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By *lumsy colin OP   Man
over a year ago

basingstoke

Went to a house party onfriday took three hours before anything stared i know this is fairly normal but why when we all want the same thing are we all so reluctant to be the first ?

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

It's the sheep brigade scenario

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Went to a house party onfriday took three hours before anything stared i know this is fairly normal but why when we all want the same thing are we all so reluctant to be the first ?"
maybe the people there enjoyed socialising, it does happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Went to a house party onfriday took three hours before anything stared i know this is fairly normal but why when we all want the same thing are we all so reluctant to be the first ?"

Because people like to chat first get to know each other,at least get to know the name of the person they are going to play with

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By *lumsy colin OP   Man
over a year ago

basingstoke

the socialising bit was fun and enjoyable but just seems we waste so much time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive just spent the weekend at a couples house with my partner both nights nothing happenned till gone midnight and then the only person i had any sexual contact with was my partner, she had a little more but no full sex.

it was a great weekend! i would be mor ethn happy to go there again and spend the weekend

swinging is about more than sex with strangers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the socialising bit was fun and enjoyable but just seems we waste so much time "

Some people like to play straight away some like ourselves like to get to know others before we play,sorry but just because a man is there and we are at a swing party does not give him a right to get into my knickers straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the socialising bit was fun and enjoyable but just seems we waste so much time "

See the couple whos party you went to has verified you and your f/b am thinking if they see this post you will be lucky to get an invite back

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By *lumsy colin OP   Man
over a year ago

basingstoke


"the socialising bit was fun and enjoyable but just seems we waste so much time

Some people like to play straight away some like ourselves like to get to know others before we play,sorry but just because a man is there and we are at a swing party does not give him a right to get into my knickers straight away"
thats answered my question thanks everybody i may be a little miss understood by my posting wasnt saying why doesnt the action kick off instantly just wondering why everyone so reluctant to be first?

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By *lumsy colin OP   Man
over a year ago

basingstoke

and by the way i didnt wabt to be first either

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

They may be reluctant in case they're told to piss off

So they leave it to someone else to start the play

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By *lumsy colin OP   Man
over a year ago

basingstoke


"the socialising bit was fun and enjoyable but just seems we waste so much time

See the couple whos party you went to has verified you and your f/b am thinking if they see this post you will be lucky to get an invite back "
sorry jp do you think ia m complaining i am most definetly not it was a great night i was only asking why do you think we were all so reluctant to start

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By *mcouple1Couple
over a year ago

nr warrington


"ive just spent the weekend at a couples house with my partner both nights nothing happenned till gone midnight and then the only person i had any sexual contact with was my partner, she had a little more but no full sex.

it was a great weekend! i would be mor ethn happy to go there again and spend the weekend

swinging is about more than sex with strangers!"

couldn,t agree more xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the socialising bit was fun and enjoyable but just seems we waste so much time "

This gives the impression you're moaning a bit.

The impression I get - and apologies if I'm wrong - is after introductions and a drink people should have been indulging in sexual not social intercourse!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"the socialising bit was fun and enjoyable but just seems we waste so much time

See the couple whos party you went to has verified you and your f/b am thinking if they see this post you will be lucky to get an invite back "

that is honestly what I'd be thinking about that........

and as the others have said, it is more than just about the playing, I love to socialise before I do anything... at least get to know people a bit......

the same things tend to happen in clubs to an extent... you don't just go and play straight away, so why is this any different?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Went to a house party onfriday took three hours before anything stared i know this is fairly normal but why when we all want the same thing are we all so reluctant to be the first ?"

People go at their own pace. Its called "No pressure" and isn't that best for all?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I would be very surprised if you were to get a repeat invite to one of these parties to be honest.....

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"the socialising bit was fun and enjoyable but just seems we waste so much time "

Socialising... a waste of time nice one

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"and by the way i didnt wabt to be first either"

So..... why didn't you want to be first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Went to a house party onfriday took three hours before anything stared i know this is fairly normal but why when we all want the same thing are we all so reluctant to be the first ?

People go at their own pace. Its called "No pressure" and isn't that best for all?"

Yep thats right,i start playing when i want to,not because its wasting time or because someone thinks as soon as you get through the door then everyone should be playing...

OP if and a big if you get invited to another party people go at their own pace!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Blimey the guy only asked a question about the reluctance of people to start the play at parties

I did'nt see it as a moan at all

Im sure everyone has wondered why when they did finally start to play with someone they had'nt done it earlier in the evening

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

If I am hosting a party, I sometimes want to go and do some sexy stuff but as host I am also trying to make sure everyone has what they want drink and food wise so me playing often tends to only happen much later.

We are all different and if the party was with a load of people that know each other well then maybe thongs would happen faster but still I want to socialise first for a good amount of time.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I understood the question of .......are people wary of being the first to start as he knows it is fairly normal that people socialise before the sex.

We don't go to parties yet, and when we meet we socialise a little in the pub then all decide if we want to play still, if we do we go back to our place and I get dived on...........so no waiting at our house !!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Isn't the answer.... because they are all holding out hoping someone better turns up

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By *lumsy colin OP   Man
over a year ago

basingstoke

Can i thank the last few posters who seem 2 understand my point i do Get the social side of swinging And enjoy it and would have been Happy if thats what happened i meant to just ask why dont people get it started thats all

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Can i thank the last few posters who seem 2 understand my point i do Get the social side of swinging And enjoy it and would have been Happy if thats what happened i meant to just ask why dont people get it started thats all "

Why didn't you?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

The first party we ever attended I had hardly got my coat off and had a sip of my drink before I was playing

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Can i thank the last few posters who seem 2 understand my point i do Get the social side of swinging And enjoy it and would have been Happy if thats what happened i meant to just ask why dont people get it started thats all "

Maybe they were all thinking the same thing

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By *lumsy colin OP   Man
over a year ago

basingstoke


"Can i thank the last few posters who seem 2 understand my point i do Get the social side of swinging And enjoy it and would have been Happy if thats what happened i meant to just ask why dont people get it started thats all

Why didn't you?"
good question i went along with a very very nervous 1st timer and as a single guy didnt think i had right 2 dive on any of the other gotta say this gorgeous girls there and knew that my f/b was way to nervous for me and her to start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Went to a house party onfriday took three hours before anything stared i know this is fairly normal but why when we all want the same thing are we all so reluctant to be the first ?"

That's my standard warm up time, lol....takes me that long to get a stiffy

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Can i thank the last few posters who seem 2 understand my point i do Get the social side of swinging And enjoy it and would have been Happy if thats what happened i meant to just ask why dont people get it started thats all

Why didn't you? good question i went along with a very very nervous 1st timer and as a single guy didnt think i had right 2 dive on any of the other gotta say this gorgeous girls there and knew that my f/b was way to nervous for me and her to start "

There ya go then... it wasn't wasting time afterall... as I am sure you were being considerate of your partner (for the evening) and going at her pace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the socialising bit was fun and enjoyable but just seems we waste so much time "

Seems like you must have been in a bit of a rush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I attended the party with Colin and have to say you guys have got him wrong. He wasn't in a rush at all. He is one of the more considerate people on this site in my opinion.

Think he worded it a bit wrong but the hole has been dug now.....Ooops!!

That's what you get for being Clumsy Colin!!!

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

We only attend one couples party's nowadays and it is organised really well. Most play takes place downstairs in a large lounge, sometimes spreads into the adjoining dining room!

Main thing is guests are told that no play will happen before 10-30, time before that is for getting to know everyone.

At 10-30 any chairs that have been moved around are carried into the dining room and the lounge floor covered in lots of duvets. That gives the lounge chairs and sofa's and all the play for use.

Then its down to the guests, they can continue socialising in the dining room or outside in this weather. Or start playing in the lounge. It doesn't take long to get most people involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tough on moans.

Tough on anything that remotely appears like a moan.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Tough on moans.

Tough on anything that remotely appears like a moan. "

Well you have got to try not to be then!

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

It's OK Colin, we knew what you meant!

We have never been able to understand why swinging has to start so late in the evening. Looking at some cams on another site (yes there are one or two out there lol) it never ceases to amaze us how many people sit on cam just chatting in the room while their guests look on!

By the time things start up, we are knackered with all the waiting! I think we can gauge people pretty well in an hour, but it is difficult to change the culture of "this is naughty so we do it under cover of night". That is why we love meeting our playmates in the afternoon if possible, chatting and having a meal and then starting slow and sensous..

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"By the time things start up, we are knackered with all the waiting! "

Do they make you do some sort of circuit training while you wait????

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"By the time things start up, we are knackered with all the waiting!

Do they make you do some sort of circuit training while you wait????"

Having a meet is not just arriving on the doorstep! All the normal stuff for the day has to be done and then the getting ready and travelling. If we arrive at 8pm and don't play till 12, that is another four hours! All the "bits" are not so fresh and just sitting around, usually drinking is draining if you are nervous...

Funny thing is that it happens even if all parties are already friends! Actually, one of our favourite couples were very good, playtime started early and lasted till we all dropped. Pity we only mates now....

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By *ity Slickers PartiesCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Brighton & Hove

You should have gone to City Slickers Parties!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Having a meet is not just arriving on the doorstep!"

No wonder I keep getting asked to leave.

I thought it was my dyslexia sending me to the wrong streets...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the socialising bit was fun and enjoyable but just seems we waste so much time

Some people like to play straight away some like ourselves like to get to know others before we play,sorry but just because a man is there and we are at a swing party does not give him a right to get into my knickers straight away"

totaly agree socialising is a big part of this scene

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