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"Are any other blokes of the same opinion? ... are single blokes frowned upon when going into a club? Or just very nervous (i.e myself) at attempting one alone... would love to go with someone to one.... Any advice is welcome :P " definitely not, we're a cuckold couple so they're positively encouraged | |||
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"As soon as you are through the door and see single blokes of all shapes and sizes inside you will not feel out of place. As people have said if people knowingly go to a night with single guys present then they have no real right to complain that they are there!!! If they behave like meerkats frantically tugging away under their towels while hopping after couples. Then that's cause to complain. Either way you won't know till you go. Take the plunge it will be ok brah!!! " | |||
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"Not to forget, there are the odd presumptuous couples as well, so, all those "packs" of single guys are in good company " | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation." I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!". Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder. | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!". Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder." I would have said hello. | |||
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"I been to few clubs and never again, wayyyyyyyy to expensive and as well you feel to awkward being there lol, its recession now as well . " But did you have a 6pack then? | |||
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"I been to few clubs and never again, wayyyyyyyy to expensive and as well you feel to awkward being there lol, its recession now as well . But did you have a 6pack then?" YEs I did, had a 6pack since I was 19 lol. | |||
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"I been to few clubs and never again, wayyyyyyyy to expensive and as well you feel to awkward being there lol, its recession now as well . But did you have a 6pack then?" Haha, now there's an idea - 'six pack night' !! | |||
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"I been to few clubs and never again, wayyyyyyyy to expensive and as well you feel to awkward being there lol, its recession now as well . But did you have a 6pack then? Haha, now there's an idea - 'six pack night' !! " YEs good idea, a swinger club should hold a 6pack night for the wimen lol. | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!". Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder. I would have said hello." I'd've said hello and squeezed your bum | |||
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"I would have said hello. I'd've said hello and squeezed your bum " Hello's and bum-squeezing, I would not shy away from | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation." i find that too not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in | |||
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"I have no problem of going to a club on my lonesome. A swingers club is like any other club. People will take a fancy to you and what to talk, and some may not. But what i do have a dislike of is the pack mentality of some single men. I do find it embarrassing. I know that i shouldn't. In a club a month ago, I'm in a room with a couple. Single man from the pack barges in stating 'i want to play ' They've paid there money so the must get s shag. We are our own worst enemy " I've seen that many a time, that's probably the clearest way to know someone that isn't a swinger, but rather, spends too much time in a brothel. | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!". Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder." sadly a lot of people in clubs think because you talk you want to shag them, I'm just the type of person who will talk to anyone whether i fancy them or not but most do think me talking means i want a shag | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!". Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder. sadly a lot of people in clubs think because you talk you want to shag them, I'm just the type of person who will talk to anyone whether i fancy them or not but most do think me talking means i want a shag " Most people accuse me of chatting away and them eventually thinking I DON'T want to play with them and simply being polite. I've simply learned to leave the choice to them to avoid any confusion. | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. i find that too not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in " I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently. | |||
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"Many people prefer playing with single guys (we play with single bi guys)so I wouldn't say they're frowned upon. The problem lies in clubs not taking care to balance the numbers resulting in a glut of single men all wanting the same thing. In those circumstances, couples and women can feel a little 'swamped' by crowds of single guys following them around in packs which isn't particularly pleasant. I can only advise guys not to be amongst such packs but to act independently and be sociable - it'll pay dividends " ...and respect the word "no!" I threatened to rip one guys arm off and beat him senseless with it if he touched me again! | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. i find that too not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently." i totally agree, that's why i always make an effort to talk, though sometimes i think is he not talking cause he's nervous or cause he's not interested, but i always say hi and smile to guys that catch my eye and see how they respond | |||
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"Many people prefer playing with single guys (we play with single bi guys)so I wouldn't say they're frowned upon. The problem lies in clubs not taking care to balance the numbers resulting in a glut of single men all wanting the same thing. In those circumstances, couples and women can feel a little 'swamped' by crowds of single guys following them around in packs which isn't particularly pleasant. I can only advise guys not to be amongst such packs but to act independently and be sociable - it'll pay dividends ...and respect the word "no!" I threatened to rip one guys arm off and beat him senseless with it if he touched me again! " You big softie. | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. i find that too not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently. i totally agree, that's why i always make an effort to talk, though sometimes i think is he not talking cause he's nervous or cause he's not interested, but i always say hi and smile to guys that catch my eye and see how they respond " I think it's difficult either way. I smile and speak to people but then I worry in case they think I'm interested when I'm just being friendly. Or when I actually am interested I worry in case they think I'm just being friendly. | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. i find that too not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently." Em excuse me, i have been told by a forum elder that i can come across aggressive on hear but I'm not. Lol I'm sorry if you saw a man walking around in circles for half an hour then came over to you. You'd tell him to piss off you weirdo. if a man came over to me and the first thing he said, i want to shag your wife, id knock him out. Ive seen men with no social skills saying that to couples. And as it been said some are use to ladys of the night.where conversing is the last thing on their mind | |||
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"Are any other blokes of the same opinion? ... are single blokes frowned upon when going into a club? Or just very nervous (i.e myself) at attempting one alone... would love to go with someone to one.... Any advice is welcome :P " hi,hey don't worry what others may think!..you get yourself off there..that's what advice someone once said to me & now I've never looked back!..I've had some amazing times alone..have fun( fem) | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!". Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder. sadly a lot of people in clubs think because you talk you want to shag them, I'm just the type of person who will talk to anyone whether i fancy them or not but most do think me talking means i want a shag Most people accuse me of chatting away and them eventually thinking I DON'T want to play with them and simply being polite. I've simply learned to leave the choice to them to avoid any confusion." | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. i find that too not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently. Em excuse me, i have been told by a forum elder that i can come across aggressive on hear but I'm not. Lol I'm sorry if you saw a man walking around in circles for half an hour then came over to you. You'd tell him to piss off you weirdo. if a man came over to me and the first thing he said, i want to shag your wife, id knock him out. Ive seen men with no social skills saying that to couples. And as it been said some are use to ladys of the night.where conversing is the last thing on their mind" I wouldn't tell anyone to piss off. I'd ask them nicely to stop following us. We have been in this situation before and there is no need for aggression at all. Friendly banter is all it takes. | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. i find that too not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently. Em excuse me, i have been told by a forum elder that i can come across aggressive on hear but I'm not. Lol I'm sorry if you saw a man walking around in circles for half an hour then came over to you. You'd tell him to piss off you weirdo. if a man came over to me and the first thing he said, i want to shag your wife, id knock him out. Ive seen men with no social skills saying that to couples. And as it been said some are use to ladys of the night.where conversing is the last thing on their mind" At a club sometime back there was this lady, nearly all the guys had their eye on her. Some approached to chat (including myself) and failed (small talk didn't work), others offered to buy her a drink,.. didn't work either. The eventual lucky guy was the one that walked right up to her, grabbed her stared her in the eye and said, balls of brass and all "I've got a condom". she dragged him off to a room barely announcing "Thank fuck for that!" So, how does a guy know how to play it, and balance that with "If ya don't ask ya don't get"? | |||
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"Are any other blokes of the same opinion? ... are single blokes frowned upon when going into a club? Or just very nervous (i.e myself) at attempting one alone... would love to go with someone to one.... Any advice is welcome :P " well we go to greedy girl nights at the our local club so not frowned upon , just a bit of adice like we tell all single men who get in touch, its just like a pub downstairs so come in have a drink and mix in and chat , a few sit dont say owt then follow upstairs , so just get in and chat in bar area find out whos into what . | |||
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation. I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. i find that too not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently. Em excuse me, i have been told by a forum elder that i can come across aggressive on hear but I'm not. Lol I'm sorry if you saw a man walking around in circles for half an hour then came over to you. You'd tell him to piss off you weirdo. if a man came over to me and the first thing he said, i want to shag your wife, id knock him out. Ive seen men with no social skills saying that to couples. And as it been said some are use to ladys of the night.where conversing is the last thing on their mind I wouldn't tell anyone to piss off. I'd ask them nicely to stop following us. We have been in this situation before and there is no need for aggression at all. Friendly banter is all it takes. " i have told people to piss off my rules are always be polite, manners coat nothing, its a sex club we are all there for the same and people you don't want to play with will make a move on you sometimes but a simple no thanks is all it takes, if they don't stop with polite no thanks i say a bit firmer ive already said no thanks once, if they still carry on after two warnings then i tell them to piss off, and i may add ive had to do this with a few women too | |||
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-( Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play So i hear you. 'what to do'" i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy | |||
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-( Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play So i hear you. 'what to do' i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy " Unless of course you tell him to piss off and he goes home crushed | |||
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-( Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play So i hear you. 'what to do' i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy Unless of course you tell him to piss off and he goes home crushed " harsh | |||
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-( Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play So i hear you. 'what to do' i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy " I'm good to go, me been in a club i havnt got a problem of not playing. My local one Club Lick it closed down now. I was always been challenged 'Do you play, because we never seem to see you play'. I enjoyed the social side of the scene. So yes i have seen the fun swingers and the ones who just want to dump there load | |||
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-( Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play So i hear you. 'what to do' i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy I'm good to go, me been in a club i havnt got a problem of not playing. My local one Club Lick it closed down now. I was always been challenged 'Do you play, because we never seem to see you play'. I enjoyed the social side of the scene. So yes i have seen the fun swingers and the ones who just want to dump there load" Club Lick's closed???? | |||
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"Then there's the added pitfall to be avoided: "Working the room". This is where a guy (seemingly) mingles and progresses to proposition a prospect, gets a "no" and moves on to the next,.. this is observed by one or more people and, to his detriment, on approaching now gets a "no" on principle." Ah your talking about Mr percentage man. He's in every walk of life | |||
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"Frowned upon?? No definitely not. I actively search for them. The ones that get frowned on are ones that follow people round. Put their cocks in people's faces without reading any signals to encourage this. Some guys don't help themselves at all and luckily I have met many that are fabulous x" these guys are known as Zombies! | |||
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-( Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play So i hear you. 'what to do' i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy I'm good to go, me been in a club i havnt got a problem of not playing. My local one Club Lick it closed down now. I was always been challenged 'Do you play, because we never seem to see you play'. I enjoyed the social side of the scene. So yes i have seen the fun swingers and the ones who just want to dump there load Club Lick's closed???? " about 2yrs now | |||
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-( Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play So i hear you. 'what to do' i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy I'm good to go, me been in a club i havnt got a problem of not playing. My local one Club Lick it closed down now. I was always been challenged 'Do you play, because we never seem to see you play'. I enjoyed the social side of the scene. So yes i have seen the fun swingers and the ones who just want to dump there load Club Lick's closed???? about 2yrs now" Gosh, have I really left it that long?? Wow, some good memories there.. | |||
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"I have only just started going to my local club and tbh am only interested in single blokes too. If you have social skills you should be absolutely fine. Good luck and have fun. " | |||
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-( Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play So i hear you. 'what to do' i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy I'm good to go, me been in a club i havnt got a problem of not playing. My local one Club Lick it closed down now. I was always been challenged 'Do you play, because we never seem to see you play'. I enjoyed the social side of the scene. So yes i have seen the fun swingers and the ones who just want to dump there load Club Lick's closed???? about 2yrs now Gosh, have I really left it that long?? Wow, some good memories there.." The authorities closed it down because of the Olympics, after petition to keep it open was rejected. But the massage parlour 10 doors the road is still open, says it all | |||
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