FabSwingers.com forum: Was I right to block???

By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

I just got a message from a guy telling me to meet him at 1pm for bareback sex in his hotel!!!!

I blocked him asap but, I was just thinking as the person was a newbie should I have sent him a message first telling him that his approach was inappropriate as my profile is clear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just got a message from a guy telling me to meet him at 1pm for bareback sex in his hotel!!!!

I blocked him asap but, I was just thinking as the person was a newbie should I have sent him a message first telling him that his approach was inappropriate as my profile is clear?"

You should have told him. Unblock, tell and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You owe him nothing, if he did not read your profile, his loss.

Her

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

No, because he would then draw you in to a conversation. Maybe if everyone who he messaged like that blocked him he'd change his approach. Maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just got a message from a guy telling me to meet him at 1pm for bareback sex in his hotel!!!!

I blocked him asap but, I was just thinking as the person was a newbie should I have sent him a message first telling him that his approach was inappropriate as my profile is clear?"

If you don't like the thought of a stranger messaging you out of the blue for bareback sex then I see no problem in blocking them.

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By *astersfuckpigCouple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

"I just got a message from a guy telling me to meet him at 1pm for bareback sex in his hotel!!!!

I blocked him asap but, I was just thinking as the person was a newbie should I have sent him a message first telling him that his approach was inappropriate as my profile is clear?"

Cool..tell him you will be there at 1300 with your boyfriend and happily watch him get barebacked while you raid the mini bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just got a message from a guy telling me to meet him at 1pm for bareback sex in his hotel!!!!

I blocked him asap but, I was just thinking as the person was a newbie should I have sent him a message first telling him that his approach was inappropriate as my profile is clear?"

Why would you bother? I assume that You're here to pursue your own pleasure, not be the meet and greet for the moronic...let natural selection them out...don't waste your time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can do as you please as you can use this site the way you want to to make it work for you.

Block and move on, you owe him nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just got a message from a guy telling me to meet him at 1pm for bareback sex in his hotel!!!!

I blocked him asap but, I was just thinking as the person was a newbie should I have sent him a message first telling him that his approach was inappropriate as my profile is clear?

Why would you bother? I assume that You're here to pursue your own pleasure, not be the meet and greet for the moronic...let natural selection them out...don't waste your time..."

This

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I just got a message from a guy telling me to meet him at 1pm for bareback sex in his hotel!!!!

I blocked him asap but, I was just thinking as the person was a newbie should I have sent him a message first telling him that his approach was inappropriate as my profile is clear?"

If a man approached you in the street and asked the same thing would you feel you owed him a response? Being on a swingers site doesn't make you any less entitled to basic respect.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I would have sent a pithy, sarcastic response. Then blocked him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block idiots like that,,no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are you thinking off?

You should have met him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are you thinking off?

You should have met him! "

pmsl,,lol I just sprayed fruit juice all over my laptop,,cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He should of asked in a nice way then meet him something like this ...... Your a very sexy lady , do you want a shag ? Unprotected of course !! Did that work hun where shall we meet lol

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"I block idiots like that,,no problem"

yep agree, dont you just adore the block button ours gets well used lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just got a message from a guy telling me to meet him at 1pm for bareback sex in his hotel!!!!

I blocked him asap but, I was just thinking as the person was a newbie should I have sent him a message first telling him that his approach was inappropriate as my profile is clear?

If a man approached you in the street and asked the same thing would you feel you owed him a response? Being on a swingers site doesn't make you any less entitled to basic respect."

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

press the block button and never think about them again.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, because he would then draw you in to a conversation. Maybe if everyone who he messaged like that blocked him he'd change his approach. Maybe."

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

"I just got a message from a guy telling me to meet him at 1pm for bareback sex in his hotel!!!!

I blocked him asap but, I was just thinking as the person was a newbie should I have sent him a message first telling him that his approach was inappropriate as my profile is clear?"

Blocking was the right action and he'll learn.

Erm ... would you like to meet me at 1pm but I promise to bring condoms?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A well worded response might highlight the error of his ways. Then a block if he replies.

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By *idsTonyMan
over a year ago

RUGBY

I'd say your were right yes. There is no need for such a lack of respect. I don't understand why people think there first message reading "fancy a Fuck" or similar will ever get them anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other issue as I see it is this...

Had you messaged him and explained to him the error of his ways, he may just have taken the information you provided on board.

Great yeah......well no not really as then he may have sent polite but deceptive messages and met ladies who may have been new or not confident enough to say no when bb was sprung upon them or thrust upon them.

Better I think to let him carry on and hang himself with his actions, sadly if he looks there are many on here looking for the same thing, a leopard never changes his spots.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Block who you want to block....it's not like you are killing him off,you can always unblock him if you feel you've been a bit rash.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP as you state safe sex on your profile then he's not read it so do what you want, block him or not its up to you.

I always reply sarcastically but thats just me!!

You shouldn't bother too much offending someone that dumb to contact someone like that in their first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unblock them immediately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its only wrong if i ever send you a message demanding sex within the hour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When he posts about not getting any meets and no one saying no thanks ... Make it very clear why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you did the right thing. There's a danger in educating people like this to send respectful messages. They change their approach and start to get meets, but then don't know how to behave with decency in person, because no one on the forums taught them how.

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By *eerise OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"I think you did the right thing. There's a danger in educating people like this to send respectful messages. They change their approach and start to get meets, but then don't know how to behave with decency in person, because no one on the forums taught them how.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why bother. Just block and give the ppl your looking for your time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chances are he had 1 to many shandys before he sent you that message anyway. Prob a no longer user now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he'll probably be UNLOS by next week, school starts again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe it was a test...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block who you want to block....it's not like you are killing him off,you can always unblock him if you feel you've been a bit rash. "

Blocking doesn't kill them.... it would be fun if it gave them an electric shock though.

Bzzzzzz bzzzzzz bzzzzzzzzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A well worded response might highlight the error of his ways. Then a block if he replies."

Someone with that lack of empathy and awareness is never going to be retrained, his attitude is buried in his belief system.

Block immediately, don't comment at all and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bareback aside...I'd never mail someone to say they were to have sex with me...in an opening msg ffs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just got a message from a guy telling me to meet him at 1pm for bareback sex in his hotel!!!!

I blocked him asap but, I was just thinking as the person was a newbie should I have sent him a message first telling him that his approach was inappropriate as my profile is clear?

You should have told him. Unblock, tell and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"press the block button and never think about them again......."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You owe him nothing, if he did not read your profile, his loss.

Her"

they never read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You owe him nothing, if he did not read your profile, his loss.

Her"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block who you want to block....it's not like you are killing him off,you can always unblock him if you feel you've been a bit rash.

Blocking doesn't kill them.... it would be fun if it gave them an electric shock though.

Bzzzzzz bzzzzzz bzzzzzzzzz

Mmmmm now theres an interesting idea, maybe we should ask admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You owe him nothing, if he did not read your profile, his loss.

Her"

Yup exactly our approach unless Stu is feeling snipey then he lets them have it before blocking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U were right to block i always read profiles hence why not tried to message u out of age range

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd probably message him and explain why it's never going to happen. I used to get loads of men messaging me but I'd explain about my profile and what I wasn't after and they often apologise. Once they've read the message you can go back and delete if you feel strongly about this particular clown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block who you want to block....it's not like you are killing him off,you can always unblock him if you feel you've been a bit rash.

Blocking doesn't kill them.... it would be fun if it gave them an electric shock though.

Bzzzzzz bzzzzzz bzzzzzzzzz

Oh if only!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would of replied, suggested a local friend who likes bare back and then blocked

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By *rincealbertxMan
over a year ago

Germany

It's your right to block and deal with unwanted messages as you Deen appropriate. However, a wiki style guide for newbies, outlining etiquette online is probably a good idea...that and not browsing with an erect penis in hand!

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