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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

just read on a profile, "not hard core swinger" and got me thinking what is really a hard core swinger?

is a hard core swinger, a person who fucks at first wink?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Someone with a load of pebbles in a bag that they twirl on their fingers?

I think as with any other label it can mean different things to different people.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I always think that they have a meet every Saturday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I would to meet some! Come get me hard core swingers

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By *razymadlunaticsCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

the only hardcore swinging we've seen is a bunch of 6 year old kids in the park fighting over the swings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having met some the impression I get is they meet with the intention to get on with it, just the smallest amount of small talk and then get on with it. If they want to meet they want to shag rather than socialise and then maybe shag on the second date.

But that may be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not necessarily a Saturday , but twice a week on a Wednesday and one other day ?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I always think that they have a meet every Saturday. "

I think hardcore means they meet every day tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always think that they have a meet every Saturday.

I think hardcore means they meet every day tbh. "

We would if we could

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I always think that they have a meet every Saturday.

I think hardcore means they meet every day tbh.

We would if we could "

So would I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think people who say they're not hard core swingers mean to imply that they are somehow better than those who are....whatever a hard core swinger is.

I think in some peoples minds it has something to do with amount or frequency of meets, I'd be interested to know what the cut of point is..when do you cross over from being an ordinary swinger to being hard core?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think people who say they're not hard core swingers mean to imply that they are somehow better than those who are....whatever a hard core swinger is.

I think in some peoples minds it has something to do with amount or frequency of meets, I'd be interested to know what the cut of point is..when do you cross over from being an ordinary swinger to being hard core? "

*cut OFF point...doh!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Once a week = lucky sods (hardcore or not)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having met some the impression I get is they meet with the intention to get on with it, just the smallest amount of small talk and then get on with it. If they want to meet they want to shag rather than socialise and then maybe shag on the second date.

But that may be wrong.

Does that makes me a hardcore swinger then? I only meet to have sex. My last meet was in May and I have one planned for next week. I wouldn't really call that hardcore. As with all these Labels it's open to interpretation and that's why I try to avoid them. "

As said I may be wrong so you belive it's the frequency of meets rather than what you actually get up to. That's fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on perspective. Some people may go to lots of parties every week. Some may have had lots of different types of experiences. Some may think someone that's had more than one 3some is hardcore....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the only hardcore swinging we've seen is a bunch of 6 year old kids in the park fighting over the swings "

Nope that's wrong... it's when they see if they can swing as high as they can with out going over the top

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

some of my friends would think I'm hard core because I enjoy giving my husband oral sex. It's all relative.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

After reading some of the posts on here about women with lots of veris I suspect some people think others are hard core if they shag once a year.

I suppose its relative, therefore having it on a profile without a definition is a bit daft really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My interpretation of a "hardcore swinger" is somebody that has been swinging for some time, has lots of experience, swings regularly and participates in full swaps/group sex. But as this thread shows everyone's ideas about this are different. Just goes to show how easy it is to make assumptions or jump to conclusions based on how or what somebody has written. Each to their own x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some of my friends would think I'm hard core because I enjoy giving my husband oral sex. It's all relative. "

You do what?!?!?!

My friends are similar. Birthdays and xmas...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"some of my friends would think I'm hard core because I enjoy giving my husband oral sex. It's all relative.

You do what?!?!?!

My friends are similar. Birthdays and xmas... "

yea sorry Scarlet, I feel I've let the sisterhood down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I've discovered what it is that irks me most. Labels and people trying to over analyse everything. Get out there, do what you are comfortable with and stop worrying about what others do or trying to put a label on everything.

Oops.... I've clearly not had enough coffee this morning. ... as you were. ...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think I've discovered what it is that irks me most. Labels and people trying to over analyse everything. Get out there, do what you are comfortable with and stop worrying about what others do or trying to put a label on everything.

Oops.... I've clearly not had enough coffee this morning. ... as you were. ..."

Yea it annoys me too. People only seem comfortable if they have labelled you somehow and if (like a lot of us) you don't have a hook for a label to hang on you are then labelled as difficult, odd or horror of all horrors....kinky!

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By *razymadlunaticsCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"the only hardcore swinging we've seen is a bunch of 6 year old kids in the park fighting over the swings

Nope that's wrong... it's when they see if they can swing as high as they can with out going over the top "

or flying off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I've discovered what it is that irks me most. Labels and people trying to over analyse everything. Get out there, do what you are comfortable with and stop worrying about what others do or trying to put a label on everything.

Oops.... I've clearly not had enough coffee this morning. ... as you were. ..."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having met some the impression I get is they meet with the intention to get on with it, just the smallest amount of small talk and then get on with it. If they want to meet they want to shag rather than socialise and then maybe shag on the second date.

But that may be wrong.

"

That is how I also see it. I have seen it in clubs, where they don't even exchange names or hellos, but just point, invite, and fuck.

I been in that scenario a few times, but a hand shake a hello and fuck. But I only think that is couples not singles.

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By *razymadlunaticsCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"My interpretation of a "hardcore swinger" is somebody that has been swinging for some time, has lots of experience, swings regularly and participates in full swaps/group sex. But as this thread shows everyone's ideas about this are different. Just goes to show how easy it is to make assumptions or jump to conclusions based on how or what somebody has written. Each to their own x"

BULLSEYE!!! this is the true definition of a HARDCORE swinger... although i dont but imo you can still be hardcore after just a few months... but you got to meet regular, you gotta participate in full swaps and groupsex... in simple terms, hardcore mean actively greedy and full on.....

where a million miles away from that but god knows where trying to get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I've discovered what it is that irks me most. Labels and people trying to over analyse everything. Get out there, do what you are comfortable with and stop worrying about what others do or trying to put a label on everything.

Oops.... I've clearly not had enough coffee this morning. ... as you were. ..."

I don't see it as labelling as such, I'm just interested in what people think of what the different labels mean to them.

I don't care if I get labelled because everyone will see me differently. My mates think I'm a good girl.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think I've discovered what it is that irks me most. Labels and people trying to over analyse everything. Get out there, do what you are comfortable with and stop worrying about what others do or trying to put a label on everything.

Oops.... I've clearly not had enough coffee this morning. ... as you were. ...

I don't see it as labelling as such, I'm just interested in what people think of what the different labels mean to them.

I don't care if I get labelled because everyone will see me differently. My mates think I'm a good girl. "

one of my mates is convinced I'm a frustrated bisexual and only need coaxing out of my shell. If he only knew.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it means they fuck bareback in the car with a mask on lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We consider ourselves NOT hardcore swingers, not because of snobbery or anything like that, we prefer meets with socialising, building a connection then intimate fun with lots of touchy geeky things, kissing etc

We see hardcore swinging as just getting on with it or joining in with people we haven't interacted with, we call it sport fucking, each to there own whatever people are happy is fine with us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always think that they have a meet every Saturday.

I think hardcore means they meet every day tbh.

We would if we could "

My sort of girl! Gets down to it, smokes and with a mouth that can handle 3 cocks at a time ;p Oh to be within your age range

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"whatever people are happy is fine with us x"

if only more people thought like this, mind you the forums would be quiet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I've discovered what it is that irks me most. Labels and people trying to over analyse everything. Get out there, do what you are comfortable with and stop worrying about what others do or trying to put a label on everything.

Oops.... I've clearly not had enough coffee this morning. ... as you were. ..."

ha ha Perhaps a larger label on the decaf would help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't labelling as such just describing the behaviour of some that have told us they were hard-core swingers.

However labels have a tendency to fall off thus week we have had everything from-

Facebook swingers

Low self esteem fem

Beauty and the beast

Dirty old man

Some of you may agree with some of the above but we are who we are and really are not bothered by what others interpritation of us is.

So why do some get so pissed off at being labelled? What does it actually do to case such upset, isn't it just a name?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't labelling as such just describing the behaviour of some that have told us they were hard-core swingers.

However labels have a tendency to fall off thus week we have had everything from-

Facebook swingers

Low self esteem fem

Beauty and the beast

Dirty old man

Some of you may agree with some of the above but we are who we are and really are not bothered by what others interpritation of us is.

So why do some get so pissed off at being labelled? What does it actually do to case such upset, isn't it just a name?"

Agree, it's just words. If someone said I was a lawnmower or a piece of Lego I wouldn't be upset. Same as if they said I was a crusty old hag. Just words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I think people who say they're not hard core swingers mean to imply that they are somehow better than those who are....whatever a hard core swinger is.

I think in some peoples minds it has something to do with amount or frequency of meets, I'd be interested to know what the cut of point is..when do you cross over from being an ordinary swinger to being hard core? "

We put that on our profile, we have met some what I would call hard core, one couple we met, the bloke had his hand inside my wife's knickers Within a few minutes, it was quite of putting and we didn't go any further with them.

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By *asperthedogCouple
over a year ago

midlands

personally think hard core swinging is simpler, and the safest way. People who want to spend time getting to know a couple and seeing if you are compatible and tick a load of boxes, you lot are playing with fire.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

where is seems that looking for other partners looks like it is more important than spending intimate time with each other....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We consider ourselves NOT hardcore swingers, not because of snobbery or anything like that, we prefer meets with socialising, building a connection then intimate fun with lots of touchy geeky things, kissing etc

We see hardcore swinging as just getting on with it or joining in with people we haven't interacted with, we call it sport fucking, each to there own whatever people are happy is fine with us x"

Then I guess we are not hard core swingers either then .

Despite meeting different people twice a week for 3 years , the nature of the meet is just like yours . Socialising , chatting , flirting , lots of kissing etc....... A more intimate and passionate meet rather than a quick fuck and go .

But perhaps because of the frequency of meets others may still say we are hardcore .

And as many have said , it's just a label .

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

Hardcore swingers are people with no inhibition and assertive when it came to sex.anything goes type.whereas soft swingers do have alot of reservation when it comes to sex.sorry I fall into the (hardcore section) category.

But I do respect ladies or women limit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"personally think hard core swinging is simpler, and the safest way. People who want to spend time getting to know a couple and seeing if you are compatible and tick a load of boxes, you lot are playing with fire.

"

It's only 'playing with fire' for couples that don't trust each other or don't have a good relationship. Those with issues would probably be better sticking to hardcore swinging/ just sex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"personally think hard core swinging is simpler, and the safest way. People who want to spend time getting to know a couple and seeing if you are compatible and tick a load of boxes, you lot are playing with fire.

It's only 'playing with fire' for couples that don't trust each other or don't have a good relationship. Those with issues would probably be better sticking to hardcore swinging/ just sex. "

I was going to respond to that comment. I don't understand the inference, is it that people who get to know one another are more likely to fall in love with other people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"personally think hard core swinging is simpler, and the safest way. People who want to spend time getting to know a couple and seeing if you are compatible and tick a load of boxes, you lot are playing with fire.

It's only 'playing with fire' for couples that don't trust each other or don't have a good relationship. Those with issues would probably be better sticking to hardcore swinging/ just sex.

I was going to respond to that comment. I don't understand the inference, is it that people who get to know one another are more likely to fall in love with other people?"

I thought it was.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"personally think hard core swinging is simpler, and the safest way. People who want to spend time getting to know a couple and seeing if you are compatible and tick a load of boxes, you lot are playing with fire.

It's only 'playing with fire' for couples that don't trust each other or don't have a good relationship. Those with issues would probably be better sticking to hardcore swinging/ just sex.

I was going to respond to that comment. I don't understand the inference, is it that people who get to know one another are more likely to fall in love with other people?

I thought it was."

Well I think that if a relationship is lacking in some aspect one or both will gravitate towards that outside of each other and the risk is as great however you play. But what do I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone with a load of pebbles in a bag that they twirl on their fingers?

I think as with any other label it can mean different things to different people. "

Hmmm, I'm sure it's actually the men who lay driveways. Before they put the slabs/cobbles down on top of the rubble base, they give each other a leg and a wing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just read on a profile, "not hard core swinger" and got me thinking what is really a hard core swinger?

is a hard core swinger, a person who fucks at first wink?

"

Someone who expects you to invite them to your house while your kids are in bed, someone who expects you to throw a sickie to make time for a meet, someone who expects you to change your plans to meet, basically someone who puts a meet before everything else and expects you to do the same

That's my definition

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By *moSexGeeksCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

Why are the people with 10+ meet veri's getting so defensive or sarcastic... Is only a label...

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