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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover

I'm sure a fair number of men harbour the desire to be cuckolded which is fine but I get irritated when contacted by men who claim that they would love to be cuckolded....but that it turns out to just a sheer fantasy,and, while claiming that their wife or girlfriend also wants this, have never even asked them about it...

I'm getting to see the wannabe signals now, and have met three genuine cuckolds on here, but find the fantasy variety time-wasting...and irritating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are these men on single or couple profiles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gordon Bennett

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover

Allegedly couples but no verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Allegedly couples but no verifications. "

Ah. I think you know the answer to that then

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover

Well yes but there a lot of couples who choose not to post verifications for any number of good reasons, so, while it does help to filter out the phonies, it's by no means certain to.

It happens less now as I tend to recognise the symptoms of the guy (and it's only the guy) getting into graphic detail fairly early on in the conversation, and getting more and more carried away, and then I just stop the chat altogether, but in my early days on the site I did get taken in more than once...

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Well yes but there a lot of couples who choose not to post verifications for any number of good reasons, so, while it does help to filter out the phonies, it's by no means certain to.

It happens less now as I tend to recognise the symptoms of the guy (and it's only the guy) getting into graphic detail fairly early on in the conversation, and getting more and more carried away, and then I just stop the chat altogether, but in my early days on the site I did get taken in more than once..."

you dont have to display veri, but if veried it shows with tick so if they had a tiuc then they would be verified, as to cuckold i guess "define it" moght be a question bruno loves seeing kitten with a guy but would not enjoy being "humiliated" whilst it was happening

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover

You're right, it does cover a range of types from plain watching, which is a very mild form and which hardly warrants the word cuckold but falls into that general area, to deprivation and denial, a prohibition to join in even though the cuckold is naked erect and wants to take part. There is another active thread on here at the moment about "cuckold denial" that explores this theme, and it is an intriguing psychology and it is interesting to practise as the "bull" in the threesome in this situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not quite understanding why they contact you in the first place?

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town

We get messages from single blokes asking us to cuckold them. When we explain that they need to have a partner to be cuckolded they still dont get it.

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


"not quite understanding why they contact you in the first place?"

Neither am I to be honest, but the fantasists do, or used to. Less so nowadays I am glad to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure a fair number of men harbour the desire to be cuckolded which is fine but I get irritated when contacted by men who claim that they would love to be cuckolded....but that it turns out to just a sheer fantasy,and, while claiming that their wife or girlfriend also wants this, have never even asked them about it...

I'm getting to see the wannabe signals now, and have met three genuine cuckolds on here, but find the fantasy variety time-wasting...and irritating. "

I know what you mean, I had some person asking me find roufies to put in wife's drink if we we met, cause she would need some convincing.

What a looser and creep, regardless I blocked that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mild watching is just voyeurism, as a cuckqueen couple its even harder to find potential play mates

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


"I'm sure a fair number of men harbour the desire to be cuckolded which is fine but I get irritated when contacted by men who claim that they would love to be cuckolded....but that it turns out to just a sheer fantasy,and, while claiming that their wife or girlfriend also wants this, have never even asked them about it...

I'm getting to see the wannabe signals now, and have met three genuine cuckolds on here, but find the fantasy variety time-wasting...and irritating.

I know what you mean, I had some person asking me find roufies to put in wife's drink if we we met, cause she would need some convincing.

What a looser and creep, regardless I blocked that person."

That is an example of the fantasisit at work. As soon as I read the phrase "She will need some convincing" or something like that, then I know the lady partner is not on board with any of this, and that it's all in his head and most likely to stay there.

Genuine cuckold couples that I have met respond and communicate in a totally different and open manner which I've now come to recognise, so I waste far less time nowadays.

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By *incs-cpl1Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Surely most cuck couples started out as wannabes at some point.

It took us a couple of years of fantasising before the right opportunity came our way.

Sadly finding the right guy is the most difficult part of the lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely most cuck couples started out as wannabes at some point.

It took us a couple of years of fantasising before the right opportunity came our way.

Sadly finding the right guy is the most difficult part of the lifestyle."

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


"Surely most cuck couples started out as wannabes at some point.

It took us a couple of years of fantasising before the right opportunity came our way.

Sadly finding the right guy is the most difficult part of the lifestyle."

I quite appreciate that summoning up courage to take those first steps in cuckolding may take time which is absolutely fine. I can totally understand that, but I'm really talking about those guys who have not shared their cuckold fantasies with their partners, who contact other guys, seemingly claiming that both of them are on board with the cuckolding idea.

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By *incs-cpl1Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


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I quite appreciate that summoning up courage to take those first steps in cuckolding may take time which is absolutely fine. I can totally understand that, but I'm really talking about those guys who have not shared their cuckold fantasies with their partners, who contact other guys, seemingly claiming that both of them are on board with the cuckolding idea."

What you describe could be a married guy slowly coming to terms with new sexual feelings, feelings that may seem very peculiar to most people. Given time, and plenty of web stimulation he'll either decide to forget the idea or confide in his wife, she will either love the idea, hate the idea or most likely come around to the idea eventually after a long while.

As a single guy it may be unfortunate to get caught-up during these early stages before the couple are really ready but this situation isn't unique to cuckolding. Any venture into a new sexuality be it BDSM, water sports, bisexuality, gangbangs etc, will usually be a slow process. And most would say that's probably the best way.

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By *inglecuckoldMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

yeah I agree finding the right partner is really tough....having tried with vanilla partners you can find its almost the opposite of what they want...for obvious reasons...but each to there own

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By *eachyfunCouple
over a year ago

Truro

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


"

I quite appreciate that summoning up courage to take those first steps in cuckolding may take time which is absolutely fine. I can totally understand that, but I'm really talking about those guys who have not shared their cuckold fantasies with their partners, who contact other guys, seemingly claiming that both of them are on board with the cuckolding idea.

What you describe could be a married guy slowly coming to terms with new sexual feelings, feelings that may seem very peculiar to most people. Given time, and plenty of web stimulation he'll either decide to forget the idea or confide in his wife, she will either love the idea, hate the idea or most likely come around to the idea eventually after a long while.

As a single guy it may be unfortunate to get caught-up during these early stages before the couple are really ready but this situation isn't unique to cuckolding. Any venture into a new sexuality be it BDSM, water sports, bisexuality, gangbangs etc, will usually be a slow process. And most would say that's probably the best way.

I couldn't agree more with the notion that it can sometimes take a long time to come to terms with new avenues of sexuality, and that it is necessarily and rightly a long drawn-out process and have no problem with that, having coaxed two couples into their first forays into the swinging scene. In both cases the guy was keen to set things going and set the ball rolling, but, the key point is that the female partner was aware of what was going on, and did want this to happen but was just a little shy.

That is no problem.

Where I have had a problem and do find galling is the case where the guy has no intention ever of informing his wife or partner, is just indulging his own private fantasy, and that can take a while to detect.

Anyway I am more tuned nowadays through some of these bad time-wasting experiences to the clues and hallmarks of the pure fantasist.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"I'm sure a fair number of men harbour the desire to be cuckolded which is fine but I get irritated when contacted by men who claim that they would love to be cuckolded....but that it turns out to just a sheer fantasy,and, while claiming that their wife or girlfriend also wants this, have never even asked them about it...

I'm getting to see the wannabe signals now, and have met three genuine cuckolds on here, but find the fantasy variety time-wasting...and irritating.

I know what you mean, I had some person asking me find roufies to put in wife's drink if we we met, cause she would need some convincing.

What a looser and creep, regardless I blocked that person."
I think they should be reported to admin. That's disgusting! J

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By *ordonBennett OP   Man
over a year ago

dover


"I'm sure a fair number of men harbour the desire to be cuckolded which is fine but I get irritated when contacted by men who claim that they would love to be cuckolded....but that it turns out to just a sheer fantasy,and, while claiming that their wife or girlfriend also wants this, have never even asked them about it...

I'm getting to see the wannabe signals now, and have met three genuine cuckolds on here, but find the fantasy variety time-wasting...and irritating.

I know what you mean, I had some person asking me find roufies to put in wife's drink if we we met, cause she would need some convincing.

What a looser and creep, regardless I blocked that person. I think they should be reported to admin. That's disgusting! J "

That is wrong and should be reported but is hardly much to do with cuckolding

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