FabSwingers.com forum: would single men on here,join as a couple

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you join up as a couple if you had a partner and let men visit and fuck her?

i know i would,it would go against everything about been on here if i wouldn't allow it myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you join up as a couple if you had a partner and let men visit and fuck her?

i know i would,it would go against everything about been on here if i wouldn't allow it myself."

Many single guys admit to not sharing your _iew. That's the difference between a swinger and a fucker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course some would, and I think they would work it well, after being a single male, they may enjoy looking after his lady.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Would you join up as a couple if you had a partner and let men visit and fuck her?

i know i would,it would go against everything about been on here if i wouldn't allow it myself."

I dislike any reference to one partner "allowing" their significant other to play (it's usually guys referring to letting their woman be fucked by others but not always). I wouldn't have a couples profile (or indeed any sort of relationship) with anyone if there was a whiff of that attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many single guys admit to not sharing your _iew. That's the difference between a swinger and a fucker.

True words kingandcourtesan.

Thing is, this is a swinger's site, not a fucker's site is it?

Kind of ties in with something else. The number of single guys who contact us asking us to swap is crazy. Thing is, when we ask them what they have to swap seeing that they are single, we get no reply.. funny that.

From what we have experienced, while couples see this as a swinging site, there are a number of single guys who seem to think it is 'free fuck' site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be more than happy to share my lady if I had one. As long as we both wanted it. Don't think it would work if one didn't.

NOW THE HARD PART...... Finding a women that wants to swing.

It's not one of the first questions one would ask when meeting someone not related to this site or swinging. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be more than happy to share my lady if I had one. As long as we both wanted it. Don't think it would work if one didn't.

NOW THE HARD PART...... Finding a women that wants to swing.

It's not one of the first questions one would ask when meeting someone not related to this site or swinging. Lol

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you have to have the same wants

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be more than happy to share my lady if I had one. As long as we both wanted it. Don't think it would work if one didn't.

NOW THE HARD PART...... Finding a women that wants to swing.

It's not one of the first questions one would ask when meeting someone not related to this site or swinging. Lol

You might find that someone here

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

Wouldn't have a problem with that at all, as long as it goes both ways.

Was seeing someone and we visited clubs, but it was a bit one way, she was quite jealous when I spoke to females, so you can imagine the end result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Legally we are single but we became a couple long before we joined this site and yes i get great enjoyment from watching Nette getting pleasure from another man, If heaven forbid we were no longer together i dont think i would remain here or visit clubs on my own.

Gimp

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By *orn_To_PerformCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I'd be more than happy to share my lady if I had one. As long as we both wanted it. Don't think it would work if one didn't.

NOW THE HARD PART...... Finding a women that wants to swing.

It's not one of the first questions one would ask when meeting someone not related to this site or swinging. Lol

It was one of the first things MrB ever asked before we were a proper couple and I said YES PLEASE! Lol - but I do realise I was probably in the minority

MrsB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm not a man but If I was a couple I wouldn't swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a common theme for men, even in the vanilla world.

Mention mmf and they recoil in horror, mention ffm and their eyes light up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my ex's(from here), didnt want me shagging other women..but would like getting fucked off other men.(and I dont mean playing as singles lol)

hmmm...

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

As a single fem I've met a few who said they wouldn't share if they had a partner! Selfish selfish selfish! I'd love to be part of a couple but only as long as he's happy to swing...doesn't look like that's going to happen

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

"Thats a common theme for men, even in the vanilla world.

Mention mmf and they recoil in horror, mention ffm and their eyes light up."

Very true!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm meeting a couple next week - my first 3 some.

Looking forward to it.

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By *leasuresharerMan
over a year ago

southampton

Currently single and enjoying that atm (just having some total down time after hectic last few years) but have been in swinging couples before and always shared

I have a fwb who I'll be clubbing with when diaries work

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if a partner wanted to, then yes.

it ain't ever going to happen though.

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By *tarlight7365Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Lots of double standards i think!!!

What's good for the goose is good for the gender.

Never expect someone to do what you wouldn't do yourself

all springs to mind

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By *tarlight7365Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"Lots of double standards i think!!!

What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Never expect someone to do what you wouldn't do yourself

all springs to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

S.T.O.R.M.

Absolutely spot on.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"if a partner wanted to, then yes.

it ain't ever going to happen though.

not sure if my comment falls into your double standards, I best clarify. I would swing if I had a partner and they wanted to.

the 'it's never going to happen though' is because I am never going to have a partner

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By *tarlight7365Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"if a partner wanted to, then yes.

it ain't ever going to happen though.

not sure if my comment falls into your double standards, I best clarify. I would swing if I had a partner and they wanted to.

the 'it's never going to happen though'

is because I am never going to have a partner

i get what your saying and you are more than willing to share if you had a partner, that's alot more then many of the singles on here that are just out for them selfs and what they what....

It make me laugh how they want to fuck are partners but wouldn't let anybody fuck there's

Mr storm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my partner "let" another man fuck me I would "let" him fuck him too

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By *tarlight7365Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"If my partner "let" another man fuck me I would "let" him fuck him too

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lol very good

share and share alike i say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we met via this ste and fell in love, we enjoy sharing each other and swinging as a couple is a lot more fun.

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By *inmaxMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Thats a common theme for men, even in the vanilla world.

Mention mmf and they recoil in horror, mention ffm and their eyes light up."

I would love to find a partner who would swing with me....particularly to have many mmf's! I would love to see any partner of mine truly enjoy herself and be very satisfied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't claim to be a swinger cos if I was in a loving relationship I wouldn't like to see the person I loved touched by someone else, nor would I want to touch someone else.

I know many people find it a turn on; it just wouldn't be for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So odin8

You are on here hoping that others will behave in a way that you wouldn't?

We admire your honesty and everyone else's who has admitted exactly the same as you?

But do you not then find it a little hypocritical?

Curious about how you see it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you join up as a couple if you had a partner and let men visit and fuck her?

i know i would,it would go against everything about been on here if i wouldn't allow it myself."

I think the flaw in threads like this is that they're ideological, as well as obviously works of fantasy

It's a bit like saying...if I had a partner I'd let him/her go sailing. All very sweet and interesting...but what if the partner didn't want to go sailing...and what if they didn't want you to go sailing either?

Couples only swing because it becomes something important to one or other or, ideally, both of them. They don't swing because they feel they ought to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So odin8

You are on here hoping that others will behave in a way that you wouldn't?

We admire your honesty and everyone else's who has admitted exactly the same as you?

But do you not then find it a little hypocritical?

Curious about how you see it?"

I think the easy thing is to dismiss it as hypocritical. I think the whole nature of this community is that it is permissive; people who enjoy sharing their partners or sharing with their partners derive enjoyment from that so good luck to them; they share because it makes them feel good. Sharing would not make me feel good, so I would choose not to. I can only offer what I have to offer, and if ladies or couples seek to take me up on it then super.

I don't feel it's hypocritical, I just think I'm keen on a monogamous relationship and couldn't separate the sexual act from the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't feel it's hypocritical, I just think I'm keen on a monogamous relationship and couldn't separate the sexual act from the relationship."

Are you another one of these singles who would leave a 10 year long monogamous relationship just because your partner suggested having a threesome?

Faithful in words...but completely unable to follow it through when you get to the difficult stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you another one of these singles who would leave a 10 year long monogamous relationship just because your partner suggested having a threesome?

Faithful in words...but completely unable to follow it through when you get to the difficult stuff

You've lost me? Not sure when that happened.....

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

I have previously been a member on another site with my ex. I was encouraging her to experiment when and how she wanted to as I enjoyed her having pleasurable experiences. We had a number of full swing MFM experiences, one couple we saw a few times.

My ideal situation would be to find a woman wanting a relationship, who accepted and enjoyed my bisexuality and wanted to swing. Unfortunately I can't see it happening but the fantasy is nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you another one of these singles who would leave a 10 year long monogamous relationship just because your partner suggested having a threesome?

Faithful in words...but completely unable to follow it through when you get to the difficult stuff

You've lost me? Not sure when that happened....."

I take it by your reply that you would be happy to have a threesome with your partner if, after 10 years of being together, she suggested it to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy wanting to share other people's wives, yet admitting he wouldn't share his own.

Would that not be like a guy going to the pub with his mates, they all buy a round and he is happy to drink their beer, yet he refuses to buy a round himself?

To be honest, that is how we see it.

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Legally we are single but we became a couple long before we joined this site and yes i get great enjoyment from watching Nette getting pleasure from another man, If heaven forbid we were no longer together i dont think i would remain here or visit clubs on my own.

Gimp"

Dear Gimp, i enjoy the swinging scene, but like you i get a lot of pleasure watching Mr Dolph give/receive pleasure. I don't know if i'd follow this lifestyle without him in my life either....

Mrs Dolph x

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I know its addresses to single men...

But as a woman, yes I would be happy to share my partner.

He knows I am on here, and is my back-up buddy on meets - its him I text to let him know how they are - whichever sex I meet.

We've had the discussion that as long as we both know in advance of whats planned and happening, then thats cool.

I'd love to see him with another woman, but a MMF (where he is involved) isn't for him - and as his preference, I respect that, altho we have spoken about a possible MMMMF where he is there to look after me but not partake, so perhaps we are more an open relationship than proper swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gimp

Dear Gimp, i enjoy the swinging scene, but like you i get a lot of pleasure watching Mr Dolph give/receive pleasure. I don't know if i'd follow this lifestyle without him in my life either....

Mrs Dolph x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to watch but I wouldn't like to be watched.Not sure I would like to see a partner of mine with another man but I wouldn't rule it out completely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not rocket science..... If there are two of you involved then you are a couple. If you are a single man, as referred to in the post, then there is one of you = single profile.

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By *erminxWoman
over a year ago

Quinton

Are you another one of these singles who would leave a 10 year long monogamous relationship just because your partner suggested having a threesome?

Faithful in words...but completely unable to follow it through when you get to the difficult stuff

You've lost me? Not sure when that happened.....

I take it by your reply that you would be happy to have a threesome with your partner if, after 10 years of being together, she suggested it to you."

Wow, boy speaks his mind and gets shot for it. I think he was saying that he values monogamy, or not cheating (as clearly stated on his profile) he has said he would not want to swing with a partner, I doubt his (potential future) partner of 10 years suggesting it is not likely to change his _iews, or if it does, no problem, his _iews, not open to aggression from other members on site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats a common theme for men, even in the vanilla world.

Mention mmf and they recoil in horror, mention ffm and their eyes light up."

And that is so sad! Yes, FFM is great, but I would rather do MMF If I was married. I wished when we were married we would have been swinging as I would loved to have watched her being pleasure by other men!

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"I like to watch but I wouldn't like to be watched.Not sure I would like to see a partner of mine with another man but I wouldn't rule it out completely."

That's where we differ slightly voyeur. I love to watch people having sex, but watching my OH having sex really gets my rocks off. We've been in a room with another woman and 2 other guys & he's finished playing and come over to see if i'm enjoying myself, him watching me did nothing for me & i dont know if he enjoyed watching me tbh.

Mrs Dolph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If my partner "let" another man fuck me I would "let" him fuck him too

There are probably better ways of saying it, of course any of my partners have been free to do whatever they like, but if I was to find out my gf was fucking someone else without my consent, I wouldn't "let" her remain in a relationship with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A guy wanting to share other people's wives, yet admitting he wouldn't share his own.

Would that not be like a guy going to the pub with his mates, they all buy a round and he is happy to drink their beer, yet he refuses to buy a round himself?

To be honest, that is how we see it."

It's not for everyone, not everyone can cope with the emotions. A person may be happy and respectful joining other couples as a single. Why the issue if they didn't want to do it with a partner?

If I was in a new relationship I wouldn't swing either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you another one of these singles who would leave a 10 year long monogamous relationship just because your partner suggested having a threesome?

Faithful in words...but completely unable to follow it through when you get to the difficult stuff

You've lost me? Not sure when that happened.....

I take it by your reply that you would be happy to have a threesome with your partner if, after 10 years of being together, she suggested it to you.

Sorry to come across aggressive Merminx

...I was just cutting to the chase

Threads like this come and go almost every other week and basically come down to that simple question... "If your partner of 10 years said they really wanted to swing would you do it or, if it became a big issue, would you leave them?". On previous threads those who have been most vocally in favor of monogamy end up saying they'd leave their partner over this issue...so basically they've ended up being pretty crap about it. Kinda comes across like they're too stuck up on ideals and not living in the real world of compromises and working things through with another human being. I just thought I'd save the time and cut straight to it...seeing as it pretty much cuts straight down to the nub of the issue

It's really easy to earn fake kudos for things you say you would do in a future fictional situation. For example I could say that if you gave me a million quid I'd give it all to charity. It makes me look like a bloomin saint without having to even lift a finger lol

It's really easy to say you'd want a monogamous relationship and you wouldn't want your partner to swing...after all you're saying it in your partners absence. But what would you really do 10 years down the line? I'm sure some of you would put your foot down...but would you walk away from all that love, all that friendship, all those good times together...just because they want to have a bit of extra-curricula playtime before they roll off this mortal coil?

You can carry on earning your brownie points by saying you wouldn't do it...but the inference is that you'd basically walk out on someone over it...and that's a bit crap imo

And if you wouldn't walk out on someone over it?!?!? Why are you coming on here saying you would?

p.s. remember swinging includes such things as no-swap sex where you simply have sex in the same room as someone else having sex...so swinging doesn't necessarily mean letting your partner sleep with someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. So basically it doesn't matter what we think- if our partner wanted to swing, we'd be a crap uncaring shit not to. We should do whatever they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. So basically it doesn't matter what we think- if our partner wanted to swing, we'd be a crap uncaring shit not to. We should do whatever they want.

Not what I was saying

I was asking if you'd compromise or not. If there's absolutely no compromise, not even going to a swinging club, then you are being a bit controlling imo...not really something to boast about. I'd suggest that most of you, if really faced with it as an actual reality, would probably find some way of compromising. In which case this whole thread is just a lot of chest beating and hot air imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. So basically it doesn't matter what we think- if our partner wanted to swing, we'd be a crap uncaring shit not to. We should do whatever they want.

Not what I was saying

No I wouldn't compromise at all. I'm not boasting about anything, I just have self respect.

If your partner said she wanted a gangbang with 10 guys, what would your compromise be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. So basically it doesn't matter what we think- if our partner wanted to swing, we'd be a crap uncaring shit not to. We should do whatever they want.

Not what I was saying

No I wouldn't compromise at all. I'm not boasting about anything, I just have self respect.

If your partner said she wanted a gangbang with 10 guys, what would your compromise be?

I would say no...but I'd be happy to take her to a swinging club so she could watch someone else get gangbanged by 10 guys. That'd be a good place to start anyway...rather than just saying no no no no no and then walking out on her. Do you see what I'm getting at?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow. So basically it doesn't matter what we think- if our partner wanted to swing, we'd be a crap uncaring shit not to. We should do whatever they want.

Not what I was saying

No I wouldn't compromise at all. I'm not boasting about anything, I just have self respect.

If your partner said she wanted a gangbang with 10 guys, what would your compromise be?

So you'd rub her nose in it. Say no but show her what she's missing. I see what you're getting at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples only swing because it becomes something important to one or other or, ideally, both of them. They don't swing because they feel they ought to lol

I don't know if you've met a lot of couples but we've run into and observed many couples for whom that is absolutely what one of them is doing...they're the ones we avoid like the plague...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you'd rub her nose in it. Say no but show her what she's missing. I see what you're getting at.

lol

I guess that's one way of seeing it. I never said I was a saint...but at least I'm human and willing to work things out with the woman I love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples only swing because it becomes something important to one or other or, ideally, both of them. They don't swing because they feel they ought to

What a load of rubbish, swinging really isn't very important to either of us as we have a very active and varied sex life at home, so if we never met and played with others ever again it wouldn't cause any strife at all.

Sure there may a few couples on here where it's more important to one than it is to the other, but so far we haven't met or chatted to anyone that falls into that catergory. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been with girls that I wouldn't be comfortable swinging with. I've been with girls that I wanted to swing with. I've been with one girl that I almost spitroasted but the other guy backed out.

I don't know know if I cared about some girls too much to share them or if I wasn't secure enough in the relationship. It's tricky to compare relationships when they're so different and I changed over the years too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples only swing because it becomes something important to one or other or, ideally, both of them. They don't swing because they feel they ought to lol

I don't know if you've met a lot of couples but we've run into and observed many couples for whom that is absolutely what one of them is doing...they're the ones we avoid like the plague..."

I know exactly what you're saying and I agree. But I'd hazard a guess that most swinging couples started off with one partner suggesting it and the other one either immediately saying 'yes' or eventually coming round to it and, hopefully, finding they love it. It's the ones where they're not both on the same page, not both arrived at a point where they both want to do it, they're what you're talking about imo

I think it's fine for a couple who aren't too sure but would like to give it a try...for them to go to a club, go see what it's like, maybe even try a soft swap or no swap scenario with another couple. There is no need to "let your partner have sex with another person". You can just dip your toe in and see if you like it. If one of you doesn't like it then you've got some figuring out to do...but at least you compromised and gave it a try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples only swing because it becomes something important to one or other or, ideally, both of them. They don't swing because they feel they ought to

Sure there may a few couples on here where it's more important to one than it is to the other, but so far we haven't met or chatted to anyone that falls into that catergory. "

So I'm curious. Did you both decide to swing at the same time or did one of you bring it up and the other agree? If so did it seem important enough to bring into your relationship as an issue? If not why did either of you bother to mention it? ...as it would seem to be quite a volatile subject to introduce into a monogamous relationship on a whim. Sorry...I don't intend to pry...but I do think these are interesting and illuminating questions to ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined this site it was as a couple with my ex. Left it for a few years then came back ad a single once we broke up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I think I'm coming across as too aggressive here...that's not my intention.

I think most meaningful relationships are based around communication, compromise, and of course love

Some couples are fortunate enough to have arrived at swinging together, or perhaps even met through it...but I'd hazard a guess that most couples arrive at it when one or other of them brings it up because it feels like it's something important enough to bring up. As long as both partners arrive at a place where they both want to do it, this is totally cool imo. It's only when one of them refuses to compromise either way...or when one of them pretends they're into it when they're not...that's when problems arise. I hope that makes sense. Sorry if I came across as a jerk

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"So odin8

You are on here hoping that others will behave in a way that you wouldn't?

We admire your honesty and everyone else's who has admitted exactly the same as you?

But do you not then find it a little hypocritical?

Curious about how you see it?

I don't feel it's hypocritical, I just think I'm keen on a monogamous relationship and couldn't separate the sexual act from the relationship."

I'm thinking,no matter how you butter it up,the above post,

is a perfect example of hypocritical.

No offence intended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You got a sister?

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