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By *aulp4als OP   Man
over a year ago

Warrington

I have met a very sexy lady that would like me to take control of her when playing. I am not dom in anyway.

She is 57 years old, 5’2”tall, size 10, 44GG boobs, smooth pussy, squirts and gushes very easily, she also cums when she does, likes anal occasionally.

What I would like is some advice how to take control of her; I have not done this before and want to please her but don’t want to go too far too quickly.

If you want you can inbox message directly or chat in the chat rooms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you asked her what she wants?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Have you asked her what she wants? "

For me, when I choose to gift my submission, it is to someone who gets it... not someone who needs to rely on strangers for ideas. If he isn't sure how to dom me, then he won't be able to do it in a realistic manner. I don't mind him asking about my rules and comfort zones, and how far he can push, but as for asking others what he needs to do, that would be out for me.

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By *astersfuckpigCouple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

You say you are not a Dom in anyway,and that you are only doing it to please her..Well in that case its really not going to work..

Sorry but you can only submit to someone who's in control and you trust knows what they are doing..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the above but you do have to start somewhere. Don't be such a bunch of cynics you lot :p

I hadn't been anywhere near dominant until I dominated my first man. That's how I then began my learning and understanding.

Speak to her about her wants and desires. Explain that you will need to begin slowly and cautiously and ask her if she truly wants this journey with you. If she does then work on it together.

But yes, I wouldn't let anyone who wasn't confident in themselves dominate me, so you do need to work on the confidence levels too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure it's not just the physical approach you take

You need to find out what makes her tick mentally too as just cause she's sub doesn't mean she just wants you to spank her ass lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paul, would mail you privately but cannot as you don't accept messages from single guys, get in touch if you want me to give you tips etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't confuse dominance with abusive

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By *astersfuckpigCouple
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"Don't confuse dominance with abusive"

So far that's just you..The OP is just doing what he has been told..And I am sure that the 'sub' is fully in control here..

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By *aulp4als OP   Man
over a year ago

Warrington

I have asked her what she wants but all she says is for me to be in control. I am a very confident person. We want to learn together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have asked her what she wants but all she says is for me to be in control. I am a very confident person. We want to learn together. "

If you are confident as you say use google and go through possibilities you can make your own mind up rather than relying just on suggestions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You summed it up in your first line - You are not DOM so dominating her isn't on the cards.

My 'MO' when it comes to dominating a woman is learn what she likes (And more importantly what she DOESN'T like) and then use that knowledge like a tool kit. dipping into it so do things you know she will enjoy.

Communication is key - it has to work both ways - she needs to share more with you and you need to learn more about her.

Domination isn't about saying 'kneel bitch' tying her up and selfishly fucking her. Its a mental thing.

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