FabSwingers.com forum: Single or Not

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do guys not all of them but a few say they are single then you meet up and find out there not, just be honest we are all on this for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmfao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple: most people won't meet married men so they lie to increase their chances.

If a man's marital status matters to you they're very easy to spot: honest!

1. They can't accommodate.

2. They can only do daytime meets.

3. They don't give you a landline number.

4. They're vague about where they live.

5. They bombard you with text between 9 to 5 after that: nothing.

6. They never call at weekends.

7. Bank holiday's they visit their parents/nans/sister/pet cemetry.

8. They are "allergic" to your perfume so ask you not to wear it.

9. They put their phone on silent but check it every 10 minutes.

10. First thing they do after leaving your: make a phone call!

This is not an exhausive list you understand!

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

There are at least two meanings to 'single': 1) unmarried/no ties and 2) 'playing away from home'.

If a profile or ad says 'single' - does it mean 1)?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"There are at least two meanings to 'single': 1) unmarried/no ties and 2) 'playing away from home'.

If a profile or ad says 'single' - does it mean 1)?"

Nope there is only one meaning to "single" and that's being "single"

and then there are liars!

But each to their own and if it works for them then it's none of my business whether they claim to be single or not!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

The problem is that there is such a Stigma to being married and playing away without permission (and I state the without permission because I know a few guys that do play as singles with wifes knowledge and acceptance and happy to verify that on the phone) that they thick with there cock and say anything they need to say to get there leg over......

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

as with anywhere in life SOME ppl will do and say what ever they have to to just get what they want ! fortunatly not all the guys are the same and you just have to go into this with youre eyes wide open and alil wiser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its easy to generaise about single men...... im single but i work shifts but on my days off i see my son who lives in Liverpool 250 mies away.... so my quality time is with him it annoYs me when people just generalise about single men ..... were like families to... we have other commmitments too just the same as couple ie work , famiy etc

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Simple: most people won't meet married men so they lie to increase their chances.

If a man's marital status matters to you they're very easy to spot: honest!

1. They can't accommodate.

2. They can only do daytime meets.

3. They don't give you a landline number.

4. They're vague about where they live.

5. They bombard you with text between 9 to 5 after that: nothing.

6. They never call at weekends.

7. Bank holiday's they visit their parents/nans/sister/pet cemetry.

8. They are "allergic" to your perfume so ask you not to wear it.

9. They put their phone on silent but check it every 10 minutes.

10. First thing they do after leaving your: make a phone call!

This is not an exhausive list you understand!

* just with regards to a few of these....

2) I use to do a night time job on the railways which meant I work 9pm thru to 7am...... which put me fairly slap bang in the middle of the "could only meet during the day".......

3)no one has my landline number... in fact the only person who does have it is my mum!! I have a special phone for this and I know a lot of people who do

9) my phone is always on silent.... unless I am in my own home it is on silent.......

10) too right the first thing I do is make a phone call after I leave... its to a friend to tell them I am safe, I would assume most women would do the same thing.. if not that is something I would encourage everyone to do!!!

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By *INKKKYMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL/ WIRRAL

"Simple: most people won't meet married men so they lie to increase their chances.

If a man's marital status matters to you they're very easy to spot: honest!

1. They can't accommodate.

2. They can only do daytime meets.

3. They don't give you a landline number.

4. They're vague about where they live.

5. They bombard you with text between 9 to 5 after that: nothing.

6. They never call at weekends.

7. Bank holiday's they visit their parents/nans/sister/pet cemetry.

8. They are "allergic" to your perfume so ask you not to wear it.

9. They put their phone on silent but check it every 10 minutes.

10. First thing they do after leaving your: make a phone call!

This is not an exhausive list you understand!

"
Are you the marriage police?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple: most people won't meet married men so they lie to increase their chances.

If a man's marital status matters to you they're very easy to spot: honest!

1. They can't accommodate.

2. They can only do daytime meets.

3. They don't give you a landline number.

4. They're vague about where they live.

5. They bombard you with text between 9 to 5 after that: nothing.

6. They never call at weekends.

7. Bank holiday's they visit their parents/nans/sister/pet cemetry.

8. They are "allergic" to your perfume so ask you not to wear it.

9. They put their phone on silent but check it every 10 minutes.

10. First thing they do after leaving your: make a phone call!

This is not an exhausive list you understand!

* just with regards to a few of these....

2) I use to do a night time job on the railways which meant I work 9pm thru to 7am...... which put me fairly slap bang in the middle of the "could only meet during the day".......

3)no one has my landline number... in fact the only person who does have it is my mum!! I have a special phone for this and I know a lot of people who do

9) my phone is always on silent.... unless I am in my own home it is on silent.......

another railway old school employee lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sassy summed it up! being frank here, some people will hit you with any shit if they think they have the faintest hope of gettin into your knickers!! it annoys me very much because the lies some people tell can be very convincing! i got caught out once with the psuedo single and never again will i!

iv had every excuse under the book from we just together for the children i cant afford to move out, we cant settle who gets custody of the fish blah blah!!

if people could just be honest it would save a lot of hassle but unfortunately a stiff cock has no concience xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple: most people won't meet married men so they lie to increase their chances.

If a man's marital status matters to you they're very easy to spot: honest!

1. They can't accommodate.

2. They can only do daytime meets.

3. They don't give you a landline number.

4. They're vague about where they live.

5. They bombard you with text between 9 to 5 after that: nothing.

6. They never call at weekends.

7. Bank holiday's they visit their parents/nans/sister/pet cemetry.

8. They are "allergic" to your perfume so ask you not to wear it.

9. They put their phone on silent but check it every 10 minutes.

10. First thing they do after leaving your: make a phone call!

This is not an exhausive list you understand!

Are you the marriage police?

Oooooh heaven no...if I were I wouldn't have been caught out myself - and none of the above applied!

Shortly after leaving my husband I met a really nice man. We both appeared to be in the same both, recently separated and just looking for fun and companionship.

He came down to London from Norfolk just to take me out and would drive back home.

After I felt comfortable with him we would spend weekends away together, Paris, Madrid, Prague, Rome...you name it we went. For my birthday we flew first class to Cuba - oooh we lived the life.

I knew where he worked, had his home number - he'd moved back in with his parents, met his friends, his family, introduced him to my friends and family...thought after years of unhappiness I'd landed on my feet.

The only fly in the ointment was his dad - he just didn't like me. He was never rude, just didn't like me. Naturally I assumed (wrongly it turns out) that he didn't like his son with a black woman.

Any how I found out why his father didn't like me - apparently my knight in shining armour was still married. His wife was severely disabled and unable to have sex or do anything so he'd leave her with her mother/sister at the weekends or weeks away with me to enjoy a "normal" life.

EVERYONE knew and no one said a word. They understood he needed time away so everyone turned a blind eye, only the father was uncomfortable with the situation, especially as his wife had cheated on him, but he had been told not to say anything,

Moral of the tale - even if you have a check list as long as your arm, if they are going to lie and cheat...they will!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not all off us are cheeting on a wife , and how many times have i contacted a singel lady to find out she is not singel at all but has put that in the hope she and her hubby can get some fun but no one evre complains about that i understand her bringing along a male for safty on first meets as there are lots off nutters out there but honesty goes both ways .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it when you have that niggle and press them, then comes the crunch when you ask "one final time, are you married?"....and the answer is ALWAYS "no, but would it matter if I was?"

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

I think it might be an advantage to say I'm married sometimes. I've met women through swinging and vanilla sites and when chatting they say:

"So, you're single, 40 yrs old, single for X years (or rather XX years, yikes) never been married, no kids, no baggage? Riiii-iiiight, OK"

You can see them thinking "This guy's either a pathological liar or has a serious personality disorder of the Fred West variety".

It's difficult to own up to never having met the right girl sometimes (possibly because I'm a selfish arsehole who took the Left-Hand Path in life, meh!)

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Single men do somtimes work shifts and have family commitments and a vanilla life just the same as the rest of us.....

They can also live with someone after a break up like my OH did when he seperated from his then wife..

There is no way we would expect a mans landline number and we wouldn't give ours out....

Granted , there ae lots of signs that men are not as single as they make out and we have our ways of ing them out, but it isn't always as cut and dried as is sometimes made out.

Sassy, I know you found out that the mans father wasn't comfortable with the situation and why he came across the way he did......but if it wasn't the case, he could well have just not liked you, and I am surprised you would have though it was because of your colour alone.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I agree with lots of what is said, people who want sex and that means single ladies and single men will lie to get what they want.

It isnt all single men. If there is 2000 single men on here and one third are not being quite so honest and say 900 single fem and again the one third not being honest it will still seem like it is more men doing it because of the sheer volume of men.

Are men more likely to lie? or is it the women?

I just tend to follow my instinct with alot of the list previously put on. Instinct is a good thing to follow.

I havent liked it at all finding out after the meet that the man is actually dating. But all my checking didnt bring up those details.

Rather someone is honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not just men,what about ladies who just use there name on a profile and you read it and it says something like,the 2 of us,me and my husband,me and my partner etc; why hide there partners identity,

you read a profile get interested then boom they hit you with that! WHY?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it might be an advantage to say I'm married sometimes. I've met women through swinging and vanilla sites and when chatting they say:

"So, you're single, 40 yrs old, single for X years (or rather XX years, yikes) never been married, no kids, no baggage? Riiii-iiiight, OK"

You can see them thinking "This guy's either a pathological liar or has a serious personality disorder of the Fred West variety".

It's difficult to own up to never having met the right girl sometimes (possibly because I'm a selfish arsehole who took the Left-Hand Path in life, meh!)"

Guilty of thinking thst when I meet men my age...!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rugby I'm going back nearly seven years. Fresh out of an unhappy marriage, just buried my mum, had a boss that bullied me, I thought the whole world was against me!!

Fast forward seven years, and I'm a totally different person, if people don't like me I assume it's because I've been an arrogant bitch - 99% of the time they're not wrong, never about my colour!!

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