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By *D40 OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

What's the rules about the male of a supposed couple to message another couple wanting to meet but on his own?

How do you approach someone who sends you messages wanting to meet when you clearly don't want to meet singles and have set up filters so they can't message you?

Just tell him to 'do one' or what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know the full story to this so I can't really comment on your particular situation...but I can comment on ours

Mrs Passion has been super duper busy looking after our new little kid so, in order to get the ball rolling, I offered to several couples that I could come out and meet with them, just to socialise and see if we hit it off enough to plan another meet further down the line with my Mrs. I think some couples probably felt I was just messing them around...when in fact this is the god honest truth of our situation at the mo. Those who I actually met, however, we've had a good laugh but nothing has come from it yet...of course...we're not ready yet.

So this is a perfectly innocent situation where the male from a couple is happy to meet up for a social just to help things move forward. Perhaps this is all that's happening with you? Dunno

Having said that I've since decided not to bother doing this as most couples aren't really into it...so even though I did get a few meets out of it...I don't think it really worked for us. Nothing can really replace both people being equally involved

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Say no thanks if it isn't what you want or ignore.

Funnily enough I answered a thread today saying maybe it best for men playing alone to start a new profile as people might not be amused that they are getting round filters.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What's the rules about the male of a supposed couple to message another couple wanting to meet but on his own?

How do you approach someone who sends you messages wanting to meet when you clearly don't want to meet singles and have set up filters so they can't message you?

Just tell him to 'do one' or what?"

We block and delete in this instance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have read the second post....and accept the truth of it. Generally tho it is well likely to be single blokes with fake profiles. Sadly too many of those, an increasing number, seem to be appearing on the site, and certainly popping up in comments on the forums.

Generally couples don't do the meet alone thing. I know a few do before anyone jumps on that.

Either way....if not something you do, and with insufficient evidence to report, the easy option is to block. Or ask for a number to speak to the female half....and watch them run for the hills!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the rules about the male of a supposed couple to message another couple wanting to meet but on his own?

How do you approach someone who sends you messages wanting to meet when you clearly don't want to meet singles and have set up filters so they can't message you?

Just tell him to 'do one' or what?"

If you're not looking for single men then it's not really an issue is it? The male half of a couple without his female partner is to all intents and purposes a single man and just using his couple status to get round your filters...bit cheeky now isn't it? What do you really feel you want to do?

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By *D40 OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"What's the rules about the male of a supposed couple to message another couple wanting to meet but on his own?

How do you approach someone who sends you messages wanting to meet when you clearly don't want to meet singles and have set up filters so they can't message you?

Just tell him to 'do one' or what?

To tell him he's a cheeky f***er & to go make a single profile (that's my polite response)

Julie

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What's the rules about the male of a supposed couple to message another couple wanting to meet but on his own?

How do you approach someone who sends you messages wanting to meet when you clearly don't want to meet singles and have set up filters so they can't message you?

Just tell him to 'do one' or what?

To tell him he's a cheeky f***er & to go make a single profile (that's my polite response)

Julie"

He wouldn't take any notice and move on to the next person hoping they were more gullible than you. The things some men expect people to fall for!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I'm looking for single men, but after a run of 'interesting' experiences with couples and halves of couples I state on my profile that I don't meet attached men even when playing with permission.

When I get interest from halves of couples and draw their attention to that part of my profile I get one of two responses: they either try to persuade/beg/pester me or they give me abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would it be ok to tell someone to f*** off? People get irate when other people are rude, yet do it themselves..... Weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does the woman exist? Doubtful! I'd delete and block. No shortage of genuine couples on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does the woman exist? Doubtful! I'd delete and block. No shortage of genuine couples on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had tons of these recently if there not both meeting it should go on a singles couple. We report then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually know a couple who sometimes work like this. So I think it's slightly unfair to assume that it's always a man pretending to be single. On our profile it's usually me (the man) who messages in the past I've been accused of being single even though I got my partner to chat to them on the phone too. I think a short message back saying sorry we only meet couples only not single guys and leave it.

I think deleting, reporting and blocking without any response very rude , and I'm sure people with couple profiles wouldn't like it done to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually know a couple who sometimes work like this. So I think it's slightly unfair to assume that it's always a man pretending to be single. On our profile it's usually me (the man) who messages in the past I've been accused of being single even though I got my partner to chat to them on the phone too. I think a short message back saying sorry we only meet couples only not single guys and leave it.

I think deleting, reporting and blocking without any response very rude , and I'm sure people with couple profiles wouldn't like it done to them. "

So let's get this straight, we block single men from messaging us, a single man uses a couples profile to get round filters and we're rude if we block and delete him without a polite email. Seriously?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block, report and delete in that order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Say no thanks if it isn't what you want or ignore.

Funnily enough I answered a thread today saying maybe it best for men playing alone to start a new profile as people might not be amused that they are getting round filters.

honesty and transparency is always better than getting round filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the rules about the male of a supposed couple to message another couple wanting to meet but on his own?

How do you approach someone who sends you messages wanting to meet when you clearly don't want to meet singles and have set up filters so they can't message you?

Just tell him to 'do one' or what?"

If you don't like them you block them it doesn't get any simpler than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not saying it is right. Just because a guy contacts someone from a couple profile it isn't always sinister. I agree that should couples want to play separate they should set up a single profile (I have one).

Lastly think of this if the lady of a couple asked to play alone would you block and report then??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it best for men playing alone to start a new profile"

It's not exactly hard. Same goes for reverse, singles scouting for threesomes with their partners.

"after a run of 'interesting' experiences with couples and halves of couples"

Now I'm so curious to know what!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not saying it is right. Just because a guy contacts someone from a couple profile it isn't always sinister. I agree that should couples want to play separate they should set up a single profile (I have one).

Lastly think of this if the lady of a couple asked to play alone would you block and report then??"

If they contacted us from a couples profile yes we would.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"What's the rules about the male of a supposed couple to message another couple wanting to meet but on his own?

How do you approach someone who sends you messages wanting to meet when you clearly don't want to meet singles and have set up filters so they can't message you?

Just tell him to 'do one' or what?"

Depending on the message content we would either reply back with a simple no thanks message. Or delete and block....

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I think deleting, reporting and blocking without any response very rude , and I'm sure people with couple profiles wouldn't like it done to them. "

I agree that it's not always a single man trying his luck with a couples profile, some people do meet like this. However if a couple have the single male block on and state they are only looking for couples, why would a male (playing on his own) contact them in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lastly think of this if the lady of a couple asked to play alone would you block and report then??

If they contacted us from a couples profile yes we would.

That's fair enough. Although there are plenty of others with double standards to this. We wouldn't meet just a guy from a couple as we only play as a couple. Same goes in clubs too, I've noticed the trend of (s)he can play I can't I don't personally like that either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think deleting, reporting and blocking without any response very rude , and I'm sure people with couple profiles wouldn't like it done to them.

Oh now I do get annoyed with people who don't read a profile. When I was a single guy if the profile said no singles I wouldn't even bother. So why try using a couple profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say if they're just looking to meet for a social and they're happy for you to talk to their partner on the phone to verify their existence...then they're probably a real couple trying to juggle things to make something happen. This is what we were doing at one point

If they're looking to meet for actual play, without their partner...or without even having a partner...then they're cheeky fuckers and we'd probably block them.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

If I chat to a profile, I expect to meet what is described... whether thats single fem, single fella or a couple...

I take the "does what it says on the tin" approach. Anything outwith that is a no ta.

Don't always block or report - depends on exactly whats been said in PM.

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

delete and block ... he's bound to bother you again otherwise

however if you like the look of his female partner then tell him you're interested in two of them together only!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think deleting, reporting and blocking without any response very rude , and I'm sure people with couple profiles wouldn't like it done to them. "

We've been blocked and deleted it doesn't upset us in the slightest it's how some people manage their messages and neither of us really has any issue with a stranger on the net not wanting to have any further contact. Now if it was a personal friend we'd known for years then we would be upset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he appeals to you ask to meet them

both for a social...s them out..

Sauce x

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By *D40 OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Why would it be ok to tell someone to f*** off? People get irate when other people are rude, yet do it themselves..... Weird.

I never said it would be okay, that's why i haven't done it. Unless they were a real stalker pest then there's no need to stoop so low.

Anyone ignoring people is far more annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would it be ok to tell someone to f*** off? People get irate when other people are rude, yet do it themselves..... Weird.

I never said it would be okay, that's why i haven't done it. Unless they were a real stalker pest then there's no need to stoop so low.

Anyone ignoring people is far more annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would it be ok to tell someone to f*** off? People get irate when other people are rude, yet do it themselves..... Weird.

I never said it would be okay, that's why i haven't done it. Unless they were a real stalker pest then there's no need to stoop so low.

Anyone ignoring people is far more annoying

Fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally if I was meeting couples I'd want to meet both, don't see the point in meeting one half of a couple as it means a second social to meet the wife, total waste of time tell him to bugger off

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

If you don't fancy just ignore / delete, block if you want. Why be so rude as to tell them to fuck off? I'm a single bloke but get lots of messages / winks from men I have no interest in. I just say thanks but no thanks, ignore, sometimes block, depends on the thought they've put into the message they've sent.

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