FabSwingers.com forum: cant accomodate ?

By *olf64 OP Man
over a year ago

redditch

why is it that so many men cant accomodate when they say they are single ?

must be a real pain having the wife or girlfriend there lol

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"why is it that so many men cant accomodate when they say they are single ?

must be a real pain having the wife or girlfriend there lol"

Some are single parents or share accommodation, but the other 99% are in pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some maybe single parents. But you could be right

* gets bk in coffin *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is it that so many men cant accomodate when they say they are single ?

must be a real pain having the wife or girlfriend there lol"

I once lived in a shared house where I imagine people wouldn't want to come for a meet.

A male friend has gone back to his parents after a bad and expensive split from his former partner.

there may be reasons other than having a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am still living at home with the parents so thats my answer, but i do agree when I see can't accom but single and off a certain age I do have my suspitions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also know (well more knew) a guy that is married but could accommodate as he had an apartment his wife knew nothing of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So why dont you accommodate tonight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well cant the same be said about single women who say cant accommodate?

People have there own reasons. Dont really think theres much point in putting too much thought or discussion into it.

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By *he BananamanMan
over a year ago

WORCESTERSHIRE

i got a few mates who cant accomadate at weekends as it the time they have the kids from the ex,so there should be a few divorced females free to accomadate at wekends!.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Well cant the same be said about single women who say cant accommodate?

People have there own reasons. Dont really think theres much point in putting too much thought or discussion into it."

I have to admit that I often make the same assumptions about guys not accommodating, and in my profile I do say that I prefer guys that can.

But having said that, I appreciate that guys might not want to invite potential bunny boilers into their homes, the same as single women might not want to invite potential axe-murderers into theirs.

Ive met with guys who wanted to meet me somewhere neutral first, but were then happy to accommodate at theirs once they got to know me and realised I didnt have the pan on the stove....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe it or not but you do get single females that cannot accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i live within a shared house and i want my private life to be just that so meets at my house have to be well played... im sure couples can understand that they would like there private life to be just that..... read so many threads slating single men.... i know lots lie etc but dont tarnish everyone with the same brush.... i work, have family n commitments like all the things couples have xx

Moan over n i hate moaning so sorry x

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Not going to justify my life to feed into OP's agenda.

Curious as to why he's checking single male profiles to find out how many can or can't accommodate.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most guys who cant accomodate i always say hiding something

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"most guys who cant accomodate i always say hiding something "

you mean like people who hide their profiles are hiding something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not going to justify my life to feed into OP's agenda.

Curious as to why he's checking single male profiles to find out how many can or can't accommodate....."

I think it's a sneaky way to get attention and add that he is single because he can accommodate.

good luck to him.

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By *unterslickCouple
over a year ago

tullamore

cant accom is a big thing,we have can but cant travel,i know married people,where the ale/female swings with the consent of partner,just not in their own home,so as said above it can work either way

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"I think it's a sneaky way to get attention and add that he is single because he can accommodate.

good luck to him.

That's the exact agenda I had in mind...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are a few reasons as stated they live with parents, they have children, they dont want every psycho and their dog knowing where they live and it applies to both men and women, and either man or woman who cant accomodate could be cheats its not just a single guy thing!

i usualy ask why they cant accomodate and if meetin make it in a neutral place (hopefully by then iv sussed out if they cheating or whatever) and i dont meet for the first time in my home.

a suspicious mind is never satisfied they say but its better to be suspicious than found chopped up somewhere!! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the ones that cant travel cant accomodate confuse me?? how do they meet and where?? bus stop along the rd??

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By *olf64 OP Man
over a year ago

redditch

i have 19 yr daughter living with me

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By *olf64 OP Man
over a year ago

redditch

have a fb that wanted extra male and as we both have kids wanted a male that can accom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Englishrose45

most guys who cant accomodate i always say hiding something

you mean like people who hide their profiles are hiding something?

ROFL

I can accommodate once I have meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Englishrose45

most guys who cant accomodate i always say hiding something

you mean like people who hide their profiles are hiding something?

ROFL

I can accommodate once I have meet

Da tum tishhhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where as I do avoid guys who cant accommodate I don't ask them to justify it to me - its their choice, same as I don't accommodate - my choice and all i can say if you don't like it - move right on

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"i have 19 yr daughter living with me "

Can I have her phone number?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"have a fb that wanted extra male and as we both have kids wanted a male that can accom "

Fair enough - couldn't tell myself, as I'm blocked from your profile

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By *he BananamanMan
over a year ago

WORCESTERSHIRE

"most guys who cant accomodate i always say hiding something

you mean like people who hide their profiles are hiding something?

tends to make you wonder does it not?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think this applies only 2 single men .....

I'm sure there are many reasons why people can't accommodate, granted some of them may be attached and not being truthfull but not just single men ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot accommodate, will not accommodate. I have a small house and two sons, ages 24 and 12, no way would I have someone back to my house for naughties!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Believe it or not but you do get single females that cannot accommodate.

Absolutely as ive a son living at home, whilst he is not of the age to need a babysitter, i cant only really play during the day when he is at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet men that can accommodate, if they can't, no matter their reason I don't meet them because I live at home with two of my daugters 18 and 22.

My meets are arranged when they are at work, college etc.

If I, a single woman with young daughters can accommodate then I expect the same. The irony is I seldom go to theirs, it's mainly at mine, but I like the option!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the ones that cant travel cant accomodate confuse me?? how do they meet and where?? bus stop along the rd??

xx"

Both Travel and Accommodate are open to interpretation.

To travel could mean travelling the length of the country or to travel to surrounding towns, if with no vehicle it could mean travelling via public transport, so to the other end of own town could be considered travelling.

Accommodate could mean, accommodate for the meet or to accommodate overnight when play is over.

We don't drive so we state can't travel, but have managed to travel to Wigan, Oldham, Manchester, Tameside and Blackpool.

Profiles are only a little about us, and so are too open to interpretation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is it that so many men cant accomodate when they say they are single ?

must be a real pain having the wife or girlfriend there lol"

There is nothing like being assumptive is there! I think you will find many of the attached man will say they can accommodate even when they can't just to give the impression they are single.

But its a good thread to put up if you are looking to reduce the single man to female ratio. Why not try the Men without pictures/face pictures are attached or the one that assumes men who can't meet weekday evenings are attached too.

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area

"why is it that so many men cant accomodate when they say they are single ?

must be a real pain having the wife or girlfriend there lol

Some are single parents or share accommodation, but the other 99% are in pain

am i a pain my dear, that hurts lol xxx

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

i hope to move in sept to a place where i can accommodate (if all things are settled!)

see if that removes the suspicions! ever the optimist, it got to .. hasn't it? lol

and it won't make me any less single than i am now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i hope to move in sept to a place where i can accommodate (if all things are settled!)

see if that removes the suspicions! ever the optimist, it got to .. hasn't it? lol

and it won't make me any less single than i am now lol

Can i be your first guest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also know (well more knew) a guy that is married but could accommodate as he had an apartment his wife knew nothing of.

Wow that's dedication. I don't mean in a good way!

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By *entscotscplCouple
over a year ago

falkirk ish

best we have saw is

cant travel and cant accomadate ffs get a life eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is it that so many men cant accomodate when they say they are single ?

must be a real pain having the wife or girlfriend there lol"

ohhh so quick to judge lol

There are many reasons why singles cant accommodate, shared housing, dont want loads of people knowing where they live, kids, dont want neighbours seeing lots of people coming and going etc, im single and i dont accommodate for verious reasons, mainly i have kids and i dont want loads of guys on here having my address, dont read into that that i have a fella at home cause i dont lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite right. In my case, it's my brother's home and private space too, so it would be very disrespectful and thoughtless of me to bring strangers in for sex. Having said that, he's been very happy for previoius girlfrinds to come and stay for a few days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems from here that everyone has a reason for not being able to accomodate - I have mine

not to be aired in public & if anyone asks me that's for me to decide if I tell them

it's for them to decide if that's reasonable or not

Why do we judge? Surely we're on here with similar open minded people - speak the truth & the truth will provail - lie & let the world pas you by

get all the facts first - then evalute & make your own mind up!

Sorry nothing to hide - Baa humbug rant on lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"why is it that so many men cant accomodate when they say they are single ?

must be a real pain having the wife or girlfriend there lol"

As has been said... different people have different reasons and you will not get a definitive answer on here.

It's probably best you ask the individual men you want to meet why they cannot accommodate you and see what they say.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"I cannot accommodate, will not accommodate. I have a small house and two sons, ages 24 and 12, no way would I have someone back to my house for naughties!!

I agree, I have daughter and nosey interferring ex who interrogates my daughter when she goes to she her....

but i'm single male so obviuusly lying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't accomodate cos I share a house with non swingers. I spose i could have a woman round (even if i might make the other pair jealous) but having a couple over would just leave far to mch room for questions and 'odd looks'.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I can only accomodate when my kids are away for the weekend at their dads which is few and far between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I to be fair think that its none of my business. I am hardly snow white. I would also choose not to go to a mans house.

Partly because of how things work for me but also because I prefer my own space.

I do think single guys that arent really single should say, as some women actually prefer to know that he is not going to suddenly develop a fixation or something ( know a girl who that happened too)

We all have our reasons for doing what we are doing.. does it really matter if you get on well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

right now i cant accomodate as its school holidays here and my house looks like stig of the dump has moved in!! x

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By *ntheswingCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Why the debate? Just take it that if some-one says they cannot accomodate, they can't accomodate!

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"best we have saw is

cant travel and cant accomadate ..."

That thought crossed my mind too as I was scrolling down the thread, but you beat me to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of a gent who had to look after his father who was residing at his house for 6 months. Hence he could not accommodate.

I believe one should have an open mind about why one cannot accommodate, and make effort to establish the reason behind it, rather than to assume it is because he/she is a cheating b'stard!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we cant accomadate, as we share a house with a vanilla landlady, due to my losing my house when i split with my partner last year, does that mean we are both cheating bastards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am still living at home with the parents so thats my answer, but i do agree when I see can't accom but single and off a certain age I do have my suspitions"

Ohhhhhhhhh Im going to Chester in a few weeks. ... I'll wave xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to the tube that decided to send me the private mail in regards to my last statement i meant myself and why i couldnt accomodate at the present! and i hope you sent your silly message to everyone on the post and not just me!

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By *lumsy colinMan
over a year ago

basingstoke

i am a single guy recently divorced i have two kids they live with mum Sadly but visit me often and unnanounced so thats why i say cant accomodate

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"to the tube that decided to send me the private mail in regards to my last statement i meant myself and why i couldnt accomodate at the present! and i hope you sent your silly message to everyone on the post and not just me!

Oi, keep your stalker to yourself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi, keep your stalker to yourself!

no i like to share!!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree - a lot of "single" males must be playing behind the backs of their wives / partners!

I think their are a few people that were in my position that got onto the housing market but lease a room out to a mate / lodger for extra income.

As trust & discretion is usually appreciated in this lifestyle I would not accomodate as my lodger would most likely have been around - and how uncomfortable would that have been if a couple came round and someone else just walks into the room..... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

here is one for thought there are a lot of single guys in the military on here. so getting ppl on acamp is hard then living in shared blocks with a room the size of a shoe is another.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i cant accomodate as i live in my dads granny flat (cheap rent

) and dont want any questions raised by having a stream of people coming and going

having said that - if he is away i will have people round or if i have got to know the person etc

i think for women having 'cant accomodate' also helps put off some of the weirdos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess the conclusion is, don't jump to conclusions.

Yes, it may be a sign they're not being straight, but then most people like to take the time to get to know people they swing with.

And those that don't want to, well plenty more fish as they say.

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By *ickedWWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"I also know (well more knew) a guy that is married but could accommodate as he had an apartment his wife knew nothing of.

MY HUSBAND HAS AN APARTMENT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also know (well more knew) a guy that is married but could accommodate as he had an apartment his wife knew nothing of.

MY HUSBAND HAS AN APARTMENT

He lives a little down south from me, and has, well HAD an apartment in Manchester.

His wife knew nothing of the apartment. calm down, lol.

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By *ickedWWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"I also know (well more knew) a guy that is married but could accommodate as he had an apartment his wife knew nothing of.

MY HUSBAND HAS AN APARTMENT

He lives a little down south from me, and has, well HAD an apartment in Manchester.

His wife knew nothing of the apartment. calm down, lol.

Got his number Shag?

I'm headin that way soon

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Well cant the same be said about single women who say cant accommodate?

People have there own reasons. Dont really think theres much point in putting too much thought or discussion into it."

Didn't you know? Single men that can't accomodate are married - single women that can't accomodate are merely exercising prerogative

... courtesy another swing site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you can apply one answer to everyone...

In my case, I live in accommodation that's partly-provided by my employer, and that's why I don't accommodate.

Virtuallly everyone else in the building also works for the same company, so it's not best-advised to have random women turning up each week, especially in today's economy.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

im a female who cant accommodate cos my hubbys always here ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the reason for this post is a bit naughty!...I've read the poster's profile and he says he's a straight man so why do you care if other men can accom or not?...

Now maybe I'm cynical but I read the original post as " I can accom so I'm genuine those that caren't aren't...so ladies all come to me" tut tut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the reason for this post is a bit naughty!...I've read the poster's profile and he says he's a straight man so why do you care if other men can accom or not?...

Now maybe I'm cynical but I read the original post as " I can accom so I'm genuine those that caren't aren't...so ladies all come to me" tut tut

I havnt read it like that,also its not hard to read others profiles and see what others have on them

To be honest its not often you come across a guys profile where he says he can accom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just seemed a bit cynical (the original post) in the first place.

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By *INKKKYMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL/ WIRRAL

maybe alot of men and women just dont want strangers in their home? Everyone has the right to that choice surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah he was probably jumping to conclusions why guys cant accom,but like been pointed out by other posters there are genuine reasons why people cant or wont accom x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe alot of men and women just dont want strangers in their home? Everyone has the right to that choice surely? "

I agree with you there,if you have not met before you dont know who you are letting in your home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course everyone has the right to choose...it's the reason behind the original post I have a problem with...If you want to say how great you are and how you are more "genuine" than someone else then do it in your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the OP realises know there are other reasons why people not just single guys dont accom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry just having my rant...I just don't think it's appropriate to use forums to build yourself up by trying to pull others down...that's just naughty...and transparent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

easy just get a room share the cost lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry just having my rant...I just don't think it's appropriate to use forums to build yourself up by trying to pull others down...that's just naughty...and transparent."

A lot of guys on here who say they are single are not single though so can understand the OP assuming that its the reason guys say they cant accom,but do think its unfair saying guys as been said before some couples dont accom and females dont,but its all down to choice and preferance if you accom or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was thinking that just couldnt think of how to write it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because if you anything like me, you might have let a mate stay over for a bit to help him out.....he's never left since then and is a bit of a prude.

To be honest, when I see that a single female or a couple can't accomodate I wouldn't exactly go challenging them on it.........if thats what they say (for whatever reason), then so be it, thats how you take it.

Everyone has their own choice and the ability to make their own judgement, which to me means every single guy shouldn't be getting tarred with the same brush.

Just my 2p worth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^^^^To add to that, hotels are so much better....you can get into any state you wish, make as much mess as you wish and there's no tidying up or soggy bedsheets in the morning LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i cant accomodate as i live in my dads granny flat (cheap rent

) and dont want any questions raised by having a stream of people coming and going

if it's a granny flat surely home help can err pop in hahaha

need a bed bath?

Ooh can't wait til I'm old(er)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree...everyone has a choice and I would say to EVERYBODY that if there is anything about anyone(including me) that you don't feel totally comfortable with then listen to your instincts (more often than not they are right)- not that that means the person is an axe murderer but that probably you wont be well suited.

Of course there are liars on here too but they are everywhere but to even hint

that others are because they do something different to you is just plain bad form.

Having said that I'm gonna stop ranting

now and look at some pics to calm me down lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like it's already been said Single Guys have reasons and choices as well, I dont need to justify why I dont normally accom though I have in the past but heres why I only accom sometimes, my Daughter stays at mine or her Mums whenever she likes, she obviously has a Key to both our Homes and can come and go as she pleases, I wouldn't change that for a meet with anybody.

Now when she's away with Mum or Family it's a different story so I'm in the same Boat as lots of Couples and Singles of either Sex.

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"...A lot of guys on here who say they are single are not single though...

It doesn't just apply to guys who say they are single guys on here either...

...as I once saw on a site somewhere..."welcome to the internet, where men are men, and so are most of the women"...

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Just a reminder, please don't paste anyones mails or profile text etc onto the forums...even if you don't name them.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Believe it or not but you do get single females that cannot accommodate.

Single females shouldn't have to accomodate! How would you feel if (for innocent reasons) your mother or sister, perhaps even daughter told you that some guy she has never met but has chatted to on the 'Net, is coming round to visit when everyone else is out?

In our experience, some of those "Can't Accomodate" ladies will when they are sure you are OK.

Safety first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant accom as most of us single girls are mums therefor our kids come first would never have a stranger in while kids are here meet for a coffee first and if we get on arrange a date when kids are not there which is not very often going to be out of action next 6 weeks grr school hols.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"Believe it or not but you do get single females that cannot accommodate.

In our experience, some of those "Can't Accomodate" ladies will when they are sure you are OK.

Safety first!

That could also be said for single males too - safety for all is it not??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Believe it or not but you do get single females that cannot accommodate.

In our experience, some of those "Can't Accomodate" ladies will when they are sure you are OK.

Safety first!

That could also be said for single males too - safety for all is it not?? "

thats true tho i dont think men have to be worried about the pysical side of safty like women do, ok so their are some aggressive women but lets be homest i think most if not all the guys i have met could fight me off if i got nasty lol but there are other things to think about, like some woman falling in love with you and knowing where you live

you dont want a bunny boiler on your door dtep 24/7 do you lol

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

At least this safety thing is thought about in advance. The actual problem is no different to what you'd get in "Vanillaland" in a one-night-stand after a night out on a Friday / Saturday night situation. Only then, alcohol disturbs the thought processes, and people get into the pickle's that hopefully some in this scene are trying to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Womens safety is of paramount importance, of course it is, I would not recommend anyone male or female to have an initial meet at their home.

Everyone knows that it has always been the guideline to meet in a neutral public place.

Men should be carefull too, ok perhaps they can physically cope with a woman but what about those "fatal attraction" girls, they are out there, I or rather my wife suffered from one of those many years ago, it started with the late night phone calls and nobody speaking, then the pizza deliveries we hadn't ordered, topsoil came next and then numerous more deliveries, direct sales appointments and all sorts of other inconvenient goings on.

There are cases of even more nasty encounters, lies poned through to someone's workplace, nasty things posted through letterboxes.

Both men and women are capable of such things so for me no single person should have thier first meet with someone at thier home address.

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By *ifferentClassMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Believe it or not but you do get single females that cannot accommodate.

In our experience, some of those "Can't Accomodate" ladies will when they are sure you are OK.

Safety first!

That could also be said for single males too - safety for all is it not?? "

Oooft - you ain't kidding. I met a lass from here a while back who turned into a total nut job. Turning up unannounced (might sound tempting, but it really ain't when yer mum is there!) buzzing my neighbours to get her into the close, sitting outside in the pissing rain until I answered the calls, bashing on the door at midnight and waking the entire building up, waiting in her car on a Sat night till I turned up from a night out. Absolute nightmare. Of course, this came hand in hand with threats to tell the police about how we met if I reported her as I informed her I intended to do, notes through neighbours' letterboxes informing them of activities and so on if I didn't have sex with her. Jeez - I couldn't wait till my tenancy contract was up. I wonder if the new tenants ever got a visit! Discretion over whether or not to accommodate is the right of all, male and female, and it isn't right for anyone else to question that. Did I learn my lesson in my next place? Absolutely not - but all others who have

crossed the threshold have been lovely, but do we really realise just how much we are putting ourselves in the hands of others when going about our business on this site?

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"Believe it or not but you do get single females that cannot accommodate.

In our experience, some of those "Can't Accomodate" ladies will when they are sure you are OK.

Safety first!

That could also be said for single males too - safety for all is it not??

crossed the threshold have been lovely, but do we really realise just how much we are putting ourselves in the hands of others when going about our business on this site? "

Obviously, a rare occasion, but totally agree with the sentiment! well said that man.

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By *ounglad87Man
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I co-habitate with a mate and so bringing couples back for rampant sex would be frowned upon I imagine haha

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