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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is your _iew on a cheating spouse on Fab?

Do you try and avoid them?

Do you not give a toss as it is after all a site for swingers and everyone is fair game so to speak?

The reason we ask is we was talking to a cheating spouse and they openly said their partner didn't know they was on here. - We carried on chatting but a meet was off the cards by now.

They then felt the need to tell us that their other half was crap in bed yada yada - We then politely wish him well and said it wasn't for us followed by block and deletion on here and KIK.

As you gathered we do not approve and prefer to avoid being part of the problem if they are caught. If they can't respect their partner and their relationship then they certainly won't respect ours.

Rant Over...

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By *ewexperience83Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

We feel the same as you guys x

I'm certainly not helping someone be unfaithful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would tell them straight no and not mess them around or be a time waster with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither condone the action nor condemn it. What someone does or doesn't do behind their partners back is of little concern to us. We just avoid such people.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'm clear and upfront, I won't meet cheats. i have my partners permission to play on here, and will not meet anyone cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally wouldn't cheat an a partner of my own. However, if somebody else wants to cheat then I'm prepared to benefit from that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't have it knowingly.

Had some great attempts at justification after rejection.

Not judgemental as each situation is different. it's just something we don't want to get into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally wouldn't cheat an a partner of my own. However, if somebody else wants to cheat then I'm prepared to benefit from that. "

That doesn't make you a much better person than them in my book. You're still knowingly participating in an act that could devastate someone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We won't have it knowingly.

Had some great attempts at justification after rejection.

Not judgemental as each situation is different. it's just something we don't want to get into. "

We are the same and would rather avoid any possible headaches if the other half was to find out. We politely make it clear that it will go no further and block then delete.

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"What is your _iew on a cheating spouse on Fab?

Do you try and avoid them?

Do you not give a toss as it is after all a site for swingers and everyone is fair game so to speak?

The reason we ask is we was talking to a cheating spouse and they openly said their partner didn't know they was on here. - We carried on chatting but a meet was off the cards by now.

They then felt the need to tell us that their other half was crap in bed yada yada - We then politely wish him well and said it wasn't for us followed by block and deletion on here and KIK.

As you gathered we do not approve and prefer to avoid being part of the problem if they are caught. If they can't respect their partner and their relationship then they certainly won't respect ours.

Rant Over...

"

It didn't sound like a rant to me

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

I Don't Care really is not my business if they cheating or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

say this everytime this subject crops up - in most cases you wont know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What is your _iew on a cheating spouse on Fab?

Do you try and avoid them?

Do you not give a toss as it is after all a site for swingers and everyone is fair game so to speak?

The reason we ask is we was talking to a cheating spouse and they openly said their partner didn't know they was on here. - We carried on chatting but a meet was off the cards by now.

They then felt the need to tell us that their other half was crap in bed yada yada - We then politely wish him well and said it wasn't for us followed by block and deletion on here and KIK.

As you gathered we do not approve and prefer to avoid being part of the problem if they are caught. If they can't respect their partner and their relationship then they certainly won't respect ours.

Rant Over...

It didn't sound like a rant to me"

Not quite sure why we put that tbh.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"say this everytime this subject crops up - in most cases you wont know "

Sadly some males wear it like some kind of badge of honour, letting us know what a "cad" they are. I mean what proves they are free and open than cheating on the one they are meant to love and cherish above all others (now where is the sarky fecker facey thing???)

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Not for me seen the damage it can do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just deleted the wrong reply.

What a tit.....won't be typing all that again

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By *omMLMan
over a year ago

The Centre of the Universe

You never know if someone is being truthful or not. But I would give a lady I thought was cheating on her partner a wide berth every time.

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By *hris n TwinkyCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Why judge???

who knows what happens behind closed doors and not anyone else's business. they know what's at stake and the risks

Afterall were all here for nsa and fun!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You never know if someone is being truthful or not. But I would give a lady I thought was cheating on her partner a wide berth every time."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why judge???

who knows what happens behind closed doors and not anyone else's business. they know what's at stake and the risks

Afterall were all here for nsa and fun!! "

We would rather not be dragged knowingly into any domestics if they were to find out. And although we don't give our personal information out and it is easy to block etc the hassle is not worth the fun.

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By *omMLMan
over a year ago

The Centre of the Universe


"Why judge???

who knows what happens behind closed doors and not anyone else's business. they know what's at stake and the risks

Afterall were all here for nsa and fun!! "

People are here for NSA and fun for me it's a choice and I would rather play with ladies whose partner is happy with that. But I'm not gonna judge others.

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By *hoenix14Man
over a year ago

leeds

As someone who has been cheated on I'd have to stay clear, I've been in that situation and I wish it on no man/woman I couldn't and wouldn't participate

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"

Rant Over...

It didn't sound like a rant to me

Not quite sure why we put that tbh."

The guy must have been someone that you were giving serious consideration to meet before he told you of his cheating maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Rant Over...

It didn't sound like a rant to me

Not quite sure why we put that tbh.

The guy must have been someone that you were giving serious consideration to meet before he told you of his cheating maybe?"

It was to early to tell as we hadn't been talking long. Maybe we are just use to having a rant lol, or is it aswe are half a sleep .

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

As my profile says I'm not interested in cheats. I _iew cheating and swinging as entirely different things.

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"

Rant Over...

It didn't sound like a rant to me

Not quite sure why we put that tbh.

The guy must have been someone that you were giving serious consideration to meet before he told you of his cheating maybe?

It was to early to tell as we hadn't been talking long. Maybe we are just use to having a rant lol, or is it aswe are half a sleep ."

Lol could well be the tiredness yes, I gets the better of all of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind it and yes I like married women, as the hubby is out working or down the pub on a Saturday watching the football, sneak in and shag on the marital bed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Rant Over...

It didn't sound like a rant to me

Not quite sure why we put that tbh.

The guy must have been someone that you were giving serious consideration to meet before he told you of his cheating maybe?

It was to early to tell as we hadn't been talking long. Maybe we are just use to having a rant lol, or is it aswe are half a sleep .

Lol could well be the tiredness yes, I gets the better of all of us "

It must be as I've deleted the wrong messages, the wrong posts and my ability to spell lol.

And on that note we will check in tomorrow

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By *himaeraWoman
over a year ago

near derby.

I avoid attached men, but it's strange how many can't accommodate because they have lodgers/house share/live with parents ??? My husband is happy with me being here and playing, and I tell him who I'm talking to and meeting. It's also a safety thing.

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"

Rant Over...

It didn't sound like a rant to me

Not quite sure why we put that tbh.

The guy must have been someone that you were giving serious consideration to meet before he told you of his cheating maybe?

It was to early to tell as we hadn't been talking long. Maybe we are just use to having a rant lol, or is it aswe are half a sleep .

Lol could well be the tiredness yes, I gets the better of all of us

It must be as I've deleted the wrong messages, the wrong posts and my ability to spell lol.

And on that note we will check in tomorrow "

Catch you later

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"I avoid attached men, but it's strange how many can't accommodate because they have lodgers/house share/live with parents ??? My husband is happy with me being here and playing, and I tell him who I'm talking to and meeting. It's also a safety thing."

Honestly is always a good thing

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By *orksfuncoupleCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

Swinging and cheating are two different things, swinging for us is about making friends and the social aspect as well, we both play alone as well as together but we both know what the other is up to lol

Cheating is betrayal of someones trust and we tend to steer clear of people like that.

That's just us tho and each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No cheats for me! Cheating is lying and cowardly and i have no need for those traits in my sexual partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I avoid cheats if I can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally wouldn't cheat an a partner of my own. However, if somebody else wants to cheat then I'm prepared to benefit from that.

That doesn't make you a much better person than them in my book. You're still knowingly participating in an act that could devastate someone else."

I wasn't trying to make myself out to be a better person. Just saying it the way I play it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating and bareback threads is as popular, no one ever gonna agree lol

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Cheating ?

What if you found your perfect partner fell in love , in lust . Settled down. they were great in bed and did evrything that young inhibited couples do.

Started a family and so priorities change

Sex was put on back burner or he or she didn't do the things that they used to do before starting a family . So one partner has lost their sex drive and it becomes a chore and less frequent to non existent .

So one partner thinks "sod this I'm off ". Up sticks and leaves her husband and offspring (or wife and offspring ) .just so she (or he) can get back to the sex they remember before all this family stuff got in the way .

What's decent and noble about that !!

Who's worse a cheating partner , who stays with the family and supports them .

Or someone who leaves because the sexual side of the relationship had dwindled .

There's more ways of looking at a situation .

Food for thought to all you who are quick to judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The cheating partner. No question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally it's none of my business.

You'll never know 100% if someone is being truthful, even if they say they are single, or playing with permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging and cheating are two different things, swinging for us is about making friends and the social aspect as well, we both play alone as well as together but we both know what the other is up to lol

Cheating is betrayal of someones trust and we tend to steer clear of people like that.

That's just us tho and each to their own."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why judge???

who knows what happens behind closed doors and not anyone else's business. they know what's at stake and the risks

Afterall were all here for nsa and fun!! "

Was beginning to think I was the only one with a differing opinion x

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By *r not quite virginMan
over a year ago

rochdale

The moment I discover they are a cheating @s$#&/l then adios! I cant stand cheaters and have no intention on being part of helping somebody go behind an innocents back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating ?

What if you found your perfect partner fell in love , in lust . Settled down. they were great in bed and did evrything that young inhibited couples do.

Started a family and so priorities change

Sex was put on back burner or he or she didn't do the things that they used to do before starting a family . So one partner has lost their sex drive and it becomes a chore and less frequent to non existent .

So one partner thinks "sod this I'm off ". Up sticks and leaves her husband and offspring (or wife and offspring ) .just so she (or he) can get back to the sex they remember before all this family stuff got in the way .

What's decent and noble about that !!

Who's worse a cheating partner , who stays with the family and supports them .

Or someone who leaves because the sexual side of the relationship had dwindled .

There's more ways of looking at a situation .

Food for thought to all you who are quick to judge"

This was my experience with an ex. I was the wife who lost interest in sex and to be fair to him, a sexless marriage wasn't what he bought in to. (And yes, we tried all the tricks to re-invigorate our sex life but without success). If he had sought sexual gratification elsewhere and that resulted in saving our marriage, I can't help thinking that would have been a preferable outcome.

Nothing is ever black or white. Live and let live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating ?

What if you found your perfect partner fell in love , in lust . Settled down. they were great in bed and did evrything that young inhibited couples do.

Started a family and so priorities change

Sex was put on back burner or he or she didn't do the things that they used to do before starting a family . So one partner has lost their sex drive and it becomes a chore and less frequent to non existent .

So one partner thinks "sod this I'm off ". Up sticks and leaves her husband and offspring (or wife and offspring ) .just so she (or he) can get back to the sex they remember before all this family stuff got in the way .

What's decent and noble about that !!

Who's worse a cheating partner , who stays with the family and supports them .

Or someone who leaves because the sexual side of the relationship had dwindled .

There's more ways of looking at a situation .

Food for thought to all you who are quick to judge"

And after discussion the Mrs says do what you have to do but don't endanger the family or rub my face in it. ...

Swinging is about making friends, not fuck and forget. Its not about an affair, its about friends, who enjoy time together in additional, non-judgemental ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating ?

What if you found your perfect partner fell in love , in lust . Settled down. they were great in bed and did evrything that young inhibited couples do.

Started a family and so priorities change

Sex was put on back burner or he or she didn't do the things that they used to do before starting a family . So one partner has lost their sex drive and it becomes a chore and less frequent to non existent .

So one partner thinks "sod this I'm off ". Up sticks and leaves her husband and offspring (or wife and offspring ) .just so she (or he) can get back to the sex they remember before all this family stuff got in the way .

What's decent and noble about that !!

Who's worse a cheating partner , who stays with the family and supports them .

Or someone who leaves because the sexual side of the relationship had dwindled .

There's more ways of looking at a situation .

Food for thought to all you who are quick to judge

And after discussion the Mrs says do what you have to do but don't endanger the family or rub my face in it. ...

Swinging is about making friends, not fuck and forget. Its not about an affair, its about friends, who enjoy time together in additional, non-judgemental ways. "

Not everyone here wants to make friends. Fuck and forget works for some swingers. Meeting cheats also works for some swingers. There isn't a rule book that defines swinging so why not just take from it what you choose and allow others to do the same ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Morning you lot we see you've been playing nice, thanks for your take on this even though some of you are wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating ?

What if you found your perfect partner fell in love , in lust . Settled down. they were great in bed and did evrything that young inhibited couples do.

Started a family and so priorities change

Sex was put on back burner or he or she didn't do the things that they used to do before starting a family . So one partner has lost their sex drive and it becomes a chore and less frequent to non existent .

So one partner thinks "sod this I'm off ". Up sticks and leaves her husband and offspring (or wife and offspring ) .just so she (or he) can get back to the sex they remember before all this family stuff got in the way .

What's decent and noble about that !!

Who's worse a cheating partner , who stays with the family and supports them .

Or someone who leaves because the sexual side of the relationship had dwindled .

There's more ways of looking at a situation .

Food for thought to all you who are quick to judge

And after discussion the Mrs says do what you have to do but don't endanger the family or rub my face in it. ...

Swinging is about making friends, not fuck and forget. Its not about an affair, its about friends, who enjoy time together in additional, non-judgemental ways.

Not everyone here wants to make friends. Fuck and forget works for some swingers. Meeting cheats also works for some swingers. There isn't a rule book that defines swinging so why not just take from it what you choose and allow others to do the same ? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning you lot we see you've been playing nice, thanks for your take on this even though some of you are wrong

"

Who is wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many people when playing in clubs (or even gang bangs, greedy girls etc) have bothered to ask people their marital status before they start? Very few I suspect. However, we will not knowingly meet cheaters, no one wants a distraught, devastated, furious wife knocking on their door!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

people will say 'you don't know what goes on behind closed doors' and that is very true.... keep it to yourself then and don't use the alleged failings of an absent partner to seek pity.

just search for the people who will play with you and have fun...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Morning you lot we see you've been playing nice, thanks for your take on this even though some of you are wrong

Who is wrong?"

It was meant to be tongue in cheek, we asked for peoples _iews which will obviously be different so no one is wrong. Like we said it was meant in tongue in cheek.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"people will say 'you don't know what goes on behind closed doors' and that is very true.... keep it to yourself then and don't use the alleged failings of an absent partner to seek pity.

just search for the people who will play with you and have fun... "

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By *restatynCplCouple
over a year ago

Rhyl


"I personally wouldn't cheat an a partner of my own. However, if somebody else wants to cheat then I'm prepared to benefit from that. "

And that just about sums up the problem with single men. Any hole's a goal.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"What is your _iew on a cheating spouse on Fab?

Do you try and avoid them?

Do you not give a toss as it is after all a site for swingers and everyone is fair game so to speak?

The reason we ask is we was talking to a cheating spouse and they openly said their partner didn't know they was on here. - We carried on chatting but a meet was off the cards by now.

They then felt the need to tell us that their other half was crap in bed yada yada - We then politely wish him well and said it wasn't for us followed by block and deletion on here and KIK.

As you gathered we do not approve and prefer to avoid being part of the problem if they are caught. If they can't respect their partner and their relationship then they certainly won't respect ours.

Rant Over...

"

At least he was upfront and told you that he was playing away, but in the same vein, you should have told him straightaway that it wasn't for you instead of carrying on chatting to him.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

Often it seems fine for women to cheat on here but not for men. I'm single I must point out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP at least the man in question told you beforehand which allowed you to make an informed choice. If he didn't have it in his profile that's fair enough ~ his choice.

I sometimes wonder if threads like these could deter some people giving others the choice as they'll read the comments & think ...'why bother if I hadn't said they'd never know' & if it was a one off meet that would probably would be the case.

Just a thought!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What is your _iew on a cheating spouse on Fab?

Do you try and avoid them?

Do you not give a toss as it is after all a site for swingers and everyone is fair game so to speak?

The reason we ask is we was talking to a cheating spouse and they openly said their partner didn't know they was on here. - We carried on chatting but a meet was off the cards by now.

They then felt the need to tell us that their other half was crap in bed yada yada - We then politely wish him well and said it wasn't for us followed by block and deletion on here and KIK.

As you gathered we do not approve and prefer to avoid being part of the problem if they are caught. If they can't respect their partner and their relationship then they certainly won't respect ours.

Rant Over...

At least he was upfront and told you that he was playing away, but in the same vein, you should have told him straightaway that it wasn't for you instead of carrying on chatting to him."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us we are not bothered by cheating people, it is their affair whether they cheat or not, for us its is all about having fun together with another person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not right for anyone to do it ..we will never meet anyone in a relationship or married without both being there..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not right for anyone to do it ..we will never meet anyone in a relationship or married without both being there.."

Shouldn't this message have started with " in our opinion " ?

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"Cheating ?

What if you found your perfect partner fell in love , in lust . Settled down. they were great in bed and did evrything that young inhibited couples do.

Started a family and so priorities change

Sex was put on back burner or he or she didn't do the things that they used to do before starting a family . So one partner has lost their sex drive and it becomes a chore and less frequent to non existent .

So one partner thinks "sod this I'm off ". Up sticks and leaves her husband and offspring (or wife and offspring ) .just so she (or he) can get back to the sex they remember before all this family stuff got in the way .

What's decent and noble about that !!

Who's worse a cheating partner , who stays with the family and supports them .

Or someone who leaves because the sexual side of the relationship had dwindled .

There's more ways of looking at a situation .

Food for thought to all you who are quick to judge"

Each situation is different. Some may disagree and that's fine, but it's not always cut and dry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us we are not bothered by cheating people, it is their affair whether they cheat or not, for us its is all about having fun together with another person."

We're ok F--- every one else.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Quite simply avoid.

swinging and cheating are not the same thing and should be kept as far apart as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly some males wear it like some kind of badge of honour, letting us know what a "cad" they are.

And some women, or at least guys pretending to be women!

Blocked a 'woman' last week who was bragging about having messed around with her friends husband. Then tried to delve into my personal life and tell me I would be proud if I had cheated. Not sure how 'she' thought that might lead somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning you lot we see you've been playing nice, thanks for your take on this even though some of you are wrong

Who is wrong?

It was meant to be tongue in cheek, we asked for peoples _iews which will obviously be different so no one is wrong. Like we said it was meant in tongue in cheek."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally wouldn't cheat an a partner of my own. However, if somebody else wants to cheat then I'm prepared to benefit from that.

And that just about sums up the problem with single men. Any hole's a goal. "

SOME single men. AND some men in couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If not happy in any relationship sorry but leave don't cheat and lie about it what's the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally wouldn't cheat an a partner of my own. However, if somebody else wants to cheat then I'm prepared to benefit from that.

And that just about sums up the problem with single men. Any hole's a goal. "

hmmmmm.....a rather sweeping statement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither condone the action nor condemn it. What someone does or doesn't do behind their partners back is of little concern to us. We just avoid such people. "

This, what they get up to is between them and there partner if they find out, but we certainly won't be in the middle of it

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By *iuliettaWoman
over a year ago

DEVIZES

I must be stupid, I nearly fell for the "lodger" one, thanks for the reminder!

The only exception to a "no married" policy for me might be if a bloke was a long term carer or something similar, although quite how one would confirm this is another matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally wouldn't cheat an a partner of my own. However, if somebody else wants to cheat then I'm prepared to benefit from that.

And that just about sums up the problem with single men. Any hole's a goal. "
not true, im not into anal.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally wouldn't cheat an a partner of my own. However, if somebody else wants to cheat then I'm prepared to benefit from that.

And that just about sums up the problem with single men. Any hole's a goal.

SOME single men. AND some men in couples. "
I have seen the exact same attitude as mine in women so that's unfair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally wouldn't cheat an a partner of my own. However, if somebody else wants to cheat then I'm prepared to benefit from that.

And that just about sums up the problem with single men. Any hole's a goal.

SOME single men. AND some men in couples. I have seen the exact same attitude as mine in women so that's unfair."

He was referring to men so my comment was about men.

Same for women and tv's etc etc.....

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

A " cheating partner" may only be looking for intimacy

Something they may be lacking at home

This is a sex site , so it's easier to join and meet other people looking for sex here than going elsewhere

Too many judgemental on here

Everybody has their own idea of what suits them

so be it if they feel the need to cheat

"He without sin cast the first stone "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A " cheating partner" may only be looking for intimacy

Something they may be lacking at home

This is a sex site , so it's easier to join and meet other people looking for sex here than going elsewhere

Too many judgemental on here

Everybody has their own idea of what suits them

so be it if they feel the need to cheat

"He without sin cast the first stone "

"

Yeah i'm sure Jesus would approve.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"A " cheating partner" may only be looking for intimacy

Something they may be lacking at home

This is a sex site , so it's easier to join and meet other people looking for sex here than going elsewhere

Too many judgemental on here

Everybody has their own idea of what suits them

so be it if they feel the need to cheat

"He without sin cast the first stone "

"

its actually a swinging site but some use it as a sex site, the same way cheats use it use it to cheat, each to there own you will never get everyone agreeing, but you shouldnt expect everyone to accommodate everyone and call people judgemental just because they choose not to meet cheats or speak out against them, after all every single person has a right to judge what is right for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always _iew this as a hypothetical conundrum. I suspect very few of the couples or individuals that gave played with cheaters are in the slightest bit aware.

Given this I do not waste energy on concerning myself with others relationships.

I prefer to reserve my energy for far more interesting uses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he'd be better off sitting down with his mrs to sort things out instead of chasing meets on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people when playing in clubs (or even gang bangs, greedy girls etc) have bothered to ask people their marital status before they start? Very few I suspect. However, we will not knowingly meet cheaters, no one wants a distraught, devastated, furious wife knocking on their door! "

Or husband??? Not just us blokes cheating on here...

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By *omMLMan
over a year ago

The Centre of the Universe


"I personally wouldn't cheat an a partner of my own. However, if somebody else wants to cheat then I'm prepared to benefit from that.

And that just about sums up the problem with single men. Any hole's a goal. "

Sorry gotta take issue with you on that. Not all of us single men are like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally wouldn't cheat an a partner of my own. However, if somebody else wants to cheat then I'm prepared to benefit from that.

And that just about sums up the problem with single men. Any hole's a goal.

Sorry gotta take issue with you on that. Not all of us single men are like that. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why judge???

who knows what happens behind closed doors and not anyone else's business. they know what's at stake and the risks

Afterall were all here for nsa and fun!! "

What's fun about guilt and possibly destroying someone's life?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isnt it fun how some think they are right and others cant get a word in? its called preferences, basically it ok for women to cheat and not the man lol

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"What is your _iew on a cheating spouse on Fab?

Do you try and avoid them?

Do you not give a toss as it is after all a site for swingers and everyone is fair game so to speak?

The reason we ask is we was talking to a cheating spouse and they openly said their partner didn't know they was on here. - We carried on chatting but a meet was off the cards by now.

They then felt the need to tell us that their other half was crap in bed yada yada - We then politely wish him well and said it wasn't for us followed by block and deletion on here and KIK.

As you gathered we do not approve and prefer to avoid being part of the problem if they are caught. If they can't respect their partner and their relationship then they certainly won't respect ours.

Rant Over...

"

we delte/block move on, dont want to be named in divorce papers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt it fun how some think they are right and others cant get a word in? its called preferences, basically it ok for women to cheat and not the man lol "

Where has someone said its okay for women to cheat? I wouldn't meet men, women or couples that were cheating.

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton


"he'd be better off sitting down with his mrs to sort things out instead of chasing meets on here "

Ah. Good idea. I didn't realise it was as simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to avoid cheats. This is a swinging site devoted to people who have their partners consent... so why would we bother with people who didn't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm clear and upfront, I won't meet cheats. i have my partners permission to play on here, and will not meet anyone cheating."

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By *ittleBitOfFunCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Never would meet anyone who was cheating behind their partners backs unless of course they didn't tell us and we didn't know. That's the reason we mainly meet couples as it's more fun when both sides are into swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Don't Care really is not my business if they cheating or not "

Same here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt it fun how some think they are right and others cant get a word in? its called preferences, basically it ok for women to cheat and not the man lol

Where has someone said its okay for women to cheat? I wouldn't meet men, women or couples that were cheating."
In other threads about the same, it comes "across" its more acceptable for women and things you know.

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"We try to avoid cheats. This is a swinging site devoted to people who have their partners consent... so why would we bother with people who didn't? "

Who says its devoted to with partners consent !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We stay away from people who are cheating on there partner and these posts help us out others that actively seek Cheaters. We think it is one of the worst things that you could do to your partner that you are meant to have feelings for and do not condone it at all. Yes we judge cheaters just like everyone in the world will judge people. Anyone that says they don't judge is talking a load of crap it is a natural human instinct to judge people. Wether it is voiced or not is another matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One observation, when I registered, I was asked if I was married but there are no filters for it.

I can understand the new tickbox on searches where you specify if you are looking for couples where both are bi, but not one that has cheating scumbag bloke with a wife tucked away at home and should know better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One observation, when I registered, I was asked if I was married but there are no filters for it.

I can understand the new tickbox on searches where you specify if you are looking for couples where both are bi, but not one that has cheating scumbag bloke with a wife tucked away at home and should know better.

"

or am I thinking of somewhere else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A " cheating partner" may only be looking for intimacy

Something they may be lacking at home

This is a sex site , so it's easier to join and meet other people looking for sex here than going elsewhere

Too many judgemental on here

Everybody has their own idea of what suits them

so be it if they feel the need to cheat

"He without sin cast the first stone "

its actually a swinging site but some use it as a sex site, the same way cheats use it use it to cheat, each to there own you will never get everyone agreeing, but you shouldnt expect everyone to accommodate everyone and call people judgemental just because they choose not to meet cheats or speak out against them, after all every single person has a right to judge what is right for them."

I neither condone nor disapprove of anyone else's motives for being here, I do not know their personal circumstances and am never likely to.

You are right that every single person has a right to judge what is right for them and I don't doubt most people who play without their partner's knowledge would agree wholeheartedly that they share that right!

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

I try my best to avoid cheaters.....

Been on the other end of it and was devastated

I try to avoid hurting people whenever I can......good karma and all that

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

This thread AGAIN? Seriously?

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By *eniceandromeCouple
over a year ago

Brighouse

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating ?

What if you found your perfect partner fell in love , in lust . Settled down. they were great in bed and did evrything that young inhibited couples do.

Started a family and so priorities change

Sex was put on back burner or he or she didn't do the things that they used to do before starting a family . So one partner has lost their sex drive and it becomes a chore and less frequent to non existent .

So one partner thinks "sod this I'm off ". Up sticks and leaves her husband and offspring (or wife and offspring ) .just so she (or he) can get back to the sex they remember before all this family stuff got in the way .

What's decent and noble about that !!

Who's worse a cheating partner , who stays with the family and supports them .

Or someone who leaves because the sexual side of the relationship had dwindled .

There's more ways of looking at a situation .

Food for thought to all you who are quick to judge"

Maybe a lot of such people should help out more with the family, rather than spending time looking for sexual encounters elsewhere. Then his/her spouse might have more time and energy to invest in the sexual side of the marriage.

Plus, I think when you look at how the betrayal of being cheated on screws people up, sometimes for life, I think being honest and saying 'this isn't working for me' is infinitely preferable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, it wouldn't bother me. They're the ones that are cheating, not you.

I don't see how anyone could say 'oh, but if you go with them, then you're part of the problem'. You're not!

Whatever problems they have are there, whether you have sex with them or not.

I think that it would be different if you were the reason for why they chose to cheat in the first place. But if someone meets up with some random on a swingers site, you're hardly the cause and effect of why they're cheating in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all the hassle with unreliability that tends to put me off far easier to meet a confident single who makes me his priority.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"To be honest, it wouldn't bother me. They're the ones that are cheating, not you.

I don't see how anyone could say 'oh, but if you go with them, then you're part of the problem'. You're not!

Whatever problems they have are there, whether you have sex with them or not.

I think that it would be different if you were the reason for why they chose to cheat in the first place. But if someone meets up with some random on a swingers site, you're hardly the cause and effect of why they're cheating in the first place.

"

if telling yourself that makes it easier thats upto you, but dont expect everyone to agree.

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