FabSwingers.com forum: Couples playing totally seperate

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was curious after some of the comments on the thread about separate rooms or same...

What I am curious about is don't you feel left out if your partner is meeting totally separate...? Do you not feel that they are giving someone else their total attention? That you may not even be on their mind while they are with someone else..

and how do you keep it special for you?.

I am more interested in those that do meet this way... and how you started.. were their problems at the start..

was it something that developed over time...

Thanks.. from a curious mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We couldn't do different room or completely seperate either ...as a married couple that are mad for each other still and more so as time passes....

We never knock anyone's choices , desires and sexual desires but like many things were not into it's just another on a list x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've talked about it but I'm not confident enough to go it alone

and Kate wont do it unless I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't expect Kate to be thinking about me when she plays with someone else.

May be it's a trust issue?

I know she will always come back to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't expect Kate to be thinking about me when she plays with someone else.

May be it's a trust issue?

I know she will always come back to me"

It's funny you say that as I was quite shocked to find that people don't think about their significant other while with others xx

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By *ench and StripeCouple
over a year ago

Stenalees

Have been in the situation once or twice. Didnt think about my signifiacant other at all during and i dont think she though about me. However the naughty talk and post separation sex was mindblowing. The more important thing was to make sure both of us where happy with the situation BEFORE doing anything rather than being annoyed or arguing after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband couldn't be more in my thoughts when I'm with someone else.....I send him pics throughout so that when I return to him he's ready for the sexy debriefing. This is mostly how we work. Interestingly though, I have no desire for him to do the same for me when he meets alone. I'm happy not knowing the details, just that he had fun.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Jay and I where both swingers doing our own thing, we've never had to explain why to each other as where both of the same mindset. The only difference now is we meet as a couple as well as seperatly.

We are so happy and secure we dont care about who else they fuck we both know neither of us are going anywhere. I know its not for everyone but I wouldn't advice it for anyone who is insecure in their relationship.

As for thinking about the other while your fucking someone else I'm to busy having a good time as I'm sure he is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My husband couldn't be more in my thoughts when I'm with someone else.....I send him pics throughout so that when I return to him he's ready for the sexy debriefing. This is mostly how we work. Interestingly though, I have no desire for him to do the same for me when he meets alone. I'm happy not knowing the details, just that he had fun. "

Do you think its different for women to men... Ie you think of him and enjoy taking the photos etc .. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think its different for women to men... Ie you think of him and enjoy taking the photos etc .. x "

I think it's more to do with how our relationship works....he's always enjoyed me having attention from other men and he gets turned on by it, whereas although I have no problem with him meeting others, it does nothing for me hearing about what he gets up to.

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By *ay_yes_to_pinkyWoman
over a year ago

manchester

Me and my hubby started out as only playing together then when we started off with socials and parties we found we got separate attention and discussed it and decided I could firstly play solo. This moved forward for awhile all he wanted was pictures. But since then he has gotten more brave and gone off on his own in clubs and had solo meets while I've been home and vice versa. Even me being in one room watching tv while he's had some fun. We give each other the heads up before anything happens like in clubs it's a little nod. Never been any jealous feelings more nervous one's the first time he went off solo as my hubby is shy with a new person. But we both know if things change we can talk and accept each other's feelings but I do love seeing him or hearing him enjoying himself with another women if I'm there joining in or in another room turns me on I'd quiet happily sit and just watch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have been in the situation once or twice. Didnt think about my signifiacant other at all during and i dont think she though about me. However the naughty talk and post separation sex was mindblowing. The more important thing was to make sure both of us where happy with the situation BEFORE doing anything rather than being annoyed or arguing after."

Have to agree, and with other replies.

i dont expect my wife to think about me when with someone else. if she's meeting someone else then she has to be focused on the night and enjoy it and not just do it for sake of it etc wouldn't be fair on him.

after the event she does send pics so that im ready for her when she comes back

There has to be alot of trust in a relationship for 1 another to do this, as said beofre it ca lead to allsorts and possibly a break up.

We love each other to bits, have done since day 1. Just we have fantasies and desires that we enjoy and both know what we like. If were not happy with somethin were both straight up with each other.

She will always be mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There has to be alot of trust in a relationship for 1 another to do this,

She will always be mine

For me these two bits stand out as important.Thank you for sharing

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

TattooedHB and myself trust each other completely (anyone that says otherwise is trying to stir trouble).

She loves to watch (me with another woman) but this is not always possible, and am just happy as larry that she gets to do what she wants... its how we met so no reason to change things if its who we are.

Ofcourse if the people we meet come as a pair and choose same room, makes no difference to us, if anything we both get what she wants (am happy she's getting her frill, she's happy she gets to watch) so works both ways.

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By *ubywants2playCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

When we first started out we swore that we'd only play together. The more we learned about each other from our experiences playing together as a couple the more it became apparent that we had nothing to fear with playing separately.

The key thing was understanding what a playmate meant to the other person. Now we love it. The best sex we have together is when one of us has been with someone else playing solo and we return to each other. I never want Ruby more intensely than when she has been with another guy.

It's not a matter of giving someone else our attention, we are still playing together even if we are geographically separate.

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