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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm just wondering if bi-curious, bisexual or gay women find it as difficult to get meets as a straight woman?

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you


"I'm just wondering if bi-curious, bisexual or gay women find it as difficult to get meets as a straight woman?

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I wouldn't have thought so,apparently bi woman are like the golden ticket on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm just wondering if bi-curious, bisexual or gay women find it as difficult to get meets as a straight woman?

I wouldn't have thought so,apparently bi woman are like the golden ticket on here"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are a few more options for a. I sexual ect.

But again depending what people are looking for.

I have often wondered if straight woman in couples, are worried of me, thinking I may jump on them.

I have had to stipulate I would not and the bi side a bonus, but I know when to behave

Her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There would still need to be a attraction as well as a social connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is, messages from bi woman couples never really go anywhere on here for me this year. I gave up longtime ago, find it easier in clubs and partys where you see them in flesh and get that click, saying that I went to a fem and couple night at chams and didnt click with anyone Saturday in that way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emilys bi and apart from one half of a couple shes had no meets with women at all just men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I have ever looked to meeting a woman but I have thought about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bi woman but haven't found another genuinely bi woman to play one on one with on here My ego would like to think that there is a clique up here, or that the majority of bi women in my area are only interested in meeting with her hubby/partner but I actually think it's more that I'm not many women's type, where as most men will fuck anything with a pulse on here lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot of bi women want their partner to watch and maybe join in. In other words just used as bait for a 3sum. I think genuine bi women who just meet one to one are quite rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say the more flexible you are the more options you have. Those who are either bi or prepared to be bi-curious rule the roost here. Straight people and gays have less options

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can't say I have ever looked to meeting a woman but I have thought about it "

I think maybe most women think about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a bi woman but haven't found another genuinely bi woman to play one on one with on here My ego would like to think that there is a clique up here, or that the majority of bi women in my area are only interested in meeting with her hubby/partner but I actually think it's more that I'm not many women's type, where as most men will fuck anything with a pulse on here lol!!

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I'm so glad I'm not like 'most men on here'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame as I love to play with bi women but even the couples aren't up for it at the moment ...meets get put up and ignored and club nights where no one tries to approach....maybe it's a myth and the real enigma is bi fems or couples who want a bi fem lol

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By *andL-LiverpoolCouple
over a year ago

Huyton

I'm happily bi (fem) I'd be intrested in a meet with another bi fem but one I have met socially first / club so I know there genuine, to many fake's out there

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By *ittenwantstoplayWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Personally I have found that on the swinging scene.....it is more of a disadvantage that I am not bisexual as couples seem to prefer it....same for single guys.

I dont know about single women's preferences on this site...

However I cant say I miss out but I am aware that if I was bisexual too...a lot of my male friends would be very happy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just wondering if bi-curious, bisexual or gay women find it as difficult to get meets as a straight woman?

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I'm a straight woman and i don't find it hard to get meets at all, even after i have sorted through all the guys i have no interest it there are still more left than i have time to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a straight male and fem other half is bi and we can't even get a reply to messages asking to meet

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I meet alone, and do find single women hard to meet that I'm attracted to, that don't suddenly have a partner who has to meet with them.

Its a real shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There certainly seem to be a lot of couples on here where really what's going on is that the bloke wants to get his rocks off watching another woman with his Mrs before joining in. Some even say they meet couples in this way... with the other male excluded from getting involved Ultimately I think this is just male bollocks masquerading as open mindedness.

I tend to think a true threesome is, to state the bleedin obvious, a three way thing where each participant should be given equal emphasis. And that a true foursome, to state the bleedin obvious again, should involve all four people lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet alone, and do find single women hard to meet that I'm attracted to, that don't suddenly have a partner who has to meet with them.

Its a real shame."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wont meet alone Im married. Stu doesnt get anything out of watching me with another women he finds it boring. But I will not play with anyone male or female unless he is there or I would feel I was cheating. So to all the people who say if you dont meet alone your not genuinely bi, sorry but thats bullshit. I am bi, I do love playing with women, but I love my husband to and I wont play without him being present. Its not for his benefit. He doesnt join in. Its for me. But if thats too hard for anyone to understand then thats their problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before i changed my preferences, I use to have offers all the time to join a couple and single ladies for a ff situation... although i am bi; i much prefer to meet my ladies the clubs... I adore the ladies but the men come first every time... It was nearly always the lady that i didn't impress or wasn't her type on here and they purely decided that from my picture without speaking to me... In a club they can see me for who i am; not what they see or read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wont meet alone Im married. Stu doesnt get anything out of watching me with another women he finds it boring. But I will not play with anyone male or female unless he is there or I would feel I was cheating. So to all the people who say if you dont meet alone your not genuinely bi, sorry but thats bullshit. I am bi, I do love playing with women, but I love my husband to and I wont play without him being present. Its not for his benefit. He doesnt join in. Its for me. But if thats too hard for anyone to understand then thats their problem. "

I don't think anyone is saying if a woman from a couple doesn't meet other women alone then she isn't genuinely bi (or at least I hope no one is daft enough to suggest this!) I think it's more about single bi women finding it harder to meet

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's funny how often the man always creeps up! I have a couples profile and we have met a single bi female for ffm through that but I found myself wanting to meet women alone (with husbands understanding) more often so made my single profile. Have spoken to several women who suddenly only wanted to meet with their partner/fuck buddy!!

If someone is bi but only meets within their couple than that's their choice and as always I respect it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wont meet alone Im married. Stu doesnt get anything out of watching me with another women he finds it boring. But I will not play with anyone male or female unless he is there or I would feel I was cheating. So to all the people who say if you dont meet alone your not genuinely bi, sorry but thats bullshit. I am bi, I do love playing with women, but I love my husband to and I wont play without him being present. Its not for his benefit. He doesnt join in. Its for me. But if thats too hard for anyone to understand then thats their problem.

I don't think anyone is saying if a woman from a couple doesn't meet other women alone then she isn't genuinely bi (or at least I hope no one is daft enough to suggest this!) I think it's more about single bi women finding it harder to meet

Xx

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Ive seen it said a few times on the forums that women are only genuinely bi if they meet alone or suggestions to that effect. Or people constantly claiming it must be the man wanting it to happen and pushing the women into it. Stu would happily let me meet women alone but I dont want to. We are a couple and although he never joins in on our meets as much as I wish he would, Ill never play with anyone without him being there. If that puts women off and they dont want to come because they think they will be putting on a show for him then thats their call but they couldnt be more wrong in our case. Chances are he would be watching tv while we played not watching us at all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wont meet alone Im married. Stu doesnt get anything out of watching me with another women he finds it boring. But I will not play with anyone male or female unless he is there or I would feel I was cheating. So to all the people who say if you dont meet alone your not genuinely bi, sorry but thats bullshit. I am bi, I do love playing with women, but I love my husband to and I wont play without him being present. Its not for his benefit. He doesnt join in. Its for me. But if thats too hard for anyone to understand then thats their problem.

I don't think anyone is saying if a woman from a couple doesn't meet other women alone then she isn't genuinely bi (or at least I hope no one is daft enough to suggest this!) I think it's more about single bi women finding it harder to meet

Xx

Ive seen it said a few times on the forums that women are only genuinely bi if they meet alone or suggestions to that effect. Or people constantly claiming it must be the man wanting it to happen and pushing the women into it. Stu would happily let me meet women alone but I dont want to. We are a couple and although he never joins in on our meets as much as I wish he would, Ill never play with anyone without him being there. If that puts women off and they dont want to come because they think they will be putting on a show for him then thats their call but they couldnt be more wrong in our case. Chances are he would be watching tv while we played not watching us at all.."

I am in total agreement here, Nette is bisexuall as in tried it and loved it, I am protective as in if she takes a fancy to a female i will take her but insist on being present,Of course i like to watch but even if im downstairs watching the TV as long as shes getting pleasure im a happy bunny.

Mr Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say that it's getting harder.

To start with, we are often looking for different criteria, which are harder to find...

But I honestly feel that Fab has got distinctly straighter over the past year, and it's much hard to connect than it used to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single bi fem i can find lots of couples to play with, but it is tough to find bi fems for one on one time.

The local swingers club (Club F) is starting a bi fem only night so hopefully that'll take off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've come across a fair few bi-women's profiles that have strongly emphasized playing with the female of a couple and almost ignoring the bloke. I think if a bloke was to say the same about going it alone with another guy's Mrs most couples would consider it unacceptable.

Imo Bi means Bi i.e. you're interested in both genders. Most couples play together. This doesn't suddenly break down when a bi woman walks in the room, although it might for some. I just don't understand why there's the expectation that playing solo with a female half of a couple is acceptable in this instance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some of us, being Bi means that we're interested in either gender - not both!

We may like either men or women, but just one-on-one - but not both together!

So, I might play with either one of a couple, alone, but I've stopped meeting couples.

Hope that helps...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For some of us, being Bi means that we're interested in either gender - not both!

We may like either men or women, but just one-on-one - but not both together!

So, I might play with either one of a couple, alone, but I've stopped meeting couples.

Hope that helps...

"

Thanks Annie.. yes it does explain a lot I guess the only thing I'd say is that by taking this approach bi women are drastically reducing their options. Of all the couples on Fab I'd say only a very small minority play away... most, by far, insist on playing together. I'm not attempting to convince you to change lol I'm just suggesting this might be why some bi women find it harder to arrange meets... if that is indeed true i.e. unrealistic expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest for us it's the complete opposite Both being straight seems to be going g against us meeting other couples x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't know how its hard for women to get meets on here. I'm no oil painting but I've never struggled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've come across a fair few bi-women's profiles that have strongly emphasized playing with the female of a couple and almost ignoring the bloke. I think if a bloke was to say the same about going it alone with another guy's Mrs most couples would consider it unacceptable.

Imo Bi means Bi i.e. you're interested in both genders. Most couples play together. This doesn't suddenly break down when a bi woman walks in the room, although it might for some. I just don't understand why there's the expectation that playing solo with a female half of a couple is acceptable in this instance."

I play with both halves of a couple I dont leave the gut out only Stu doesnt join in and thats his choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm bi and have own profile hotebonydeluxe .but my problem is finding local females to play with.i don't drive so hubby would have to drop me if far.also yeah you find profile single bi women start reading it and she got bf wanted to watch etc.if there are bi women who want to meet me im happy to pay half hotel if they have to travel or half petrol just as long as it is fem to fem play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there are a few more options for a. I sexual ect.

But again depending what people are looking for.

I have often wondered if straight woman in couples, are worried of me, thinking I may jump on them.

I have had to stipulate I would not and the bi side a bonus, but I know when to behave

Her"

Same here. Had a lift to Abfabs on the way the women told us in no uncertain terms was she bi. Ok no probs but it was the constant repeating that had me petrified to move. I had no intention of touching her( i only touch when asked) not sure who was more scared me or her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've come across a fair few bi-women's profiles that have strongly emphasized playing with the female of a couple and almost ignoring the bloke. I think if a bloke was to say the same about going it alone with another guy's Mrs most couples would consider it unacceptable.

Imo Bi means Bi i.e. you're interested in both genders. Most couples play together. This doesn't suddenly break down when a bi woman walks in the room, although it might for some. I just don't understand why there's the expectation that playing solo with a female half of a couple is acceptable in this instance.

I play with both halves of a couple I dont leave the gut out only Stu doesnt join in and thats his choice. "

Hey Rockinluv Don't feel you have to explain yourself to me. Every individual and couple have the absolute right to set about sex exploring in whatever way they wish I think the only thing I was getting at is that flexibility and inclusiveness is always gonna be the easiest way. If there are certain inflexibilities (i.e. I'm straight) and some lack of inclusiveness... then that's just the way it's got to be... but it does reduce the amount of couples and maybe individuals who would be interested in taking part.

Most people who complain about finding it difficult to arrange meets on here either aren't getting out enough or have unrealistic expectations in the first place. Imo it's unrealistic for people of either gender to expect a lot of couples to play away, no matter how sexy you are... a few will... but most won't imo If that means you're not getting any meets... maybe it's time to rethink the strategy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've come across a fair few bi-women's profiles that have strongly emphasized playing with the female of a couple and almost ignoring the bloke. I think if a bloke was to say the same about going it alone with another guy's Mrs most couples would consider it unacceptable.

Imo Bi means Bi i.e. you're interested in both genders. Most couples play together. This doesn't suddenly break down when a bi woman walks in the room, although it might for some. I just don't understand why there's the expectation that playing solo with a female half of a couple is acceptable in this instance.

I play with both halves of a couple I dont leave the gut out only Stu doesnt join in and thats his choice.

Hey Rockinluv Don't feel you have to explain yourself to me. Every individual and couple have the absolute right to set about sex exploring in whatever way they wish I think the only thing I was getting at is that flexibility and inclusiveness is always gonna be the easiest way. If there are certain inflexibilities (i.e. I'm straight) and some lack of inclusiveness... then that's just the way it's got to be... but it does reduce the amount of couples and maybe individuals who would be interested in taking part.

Most people who complain about finding it difficult to arrange meets on here either aren't getting out enough or have unrealistic expectations in the first place. Imo it's unrealistic for people of either gender to expect a lot of couples to play away, no matter how sexy you are... a few will... but most won't imo If that means you're not getting any meets... maybe it's time to rethink the strategy? "

I think a pretty large proportion of newbies join with unrealistic expectations, usually that because this is a swinging site it's going to be easy to get laid, no matter what your sexual preferences are! So when it doesn't happen there's an abundance of disappointment and indignation.

I knew when joining it would be difficult to meet people where there was a mutual attraction, especially as I am a big girl. I had hoped it would of gone a bit better than it has, as I say there is an awful lot of single bi gem profiles up here only looking for men, or partners appear from no where when thy previously asked to meet one on one, and of course there are the fake profiles! But I've adjusted my expectations from the site. Now I'm happy to chat on forums, meet for socials etc and if any naughtiness arises from this its an added bonus!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For some of us, being Bi means that we're interested in either gender - not both!

We may like either men or women, but just one-on-one - but not both together!

So, I might play with either one of a couple, alone, but I've stopped meeting couples.

Hope that helps...

Im Bi but no longer state it on my profile.. I much prefer to play one on one with a lady without the involvement of her partner. Find a female happy to play alone is rare though. Alot of the female half of couples only want to try another woman for their partners sake and I dont want to be used to fulfil their fantasies..

In an ideal world id live to meet a lady friend for shopping, fun, cuddles and kisses as for me I love the intimacy you have with another woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For some of us, being Bi means that we're interested in either gender - not both!

We may like either men or women, but just one-on-one - but not both together!

So, I might play with either one of a couple, alone, but I've stopped meeting couples.

Hope that helps...

"

Im Bi but no longer state it on my profile.. I much prefer to play one on one with a lady without the involvement of her partner. Finding a female happy to play alone is rare though. Alot of the female half of couples only want to try another woman for their partners sake and I dont want to be used to fulfil their fantasies..

In an ideal world id love to meet a lady friend for shopping, fun, cuddles and kisses as for me I love the intimacy you have with another woman.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Not sure about the op question but this single bi fem has had 3 letdowns this week

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

im not bi but would love to experience a 1 to 1 with a woman. no men dictating what they want and expect to see. but its hard to connect with people generally. i think bi women must be even more inundated with messages than other women. id say its very hard to find the meet theyd truly like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im not bi but would love to experience a 1 to 1 with a woman. no men dictating what they want and expect to see. but its hard to connect with people generally. i think bi women must be even more inundated with messages than other women. id say its very hard to find the meet theyd truly like"

Bi women do vet alot of attention on here. My last couples meet I felt the lady was only trying to put on a show for her man and it didn't feel as I hoped it would.

my previous ff meets had been amazing just one on one. I love the sensuality you have with another woman, its alot more gentle and seductive.

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By *LCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"I tend to think a true threesome is, to state the bleedin obvious, a three way thing where each participant should be given equal emphasis. And that a true foursome, to state the bleedin obvious again, should involve all four people lol "

Totally agree with that.

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Really depends the the needs and wants of the people involved x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If that means you're not getting any meets... maybe it's time to rethink the strategy? "

We are getting meets. All but one have been with single men and one with a couple where the women was bi. But we have only had two single women talk to us about a meet so far. One actually arranged a date then stopped talking just before it, she was unverified so possibly a guy. The other was verified, seemed very keen, then just stopped replying when we tried to set a date. It was never a secret Stu would be there its in our profile and mentioned in our very first message so he didnt just appear as some of you have experienced.

Im fine playing with couples to get my ff fun as I get the best of both worlds then. And Id love some one on one ff fun. But if stu being there means that wont ever happen then so be it. Theres no rethinking to be done I would rather it never happened to go it alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a shame as I love to play with bi women but even the couples aren't up for it at the moment ...meets get put up and ignored and club nights where no one tries to approach....maybe it's a myth and the real enigma is bi fems or couples who want a bi fem lol "

Its the school holidays, meeting anyone with kids is more difficult and it often takes a back seat until they go back to school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For some of us, being Bi means that we're interested in either gender - not both!

We may like either men or women, but just one-on-one - but not both together!

So, I might play with either one of a couple, alone, but I've stopped meeting couples.

Hope that helps...

"

One of my reasons for no-longer meeting couples is that they wanted one on one with the woman and I prefer to play with both, potentially also a reason why I have considered just meeting women alone but been such a long time, wouldn't want to disappoint a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wont meet alone Im married. Stu doesnt get anything out of watching me with another women he finds it boring. But I will not play with anyone male or female unless he is there or I would feel I was cheating. So to all the people who say if you dont meet alone your not genuinely bi, sorry but thats bullshit. I am bi, I do love playing with women, but I love my husband to and I wont play without him being present. Its not for his benefit. He doesnt join in. Its for me. But if thats too hard for anyone to understand then thats their problem. "
agree with this as I was with a woman before my hubby so I'm as bi as they come

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"I've come across a fair few bi-women's profiles that have strongly emphasized playing with the female of a couple and almost ignoring the bloke. I think if a bloke was to say the same about going it alone with another guy's Mrs most couples would consider it unacceptable.

Imo Bi means Bi i.e. you're interested in both genders. Most couples play together. This doesn't suddenly break down when a bi woman walks in the room, although it might for some. I just don't understand why there's the expectation that playing solo with a female half of a couple is acceptable in this instance."

If I meet a couple, I meet those who are happy with equal play for both. I don't meet couples where I am only allowed to play with the lady, and neither do I meet singles who suddenly have someone else not on the profile who must be involved.

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