentioned driving down and then changed his mind and decided he would have a drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to be fair, maybe he doesn't have a car but he can do better than asking for train. At least organize a Taxi for you, plan it all with proper organisation and you would have been his...lucky bastard..

? honestly?..organizing a taxi for someone?- even in the dating game thats rare to happen ffs

while not knowing how far this guy is, etc etc..I thinks its a bit off to consider his behaviour as ungentlemanly so far....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would you have been drinking at the club?..

if you werent I would say fair enough, he could drive

however..you have also pointed out he is a newbie...a club might just be a big step for a single guy...just as it is for a woman/couple

its a bit of a shame youve had to post this though...

*I wouldnt ever agree on telling someone what to wear or what not to wear of course

Sorry I meant a newbie as in someone I have never talked to before and he has been to numerous clubs before.

As for driving I'm assuming he does as he first mentioned driving down and then changed his mind and decided he would have a drink. "

fair enough..did he mean so HE can have a drink..or perhaps he meant WE can have a drink?????- This isnt the scene for mind reading games...why not just ask can he pick you up..on his way from the train station(I'm assuming you are more local to the club than he is though...perhaps he thinks its easier to get you at the club???)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're right to expect the guy to be a gentlemen - just because the lifestyle is not in line with convention it doesn't mean that all aspects of life should be ignored - manners are still important!

But, in a world where the rule book has been ripped up we each write our own, there is always going to a mis-match of behaviour!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

? honestly?..organizing a taxi for someone?- even in the dating game thats rare to happen ffs

while not knowing how far this guy is, etc etc..I thinks its a bit off to consider his behaviour as ungentlemanly so far....

Yes I also think paying for a taxi is a step too far but maybe I have been spoilt with gentlemen in the past who have always asked whether I would need a lift or how I would be getting to the club.

But saying that it was the request to dress for him that pissed me off more lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

? honestly?..organizing a taxi for someone?- even in the dating game thats rare to happen ffs

while not knowing how far this guy is, etc etc..I thinks its a bit off to consider his behaviour as ungentlemanly so far....

Yes I also think paying for a taxi is a step too far but maybe I have been spoilt with gentlemen in the past who have always asked whether I would need a lift or how I would be getting to the club.

But saying that it was the request to dress for him that pissed me off more lol

can you wear the white frilly crotchless see thru number for me?...just asking...I'll bring you flowers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just out of curiosity, what did he ask you to wear?...Could be a good fantasy..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

? honestly?..organizing a taxi for someone?- even in the dating game thats rare to happen ffs

while not knowing how far this guy is, etc etc..I thinks its a bit off to consider his behaviour as ungentlemanly so far....

Yes I also think paying for a taxi is a step too far but maybe I have been spoilt with gentlemen in the past who have always asked whether I would need a lift or how I would be getting to the club.

But saying that it was the request to dress for him that pissed me off more lol

can you wear the white frilly crotchless see thru number for me?...just asking...I'll bring you flowers

Sorry hate flowers. Now if we are talking chocolate ......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"just out of curiosity, what did he ask you to wear?...Could be a good fantasy..

Leather. He likes the dominatrix look which made me laugh even more as I'm submissive as you get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

? honestly?..organizing a taxi for someone?- even in the dating game thats rare to happen ffs

while not knowing how far this guy is, etc etc..I thinks its a bit off to consider his behaviour as ungentlemanly so far....

Yes I also think paying for a taxi is a step too far but maybe I have been spoilt with gentlemen in the past who have always asked whether I would need a lift or how I would be getting to the club.

But saying that it was the request to dress for him that pissed me off more lol

can you wear the white frilly crotchless see thru number for me?...just asking...I'll bring you flowers

Sorry hate flowers. Now if we are talking chocolate ......"

I have nutella on my balls..it is actually nutella...just in case your wondering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahahahaa... So you see, he has good fantasies!!! but definitely good you cancelled. I would never ask a lady I'm meeting in public to wear see through stuff. how does he want the train passengers to judge you....looooool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's wrong with him wanting a drink? Expectations that he would pick you up is wrong in my book.

We are all here for the same thing,would you have picked him up??

Male or female it's all equal 50/50

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

? honestly?..organizing a taxi for someone?- even in the dating game thats rare to happen ffs

while not knowing how far this guy is, etc etc..I thinks its a bit off to consider his behaviour as ungentlemanly so far....

Yes I also think paying for a taxi is a step too far but maybe I have been spoilt with gentlemen in the past who have always asked whether I would need a lift or how I would be getting to the club.

But saying that it was the request to dress for him that pissed me off more lol

can you wear the white frilly crotchless see thru number for me?...just asking...I'll bring you flowers

Sorry hate flowers. Now if we are talking chocolate ......

I have nutella on my balls..it is actually nutella...just in case your wondering

I like my chocolate chunky not smooth with nuts hiding in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also cancelling because of this???? Why???

He is making the effort to get the train to you is he not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus he will have to pay ounce he gets to the club,tho I don't know why men have to pay and women don't

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's wrong with him wanting a drink? Expectations that he would pick you up is wrong in my book.

We are all here for the same thing,would you have picked him up??

Male or female it's all equal 50/50"

Actually if we were going to a club near him then yes I would have and I have done in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This confirms my decision to only meet people I've chatted to for a while.....situations like this are avoided....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also cancelling because of this???? Why???

He is making the effort to get the train to you is he not?"

I cancelled because I am nobody's toy to dress up as they wish. If I asked you to wear a mankind and a bright orange wig to a club because it turned me on would you????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he wanted to play it easy too.

And save his own embarressment of a lift in his car, being first time turned down and spoiling things.

Her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also cancelling because of this???? Why???

He is making the effort to get the train to you is he not?

I cancelled because I am nobody's toy to dress up as they wish. If I asked you to wear a mankind and a bright orange wig to a club because it turned me on would you????"

Should have said mankini

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

? honestly?..organizing a taxi for someone?- even in the dating game thats rare to happen ffs

while not knowing how far this guy is, etc etc..I thinks its a bit off to consider his behaviour as ungentlemanly so far....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's wrong with him wanting a drink? Expectations that he would pick you up is wrong in my book.

We are all here for the same thing,would you have picked him up??

Male or female it's all equal 50/50

Actually if we were going to a club near him then yes I would have and I have done in the past. "

That's your decision

He is only wanting a drink like you will be having 1

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This confirms my decision to only meet people I've chatted to for a while.....situations like this are avoided...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's wrong with him wanting a drink? Expectations that he would pick you up is wrong in my book.

We are all here for the same thing,would you have picked him up??

Male or female it's all equal 50/50

Actually if we were going to a club near him then yes I would have and I have done in the past.

That's your decision

He is only wanting a drink like you will be having 1"

And you know I'd be having a drink - how???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But asking someone to dress for you with see through clothes on your first meeting is just setting the bar too low.

If you had been there, you would sound desperate or cheap or both!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should have said mankini"

wearing his mankind --- i like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he lived near you you could have met in a pub then gone in a taxi together. I don't get in men's cars unless I've met them a few times and chatted lots. And yes wear what you want not what turns them on

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By *winlovexxCouple
over a year ago

Hull

Looking at your profile and smile, I would have made my hubby drive whilst we sat in the back of the car and got him exited for the night ahead. Xx val

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looking at your profile and smile, I would have made my hubby drive whilst we sat in the back of the car and got him exited for the night ahead. Xx val"

Aww thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all personal preference, maybe it was good intentions from both sides but crossed wires. I enjoy being a gentleman but I wouldn't ever be asking someone what to wear or organising their night, on a first meet it may come across poorly, particularly through messages.

Sure you will get snapped up anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't blame him for wanting to have a drink, most women drive anyway although I don't agree with men telling you what to wear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope would put me off straight away... I also despise being "asked" to wear certain things and the saying "do you dress to please".. I dress to please myself not really a man! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So don't do it then? Wear what you want and if he doesn't like it there will be others at the club that probably will like it

Don't worry I'm not doing. Already cancelled the meet "

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By *andL-LiverpoolCouple
over a year ago

Huyton

Mrs L - Nicky having met you a few weeks ago in a club I would of said you'd be better with no cloths on

but then I did find you very sexy (so did Mr L), if we were to arrange a meet with anyone we would always offer to drive and ask the guest who they would like to drive if they wanted a play on route

but that's just us xx

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"To be fair, if I met a bloke and he got the train, I would rather that, then someone I have not met picking me up.

As for asking you to wear an item of clothing, well depends, I wouldn't dance to their tune, but it can be horny, depending really.

Her

I do tend to meet guys a clubs rather than them pick me up but most at least offer.

I don't mind if I meet them regularly dressing up in what they like but for a newbie it pissed me off slightly "

i would say yrs i will wear what you want, provided you do, then ask him to meet me outside the club wearing something like a gimp mask, that will teach him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair, if I met a bloke and he got the train, I would rather that, then someone I have not met picking me up.

As for asking you to wear an item of clothing, well depends, I wouldn't dance to their tune, but it can be horny, depending really.

Her

I do tend to meet guys a clubs rather than them pick me up but most at least offer.

I don't mind if I meet them regularly dressing up in what they like but for a newbie it pissed me off slightly

i would say yrs i will wear what you want, provided you do, then ask him to meet me outside the club wearing something like a gimp mask, that will teach him x "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Don't see your problem! You're 42 years old and a stranger tells you where to meet, what to wear, makes it all about him and you're asking another group of strangers if it's ok to be pissed off?!! Seriously?!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"So don't do it then? Wear what you want and if he doesn't like it there will be others at the club that probably will like it"

It really is that simple!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont understand why you are angry about his transport arrangements. If you aren't able to drive then that is your problem, not his.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I wear what clothes I am in the mood for.If it was someone I had met previously I may consider it. I dress for me and not anyone else.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

You could turn the tables and get him to wear something to your liking.

You could have some fun with this.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I wouldn't pick a stranger up. If they turn out to be a arse and get thrown out the club, or you have a row, you don't have a decision to make regarding them being stranded or still giving them a lift home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont understand why you are angry about his transport arrangements. If you aren't able to drive then that is your problem, not his. "

Ditto

I understand the telling you what to wear bit altho some women askbthe male what would they like them to wear.

But the not liking because he doesn't want to drive is selfish on your part,if you want taking out then go on plenty of fish.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you have worn what he asked you to wear if he was picking you up and bringing you home?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

it is okay to ask...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I dare say many women ask for similar

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I would never wear what someone else tells me to, and I would rather they arrive separately so if they're a berk and get asked to leave , I don't as well.

I go to clubs alone for the very reason that I don't want to be dictated to.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Expecting men to jump through hoops.

We like to think of this as mutual fun where adults make their own way to the meeting point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On one hand we are feminists and like to be adults, pay our own way and be independent.

On the other we like men to be gents and fall at our feet and treat us like Princesses

No wonder they say women are confusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you have worn what he asked you to wear if he was picking you up and bringing you home?

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By *elle_Oh_BelleWoman
over a year ago

London

We'll... We all wish our "date" to be gentleman like (before we go to the bedroom)... And I would feel spoiled if the man offer me to pick me up. I will feel very sweet and kind spice up the meet. But in the other hand, it is not that wrong if the man wants to use public transport so that he can ease a bit and have some drink. However, if a man is driving on the day and he does not offer to pick me up, I will kind feel that he is a bit only think about himself and feel a bit put off. ( unless he live in a totally opposite far far away location)

I like to dress up for the meet...like wearing a dress and sexy bra that kind of thing. I don't mind give my date some power to choose what I wear, but that usually only limit to what color panties, what color dress. I don't like PVC or leather or corset, so if a man ask me to wear things I don't feel comfortable wearing, I would refuse, and then let the man decide whether if they still want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont understand why you are angry about his transport arrangements. If you aren't able to drive then that is your problem, not his. "

I don't drive. if I'm meeting someone it's the bus or a taxi but I have been lucky enough to meet decent guys who have picked me up and brought me home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could turn the tables and get him to wear something to your liking.

You could have some fun with this."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Expecting men to jump through hoops.

We like to think of this as mutual fun where adults make their own way to the meeting point.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Getting miffed cos a man who you weren't going to accept a lift off didn't offer you one is a bit out of order. And why should he? It's a club meet.

As for the asking you to wear something, well we all ask for things but we don't always get them (see above).

Quick question OP: do you expect your club meets to pay your entrance and for your drinks for the night? Is that why you're willing to meet a submissive man even though you're not dom or into sub men?

It sounds to me that you weren't arranging a meet with a man you've got major hots for, you were arranging a free night out. In that case, no, you can't complain when he didn't fall neatly in with your plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit my heart sinks when a man asks what I'm going to wear,even more so when they say they want stockings,heels,tight top etc just for a drink. It makes me think they have no substance and get off on visuals and fantasy. It may not be true but it can turn me off meeting if we have barely spoken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Getting miffed cos a man who you weren't going to accept a lift off didn't offer you one is a bit out of order. And why should he? It's a club meet.

As for the asking you to wear something, well we all ask for things but we don't always get them (see above).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For safety it is always best to meet in the club . You are in control then .

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I must admit my heart sinks when a man asks what I'm going to wear,even more so when they say they want stockings,heels,tight top etc just for a drink. It makes me think they have no substance and get off on visuals and fantasy. It may not be true but it can turn me off meeting if we have barely spoken "

I've actually lost a meet because I refused to wear a suspender belt for him (I don't actually have one - I wear hold-ups). I understand that this is a fantasy site and agree that its his prerogative to choose women more suited to his though.

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

We see both side of the coin here, if the guy does not want drink and drive which is very spendable, but atleast he should offer to meet you somewhere and head together in the train to the club.

This way he made the effort.

as to what to wear we sure he asked for something to make you mega sexy in his eyes and other so why don't you hold the stick for the middle wear that and have something that you like to change to, so happy all round.

How is that sound to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should at-least offer to pick you up from a location of your choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is true,they don't have substance,if im meeting for a quick drink ill turn up in what id wear for a drink with my friends,not a fantasy hooker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should at-least offer to pick you up from a location of your choice.

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally, i want my meets to be comfortable in whatever they may want to wear. That's what i think is important - i have no right to ask them to wear anything particular for me. Although, some may message asking what do i prefer. I have no preference. Preference is that which allows them to be themselves around me.

So, i don't think you're overreacting.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Should at-least offer to pick you up from a location of your choice.

Why???

Because women are in the minority? That's not ok. Taking advantage is taking advantage.

Or should she expect "stuff" in return for her time and attention?

If someone offers with no strings then fine. But he's being perfectly reasonable suggesting that he make his own way there. In fact I'd feel more comfortable with someone who is aware of the effect of alcohol, after all one pint can put some people over the limit. I'd far rather make my own way there then get to the end of the night and have to assess if they guy who gave me a lift is fit to drive. Or worse, know that he isn't but have no idea if he'll flip if I suggest that he's over the limit.

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over a year ago

"Getting miffed cos a man who you weren't going to accept a lift off didn't offer you one is a bit out of order. And why should he? It's a club meet.

As for the asking you to wear something, well we all ask for things but we don't always get them (see above).

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To sum it all up

This guy has been real and dumped?

Let's hope he has set up a better night with a more appreciative lady and has a great night

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over a year ago

Should at-least offer to pick you up from a location of your choice.

God no!! I would never accept a lift off someone I'd never met before, let alone only just started chatting to. I like to be able to go when I want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Getting miffed cos a man who you weren't going to accept a lift off didn't offer you one is a bit out of order. And why should he? It's a club meet.

As for the asking you to wear something, well we all ask for things but we don't always get them (see above).

For your information NO I was not arranging a free night out!! I was merely pointing out that he made his own arrangements without even asking how I would be getting there.

Whatever your opinion of me as a person kindly keep it to yourself. I meet guys I'm attracted to and if there is any hint that I have that I am not going to enjoy myself I will cancel.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Getting miffed cos a man who you weren't going to accept a lift off didn't offer you one is a bit out of order. And why should he? It's a club meet.

As for the asking you to wear something, well we all ask for things but we don't always get them (see above).

For your information NO I was not arranging a free night out!! I was merely pointing out that he made his own arrangements without even asking how I would be getting there.

Whatever your opinion of me as a person kindly keep it to yourself. I meet guys I'm attracted to and if there is any hint that I have that I am not going to enjoy myself I will cancel. "

I'm still confused. It's a club meet not a date. What difference does it make how either of you get there as long as you're both there at the same time?

If I arrange to meet someone in a specific place it doesn't occur to me to ask how they're getting there. The only time it's ever been an issue is when I'm going to an out of town club with someone who is local to me. In that case I would discuss sharing travel costs.

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over a year ago

"What's wrong with him wanting a drink? Expectations that he would pick you up is wrong in my book.

We are all here for the same thing,would you have picked him up??

Male or female it's all equal 50/50"

I totally agree I don't see what the problem is. You just say I am wearing what I want like it or lump it.

He is not responsible for providing transport but if he offers great.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Btw OP I have no opinion of you as a person, all I have to go on is what you posted in an open forum. And I did not call you any names, I simply stated how I interpreted your posts.

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over a year ago

"Getting miffed cos a man who you weren't going to accept a lift off didn't offer you one is a bit out of order. And why should he? It's a club meet.

As for the asking you to wear something, well we all ask for things but we don't always get them (see above).

For your information NO I was not arranging a free night out!! I was merely pointing out that he made his own arrangements without even asking how I would be getting there.

Whatever your opinion of me as a person kindly keep it to yourself. I meet guys I'm attracted to and if there is any hint that I have that I am not going to enjoy myself I will cancel.

I'm still confused. It's a club meet not a date. What difference does it make how either of you get there as long as you're both there at the same time?

Yes it is a meet but that does not mean that we lose the ability to have manners and as I said in an earlier post I was mainly pissed off with him asking me to wear a certain item of clothing for him as if I was a doll he wanted dressed in a certain way.

We all have our own opinions on how and what we expect from a meet that we have and yours obviously differs from mine.

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By *irdbucCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

If he doesn't put your needs first then he shouldn't have your company. Whilst I'm sure it would have been a good event you need the right person with you, best avoided if he doesn't put the lady first every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet another attention seeking thread!

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By *irdbucCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Don't see it as attention seeking, should a woman ask the man to look after them or is it even odds on a meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yet another attention seeking thread!"

Put your claws back in. I get plenty of attention thanks

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Surely we,are all on here looking to satisfy fantasies. For some people that includes how people are dressed.

I don't take offence at a request to wear something. If I feel like it/have it/want to then I will. If not I will simply decline.

If this then means that I no longer meet preferences set by my meet then so be it. I turn a lot of people down because they don't match my preferences so why should I be miffed if I don't meet someone elses - better to know before we meet.

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over a year ago

"If he doesn't put your needs first then he shouldn't have your company. Whilst I'm sure it would have been a good event you need the right person with you, best avoided if he doesn't put the lady first every time. "

Why is it always the man? Shouldn't it be 50/50?

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over a year ago

"Yet another attention seeking thread!"

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over a year ago

Why is it always the man? Shouldn't it be 50/50?"

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By *oonshadowsCouple
over a year ago

Lytham St Annes

"Getting miffed cos a man who you weren't going to accept a lift off didn't offer you one is a bit out of order. And why should he? It's a club meet.

As for the asking you to wear something, well we all ask for things but we don't always get them (see above).

This is way more vehement than the OP deserves - far from 'arranging a free night out' HE's the one saving money by going as a couple to the club not the other way around, especially if he isn't a member.

She has also said her issue wasn't the driving but that she was uncomfortable with his attitude of wanting her to do things for him and not asking what she may like him to do for her. Both when I was single and now in a couple I've always found this one sidedness very irritating and dressing requests like that on a first meet would put me right off too.

Do think it's funny though when someone tops from the bottom by demanding you dress and act Domme for them and thinks you'll get off on it

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over a year ago

"Getting miffed cos a man who you weren't going to accept a lift off didn't offer you one is a bit out of order. And why should he? It's a club meet.

As for the asking you to wear something, well we all ask for things but we don't always get them (see above).

For your information NO I was not arranging a free night out!! I was merely pointing out that he made his own arrangements without even asking how I would be getting there.

Whatever your opinion of me as a person kindly keep it to yourself. I meet guys I'm attracted to and if there is any hint that I have that I am not going to enjoy myself I will cancel.

I'm still confused. It's a club meet not a date. What difference does it make how either of you get there as long as you're both there at the same time?

We all have our own opinions on how and what we expect from a meet that we have and yours obviously differs from mine. "

You were pissed off because he asked you to wear a certain Item of clothing? Seriously? That's enough to piss you off?.......I sometimes wonder why people bother if that's all it takes to piss you off!

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over a year ago

"Don't see it as attention seeking, should a woman ask the man to look after them or is it even odds on a meet? "

Look after? In what way do you mean in a swinging sense?

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over a year ago

Why is it always the man? Shouldn't it be 50/50?"

What about the man's needs?! It's NSA not a date.

I certainly wouldn't ask a stranger off the internet to give me a lift to anywhere.

As for the clothing request... I really don't see the issue. If someone asked me to wear something I would if I wanted, it can be horny to do that. If not I'd politely decline, not have a hissy fit.

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over a year ago

"Getting miffed cos a man who you weren't going to accept a lift off didn't offer you one is a bit out of order. And why should he? It's a club meet.

As for the asking you to wear something, well we all ask for things but we don't always get them (see above).

For your information NO I was not arranging a free night out!! I was merely pointing out that he made his own arrangements without even asking how I would be getting there.

Whatever your opinion of me as a person kindly keep it to yourself. I meet guys I'm attracted to and if there is any hint that I have that I am not going to enjoy myself I will cancel.

I'm still confused. It's a club meet not a date. What difference does it make how either of you get there as long as you're both there at the same time?

We all have our own opinions on how and what we expect from a meet that we have and yours obviously differs from mine.

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over a year ago

I guess you got your answer op

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over a year ago

A guy I met once requested (and that's all it was) that I wear nothing at all to our first meet. I wore nothing but a coat and boots all the way from salisbury to london. I felt so naughty

I wouldn't do that for someone I'd just started chatting to, but then I wouldn't meet someone that soon either.

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