FabSwingers.com forum: first time at a club...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hey guys, I will be attending my first club night this month, either at chams or atlantis. I'm a single guy and just looking for any advice that people can throw at me.

from what I've gleaned so far, is pretty much common sence stuff, don't go around in a 'pack' of men, and be polite.

I've been to fetish clubs before as a couple, but I thought I'd like to try a swingers club as a singleton.

so a couple of questions-

-is it generally better to approach or be approached as a single gent?

- when approaching is it best just to come out with 'do you want to play?' after intial introductions or do people normally have a bit of a chat first?

matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say wait to be invited too many single guys go to clubs expecting to join couples and start grabbing at the woman no need for it good luck xxx

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

like everything in life if your polite patient, someone will come to you, just don't be pushy and remember the golden rule in all clubs, NO means NO not maybe or anything else,

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"hey guys, I will be attending my first club night this month, either at chams or atlantis. I'm a single guy and just looking for any advice that people can throw at me.

from what I've gleaned so far, is pretty much common sence stuff, don't go around in a 'pack' of men, and be polite.

I've been to fetish clubs before as a couple, but I thought I'd like to try a swingers club as a singleton.

so a couple of questions-

-is it generally better to approach or be approached as a single gent?

- when approaching is it best just to come out with 'do you want to play?' after intial introductions or do people normally have a bit of a chat first?

matt

whichever you feel most comfortable with doing....

I just chat to people for england so I'll just natter with anyone.... especially those sitting in the corner (they tend to be the new ones, and we all use to be new once) I think as well it is great introducing them to groups so they don't feel left out...

as for the asking to play bit.... that is a lot more tricky...

all I can say is play that bit by ear!

I am worlds worst reader of sign language so i am the last person to ask.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Funny you should say that, I went to a fetish night at a swingers club with my ex once. A lot of the single guys were so disrespectful, grabbing at my girlfriend and putting condoms on ready wwithout even saying hello first.

Put us both off for ages.

Being push really isn't my style anyway, I'm far too shy for that sort of thing.

thanks for the advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

cheers for the advice dude, much appreciated.

"hey guys, I will be attending my first club night this month, either at chams or atlantis. I'm a single guy and just looking for any advice that people can throw at me.

from what I've gleaned so far, is pretty much common sence stuff, don't go around in a 'pack' of men, and be polite.

I've been to fetish clubs before as a couple, but I thought I'd like to try a swingers club as a singleton.

so a couple of questions-

-is it generally better to approach or be approached as a single gent?

- when approaching is it best just to come out with 'do you want to play?' after intial introductions or do people normally have a bit of a chat first?

matt

whichever you feel most comfortable with doing....

as for the asking to play bit.... that is a lot more tricky...

all I can say is play that bit by ear!

I am worlds worst reader of sign language so i am the last person to ask....."

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

Do your research first!!!!

It appears there are some “Good” clubs and some that have a question mark over them, your first club experience could go either way i.e. a fantastic night, or be a total disaster, you don't want to be left with the feeling it was a disaster thus putting you of future club visits, which is why research is so important.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do your research first!!!!

Good luck "

yeah, been looking at chams and Atlantis, Atlantis seems a bit more hit and miss than chams, which I haven't read a bad review of yet.

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By *lscmnmytngMan
over a year ago

J13 of the M5

I havent been to Atlantis but did attend a BBW event at Chams in Darlaston, I went as a single male and posted a review on the morning after the night before. I think it answers all of your questions except play. However if a good looking lady comes and sits close to you, thats a sign that she might just be approacahble

Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although both clubs are great

You would be better suited to Chams

Atlantis is limited with its single male numbers xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Although both clubs are great

You would be better suited to Chams

Atlantis is limited with its single male numbers xx

wouldn't the small number of single gents in atlantis work to my advantage? less 'competition'?

anyway, thanks for the advice guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although both clubs are great

You would be better suited to Chams

Atlantis is limited with its single male numbers xx

wouldn't the small number of single gents in atlantis work to my advantage? less 'competition'?

anyway, thanks for the advice guys."

Not really as there are fewer single fems at atlantis than chams xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Although both clubs are great

You would be better suited to Chams

Atlantis is limited with its single male numbers xx

wouldn't the small number of single gents in atlantis work to my advantage? less 'competition'?

anyway, thanks for the advice guys.

Not really as there are fewer single fems at atlantis than chams xx"

ah I see, right then. Chams it is!

Should be going on the 3rd of july all being well

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

Have you checked with Chams as to whether they still have a waiting list for single guys?

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By *he BananamanMan
over a year ago

WORCESTERSHIRE

if you go to chams just be yourself and get chatting to people,make friends first and foremost but dont expect to be invited in to sessions straight away!.

matthew richards who i chatted to at the bbw toga party just took in all the atmosphere and introduced himself to people and made friends.

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By *lscmnmytngMan
over a year ago

J13 of the M5

Did someone mention my name

Hi Fred.

Sadly Can't identify you from your pics but I am glad you remembered me and I am eager to chat to as many people as possible who went to the event. Going to the next one in August and would like to pick up where I left off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 3rd is a saturday and its couples only on a saturday night and on the friday 2nd july my bday its coffee and cream night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The 3rd is a saturday and its couples only on a saturday night and on the friday 2nd july my bday its coffee and cream night."

ta for pointing that out, this is what I get for replying to threads past my bed time :P

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you checked with Chams as to whether they still have a waiting list for single guys?"

I called them up and they asked me to fill in an application form online, just waiting to hear back from them.

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By *he BananamanMan
over a year ago

WORCESTERSHIRE

i asked in person 2 months ago at the club but was told it was a long waiting list and that they were not putting any more on the list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The waiting list is supposed to be months long I think.

Might be worth double checking with them.

Good luck with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i asked in person 2 months ago at the club but was told it was a long waiting list and that they were not putting any more on the list."

must be my nautral charm :P

Just had an email through from Lynne asking me to bring down my 2 forms of ID.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we went to Chams for the first time on friday (11th june)

And i have to say TY to the Single guys who apporcahed us

they were all polite and asked before joining in . we felt as though we still had control

there were some single guys who seemed to be hunting in packs but we must have been lucjy to encounter some gentlemen

I know Emma apreeciated it lol

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