FabSwingers.com forum: Ignorance and arrogance

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hate hate hate couples or single girls that read messages and don't reply we reply to every message even if it's a polite no some on hear are so far up there own arse they you can smell the shit on there breaths anyone else agree ????

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By *edheadsruleCouple
over a year ago

lancashire

I dont reply to every message, especially those where its quite obvious they havent read our profile, as their message will say 'married guy looking for extras' when we arent looking to help people cheat, or they will be under or over our preferred age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone post the bit about not receiving replies from FAQs please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We mostly do.. although sometimes I read and can't reply as I need to check details or times etc or just read then lose signal...And it can get forgotten about x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't read the profile or are plain ignorant they don't deserve a reply !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone post the bit about not receiving replies from FAQs please. "

No, you do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone post the bit about not receiving replies from FAQs please.

No, you do it. "

I can't be arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate hate hate couples or single girls that read messages and don't reply we reply to every message even if it's a polite no some on hear are so far up there own arse they you can smell the shit on there breaths anyone else agree ????"

Its a good job they havn't replied really

Wouldn't fancy kissing anyone with shit breath

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

*sigh*

OP from the FAQs:

http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

Short answer - you are not entitled to a reply on here. Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*sigh*

OP from the FAQs:

http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Short answer - you are not entitled to a reply on here. Sorry."

Dance monkey!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you hate me so much lol

Can't reply to 200 plus messages a day :/

You special are you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. Hates a very strong word! Move along to somewhere where you find interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes a change its not about single men lol.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"*sigh*

OP from the FAQs:

http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Short answer - you are not entitled to a reply on here. Sorry.

Dance monkey! "

I choose to think of myself as a helpful and forgiving soul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone post the bit about not receiving replies from FAQs please. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a good job they havn't replied really

Wouldn't fancy kissing anyone with shit breath"
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it arrogant when people demand a reply

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I find it arrogant when people demand a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it arrogant when people demand a reply

Why's that? Answer me woman!!

(It's a JOKE before that block button is hit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Makes a change its not about single men lol."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree with it being a given that every message must be replied to or your arrogant some men women couples on here are just plane rude and I wouldn't give them the time of day

But if I message someone after reading there profile and I'm like wow they just described me lol and they don't message back it's kinda like what the hell are you even doing on here when they go out meeting guys that don't fit the criteria they set?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't read the profile or are plain ignorant they don't deserve a reply !"

Exactly!! Nothing to do with ignorance or arrogance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone be turned down !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't read the profile or are plain ignorant they don't deserve a reply !"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with it being a given that every message must be replied to or your arrogant some men women couples on here are just plane rude and I wouldn't give them the time of day

But its their choice isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a good job they havn't replied really

Wouldn't fancy kissing anyone with shit breath"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with it being a given that every message must be replied to or your arrogant some men women couples on here are just plane rude and I wouldn't give them the time of day

But its their choice isn't it"

Of course it is but a simple no ta is surfactant I don't do spray and pray messages I only message people who's criteria I meet but fair point they arnt going t know that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

I sometimes read junk mail but I never contact them back. Do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with it being a given that every message must be replied to or your arrogant some men women couples on here are just plane rude and I wouldn't give them the time of day

But its their choice isn't it

Of course it is but a simple no ta is surfactant I don't do spray and pray messages I only message people who's criteria I meet but fair point they arnt going t know that "

Spray and pray

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well our head isn't shoved up our own arse and we don't reply to all the messages we receive. Basically we can't be arsed to. Some days we can get upto 100 messages and others maybe 10. Unfortunately we both have full time Jobs and busy lives so aren't able to reply to all messages even if we wanted to. Surely not getting a reply is the same as a not interested Reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think I will be using up my message limit just to say no thanks anytime soon.

Will an inbox full of rejection make you feel any better?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I don't and refuse to reply to all my messages so get over it and move on the next profile, they are obviously not into you!

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"Can someone post the bit about not receiving replies from FAQs please. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I read every profile and always put a subject in box a polite no is surly not too much to ask ? And no not been turned down just think it's rude that's all me and my bf also have full time jobs but when I do get on I reply to every message even if it's just no sorry to me it's just polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with it being a given that every message must be replied to or your arrogant some men women couples on here are just plane rude and I wouldn't give them the time of day

how do you know you fit exactly what they are looking for. We don't put everything in our profile that we are looking for and I'm sure a lot of others don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On behalf of everyone past, present and future who doesn't reply to a message...

Thanks but no

That should cover it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think replying to every message isnt easy but then again a polite yes or no isnt hard to do, some people dont read profiles which proves they dont care who they send message to and are just looking a quickie with anyone that will meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read every profile and always put a subject in box a polite no is surly not too much to ask ? And no not been turned down just think it's rude that's all me and my bf also have full time jobs but when I do get on I reply to every message even if it's just no sorry to me it's just polite "

If some one doesn't read your profile and isn't anything like what your looking for do you reply. Just wondering because surely it would be polite to read it before messaging. Do they deserve a reply a if they haven't took 30 seconds to read it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to reply to all my messages which resulted in more messages being sent, never ending & I don't have the time.

Now I just reply to the ones I want to.

It is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think iv discovered everyone has same opinion so must just be me that feels stressed out with it all or wrong time off month :-/ sorry all rant over x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think iv discovered everyone has same opinion so must just be me that feels stressed out with it all or wrong time off month :-/ sorry all rant over x"

your opinion is yours don't feel obliged to conform ~ and everyone is entitled to a rant lol

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

Is it law you have to reply we better sit on the naughty step as we don`t reply to every message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to all, even if it's just a quick no thanks. After all its only polite.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

So do you answer every piece of junk mail that comes thru your letterbox.... or ever piece of spam in your e-mail..

maybe you need a different mindset... everything is a "no thanks" until told otherwise, that way you don't induce an ulcer!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think with junk mail it's different. The messages we get on here are from real people with real feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think with junk mail it's different. The messages we get on here are from real people with real feelings. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad you hate me so much lol

Can't reply to 200 plus messages a day :/

You special are you ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad you hate me so much lol

Can't reply to 200 plus messages a day :/

You special are you ?

Who gets 200+ messages a day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad you hate me so much lol

Can't reply to 200 plus messages a day :/

You special are you ?

Who gets 200+ messages a day?"

A few single women we know on here.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad you hate me so much lol

Can't reply to 200 plus messages a day :/

You special are you ?

Who gets 200+ messages a day?"

those who love to moan about the attention by not using filters

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Glad you hate me so much lol

Can't reply to 200 plus messages a day :/

You special are you ?

Who gets 200+ messages a day?

those who love to moan about the attention by not using filters"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad you hate me so much lol

Can't reply to 200 plus messages a day :/

You special are you ?

Who gets 200+ messages a day?

those who love to moan about the attention by not using filters"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply to every message, if we aren't going to meet them then I don't bother. I expect others to do this to me, I accept people just can't be bothered getting into long conversations.

Its a shame that others may see me as ignorant and arrogant, but whatever others think of me, I'm still not going to reply to messages if I don't want ti

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we reply to most - had a couple a while back that messaged us - everything we didnt want they were - we sent a polite not for us style reply and the sent back - aww thats a shame you dont like us -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many times I have replied with a "Thanks but you are not for me" only to be inundated with further messages asking why, so now I don't bother most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was getting 200 messages a day. I would use my filters and have a good old think about my profile. It doesn't take much sorting lol.

That's if it is true.

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By *ittykate84Woman
over a year ago

CHESTER

I dont reply if they arent for me as I have received some nasty messages when I have said 'thanks but not my type' why should I have to receive that level of abuse when I was polite!

Now if they arent my type or havent clearly read my profile and attached a face pic then it gets deleted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think iv discovered everyone has same opinion so must just be me that feels stressed out with it all or wrong time off month :-/ sorry all rant over x"

you could always ask the person to reply with a quick 'no' if you're not what they are looking for, i have actually replied no to people who say that. and it did make me think that some people probably do spend some time waiting for replies on here and must get frustrated about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear x someones been ignoring you x there there there x go play with someone who wants to play with you x ignore those who don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A don't reply if they haven't read ma profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On behalf of everyone past, present and future who doesn't reply to a message...

Thanks but no

That should cover it"

Well said x

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Haters gon' hate, and theyz can keep on hatin'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I agree that a lot of people on here do give the impression they reside up their bums,I feel that my profile states exactly what im looking for and if its obvious that my profile hasn't been read then I don't feel obliged to reply.If on the other hand,my profile has been read but the individual doesn't meet my needs then I will send a polite reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be frustrating when you make great efforts to write up a decent message, highlighting particular areas of the recipients profile you like to show you've read it, and that you're not a copy/paster to get nothing at all back..That's just the nature of things on here I guess.

I've not been on here that long but it takes a short time to understand you need a thick skin to stay sane!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair girls get thousands a week, if I was them I'd not reply to every one either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think from this post alone you may well be getting even less replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your post makes you sound as if YOU think your "all that" and deserve a reply to any message you send out.

If people don't reply then they don't want to meet you, very simple really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with it being a given that every message must be replied to or your arrogant some men women couples on here are just plane rude and I wouldn't give them the time of day

you may fit the criteria but they might think your ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No certainly dont agree!

You hate us because we do things differently to you? What an attitude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is up there own arse for not replying, that's just what you think coz you didn't get a reply, not a big deal whatsoever!

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

It makes a change this thread not comming

from a man !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't read the profile or are plain ignorant they don't deserve a reply !"

My thoughts too!

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By *elfish...Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"love your sexy photos" has to be one of my favourites... Must have amazing vision!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't reply to any message because we are super arrogant so please send more messages for us to ignore many thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like you are haters so thats why people don't reply. Negativity definitely comes across its so so bad maybe you will never get a meet again *gasps*!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not reply to every message for a lot of reasons that others have stated..

1. If they clearly haven't read my profile or ignored it they are the rude one so why should I reply to them?

2. No thanks is quite often a green light for people who then try to drag you into conversations with them which makes it even harder to say no (their plan I assume but just gets me angry)

3. I used to reply to every message by the time I'd finished with one reply I'd have 5 messages in my inbox, I don't have time to reply to all. As I pointed out on a previous thread even taking 30 to reply would on average take me 5 hours a day. I have a job and a life!

4. I am a sensitive soul I don't like to hurt peoples feelings and even the thought they may take it the wrong way is enough for me not to send one.

5. No reply means no,..... Its the unwritten code of fab. Get over it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhh we try it's a laugh not to be taken to serious it's not personal baring on mind people get 100s of msgs a day and still have lives sometimes have to try again a later date :/

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't reply to every messge we get here, often we don't bother because when we look at their profile we find that they are the opposite of what we look for and we wonder why on earth they have emailed us as we don't fit at all, sometimes we messege back to say no thanks but often that leads to an abusive messge from them so we don't always bother and sometimes we even (shock horror) block them at that point !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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this is classic frustration. I hated fab last week because of too much male so reduced filters so maybe I can reply to people better x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad you hate me so much lol

Can't reply to 200 plus messages a day :/

You special are you ?

Who gets 200+ messages a day?"

Me. And I'm sick of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is classic frustration. I hated fab last week because of too much male so reduced filters so maybe I can reply to people better x"
mail* lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try and reply but some messages are just so stupid or crass they are not deserving of a reply.

And sometimes some slip through unanswered which we genuinely miss by accident.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was just haveing a bad fab day all good now

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

No....

We will reply to most messages if they are more than a one liner and they have clearly taken a couple of minutes to read our profile. The rest we just hit delete.

We take a no reply as a not interested.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

this is classic frustration. I hated fab last week because of too much male so reduced filters so maybe I can reply to people better x mail* lol

I'd always reply to your mail xx

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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago

Clacton-On-Sea, Essex

The replies I give to men that can't even be bothered to look at my preferences I'm sure they would rather me ignore them.

As for couples I do normally try to reply if they seem genuine even if its a no thanks but sometimes I like to ask my partners opinion first and then just forget haha

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

this is classic frustration. I hated fab last week because of too much male so reduced filters so maybe I can reply to people better x"
Its not mandatory to reply to any messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whilst I agree that a lot of people on here do give the impression they reside up their bums,I feel that my profile states exactly what im looking for and if its obvious that my profile hasn't been read then I don't feel obliged to reply.If on the other hand,my profile has been read but the individual doesn't meet my needs then I will send a polite reply."

I do exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women all women get that many just because of the ration of men to women it's not ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is classic frustration. I hated fab last week because of too much male so reduced filters so maybe I can reply to people better x mail* lol

I know this

I'd always reply to your mail xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad you hate me so much lol

Can't reply to 200 plus messages a day :/

You special are you ?

Who gets 200+ messages a day?"

Newly registered single fems on here do definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad you hate me so much lol

Can't reply to 200 plus messages a day :/

You special are you ?

Who gets 200+ messages a day?"

Every woman I've spoken to about it. My worst day I received 500+ in less that an hour! Filters don't work for the ugly people or those that don't attach pics or just cock pics so I don't know why people bang on about this! I would like a filter for those that are outside of my desired area, or for body type, or those who can accommodate but you only get the option of age and I don't particular care about age as long as they are my type.

Block none site supporters...don't care if they are or arent

Block none verified users.... How do they get verified if nobody will meet them?

Block those with no public pics...they might have lovely ones in their private gallery, plus i dont have public pics so dont wanna be a hypocrite!

In short, Filters on here are rubbish!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont reply to every message, especially those where its quite obvious they havent read our profile, as their message will say 'married guy looking for extras' when we arent looking to help people cheat, or they will be under or over our preferred age"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone post the bit about not receiving replies from FAQs please. "
Love it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think I will be using up my message limit just to say no thanks anytime soon.

Will an inbox full of rejection make you feel any better?

A very fair point.

As a single chap i've been in the same situation of having taken time to write a message to find it either deleted or even not read.

I feel a little more positive about messages i've sent that aren't deleted once they've been read even if I don't get a reply.

Under different circumstances I might consider such lack of response to be rude, but I read the FAQ's when I joined so I know the score.

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