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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it that people won't meet the male half of a couple alone ( in most cases ), but are more than happy for the female half to join them unsuspiciously?(again in most cases )

I have found this on multiple occasions where i have been talking to a couple who only want me. But when I have tried setting Ryan up with surprise meets when ive been away blood from a stone comes to mind.

Rachel xXx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ryan probably becomes a Single Guy in some Peoples Eyes, though your right I've noticed it as well

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

didnt u like our reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or because people had bad exp with fake prof. in past..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"didnt u like our reply"

Which reply to who ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah, what reply? Your first message says you deleted it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

simpley because single women are more popular than single guys. We also play alone but we were fully aware that lolly would get many more meets than me. Oh and setting up a "surprise" meet for a boyfriend is seen as the oldest trick in the book for singles pretending to be couples maybe you could try something different. Just our opinion x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do you mean try something different?

Isn't it better to be open and honest about the intentions of the meet? That could get a little awkward when my husband answers the door and knows nothing about the false pretences i have put the poor people under.

And the point i am making isnt that females are more popular than males it's that people have a problem with potential cheating males but when meeting a female half the thought doesn't even seem to surface.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Can only speak for myself but no way would I meet a guy if it was arranged by his 'girlfriend'......

Not sure many women would either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you missed the point women are more popular or to put it another way they are a more valueable commodity so many will turn a blind eye to a womans situation. My other point is why try to set up a surprise meet for your man. You could both talk to a couple and arrange singles meets with them, thats what we do and it seems to work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That is the point i'm making, but most would meet a girl if they were speaking to the male or the female without even considering the male.

I was naive to think i could arrange a surprise meet for him and have since given up on the idea, he prefers to play together anyway but it would have been fun.

Rachel xXx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can only speak for myself but no way would I meet a guy if it was arranged by his 'girlfriend'......

Not sure many women would either"
thanks jane thats the point i was trying to make we wouldn't trust that either x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I have to be honest, and please don't take offence at this, but if a 'girlfriend' contacted me to arrange a surprise meet for her other half I would immediately assume it is a guy trying it on....

Cynical I know.....but experience tells me that 99 times out of a 100 it would be a message from a cheating male.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Even if you spoke to the female half of the couple, rather than doing everything by PM or email...?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Jane your last message summed it up to exactly what I mean.

But if it was the other way around you wouldn't batt an eyelid right?

Any everytime i've tried to arrange a meet I have offered to call and webcam but still no interest.

Like i said anyway I have given up on that idea.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Actually if it was the 'other way around' I would be no different, if a guy contacted me to 'arrange' a meet with his other half I would treat it with equal distaste.

I don't believe in anyone 'arranging' meets for their partners.

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

we have had the wife trying to arrange a meet for her hubby.but the wife would never give us a tel.no. for us to talk to here.one wonders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get it all the time male half of couples wanting to meet while the wife is at work/away,we would never meet one half of a couple without chatting to both on the phone to verify its ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we were on the chat a good while ago on cam and were bombarded by whispers from a couple who had been on the site a while, had verifications upon verifications both sexual and social, and from people we knew. We said our goodnights as we were heading off for some sex and our inbox was from then on battered by emails from the couple. the guy was asking over and over to come and watch us, join in, video etc as he was horny. We then decided to ask about the female half and she was in bristol for the weekend. We put it down to an experienced couple in the swing scene who were happy with each other playing alone

until a few days later the female was in the chat, on cam and when asked about what had happened, wasnt a happy bunny with her husband at all....so much so thier profile was hidden for a few months!

cheating partners galore, and unfortunately its normally the male half, which will be why couples will lose all interest if its just the male half wanting to meet.

G(male half of prettynginger) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have found its always male half of couple,when we reply saying if your mrs will chat to me fem/fem on phone to say its ok we never hear from them again,in fact we have been blocked by 2 couples after saying that,i assume its so they cant get found out by the wife that they have been emailing to meet alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy from another site who had a single profile and clearly stated before we met he was married but his wife knew so i asked him to give me her number so i knew it was ok and sure enough she answered the phone told me all about him and then went on to tell me why she didnt mind him meeting other women as she had gone off sex after childbirth but knew he still needed a sex life, ended up being friends with her and as long as he always came home then she was ok with it, different strokes for different folks i guess xxx Lois xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres a lot of things people will let women get away with on here, married and cheating men are the spawn of satan to most but cheating women...yeah thats fine, men wanking in chat rooms get a raw deal as well from people who are "sick of the wanker" yet i've never seen anyone tell a woman to put her tits away, male half of couples meeting alone just turn into 'another bloody single male' yet everyone tries to get women from couples to meet alone.....its just how it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've often thought that I could try and sort something out for Hubby. That way the woman would know that I do genuinely know that he's meeting others. Even with my verified profile though (so people could be sure I am me and not a man pretending to be a woman) I've never bothered because whoever I contacted would more than likely not believe me.

For those of us with genuine intentions it's very frustrating to be tarred with the same brush as those who do intend to deceive.

A bit like assuming that every single guy who cannot accommodate is cheating on a woman left behind at home

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Can only speak for myself but no way would I meet a guy if it was arranged by his 'girlfriend'......

Not sure many women would either"

That would be my thoughts too.

I have met the male half of a few couples... but the guys arranged it and the wives just confirmed it was OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can only speak for myself but no way would I meet a guy if it was arranged by his 'girlfriend'......

Not sure many women would either

That would be my thoughts too.

I have met the male half of a few couples... but the guys arranged it and the wives just confirmed it was OK."

yeah i go along with this too, if im meeting someone i want to arrange it with the person i'm meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow this thread got quite a lot of response. I only found out after reading this that my wife was thinking of arranging a surprise meet for me. I think that could be quite a turn on but I can completely understand why a lot of people wouldn;t go along with it thinking it was deceitful and not actually my wife arranging it.

I guess different people have different views on things but so many fakers on the site have spoilt it for the truthful ones like my wife who actually want to genuinely surprise their OH whilst out on a meet herself.

To be completely honest allthough it would be nice to be surprised I am more than happy meeting together with my wife anyway, a lot of my satisfaction comes from seeing her get pleasure.

Ryan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would love to meet a couple where we could all play together, and also meet up for MMF and FFM. Plenty of couples offering up the male half of the partnership, but the female still remains elusive

I play as a single fem, but no one i have met has even wanted to play as a couple even. Not got a problem with that, but it could be so much more fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Rachel plays alone quite regularly as do I.

It seems to be a lot easier within the group of "real life" swinging friends we have met. I guess it's because they know us and know our thoughts about us playing seperately and are happy that we both are consenting.

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