FabSwingers.com forum: Tantric/men who don't need to cum during sex

By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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Has anyone dabbled in tantric sex?

It's something I have always been very curious about.

I have a playmate that feels that he really doesn't need to cum during our encounters. He very much focuses on pleasing me and the pleasures of the moment and then tails it off gently...

It's really very nice and a little different to anything I have experienced.

He is not trying to not cum, it's just that although he wants me to orgasm he doesn't feel the need too and is not frustrated at all afterwards.

This sounds like a good person to try some tantric ideas with.... Although neither of us have experienced that yet.

I will google and would love to hear your views and experiences.

Lola x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although it would be nice to meet a man who had my pleasure in mind i think i would also like him to cum too, i don't think I'd enjoy a session where it was only about me, if he finished without me giving anything back id would leave feeling I'd not been at my best sexually

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

I (D) find that if I am concentrating on my partner then I have no desire to orgasm as I am too lost in the pleasure of their pleasure.

I have to actively "be selfish" and turn my concentration inwards, on to my pleasure to reach orgasm.

It is not a problem other than when I forget to be selfish, apparently I am supposed to from time to time.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes as nice as it is for us to cum. Sometimes we just love to hear women cum. The heavy breathing, the moans, the arching of the back, the digging of the nails, the tug on the bed sheets, the opening of the eyes, biting of the lips and the final kiss.

...i can speak for myself. I love it! Hearing her scream was enough.

It doesn't always have to be both ways. Sometimes we like to please and at other times we like to tease and be pleased.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use tantric methods to hold off my orgasm and to stay hard after but always Cum!

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By *lan43sumMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Tantric works for me. Its a great way to get mentally lost in the sensations without being taken beyond them by orgasm.

Truthfully I've only dabbled so far with just one lady. Like most things it would be better to have an experienced instructress on hand to teach the preparation and indulgence of the tantric methods.

Not sure if couples do tantric instead of or as well as normal sex. In any case fulfillment is in the mind more than in the body isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just focus on pleasing the lady because I hardly cum anyways even off bjs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it, I really enjoy feeling, seeing and tasting a woman's pleasure so I hold back from orgasm as much as I can if I can keep her at the peak of pleasure. However, saying that sometimes I just can't stop myself! That's why we were born with tongues

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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In the moment we are pleasing each other, gently touching and sometimes not so gently... And I am very active too.. I'm giving as well as recieving, it's just that he doesn't need to cum... He's hard and lost in the moment with me, it just isn't about the orgasm it's about the sensations... Orgasm just isn't the goal it's the pleasure.

It's really unusual.

It took me back to realise he really wasn't bothered or frustrated by not coming.

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i do like cumming .. lets face it who doesnt .. but if i didnt cum .. but my partner did i would still feel happy for her .. and satisfied

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By *i ExperimentMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

Get my biggest kick out of seeing a partner really, deeply enjoying herself. Love long foreplay & acres of oral. As a few guys have mentioned already, if a guy focusses 'too much' on his partner, you can get to the point where you just dont need to cum (or jst haven't got the energy!). The last lady I spent time with in a club thought it was her fault but had to point out we had been in the room most of the night & I had been breathing through my ears most of the time.

Not sure if thsi classes as tantric

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By *eggaeloverMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I also focus on my partners pleasure and try to delay my orgasm, doesn't always work, sometimes I find it hard to come after also but always like to come. As a yoga teacher and student all my life I believe in the ecstatic and life-affirming value of sexuality and enjoy that every weekend with music and dancing and getting off with people all night in a free and open way. I believe that this is what it is really about, not going to a class with a 'Tantric guru' and learning sensual massage techniques and sitting cross-legged with your partner 'engaging your chakras' etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely get more pleasure from seeing my partner cumming than I get from cumming myself. To be fair, I don't even think that cumming is actually the moment when I get the more pleasure...

I'm glad I'm not the only one: I always thought I was strange

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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It's definitely something I have never experienced before. We have really open communication so I feel free to discuss the in's and outs of it... He can cum if he wants too, although really that's more like if I want him too.

He is also stays hard for hours and if he does cum needs a little while to recharge, so prefers to take breaks and cum right at the end of our intimate time together if at all.

I'm researching some tantric methods to being to this as I have never really understood what that was about till now and this does seem like the perfect opportunity to learn something new and see what it brings to our sexual smorgasbord!

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

One significant element of it for us is the separation between orgasm and ejaculation.

I find that the latter is a bit of a end stop and whatever my mental state the body goes into a state that is not conducive to further play.

But in the right circumstances it is possible to achieve an orgasmic state and to dip in and out of it. Something women are far more likely to be able to achieve.

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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"One significant element of it for us is the separation between orgasm and ejaculation.

I find that the latter is a bit of a end stop and whatever my mental state the body goes into a state that is not conducive to further play.

But in the right circumstances it is possible to achieve an orgasmic state and to dip in and out of it. Something women are far more likely to be able to achieve.

Wow....

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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"One significant element of it for us is the separation between orgasm and ejaculation.

I find that the latter is a bit of a end stop and whatever my mental state the body goes into a state that is not conducive to further play.

But in the right circumstances it is possible to achieve an orgasmic state and to dip in and out of it. Something women are far more likely to be able to achieve.

Wow....do you have any tips for me or websites that can help me achieve this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont like it when it lasts a long time i enjoy it more if he cums quite quickly.

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

Have you tried meter reader sex? That's where you stay in all day, but nobody comes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried meter reader sex? That's where you stay in all day, but nobody comes"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I, Mark, agree... A man doesn't need to cum .. I love to see the woman enjoying herself but when it happens together it's amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really enjoy seeing, hearing and feeling my partner having orgasms... I use Tantric methods to stop myself cumming quite often for longer love making sessions and am quite satisfied as long she has had fun... using these methods I can control when I cum... I love it when we both cum at same time.. theres nothing more erotic than when we climax together...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had some meets where I've really enjoyed myself but struggled to cum and the lady has almost insisted that I do, feeling it is some kind of comment on her skills if I don't ! I'm genuinely not bothered!

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

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I love orgasms not bothered about evacuation x sadly many woman insist on a sticky end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest nothing turns me on more than making a woman cum. I can't imagine the pointless level of self control I'd need to stop me from cumming because of it. I mean...I can see why I might want to roll on and give the woman I'm enjoying more orgasms...and try and think about baked beans on toast when she cums...just cause there's more courses to the meal...but I really can't see the point of holding it in on that final one.

Nothing, absolutely nothing, more sexy and beautiful than cumming with someone at the same time and just holding each other as we orgasm together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tantric works for me. Its a great way to get mentally lost in the sensations without being taken beyond them by orgasm.

Truthfully I've only dabbled so far with just one lady. Like most things it would be better to have an experienced instructress on hand to teach the preparation and indulgence of the tantric methods.

Not sure if couples do tantric instead of or as well as normal sex. In any case fulfillment is in the mind more than in the body isn't it?"

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

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I'd advise thinking about baked beans is exactly the wrong strategy x it's about understanding your body, arousal breathing and muscle control x very few humans practice their breathing and doing so can unlock physical well being and pleasures xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One significant element of it for us is the separation between orgasm and ejaculation.

I find that the latter is a bit of a end stop and whatever my mental state the body goes into a state that is not conducive to further play.

But in the right circumstances it is possible to achieve an orgasmic state and to dip in and out of it. Something women are far more likely to be able to achieve.

I think that the male ejaculation creates a nice ebb and flow to a love making session. For some men it's "game over"...but for a lot of guys, like myself, it only heralds a period of down time...of cuddling and kissing and frolicking...before that feeling wells up again and it's "game on" again...and this time we'll take our time shall we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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