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By *erotic_adventure OP   Man
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

Would an excess number (this may be subjective) of verifications put you off a prospective meet irrespective of how nice they may be?

If so what nr would this approximately be for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 million. I think they'd be too tired

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Do a search in the forum for "100 club"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it wouldn't and I would like it as it would show she is more up for a shag and not as fussie lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope the number would be over 200.....or I'm out of luck from now on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldn't put me off only put me off who they have met, maybe.

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

I guess the number depends on how long they have been members. 10 in 1 week or 100 in 8 years? To be honest we do not really worry how many or how few someone has.

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By *erotic_adventure OP   Man
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,


"2 million. I think they'd be too tired "

Haha too tired I can think of other pressing issues!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really if a lot were socials, but if there's a lot of sex meets in a very short period of time it might make a difference!

I guess I'd also see if they verify back, my one meet of here came with a couple with a fair amount of veri's - but when I cross reference back they haven't verified many in return - including me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"2 million. I think they'd be too tired

Haha too tired I can think of other pressing issues! "

They may also have ran out of condoms and we'd have to supply them all sheesh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming they were meet verifications then the number would not bother us at all. If someone had what we considered an excessive number of webcam verifications and no meet ones then that may put us off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming they were meet verifications then the number would not bother us at all. If someone had what we considered an excessive number of webcam verifications and no meet ones then that may put us off"

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was called a skanky hoe today for having 34 veris in 6 years....so I guess some people are put off.

Personally I look at the person I'm meeting not who they have met before, so I'm not put off by lots of veris, just shows they understand the site & lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming they were meet verifications then the number would not bother us at all. If someone had what we considered an excessive number of webcam verifications and no meet ones then that may put us off

Same here"

My thoughts too

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By *erotic_adventure OP   Man
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,


"I was called a skanky hoe today for having 34 veris in 6 years....so I guess some people are put off.

Personally I look at the person I'm meeting not who they have met before, so I'm not put off by lots of veris, just shows they understand the site & lifestyle."

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't care. You'd have to be pretty stupid to think verifications were a true picture of someone's sex life. People have sex outside of Fab too...

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

The more the better. But if it's over five I will not read them all. If people are put off by someone having lots of sexual partners well that's their choice. To me it indicates reliable, fun, and happy swinging.

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By *erotic_adventure OP   Man
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,


"I really don't care. You'd have to be pretty stupid to think verifications were a true picture of someone's sex life. People have sex outside of Fab too... "

I agree to a point as there are some very interesting comments from other threads on so called and or labelled 'hardened swingers'.....its a fickle place indeed!

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

I dont think a huge amount of veris would bother me. I maybe put off by what the veris say tho (if they indicate things I am not into or stating things contrary to their profile or interests).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still think a profile should disclose how years been a member...this would number of veris into perspective

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Not at all...I've met unverified as well as those with many verifications like myself. If I feel an attraction then the verification amount is irrelevant (although I do a couple of extra checks if unverified)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got verified just so people know we are genuine. We've had a few meets now (all fab members) but we don't bother with any more veris. Don't see the point once it gets past two. It's just opinions. ALL the veris I have read say great things, so they aren't that helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number wouldn't put me off

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I prefer to see few - less is more to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The number wouldn't put me off "

If anything the more you have should put more trust in the person willing to meet, knowing he won't be messed about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

200 club for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"200 club for me lol"

2 for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

watch and learn lol be loud and proud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't care. You'd have to be pretty stupid to think verifications were a true picture of someone's sex life. People have sex outside of Fab too... "

And as we all know some people don't show all their verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Still think a profile should disclose how years been a member...this would number of veris into perspective "

Verifications are dated

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Not every one shows. all their verifications? So those with a few may infact have loads?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its all part of the game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not for me but maybe the mods could change what u see. Instead of show over a year for being a member what about rounding it off for the member being on here eg

3 yrs 7 months = 3 yrs

2 yrs 11 months = 2 yrs

And so on. There show much detail there maybe that would help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the setting I guess... We went from no meets to like 9 in 24 hours. That's cause we went to a club on a busy night and met a lot of people! Also some were singles that came along as couples so we got two veris from one 'couple'. In reality we're only likely to private meet two or three times a month and looking for regular couples so probably won't get more than one or two veris from them...

So the amount of veris can be circumstantial and hopefully people wouldn't discriminate because of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't care. You'd have to be pretty stupid to think verifications were a true picture of someone's sex life. People have sex outside of Fab too...

And as we all know some people don't show all their verifications"

Or get verified every time they meet someone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, at least you know there genuine and show up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

genuine and under appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really as lots of people enjoy a social meet before deciding whether they want to play!

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Stopped publishing mine now and I have hidden my list. Seems a little bit exhibitionist to have too many on display.

I may, as time goes by, rotate and display the newer ones but that is it. Its nice to get a good school report but a little gauche to wave it under others noses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number of varies is not an issue for me.

I don't always like to see play varies one after the other.....say 4 or 5 in a week unless they are from a club visit.

I will cross reference them though to see who they met and look at habits re bb etc, meets with profiles stating bb only or those that have met bb only are very off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It turns me off if they have anything more than 15

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find lots a bit off putting but as others have said, some don't display them all so many could be socials however one member with near on 500 and a preference for bareback in their profile put me off but at least they were honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm finding some of the comments a bit wierd. When people are put off by lots of veris.

It's a bit like some men who don't like their partner to have slept with more than a couple of people, but they will gladly shag her.

And we all know that even on your first sexual experience, you can catch a disease, so wondering why the hesitation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes its a swingers convention multiple shags lol just sayin but its all about the social side too this is key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Majoriity of people dont have sex outside of fab so I wouldnt be surprised at any amount

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would an excess number (this may be subjective) of verifications put you off a prospective meet irrespective of how nice they may be?

If so what nr would this approximately be for you?"
Some only have to go to a fab club night, Like chams meet loads from fab and get verifications loads in one night . And 9/10 never really getting to know them well at all. Like most things if I see loads on a profile I would think not a lot really . I hate verifications that go into everything they have done on a meet the sex. And I hate seeing loads from same person on a profile as its like they own them in some way and there other half.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Would an excess number (this may be subjective) of verifications put you off a prospective meet irrespective of how nice they may be?

If so what nr would this approximately be for you?"

No a lot of meet (whether social or play) verifications does not put us off. There is no magic number that makes us suddenly say, ohhh no!

We are more likely to be put off by numberous web cam veris.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Majoriity of people dont have sex outside of fab so I wouldnt be surprised at any amount "

Really? How do you know this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have 30 a large percentage of those are London socials, birthday parties, ect.

All these people we have met face to face and had a laugh with.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was talking to a lovely couple the other night.We'd exchanged a few nice messages and things were going along nicely.

They then brought up that the lady that had verified me had over 50 veri's herself.Things have gone very cold since...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i only display sexy times not social stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd display the lot lol

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Majoriity of people dont have sex outside of fab so I wouldnt be surprised at any amount "
I recon plenty of that 'majority' possibly do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is to dislike about people with many veris?

Is it a fear of an onerous comparison between your sex play skills and others they have met?

Is it they are less "choosy/picky" and consequently "not for us" as we are choosy/picky (I.e. have very few meets?)

Is it that some joined Fab because it is free and other dating sites are not and they don't really fit the swinger profile?

What is wrong with many veris? Surely well veried people must be nice folks, easy to get on with and should be good at giving NSA sexual pleasure?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is to dislike about people with many veris?

Is it a fear of an onerous comparison between your sex play skills and others they have met?

Is it they are less "choosy/picky" and consequently "not for us" as we are choosy/picky (I.e. have very few meets?)

Is it that some joined Fab because it is free and other dating sites are not and they don't really fit the swinger profile?

What is wrong with many veris? Surely well veried people must be nice folks, easy to get on with and should be good at giving NSA sexual pleasure? "

Here Here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a swingers site not a dating site

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I don't care. In fact I insist on more than just a few. I'm looking for experienced people not novices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id be ideal Db but im blocked

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Id be ideal Db but im blocked "

Perhaps not so ideal then.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Quantity never bothers us.

The quality does sometimes though!

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer verifications, helps prove they're genuine but not worried about the amount - unless they have loads, like over 100 or something I guess, in a short space of time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't care. You'd have to be pretty stupid to think verifications were a true picture of someone's sex life. People have sex outside of Fab too...

And as we all know some people don't show all their verifications"

It's disgusting when people don't show their veri's. Dunk them in the river I say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Puts me off. Not because I find them disgusting or anything like that, but because we're not looking for the same thing. Whilst I'm not looking for commitment or any form of relationship, I'm not looking to shag my way through the site, just a few special friends who's company (and body) I enjoy.

However, if they want otherwise, good on them. This site caters for all needs in my view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have wondered where to stop displaying because it feels like bragging instead of just verifying that we are genuine.

For me I think we've got plenty to say we are genuine now but people take the time to write them so I feel it's a bit rude to not display it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would an excess number (this may be subjective) of verifications put you off a prospective meet irrespective of how nice they may be?

If so what nr would this approximately be for you?"

Not really as so many hide them these days who they have met might make me decide no though.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"I prefer verifications, helps prove they're genuine but not worried about the amount - unless they have loads, like over 100 or something I guess, in a short space of time? "

i attended a large social event not long ago....and met many fab forumites. Within a couple of days after the event i had in excess of 15 veris ....none were play meets...just social ones. If the veris are displayed i'd recommend reading them. You may change your views on what those 100 veris really are. Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is not braggin its a system the FAB USES...... I choose to show as it sends the message across that your not a time waster (messer) and obviiosly a genuine person (humanoid)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stopped publishing mine now and I have hidden my list. Seems a little bit exhibitionist to have too many on display.

I may, as time goes by, rotate and display the newer ones but that is it. Its nice to get a good school report but a little gauche to wave it under others noses "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

200 club my target

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"200 club my target "

I reached 153. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope after all is it not what we are here for? I always get confused about the whole too many verifications arguement, swinging is about meeting people meets leave verifications simple as. Then you get the ones that won't meet because someone doesn't have them.

Without reading every one you do not know they are banging all those that verify them.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I have quite a number of veris, mostly because I attend big socials and huge party nights at clubs. I've met loads of people that aren't even on fab.

Doesn't bother me the amount, what is off putting is the people who mark their territory by leaving a silly amount of veris in a short space of time on one persons profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"20"

20 and you have 37?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tongue in grove you look fit. If your personality charm and charisma matched your pictures I'd meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer verifications, helps prove they're genuine but not worried about the amount - unless they have loads, like over 100 or something I guess, in a short space of time?

i attended a large social event not long ago....and met many fab forumites. Within a couple of days after the event i had in excess of 15 veris ....none were play meets...just social ones. If the veris are displayed i'd recommend reading them. You may change your views on what those 100 veris really are. Just a thought."

Apologies, probably didn't explain well enough - I mean if they had 100, in that time, from meets then they're probably looking for something I'm not.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"I prefer verifications, helps prove they're genuine but not worried about the amount - unless they have loads, like over 100 or something I guess, in a short space of time?

i attended a large social event not long ago....and met many fab forumites. Within a couple of days after the event i had in excess of 15 veris ....none were play meets...just social ones. If the veris are displayed i'd recommend reading them. You may change your views on what those 100 veris really are. Just a thought.

Apologies, probably didn't explain well enough - I mean if they had 100, in that time, from meets then they're probably looking for something I'm not. "

It all comes down perceptions and your own preferences. Some members have been on site for a long time. You will only ever know its been 'over a year' unless they display old veris. You would still have to read each one to get a real picture x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer verifications, helps prove they're genuine but not worried about the amount - unless they have loads, like over 100 or something I guess, in a short space of time?

i attended a large social event not long ago....and met many fab forumites. Within a couple of days after the event i had in excess of 15 veris ....none were play meets...just social ones. If the veris are displayed i'd recommend reading them. You may change your views on what those 100 veris really are. Just a thought.

Apologies, probably didn't explain well enough - I mean if they had 100, in that time, from meets then they're probably looking for something I'm not.

It all comes down perceptions and your own preferences. Some members have been on site for a long time. You will only ever know its been 'over a year' unless they display old veris. You would still have to read each one to get a real picture x"

Yeah agreed, preferences dictate everything. I do look fully at profiles for potential meets, keeps it simple all round. Yours is fine, for example

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"I prefer verifications, helps prove they're genuine but not worried about the amount - unless they have loads, like over 100 or something I guess, in a short space of time?

i attended a large social event not long ago....and met many fab forumites. Within a couple of days after the event i had in excess of 15 veris ....none were play meets...just social ones. If the veris are displayed i'd recommend reading them. You may change your views on what those 100 veris really are. Just a thought.

Apologies, probably didn't explain well enough - I mean if they had 100, in that time, from meets then they're probably looking for something I'm not.

It all comes down perceptions and your own preferences. Some members have been on site for a long time. You will only ever know its been 'over a year' unless they display old veris. You would still have to read each one to get a real picture x

Yeah agreed, preferences dictate everything. I do look fully at profiles for potential meets, keeps it simple all round. Yours is fine, for example "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so verifications are the wayforward its fab just part of it

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"It is not braggin its a system the FAB USES...... I choose to show as it sends the message across that your not a time waster (messer) and obviiosly a genuine person (humanoid) "

True! It's a site tool - nothing more.

Like it or loathe it - it's there.

Some like it as it gives an indication re prospective meets - some don't care.

It's like profile pics. Some prefer to see who they'll potentially be meeting - rather than images showing more of someone's meets than the profile owner themselves.

Each to their own!

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeeze pictures again yes i know that one...people get confused with this site ....its not a bloody dating site ...eyyy sumpeople women mainly..just sayin girls .......lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tongue in grove you look fit. If your personality charm and charisma matched your pictures I'd meet you. "

It does But then I'm unlikely to say otherwise am I?!

I've had a look at your profile and I must say I like the look of you too,until I saw you had so many Veri's!

Only joking,I couldn't give a toss about how many folk have or don't have.It's when you chat to people that you get a feel for what they are like!

Veri's should prove someone is genuine,and they also give an insight into their sexual personality...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only av 1

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"Would an excess number (this may be subjective) of verifications put you off a prospective meet irrespective of how nice they may be?

If so what nr would this approximately be for you?"

What's an excessive number?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a swingers site....erm multiple frends and playmates .....how long is a a bit of string....??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if been said but someone may have multiple veri's due to social gatherings etc

Only ones that put me off are the multiple ones from the same person, like marking their territory.

Other than that doesn't bother me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's not always quantity its what they say. I've got one that says I'm a shit shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's be honest here, my female friends could get laid 24/7 if they wanted to, and all of them could have hundreds of veris if they were that way inclined with so many offers everyday, the fact that they chose not to attracts me, as I said, if people want to play the numbers game, good on em, but we're not looking for the same thing. If it's good, which it always is, I want more of the same, not a load of 1 offs. Each to their own eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got loads as I go to clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only display who i play with. 200 club awaits lol.

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