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By *areham OP   Man
over a year ago

handforth

Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's difficult to understand, people have preferences and boundaries and that's about all there is to it. The why doesn't come into the equation really, if you want to meet that person , respect there wishes. If not, next profile along.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like kissin its hot foreplay

Bt some people find it personal thats u they dont do it

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"What's difficult to understand, people have preferences and boundaries and that's about all there is to it. The why doesn't come into the equation really, if you want to meet that person , respect there wishes. If not, next profile along......."

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By *orflondonerMan
over a year ago

Wood Green

A lot of people see kissing as something they only want to do with their other half's.

As the poster above said, we all have boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some things are kept for special people, like other halves. I have seen profiles where anything sexual is fair game, but kissing is kept for a loving relationship. Everyone has their own personal boundaries, respect it...

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Trashes my foundation and I look trashy enough as it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue."

are you the reincarnation of mr pastry lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue."

I don;t understand the prostitute comparison?

Personally we are fine with kissing, we know couples that aren't and that's fine too - it doesn't detract from the meet. Though we don't meet couples who only allow girl-girl kissing as we prefer boundaries to be equal.

As others have said, respect the limit they set or move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue."

better off paying a prostitute they will kiss you for an extra tenner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue.

better off paying a prostitute they will kiss you for an extra tenner "

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I love kissing but a bad kisser really puts me off. It totally ruins the mood for me and it's then hard to continue so I'd rather just not bother at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue.

I don;t understand the prostitute comparison?

Personally we are fine with kissing, we know couples that aren't and that's fine too - it doesn't detract from the meet. Though we don't meet couples who only allow girl-girl kissing as we prefer boundaries to be equal.

As others have said, respect the limit they set or move on."

I'm not sure if it's a bit of a myth but prostitutes rarely kiss on the mouth as it makes it more personal...

Of maybe I got that from watching Pretty Woman....

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

some meets only do the kissing the bjs and sex are a no go saved for just each other #exciting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen very few escorts that exclude kissing.. so don't get the reference..

However it's peoples personal preference. I won't kiss just anyone... But do not like it if we meet a couple and they won't kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok here it is in black and white.

Kissing = romance

Swinging = NSA sex i.e. no romance

Although we allow kissing for those who dont get why some wont DUH they want a fuck not a love affair!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here it is in black and white.

Kissing = romance

Swinging = NSA sex i.e. no romance

Although we allow kissing for those who dont get why some wont DUH they want a fuck not a love affair!!!!"

what's kissing got to do with love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here it is in black and white.

Kissing = romance

Swinging = NSA sex i.e. no romance

Although we allow kissing for those who dont get why some wont DUH they want a fuck not a love affair!!!!

what's kissing got to do with love?"

I'm glad it's noy just me confused by that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have to understand it just respect it

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

You've posted the same thing in similar threads before so I would imagine you've already seen the range of answers to this question.

In summary: For us, we don't get anything out of kissing other people. It feels dry and robotic as we don't get the same sensations from kissing each other. - It has nothing to do with it being more or less "dirty" or "unhygienic" than sucking said person's cock, it just doesn't do anything for us so we prefer not to do it. End of.

Personal preferences and boundaries and all that jazz.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"You don't have to understand it just respect it "

Ironically you dont understand it either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue.

better off paying a prostitute they will kiss you for an extra tenner "

What a tenner for a kiss bloody hell get your money out I'll kiss for that (mr)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here it is in black and white.

Kissing = romance

Swinging = NSA sex i.e. no romance

Although we allow kissing for those who dont get why some wont DUH they want a fuck not a love affair!!!!"

Not sure how you came to that conclusion

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You don't have to understand it just respect it "

So true and applicable in so many areas of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue.

better off paying a prostitute they will kiss you for an extra tenner "

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By *riggsyMan
over a year ago

rugby


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue.

better off paying a prostitute they will kiss you for an extra tenner "
that's cheap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here it is in black and white.

Kissing = romance

Swinging = NSA sex i.e. no romance

Although we allow kissing for those who dont get why some wont DUH they want a fuck not a love affair!!!!

Not sure how you came to that conclusion "

Because its what we and many other people think and feel. Why else would people not want to kiss anyone but those they are romantically involved with?! We used to have the no kissing rule but decided it made the meet seem too cold and fake. Plus put people off meeting us. So I asked Stu if he minded me kissing people and he said no. But although I now do kiss others the only person who actually turns me on kissing me is Stu. Others kissing me leaves me cold and waiting for something else to press my buttons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here it is in black and white.

Kissing = romance

Swinging = NSA sex i.e. no romance

Although we allow kissing for those who dont get why some wont DUH they want a fuck not a love affair!!!!

Not sure how you came to that conclusion

Because its what we and many other people think and feel. Why else would people not want to kiss anyone but those they are romantically involved with?! We used to have the no kissing rule but decided it made the meet seem too cold and fake. Plus put people off meeting us. So I asked Stu if he minded me kissing people and he said no. But although I now do kiss others the only person who actually turns me on kissing me is Stu. Others kissing me leaves me cold and waiting for something else to press my buttons."

So you do something you don;t enjoy in order to not put people off meeting you?

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Because its what we and many other people think and feel. Why else would people not want to kiss anyone but those they are romantically involved with?! We used to have the no kissing rule but decided it made the meet seem too cold and fake. Plus put people off meeting us. So I asked Stu if he minded me kissing people and he said no. But although I now do kiss others the only person who actually turns me on kissing me is Stu. Others kissing me leaves me cold and waiting for something else to press my buttons."

Same. We don't make it a rule but it bores us and is often a mental eye-rolling moment.

Feels like we're just going through the motions to please that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here it is in black and white.

Kissing = romance

Swinging = NSA sex i.e. no romance

Although we allow kissing for those who dont get why some wont DUH they want a fuck not a love affair!!!!

Not sure how you came to that conclusion

Because its what we and many other people think and feel. Why else would people not want to kiss anyone but those they are romantically involved with?! We used to have the no kissing rule but decided it made the meet seem too cold and fake. Plus put people off meeting us. So I asked Stu if he minded me kissing people and he said no. But although I now do kiss others the only person who actually turns me on kissing me is Stu. Others kissing me leaves me cold and waiting for something else to press my buttons.

So you do something you don;t enjoy in order to not put people off meeting you? "

No I do it for their sake because its something I dont care about. I wouldnt do it if I literally didnt like it. But I really dont care about it so if they need to do it to feel more comfortable or get fired up so be it. I do get a buzz out of kissing women. But thats more about it being forbidden fruit than simply kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because its what we and many other people think and feel. Why else would people not want to kiss anyone but those they are romantically involved with?! We used to have the no kissing rule but decided it made the meet seem too cold and fake. Plus put people off meeting us. So I asked Stu if he minded me kissing people and he said no. But although I now do kiss others the only person who actually turns me on kissing me is Stu. Others kissing me leaves me cold and waiting for something else to press my buttons.

Same. We don't make it a rule but it bores us and is often a mental eye-rolling moment.

Feels like we're just going through the motions to please that person."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue."

May as well pay a prostitute? That statement say's all that is wrong with some people's perception of swinging. Swinging isn't about just sex, It's about the social side too.

Pretty sure you'll have offended the majority of females on here now....Good luck getting a meet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's difficult to understand, people have preferences and boundaries and that's about all there is to it. The why doesn't come into the equation really, if you want to meet that person , respect there wishes. If not, next profile along......."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was attracted to somebody enough to fuck them that would include kissing. What I don't get is the prostitute reference to somebody who won't play by your rules. Shows a pretty low opinion of women (or is it just prostitutes?)

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Maybe they have bad breath and are saving others from that. You wont understand everyone by knowing the reasons that some people do one thing but not another. And what if you did understand them - would you expect to influence them to change their minds? If you must have kissing then find others who do it. If you cant find it on fab, then change your tastes or look elsewhere. People want to feel free and not under pressure - nor that partners are disappointed because they wont give them something they like. Expectations from others, if theyre any different than that we are all free to set our boundaries are likely to potentially feel intimidating and an unattractive proposition. If youre fortunate enough to be spoilt for choice then relax and enjoy mutually desired pleasures.

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

I understand the preference entirely. There's something very intimate about kissing someone, for me it's always represented an act of affection as well as something sexual.

I once got into a heated debate with my friends at uni, because they said they'd rather tongue kiss a stranger than suck or lick them. Not me!

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

then only meet the people who will kiss and match your profile , simple really we all cant like the same things

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"What's difficult to understand, people have preferences and boundaries and that's about all there is to it. The why doesn't come into the equation really, if you want to meet that person , respect there wishes. If not, next profile along......."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are one of the dreaded couples that have a no kissing rule. We kiss people to show affection because we love them. When I leave the house I kiss juicy goodbye because I love her the same as when we have sex we kiss each other for the same reason. we do not have any feelings like that for The people we meet. We haven't had any problems in the past 3 years since getting in to the scene with meets not being happy about our no kissing rule. If some one wants to kiss on there meet then we won't be meeting them. Simple really we find people that have similar boundaries or are happy with our boundaries to meet. To bring prostitutes in to it just shows that you don't understand what swinging is for the majority of people. It's not all just about sex for most.

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By *exybum169Couple
over a year ago

St helens


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue."
go pay one then!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue."

Kissing is a far more intimate and personal act, it implies something more than just sex. Fucking and sucking are acts of pleasure and pure lust.

Oh, and most men I have ever met are slobberers and have stubble or facial hair, massive turn offs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some things are kept for special people, like other halves. I have seen profiles where anything sexual is fair game, but kissing is kept for a loving relationship. Everyone has their own personal boundaries, respect it..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue."

it wouldn't be dirtier if you wash your dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to there own springs to mind ..... Not everything works every time or with everyone ..... Looks for stating the obvious emoti thingy ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we understand others dont do it but wow we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don't have to understand it just respect it "

Yeah.. just don't question or try to understand anything ok. What were you thinking you nutter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just a personal thing. I think it has something to do with feelings. I think kissing is reserved for loved ones. This site is about sex, no intimate feelings involved, just sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we recently had an occasion after a social meet with an absolutely fantastic couple.. the problem came when we were saying our goodnights and the fem turns to me and says i dont do kissing. at the same time mr is snogging the face off panther. it was such a dampener on the evening as i felt i was back at school waiting for me mate to finish. other than that the whole evening was just so good but as we both love the kissing aspect it put paid to a future night of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a profile states no kissing I just ignore it and move on...preferences work both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a profile states no kissing I just ignore it and move on...preferences work both ways "

Agreed. No kissing = no sex for me

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By *i fem huntersCouple
over a year ago

london

We respect everyone's boundaries. But bottom line is we absolutely love french kissing!

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

I am sure I've seen posts from the OP saying he ain't had any sex for ages and no one wants to meet him from here. Therefore kissing or not kissing is irrelevant and maybe he needs the prostitute more than he realises lol

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By *icked kittyCouple
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

As part of the sensual build up we love watching each other enjoying kissing , it is such a turn on.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If a profile states no kissing I just ignore it and move on...preferences work both ways "

Yep!

I never can understand why people get annoyed by the preferences of a tiny fraction of the site.

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By *andL-LiverpoolCouple
over a year ago

Huyton

We are currently a non kissing couple, only recently started to play and at the minute I just don't feel the need to

Kiss other men, women however I can't get enough off xx (Mrs L)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love kissing and foreplay the intensity it gives me is sometimex better than the sex the lead up for me is vety important otherwise It just feels cold. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a profile states no kissing I just ignore it and move on...preferences work both ways

Yep!

I never can understand why people get annoyed by the preferences of a tiny fraction of the site. "

Usually because it's a preference tgat excludes them or doesn't match their own. It screams entitlement to me

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue."

Your post suggests there is nothing more to sex than physical actions resulting in an orgasm.

It sounds pretty mechanical and as if all that is required for success is for you to get your rocks off.

Fair enough as each to their own however many people see something beyond the physical in sex and kissing is an example of something that some people want to keep between them and certain people who mean certain things to them.

Simply put everyone is entitled to their own boundaries and preferences and entitled to have them respected. Questioning them makes a person seem rather disrespectful and only in it for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some find it easy to have sex with people they are not really into as can think of other things ........ But kissing is too close for comfort as mouth to mouth and very much in your face. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something I don't understand ,as to why when the woman will suck your dick which is far driter than kissing some will swallow and do bare back,but you cannot kiss them,you might as well pay a prositue."

I enjoy kissing however have drawn the line when she has a handlebar tash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here it is in black and white.

Kissing = romance

Swinging = NSA sex i.e. no romance

Although we allow kissing for those who dont get why some wont DUH they want a fuck not a love affair!!!!"
Totally agree. Sarah x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here it is in black and white.

Kissing = romance

Swinging = NSA sex i.e. no romance

Although we allow kissing for those who dont get why some wont DUH they want a fuck not a love affair!!!! Totally agree. Sarah x"
We always only kiss each other on meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree some people want a quick fuck im quite passionate I love a good kiss!! HAHA x

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