FabSwingers.com forum: help please

By *urvy_J3 OP Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

I like to come on here and chat and I like to meet new people however im just not feeling horny or wanting sex I have been like this for 2 weeks but I still come on here to chat and I would like to meet people but just for social no playing as im just not in the mood. Should I just leave the site alone until I get the feeling back and has anyone else had this problem what did you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No don't leave the site if your feeling a little less horny than usual you can always hide your profile until you get that feeling back and I am sure there are guys out there that would be delighted to have a social with you. I would but alas your too far away. Always happy to chat with new people so if you ever fancy a natter on here let me know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats no reason to leave the site. You have quite a few recent verifications so people will know you are genuine.

Personally, I've found there are sometimes months where you don't want to meet up.

There is a social aspect to Swinging and many users prefer to engage in phone/online/webcam interactions and social meets before getting it on.

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By *urvy_J3 OP Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

Yeh but I find people aren't interested in meeting me for just a social

doesn't really help my self esteem lol

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By *urvy_J3 OP Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

And I meant just hiding my profile not deleting it sorry should of been more clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeh but I find people aren't interested in meeting me for just a social

doesn't really help my self esteem lol"

Really, personally love a good natter over a drink or two its a great why to spend a few hours getting to know someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And I meant just hiding my profile not deleting it sorry should of been more clear"

lol not sure I can forgive that mistake

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By *urvy_J3 OP Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

Me too I am actually looking for friends on here as my social life is quite shockingly poor but starting to think its just literally sex not making friends I know its a sex site but thought I would of made friends with people too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me too I am actually looking for friends on here as my social life is quite shockingly poor but starting to think its just literally sex not making friends I know its a sex site but thought I would of made friends with people too"

I would say its a site of equal proportions of sex and socializing. I have a few friends that I talk to regularly on here as we enjoy the banter and the company. Sex is the bonus if it so happens that way. Keep looking I am sure you will find some good friends x

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By *atsnCorsetsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Male of couple: I felt that way on here for a time. Random sex without social interaction just wasn't for me anymore. I found regular meets were much more fulfilling. Social meets were also always fun and I always met without any expectations.

If you're not feeling it at the moment I really wouldn't worry. We all get like that from time to time. You meet that right person and BANG! Those feelings will be back in a heart beat.

Female of the couple:

Pretty much what he said but I have to say your bum looks great in those knickers. Where did you get them from? Love them and NEED a pair!

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By *uarenteedGenuineMan
over a year ago

sheffield

You have a good profile, grey pics and seem a very honest and intelligent lady...yes sometimes people aren't always in the mood so to speak..and if others don't respect that, then that's their problem....if am in area anytime I'll give you a shout see if it's convenient we can go to cafe and put the world to right over a mug of tea and if I'm feeling flush maybe evens shout you a jam doughnut...

Be good, be happy, be yourself and be safe..x

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By *urvy_J3 OP Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

"Male of couple: I felt that way on here for a time. Random sex without social interaction just wasn't for me anymore. I found regular meets were much more fulfilling. Social meets were also always fun and I always met without any expectations.

If you're not feeling it at the moment I really wouldn't worry. We all get like that from time to time. You meet that right person and BANG! Those feelings will be back in a heart beat.

Female of the couple:

Pretty much what he said but I have to say your bum looks great in those knickers. Where did you get them from? Love them and NEED a pair!"

Hehe thank you

they are just standard french knickers but that particular pair was from boux avenue

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By *urvy_J3 OP Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

Thanks but do Prefer a custard doughnut to jam or a caramel shortbread

"You have a good profile, grey pics and seem a very honest and intelligent lady...yes sometimes people aren't always in the mood so to speak..and if others don't respect that, then that's their problem....if am in area anytime I'll give you a shout see if it's convenient we can go to cafe and put the world to right over a mug of tea and if I'm feeling flush maybe evens shout you a jam doughnut...

Be good, be happy, be yourself and be safe..x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And therein lies the problem for so many singles on fab . The initial thought of NSA sex is appealing , but then feelings , emotion and everything that goes against the very principles of swinging hits you .

Seen this so many times over the years , especially with single women on fab . It's the worst place to be when you feel fragile and in need of real feelings from someone else you have met on here .

My advice is to hide your profile , get out and about in the non swinging world , and look in mire appropriate places for what you need at this moment in time . Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends can be found without having to want to bed them.

I'm sure that there's socials you can go to.

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By *panker53Man
over a year ago

leeds

dont see the need for you to leave hun

if you have friends here and are just happy to chat or flirt then carry on and be happy with it

i would be happy to just meet and chat if you wish

best wishes and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sure yr not the only one who feels the same way. dont go...stay here and chat away. im happy to talk with you...putting the worlds to right can be good therapy x

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By *atsnCorsetsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Hehe thank you

they are just standard french knickers but that particular pair was from boux avenue"

Many thanks we shall have to have a look x

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I prefer a good social before playing too, and like repeat play - I find it more comfortable and enjoyable.

If you've lost your naughty spark, just take some time out, either hide, or say you're only meeting socially - and maybe one of those will re-ignite that spark.

If you are looking for friends, perhaps this isn't the place to form those kind of bonds - maybe try learning something new - loads of local colleges do evening courses starting after the hols - maybe something there would be of interest, and you might find people also looking for more regular friendships

Can be a lonely old place when you feel a bit out of the loop socially. Good luck

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By *urvy_J3 OP Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

Thanks all

maybe I should do something new and be the first to message someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need to leave use this site as u please if people don't like it there problem. Am currently not meeting heada not in it and summer holidays so having a break but still here to chat no one has had a problem with it. But if you want to chat a friendly one pm me I don't mind chatting sometimes its nice to chat with people who arnt hoping to get into your knickers lol and not saying everyone does but had a few guys who said chat was ok then awhile kept pestering for a meet x

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Meet in whichever way you prefer...you're in the driving seat...if people don't want to respect your wishes then they don't deserve the pleasure of your company!

Don't worry about your mojo...you'll find it again soon enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We absolutely insist in a social meet when we're meeting someone for the first time and I'm sure we're not the only ones. You're not that far from us either

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By *chillesHeelCouple
over a year ago

Somerset

We've been trying to get a social group of friends but it just doesn't seem to be happening! We want to keep our vanilla and swinging lives separate so would love a group to talk to about swinging. I can sympathise here.

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By *attykitWoman
over a year ago

leeds

There's a social evening in Wakefield this Saturday if you want to pop along. I've made loads of friends there. It's in the forum so you can put your name down. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No just come on and have a laugh and chat

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen this so many times over the years , especially with single women on fab . It's the worst place to be when you feel fragile and in need of real feelings from someone else you have met on here .

My advice is to hide your profile , get out and about in the non swinging world , and look in mire appropriate places for what you need at this moment in time . Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same, I don't have many friends and I have young children so I don't get out much. There are a lot of people on here that are more than happy to chat. There are those that think they are an exception but if that gets a bit too much I just hide my profile and I only get messages from the respectful guys

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