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"Surprising how many times I get messages from the male half of a couple, saying that they are trying to arrange a bi-fem for their wife.... Well, I take it as a plain b****y personal insult - if she wants anything with me, then she should damn well have the good manners to approach me herself - no exceptions! Always leads to a stern "No Thanks", with reasons - and a block! " If someone is too shy to contact you its a non starter. | |||
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"Surprising how many times I get messages from the male half of a couple, saying that they are trying to arrange a bi-fem for their wife.... Well, I take it as a plain b****y personal insult - if she wants anything with me, then she should damn well have the good manners to approach me herself - no exceptions! Always leads to a stern "No Thanks", with reasons - and a block! If someone is too shy to contact you its a non starter. " 'She' probably doesn't exist... | |||
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"Surprising how many times I get messages from the male half of a couple, saying that they are trying to arrange a bi-fem for their wife.... Well, I take it as a plain b****y personal insult - if she wants anything with me, then she should damn well have the good manners to approach me herself - no exceptions! Always leads to a stern "No Thanks", with reasons - and a block! If someone is too shy to contact you its a non starter.
'She' probably doesn't exist..."That would be my first assumption!! Failing that I wouldn't meet anyone that someone else had to vet for me, if they don't appeal to me enough from their profile for me to decide to at least meet socially I wouldn't be interested in meeting them at all. For the same reason I don't read verifications, just because A got on well with and had a great time with B doesn't guarantee I will!! | |||
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"Surprising how many times I get messages from the male half of a couple, saying that they are trying to arrange a bi-fem for their wife.... Well, I take it as a plain b****y personal insult - if she wants anything with me, then she should damn well have the good manners to approach me herself - no exceptions! Always leads to a stern "No Thanks", with reasons - and a block! If someone is too shy to contact you its a non starter.
'She' probably doesn't exist...
That would be my first assumption!!
Failing that I wouldn't meet anyone that someone else had to vet for me, if they don't appeal to me enough from their profile for me to decide to at least meet socially I wouldn't be interested in meeting them at all.
For the same reason I don't read verifications, just because A got on well with and had a great time with B doesn't guarantee I will!!"Or they just might be very very careful about who knows what they like...........and could be damaging work wise should they not have implict trust!! | |||
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"From the single point of view, how does this process prove that their partner is as willing as the other?" Meet them, look for signs ie body language ect! You can tell trust me  | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 08/09/14 18:28:41]" I should really learn to read the OP properly  | |||
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"From the single point of view, how does this process prove that their partner is as willing as the other?" Meeting only one? I think this process proves that the partner if they exist, is unwilling. Unless as I said it's a big turn on for the anonymous partner. Not something we would ever risk because how will you ever know that it isn't a huge set up? | |||
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"It takes me 90 minutes to glam up so I wouldn't go to that much time and effort just to audition and frankly if they can't work out I'm a fuckwit from reading my profile, they probably aren't for me anyway. " | |||
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"Surprising how many times I get messages from the male half of a couple, saying that they are trying to arrange a bi-fem for their wife.... Well, I take it as a plain b****y personal insult - if she wants anything with me, then she should damn well have the good manners to approach me herself - no exceptions! Always leads to a stern "No Thanks", with reasons - and a block! "Eh, us male half's acting so selfless... Swinging is for both... Not only should it be "us" instead of "her"... But, should be done in the presence of both male and female half's... Admittedly, sometimes I go on fab when she is at work or asleep when in bored, but I only arrange getting to know someone with her presence. | |||
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"Surprising how many times I get messages from the male half of a couple, saying that they are trying to arrange a bi-fem for their wife.... Well, I take it as a plain b****y personal insult - if she wants anything with me, then she should damn well have the good manners to approach me herself - no exceptions! Always leads to a stern "No Thanks", with reasons - and a block!
Eh, us male half's acting so selfless... Swinging is for both... Not only should it be "us" instead of "her"... But, should be done in the presence of both male and female half's... " | |||
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"Surprising how many times I get messages from the male half of a couple, saying that they are trying to arrange a bi-fem for their wife.... Well, I take it as a plain b****y personal insult - if she wants anything with me, then she should damn well have the good manners to approach me herself - no exceptions! Always leads to a stern "No Thanks", with reasons - and a block!
Eh, us male half's acting so selfless... Swinging is for both... Not only should it be "us" instead of "her"... But, should be done in the presence of both male and female half's... Admittedly, sometimes I go on fab when she is at work or asleep when in bored, but I only arrange getting to know someone with her presence."I also think that it can suggest that the lady in question thinks she is far more important than the lowly couple she has sent her minion out to assess the suitability of. | |||
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"It takes me 90 minutes to glam up so I wouldn't go to that much time and effort just to audition and frankly if they can't work out I'm a fuckwit from reading my profile, they probably aren't for me anyway. "Tina, i think I love you! Best laugh in ages. If I'm meeting a couple, i like to meet them both socially first. Not one or the other... Needs to be attraction and a spark with both. I don't audition for one or the other, and I certainly would not play with a single guy to see if I'm good enough, and yes I've been asked! | |||
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"As a 'lone male' seeking couples I can understand that there are a lot of chancers and time wasters out there and it must get frustrating for couples trying to sift through the time wasters to meet genuine guys. Therefore I seem to be bucking the trend somewhat here but I am actually quite happy to meet the male half for a quick pint to prove I'm genuine and turn up when agreeing to meet. I guess a husband will know the kind of person that his wife would be ok with in general terms, so a pre-vetting also potentially helps to avoid a crappy meeting if the male is totally incompatible. I know the odds are loaded against me meeting many people here, so anything I can do to prove I'm genuine I will do
"This is your prerogative of course but as a woman I would hate for my partner to go pimping me out.....that's what it would feel like to me and I would feel less than flattered to know that the man meeting me didn't care what I looked like as long as my partner said I was ok. Sounds too much like a male dominated thing to me. If we are going to have a threesome we like all of us to meet on an equal footing with no suggestion that anyone is of more importance than the other. | |||
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"I'm here to provide entertainment, blackjacks and fruit salads, but not always Soleros. "Look Tina I have got a lot of very costly dentistry in my mouth can you start supplying some. penny shrimps or something less likely to cost me three hundred quid at the dentist? Thanking you  | |||
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"As a 'lone male' seeking couples I can understand that there are a lot of chancers and time wasters out there and it must get frustrating for couples trying to sift through the time wasters to meet genuine guys. Therefore I seem to be bucking the trend somewhat here but I am actually quite happy to meet the male half for a quick pint to prove I'm genuine and turn up when agreeing to meet. I guess a husband will know the kind of person that his wife would be ok with in general terms, so a pre-vetting also potentially helps to avoid a crappy meeting if the male is totally incompatible. I know the odds are loaded against me meeting many people here, so anything I can do to prove I'm genuine I will do
This is your prerogative of course but as a woman I would hate for my partner to go pimping me out.....that's what it would feel like to me and I would feel less than flattered to know that the man meeting me didn't care what I looked like as long as my partner said I was ok. Sounds too much like a male dominated thing to me.
If we are going to have a threesome we like all of us to meet on an equal footing with no suggestion that anyone is of more importance than the other."Yes, I fully understand what you're saying. First step would, of course, be wanting to meet them BOTH, I wouldn't go in blind. I'd only be happy if ALL parties are happy to meet, my point was I'd be happy to have an initial meet to prove I'm genuine and turn up in a safe environment - timewasters will be timewasters so a chance to them out first. If we got on then of course it would have to be a 3 way agreement if we moved on to more - I'm in no way disputing that and certainly wouldn't want any lady to feel pimped or less important. | |||
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