FabSwingers.com forum: How much effort do you put in?.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just abit curious how much effort you all put in here, I mostly use the forum but how much do you email profiles and things, lets say in a typical day?.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

prob a 100 messages a day....

can be tiring answering them all

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I only look at the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a great deal to be honest, i used to go through profiles and mail men i liked but i have never had a reply from a guy i have made first contact with so i don't bother anymore i just reply to guys who i like who have mailed me first, if i see someone i like i just hope he notices me and mails lol

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I would email all female profiles that did not explicitly excuse any of my attributes and who seduce my interest xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat to a few Women but haven't contacted anyone new for awhile, I have deleted my profile content and removed my pics,

I have lost the will to perv

Just sticking to the forums when I can be bothered posting and I will update my profile when I can think of something to say

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

At the moment, none, as I'm not actively looking for meets.

Although I did just do a search within my criteria (even widened the age range a bit just in case) and of the 51 profiles that came up none appealed to me enough to bother messaging, I think that's more my issue though tbh, I don't find many people that I think 'oooooooh' lately.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i just like the company ... try to amuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make no effort at all at the moment

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By *oody39Man
over a year ago

tunbridge wells

"Not a great deal to be honest, i used to go through profiles and mail men i liked but i have never had a reply from a guy i have made first contact with so i don't bother anymore i just reply to guys who i like who have mailed me first, if i see someone i like i just hope he notices me and mails lol"

What is it with men??

I'd reply, probably to fast if you mailed me 1st

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

well, put it this way, I'm running out of options.. and have a long block list! Didn't take long though, living where I do! Anything is a bonus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put a lot of effort in but I don't jump through hoops for anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i browse my area once in a blue moon and then ill message anyone that takes my fancy

other than that i just post onhere lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We very rarely send the first message , but always reply to those we are interested in .

Interesting to see how many forumites are not meeting or looking to meet isn't it ?

Just goes to show that the tiny % who use the forums may be very vocal at times , but don't truly represent the active swingers on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make no effort at all at the moment"

never get tired of seeing "dat ass"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't actively look but if people message we politely answer

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

"We very rarely send the first message , but always reply to those we are interested in .

Interesting to see how many forumites are not meeting or looking to meet isn't it ?

Just goes to show that the tiny % who use the forums may be very vocal at times , but don't truly represent the active swingers on fab

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hmmm, yes.. or like me: bored of no replies so end up here lol

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By *B07Man
over a year ago

Essex

What is it with men??

I'd reply, probably to fast if you mailed me 1st

Really? even if they been on site for over 3 months with no meets/verification?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We very rarely send the first message , but always reply to those we are interested in .

Interesting to see how many forumites are not meeting or looking to meet isn't it ?

Just goes to show that the tiny % who use the forums may be very vocal at times , but don't truly represent the active swingers on fab

hmmm, yes.. or like me: bored of no replies so end up here lol"

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not all my messages are about getting a meet...I couldnt quantify how many a day, regardless if I'm looking or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"We very rarely send the first message , but always reply to those we are interested in .

Interesting to see how many forumites are not meeting or looking to meet isn't it ?

Just goes to show that the tiny % who use the forums may be very vocal at times , but don't truly represent the active swingers on fab

but as you said you rarely send 1st messages.... so the amount of "Proactive" effort you put in is actually minimal.. (not really in a position to questions others)

I tend to use Fab and the socials to network, and that is what opens up the oppotunities at clubs and parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only message friends

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"We very rarely send the first message , but always reply to those we are interested in .

Interesting to see how many forumites are not meeting or looking to meet isn't it ?

Just goes to show that the tiny % who use the forums may be very vocal at times , but don't truly represent the active swingers on fab

but as you said you rarely send 1st messages.... so the amount of "Proactive" effort you put in is actually minimal.. (not really in a position to questions others)

I tend to use Fab and the socials to network, and that is what opens up the oppotunities at clubs and parties "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We very rarely send the first message , but always reply to those we are interested in .

Interesting to see how many forumites are not meeting or looking to meet isn't it ?

Just goes to show that the tiny % who use the forums may be very vocal at times , but don't truly represent the active swingers on fab

but as you said you rarely send 1st messages.... so the amount of "Proactive" effort you put in is actually minimal.. (not really in a position to questions others)

I tend to use Fab and the socials to network, and that is what opens up the oppotunities at clubs and parties "

We have averaged two meets a week over the past three years , many in clubs , and a few from here . This is why we rarely send the first message , we simply don't need to . And since we reply to all those messages which interest us , we are proactive in the sense that we meet and message .

We also often pop into the forums and sometimes wonder why more members don't use them . Perhaps the answer is in the fact that it can be hard to feel a part of the forum collective ?

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

forums are always cliquey..

2 MEETS PER WEEK!! blimey, 2 per year out where I live!

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

oh they do say the ones that talk about it most, do it least!

(runs for coat again)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much effort when I'm not looking to meet. I enjoy the forums and having a perv.

When hosting a party I put in lots of effort to get the guest numbers up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Minimal to none.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not using Fab for meets at the moment. Meeting in real life at parties and clubs. I use different profiles for meets on here.... I use the forums for banter only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"forums are always cliquey..

2 MEETS PER WEEK!! blimey, 2 per year out where I live!

Glad we don't live there !

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I occasionally message if I'm looking for new victims, and I'm still actively looking to meet but as a single fem I mostly respond to messages I've received (assuming they meet my strict criteria of pulse and penis (former negotiable)). If I'm off on my travels, I'll usually message friends in the area to let them know I'm going to be around (and of course, it gives them the opportunity to run for the hills/leave the country/develop a mild dose of Ebola/confess to any crime in order to be jailed to avoid meeting me (delete as appropriate))

Been doing a lot of club visits with Wyrdo so I always put a meet on my profile as well, but that's about the extent of the effort I put in - fortunately, it seems to work well for me

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

"We very rarely send the first message , but always reply to those we are interested in .

Interesting to see how many forumites are not meeting or looking to meet isn't it ?

Just goes to show that the tiny % who use the forums may be very vocal at times , but don't truly represent the active swingers on fab

Staggering the number or how few are actively seeking ie are are pro-active in seeking out compatible others......is this really representative of the majority? If so then the chance of a meet is low as there are a number of hurdles to overcome before such including the communication aspect. As the saying goes....you only get out what you put in in life!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We very rarely send the first message , but always reply to those we are interested in .

Interesting to see how many forumites are not meeting or looking to meet isn't it ?

Just goes to show that the tiny % who use the forums may be very vocal at times , but don't truly represent the active swingers on fab

It does explain a lot.... seems lots of people just sit around waiting for mail. Then moan about the mail they get/ the mail they don't get!

I/ we always go looking. Works much better... imagine that.....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never send the first message anymore, I found when I did, the guy becomes arrogant, cocky and demanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never conducted a search from the 1st day we joined on our old profile.That doesn't mean we are inactive in any way we just find it easier to contact people we see on the forum or if they _iewed us and we like the look of them.

We also like to reply to every mail we get which at times isn't possible due to the amount (I imagine its the same for most couples/women) but a simple thanks but no thanks is the least we can do if someone has taken the time to mail us.So the amount of effort we put in is I think far more than most but thats just my opinion and each person _iews things different i suppose.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Just goes to show that the tiny % who use the forums may be very vocal at times , but don't truly represent the active swingers on fab

I think most people know that. It took me 6 months to find the forums and up til that time I managed to arrange meets. Now, of course, I've been sucked in!

As for effort, I use this site to arrange club meets, socials, GBs and so on. I have been known to send the first message but have a lot more success meeting in clubs. I am mostly on here for forum banter now, and maybe the odd one off meet if someone is travelling though York.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a lot. I look out for organised socials, attend those and clubs. I use fab to stay in touch with people I've met in person.

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

"We very rarely send the first message , but always reply to those we are interested in .

Interesting to see how many forumites are not meeting or looking to meet isn't it ?

Just goes to show that the tiny % who use the forums may be very vocal at times , but don't truly represent the active swingers on fab

It does explain a lot.... seems lots of people just sit around waiting for mail. Then moan about the mail they get/ the mail they don't get!

I/ we always go looking. Works much better... imagine that.....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fairly busy on here, chatting with friends and emailing people I like the look of.

I have contributed more to the forums in the last week than I have in the rest of my time here, it's almost like a parallel site!

I think I have put a good amount of effort into my profile as some like it...

I'm probably on here more than I should be though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see someone come out of hiding then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not messaged anyone new for a long time . I have a great circle of friends on here who i chat too

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It's hard to say. I put a lot of effort into my profile (doesn't look like it, admittedly) and a heck of a lot into how I look - looking this cheap takes a lot of time and money. However, when it comes to messaging peeps, not that much, really. I message my friends on here a fair bit, but get a shed load of messages and spend more time going through them then anything else, explaining why someone being in a different time zone is a reasonable impediment to me going to theirs for a quick shag.

I also spend some time in the forum

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By *uggarbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Non at the moment. My membership thing runs out tomorrow and not going to renew as I'm a bit fed up with the hassle n numptys. Only reading forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's hard to say. I put a lot of effort into my profile (doesn't look like it, admittedly) and a heck of a lot into how I look - looking this cheap takes a lot of time anrd money. However, when it comes to messaging peeps, not that much, really. I message my friends on here a fair bit, but get a shed load of messages and spend more time going through them then anything else, explaining why someone being in a different time zone is a reasonable impediment to me going to theirs for a quick shag.

I also spend some time in the forum

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message yer friends

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I read the forum all the time as it makes me laugh

however I don't mail anyone but friends really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also spend some time in the forum

message yer friends

Awww toshn is she with the enormous bazookas ignoring you?!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I also spend some time in the forum

message yer friends

Not all, every day

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

" i just reply to guys who i like who have mailed me "

Does that mean you like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe 4 to 5 messages a day...in chat room a few hours (in the back round as I don't really say much

)...and post occasionally in the Forums. ..

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By *omMLMan
over a year ago

The Centre of the Universe

Wow find it hard to understand guys did not reply to your emails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the forums, while away many an hour on here perving and talking to friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i just reply to guys who i like who have mailed me

Does that mean you like me

no i just cant get rid of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just abit curious how much effort you all put in here, I mostly use the forum but how much do you email profiles and things, lets say in a typical day?."

Have to be honest and say we dont really message at all during the week, although we do go on forums etc. And at the weekends, we very rarely search and message people, we just reply to messages we have received x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only look at the forums"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do email a few people a day even just to have a chat but it seems that a lot of people arn't interested,i tend to go into the chat rooms more now so i can see if they are interested there and then

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

" i just reply to guys who i like who have mailed me

Does that mean you like me

no i just cant get rid of you

Ok...hint taken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much but plenty of effort goes onto my meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to admit we rarely search or send the first message, Paul searches some times but I don't

The way I see it at the moment we are chatting to so many couples that were struggling to get time to meet as we only meet 1-2 times a month and we have a couple of regulars too. Also as a BBW I feel that only a minority of people are interested in BBW woman so feel more confident letting them come to me rather than messaging someone who doesn't like fatties

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

In my experience on here, I think more people like the curvier woman than don't; or at the least, they are very vocal about it. I don't think you have anything to be nervous over. Apart from that you aren't bad looking in the least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've probably sent over 400 messages since I came back a month ago, and I've had maybe six responses out of that; mainly to say no thanks.

I'm soon going to reach the point of not even trying to read profiles and send a personal message if I'm interested; it's just much more effort than its worth when they don't even have the courtesy to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use the forums and keep in touch with friends. We rarely search profiles for people to message. We have a saved search for new local couples and keep an eye on that and that's as proactive as we get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just abit curious how much effort you all put in here, I mostly use the forum but how much do you email profiles and things, lets say in a typical day?."

We were only talking about this yesterday.

We both know we don't put enough effort in and began wondering if that was a suggestion we'd had enough and didnt really care if we had a meet or not.

It does get same old same old sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not alot I just write status and diary on page what club or party im going, then people tend to message me or friends ive already met to meet again. Im quite idle I dont tend to go hunting on here, I just get in my car and go somewhere and meet in flesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not very proactive, don't feel the need to be at the moment.

mainly on here for the forums & chatting to the people I've made friends with. I'll message someone in response to a forum post or if they've caught my eye & I'll reply to the messages of people I like the look of.

works for me

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I think we probably send a couple of messages a week. We receive a lot. I'm mostly in chat, shooting the breeze with friends, and in here having a giggle.

We attend parties and socials when real life allows. So I'm not sure which side of the line we fall,but from my perspective it feels like we make very little effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't currently been looking to meet as such. Been on a break from meeting - too many i haven't met off fab than on it. I do alright in the real world than fab - fab is my kinky playground.

I have had the occasional horny mornings and evenings where i did send out a couple of messages or put a meet request up to no avail.

My effort used to be the profile text. Met many through that alone where they say my profile made them laugh and we hit it off from there. I mainly used to use the chatrooms to meet, don't think i fall within the age range of many on the forums to message or ask for a meet either.

Currently, quite interested in exploring the social side of fab i.e. socials and parties. So, that's where i am at the moment.

Back to meeting soon though and need to find a way to tickle people's fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't use the search tools but we do look as those who wink us and message if we like the look of their profile

Missus

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Just abit curious how much effort you all put in here, I mostly use the forum but how much do you email profiles and things, lets say in a typical day?."

At the moment...apart from the occasional read of the forums, none.

When we are actively looking and meeting then we put in a lot of effort searching and messaging those who tickle our fancy. We have to as we don't go to clubs or large pay parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very little. I talk to a few nice people and have some good banter but there's so many guys on here it's pointless messaging anyone now I feel

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By *iss_BehavingWoman
over a year ago

manchester

Use to be on here quite a lot but I'm leaning more to club play again now.

The reason being a couple of things really.

It's hard to arrange a meet for say the following Friday without knowing you'll be 'in that mood'

Also, you then feel obliged to do something if the people you have met have travelled a long way to see you....

Clubs, you can either play or don't play with no 'let down people ' feelings. X

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Much less effort now than I did when I joined exactly three years ago to the day...

Now I see mostly regulars and just the odd new lady or couple..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you get out of life is directly dependent on how much effort you put in - the same applies to fab, swinging and sex.

Yes, there are times when you may feel like you're fighting a losing battle, but the effort will be worth the reward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What you get out of life is directly dependent on how much effort you put in

You don't have to look very far in the world to see that's complete nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just abit curious how much effort you all put in here, I mostly use the forum but how much do you email profiles and things, lets say in a typical day?."

Very little these days . I used to but got fed up of wasting my time . Happy to wait to be contacted first now

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"What you get out of life is directly dependent on how much effort you put in

You don't have to look very far in the world to see that's complete nonsense."

In what way is it nonsense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often in forums....message ransoms very rarely....but I do answer those who message me...and that generally works!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just use the forums and fab sexy pics really. I don't really message looking for meets anymore, I used to be more proactive on my old bedhead profile, but am just here now pretty much for the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh.

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