FabSwingers.com forum: Friendly people at clubs

By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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Hi all... I go to clubs quite often, sometimes on my own.

I always am ( not just at clubs) friendly and say hello and often chat to people around me.

At a club would you consider this to be almost leading someone on?

I don't always play but love the social side too, if I feel the right connection I will play but it's not something I expect or seek... Just if it's there it's there.

I wouldn't like people to feel I was leading them on or taking their time up with chat if they are only there to play.

It's also too blatant and can be insulting to say " I don't want to play with you", they may not want that anyway.

What are your thoughts?

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Friendly is the best way to be! We enjoy chatting to people as well as playing.

Even if there's not a spark it can be fun to chat/swap stories etc

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IF anyone even blinks at me I expect to play

(Just kidding)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all... I go to clubs quite often, sometimes on my own.

I always am ( not just at clubs) friendly and say hello and often chat to people around me.

At a club would you consider this to be almost leading someone on?

I don't always play but love the social side too, if I feel the right connection I will play but it's not something I expect or seek... Just if it's there it's there.

I wouldn't like people to feel I was leading them on or taking their time up with chat if they are only there to play.

It's also too blatant and can be insulting to say " I don't want to play with you", they may not want that anyway.

What are your thoughts?

I think you have the right approach and I see nothing wrong with it. Telling someone you don't want to play with them without an offer being made might not go down to well.

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By *lare GTV/TS
over a year ago

South of Sleaford

I enjoy going to clubs to meet and chat to people. That I might be 'leading them on' in some way by chatting has never crossed my mind. The only way to find out if there is mutual attraction is to chat and be friendly.

As TV/TS in a club I am well aware that I am not 'every ones cup of tea' so chatting and feeling accepted is very important for me. I never assume if I am talking to couples or single guys that they are going to want to play with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friendly with everyone but I am finding that some think its a come on

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It's good to be affable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a very very chatty person I do seem to get a lot of admirers . But I do try to make it clear I am not interested ... However you can't ever tell if you are interested until you speak to someone as beauty comes from within !

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We don't attend clubs but will always chat to anyone at parties. My thoughts are it's good to be friendly and approchable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are times we are happy to chat and socialise but we have realised this always makes the folk we chat with think we wanna play .

It's different with people we already know , but a newbie figures we will play if we are friendly .

So if we fancy them we chat and if we don't we won't .... much simpler and a bit like here on fab , but real !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think some people see you chatting to them as meaning your interested, ive been in this situation a few times where ive spoken to men and they have assumed i'm breaking the ice to go play, not all have though, some people are just happy to chat

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