FabSwingers.com forum: Not meeting gold and silver members

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As a single guy I'm fairly used to rejection. It comes as part and parcel of life here on fab. I have no problem with that and find that you get out what you put in, in terms of success in getting meets.

I did approach a lady reacently her response was almost imidiate. It was polite and friendly but she stated she wasn't interested in me as she didn't meet gold and silver members.

I'm curious as to why this should be when I asked she didn't reply (not that I expected her too)

Are there any other people that don't meet gold and silver members or was she as I suspect just letting me down gently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A feeble excuse so probably not female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's just plain weird. A member who was Silver or Gold would indicate they are more genuine in our eyes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Like I said I thought she was just lettin me down gently.

But it got me thinking if there are reasons not to meet g/s members

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"A feeble excuse so probably not female

This seems likely, especially if a recent joiner of the site..so often here today, gone today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand the reasoning for that,maybe it was an easy let down

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Quite a few guys have put a similar thread up. Not sure if its the same woman doing the rejecting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes rejection can hurt and some single males they get rejected get a bit abusive when you say no thanks and ask for reasons...

i tend to have in my profile that if i'm not interested i wont reply. IF they dont read my profile then thats not my problem

but i never give reasons why i say no even in a club etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Like I say I don't have a problem with rejection. Just wondered if other people have a problem with g/s member status.

I'm pretty sure she was a real woman, I'm not havin a moan about her just thought it was an interesting point for discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like an excuse to me, can't think of any reason why you would single g/s members out.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Like I say I don't have a problem with rejection. Just wondered if other people have a problem with g/s member status.

I'm pretty sure she was a real woman, I'm not havin a moan about her just thought it was an interesting point for discussion. "

As you guessed it was probably to let you down gently. A guy we met said that some women told him he looked too much like their brother and others that he was so nice they felt they would get too attached as a way of saying no nicely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ah so don't worry about the g/s member status thing it's cos I'm too ugly ;-p

Glad we straighted that out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah so don't worry about the g/s member status thing it's cos I'm too ugly ;-p

Glad we straighted that out "

U arent ugly

so bloody smile in your photos

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah so don't worry about the g/s member status thing it's cos I'm too ugly ;-p

Glad we straighted that out

U arent ugly

so bloody smile in your photos

I always look dopey when I smile honey so tend not to in photos. I'm not miserable in real life I promise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The snobbery of platinum membership

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It actually could be a confidence issue..maybe she felt like you wouldn't enjoy it with her as much due to lack of her lack of experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It actually could be a confidence issue..maybe she felt like you wouldn't enjoy it with her as much due to lack of her lack of experience"

Possibly, but from a mans perspective ladies technique and experience is less important than sauciness and an enjoyment of being naughty.

Might be a controversial statement that.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I must say when I look at someone's profile and it says silver or gold I think 'less chance of being a timewaster.'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been blocked for not being a site supporter, so there you go. It can work against you.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I've been blocked for not being a site supporter, so there you go. It can work against you. "

Not criticising you, I wasn't one for years then thought 'it's a good site and the benefits you get with silver are great for me.' I certainly wouldn't spend more money on other sites, especially one's where I'm lifetime member but suddenly more and more things are 'extras.'

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Sounds like a crap cop out and consider yourself lucky not to have wasted more time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah so don't worry about the g/s member status thing it's cos I'm too ugly ;-p

Glad we straighted that out "

Just took a sneaky peak at your profile and you are lovely looking

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy I'm fairly used to rejection. It comes as part and parcel of life here on fab. I have no problem with that and find that you get out what you put in, in terms of success in getting meets.

I did approach a lady reacently her response was almost imidiate. It was polite and friendly but she stated she wasn't interested in me as she didn't meet gold and silver members.

I'm curious as to why this should be when I asked she didn't reply (not that I expected her too)

Are there any other people that don't meet gold and silver members or was she as I suspect just letting me down gently. "

That has to be one of the worst excused yet lol x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

next she be meeting unlos es only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that's just a bizarre excuse, you may be right that they where just letting you down gently or like another poster said if it s new profile it could possibly be a fake account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that's just a bizarre excuse, you may be right that they where just letting you down gently or like another poster said if it s new profile it could possibly be a fake account.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah so don't worry about the g/s member status thing it's cos I'm too ugly ;-p

Glad we straighted that out

Just took a sneaky peak at your profile and you are lovely looking

Good luck"

Why thank you young lady xx

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