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CANT TAKE REJECTION

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

THIS GAME WE PLAY IS SUPPOSE TO BE FUN AND LIGHT HEARTED, ISNT IT !

SO WHY DO SOME COUPLES FIND REJECTION SO HARD TO TAKE, SINGLE GUYS GET REJECTED ALL THE TIME EVERY DAY MANY TIMES AND WE FIND THEY HARDLEY EVER MAKE A SONG AND DANCE ABOUT IT,BUT SOME COUPLES, YOU TURN THEM DOWN IN A NICE POLITE WAY ONLY TO GET EITHER SOME SILLY REMARK THROWN BACK AT YOU OR YOU GET BAD MOUTHED TO OTHERS.

NOW IT HASNT HAPPENED TO MANY TIMES BUT WE DO FIND THAT COUPLES WHO MEET LETS SAY ON A MORE REGULAR BASIS THAN OTHERS TEND TO BE THE ONES WHO HAVE THESE ISSUES. ITS ALMOST AS IF THERE SHOCKED THAT WE SAY 'NO THANKS' TO THEM.

OK RANT OVER LOL.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

As you say in your first sentance, this is meant to be fun and lighthearted

Sadly your post doesn't come across that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's just human nature. No one likes rejection, and people take it in different ways.

We have had the same experience as you too, but also we have been dissappointed when we have been told, "no thankyou"

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

actually... have to agree with rugby on this....

honestly.. can I just suggest letting all the anger go!!! you'll only end up giving yourself some type of ulcer.....(oh.. and leaning on the caps lock button doesn't help either)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh now this is something that happens to me often..... only yesterday I received a barrage of abuse and insults from a man I turned down.... I was really polite too.........

There really is no need... so from now on if I don't find a man attractive i'm not even going to bother to reply..... its quite disturbing how personal and insutling some men get.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My ears are bleeding after all that shouting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yea, whats with all the caps?? thats classed as shouting ont net

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe because they play so often they are not used to being turned down and dare i say not to fussy about who they meet so when they do get turned away they are shocked. Or maybe they just think they are gods gift and no one in their righ mind would turn them down ..belive me we have met a few ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is par for the course I'm afraid.

I believe some people think because this is an adult site whoever they tip their hat at will meet them with wild abandon. The realisation that people do have preferences and they're not the gift from God they thought does prick the egos of many.

Personally I wouldn't expend energy worrying about this: plenty of fun people to contend with.

Enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only we were all nice to each other, it would be great and I bet there would be much more meets, I guess due to less tension or expectations or whatever.

But, yes, a polite no thanks for whatever reason, shouldn't result in nasty emails.

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By *uton_coupleCouple
over a year ago

luton


"yea, whats with all the caps?? thats classed as shouting ont net"

we can shout in real life .............

why do some people think you cant shout on the net ?

is it like swearing in church , farting at a vicars tea party , picking your nose while serving at the delicatessen counter ?

if i said my wife dropped a brick on my foot and i said BLOODY HELL THAT HURT

do you feel outraged ? does it spoil your day ? does it make you start to loose faith in humanity ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy had posted that the OP did there would be uproar.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Of course your 100% right but we dont half feel better now its off our chest lol, Thanks for your comments xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having re-read our post, we agree with what you say, maybe we where caught just at the wrong time by the wrong couple. thanks for your comments x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your comments, think we will have to stop 'taking the bait' and simply press that Delete button a bit more often.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having got it off our chest so to speak, from now on we wont even reply , we will just reach for the delete and block buttons instead, thanks for your interest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im always getting turned down I just smile and carry on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Re the caps button, well thats our mistake it wasnt intended to show us as 'shouting'so a big SORRY' for that.

We really must brush up on 'Computer jargon'. thanks for your interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy had posted that the OP did there would be uproar."

Exactamundo!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im always getting turned down I just smile and carry on "

how could you possably get turned down,if you do my theory is right about this site,there all mad

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area

yet again the double standards in forum never cease to amaze me.

if a single guy had posted this he would have been 'tarred and feathered' by everyone, instead of of tea and sympathy being offered to another poor couple that have been offended.

anyone wish to disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

If you look back at some of the single guy threads there has been a lot of support recently

Now stop making this thread about you and get on with perving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is Friday the new Thursday?

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area


"If you look back at some of the single guy threads there has been a lot of support recently

Now stop making this thread about you and get on with perving "
explain in what way the comment makes this thread about me

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"If you look back at some of the single guy threads there has been a lot of support recently

Now stop making this thread about you and get on with perving explain in what way the comment makes this thread about me"

Not you personally but about single males

No-one has mentioned single males at all and yet 2 of you have come in with a moan when the thread was about couples

Now im always defending the guys but sometimes you don't help yourselves by courting controversy

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"yet again the double standards in forum never cease to amaze me.

if a single guy had posted this he would have been 'tarred and feathered' by everyone, instead of of tea and sympathy being offered to another poor couple that have been offended.

anyone wish to disagree"

I didn't offer tea and sympathy , just like a few others didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"THIS GAME WE PLAY IS SUPPOSE TO BE FUN AND LIGHT HEARTED, ISNT IT !

SO WHY DO SOME COUPLES FIND REJECTION SO HARD TO TAKE, SINGLE GUYS GET REJECTED ALL THE TIME EVERY DAY MANY TIMES AND WE FIND THEY HARDLEY EVER MAKE A SONG AND DANCE ABOUT IT,BUT SOME COUPLES, YOU TURN THEM DOWN IN A NICE POLITE WAY ONLY TO GET EITHER SOME SILLY REMARK THROWN BACK AT YOU OR YOU GET BAD MOUTHED TO OTHERS.

NOW IT HASNT HAPPENED TO MANY TIMES BUT WE DO FIND THAT COUPLES WHO MEET LETS SAY ON A MORE REGULAR BASIS THAN OTHERS TEND TO BE THE ONES WHO HAVE THESE ISSUES. ITS ALMOST AS IF THERE SHOCKED THAT WE SAY 'NO THANKS' TO THEM.

OK RANT OVER LOL."

I think you have lost the point in how people react. Its not if someone is single or in a couple that rules how they react but more the personality of the individual. Some couples kick off some singles kick off but its usually down to an individual who sulks, throws tantrums and isn't very adult in how they interact with people.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Is Friday the new Thursday? "

Nope it's Freaky Friday with Sarky Saturday and Sorry Sunday still to come! So Beware!

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

As in normal life, some people are considerate, and some are plain rude.

For ourselves, we always try to say "no" kindly, and so far haven't had any nasty remarks, and if we,re turned down, we acknowledge the rejection with thanks, and move on. We would hate anyone to be shagging us out of sympathy or coercion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it you win sum you loose sum,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

works the same for everyone hun - my pet hate is when i politely turn someone down, they send a barrage of abuse or something nasty, then block you so you can't respond - childish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im always getting turned down I just smile and carry on

how could you possably get turned down,if you do my theory is right about this site,there all mad "

sssshhhh they are all mad

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"works the same for everyone hun - my pet hate is when i politely turn someone down, they send a barrage of abuse or something nasty, then block you so you can't respond - childish!"

thats just what happened to us more than once x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im always getting turned down I just smile and carry on

how could you possably get turned down,if you do my theory is right about this site,there all mad "

bees honey

moths flame

rat trap

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Its all part of lifes rich tapestry: Some hurl abuse when turned down, some want to post in caps, others want to reply to the abuse (despite having said no and are then upset that they didn't get the last word in). Then there are a few that just get on with having fun and don't rise to the bait.

Funny old world

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its all part of lifes rich tapestry: Some hurl abuse when turned down, some want to post in caps, others want to reply to the abuse (despite having said no and are then upset that they didn't get the last word in). Then there are a few that just get on with having fun and don't rise to the bait.

Funny old world "

Off course your right we agree and thanks x

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By *he BananamanMan
over a year ago

WORCESTERSHIRE

what i find annoying is when i look at my list of who has viewed me and see couples who have looked at my profile several times and i try to send a wink or mail them and find that as a single i am blocked from doing so!.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

[Removed by poster at 26/06/10 13:35:36]

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"what i find annoying is when i look at my list of who has viewed me and see couples who have looked at my profile several times and i try to send a wink or mail them and find that as a single i am blocked from doing so!."

^^^ Typo in last version

That's their choice to block single males though! Just because others look at your profile it doesn't mean they want you to try and mail them, they looked out of curiousity, boredom, nosiness, whatever!

How is it so hard for folk to understand that people are entitled to have their own choices, do what they want, etc, etc, etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yea, whats with all the caps?? thats classed as shouting ont net

we can shout in real life .............

why do some people think you cant shout on the net ?

is it like swearing in church , farting at a vicars tea party , picking your nose while serving at the delicatessen counter ?

if i said my wife dropped a brick on my foot and i said BLOODY HELL THAT HURT

do you feel outraged ? does it spoil your day ? does it make you start to loose faith in humanity ?"

i would buy her a drink if she videod it at the time!! x

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