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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hi and thanks for taking time to look the problem i have is. I have never come though a blow job or hand job without helping myself. Do you think this is psychological or just not have the correct woman doing it?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"hi and thanks for taking time to look the problem i have is. I have never come though a blow job or hand job without helping myself. Do you think this is psychological or just not have the correct woman doing it?"
can i phone a friend?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

phone anyone you think can give the answer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perhaps you dont relax enough with another person touching you,or perhaps you dont just have the patience for them to finish the task

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

accept the point about relaxing but i have given people hours of trying even made it more kinky had bets about it and everything x nothing works' annoying x

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

Oh, nice try, well done. I'm applauding here.

Best of luck, let me know if you have any success!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh, nice try, well done. I'm applauding here.

Best of luck, let me know if you have any success!"

neat - this did make me laugh

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire


" not have the correct woman doing it?"

Well, you have to give him marks for ingenuity, it beats the old "why am I getting no meets?" threads.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Guess what… you are not alone Thus far we have only had one guy climax on a BJ, all the others have either been shagging or finish off by hand.

Part of the problem will be the frustration and the fact of ‘wanting’ it to happen. First you need to clear your mind of any such thoughts so that you can indeed relax.

The other issue is that the male orgasm is just as complex, maybe more complex than the female. Rhythm is typically critical and virtually impossible for anyone else to get right for you. While not wishing to sound so graphic… ejaculating in a vagina is the normal instinctive thing to do and given that you have control, you have control of the rhythm as you would with a hand job.

This issue in fact popped up some years ago on another swinger site and loads and loads of guys came out of the woodwork saying the same thing. Loads were saying they couldn’t climax by way of a BJ, most put it down to the possibility of the pre-conditioning that it’s dirty and demeaning.

You might try ‘saving yourself’ that is abstain from sexual activity of any sort for a few days before a swing session as typically the less a guy gets the more he wants it. And to reiterate STOP TRYING, rather forget about it and chances are it’ll happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its just not for you mate!

Best give it up and take up building models out of matchsticks! R

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By *ethot69Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

I'm 25 and have never ever climaxed off oral sex alone. Don't get me wrong, I know a good blowjob when I, err, feel one, but its just not enough to finish me.

So no, you're not alone.

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By *onyMad123Couple
over a year ago

nottingham/ derby

I have opposite prob i can bring my man and a couple others off/ to orgasm pretty quick and have to slow down or change tact, mine or any other i have played with ever have a problem Unless you count having cold water threw over us in a club for a joke when he was nearly done !!!! ( not a nice thing !!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a relatively "common" thing! I sometimes have problems cumming during swinging meets. If I remember correctly, I think we had at least 6 meets before I popped, lol. Even now, 2yrs later, I cant guarantee that I will cum.

I have learned to live with it. Its not down to being turned on, not being sexually attracted to the lady, or anything else I can think of.

Dont worry about it though, its just one of those things we have to deal with

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"I'm 25 and have never ever climaxed off oral sex alone. Don't get me wrong, I know a good blowjob when I, err, feel one, but its just not enough to finish me.

So no, you're not alone."

Ditto for me.

Never. Not once.

Not worried about it, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He approaches the box........... he dribbles.......... and SHOOTS!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

someone else lost 20 quid today! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm 25 and have never ever climaxed off oral sex alone. Don't get me wrong, I know a good blowjob when I, err, feel one, but its just not enough to finish me.

So no, you're not alone.

Ditto for me.

Never. Not once.

Not worried about it, though. "

You not tried one of mine then 100% success record from start to finish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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You not tried one of mine then 100% success record from start to finish"

Bet you're just all mouth really

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"You not tried one of mine then 100% success record from start to finish"

Maybe one day I'll be lucky enough to test that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's psychological.

For some men in meet situations, no matter how excited they are, in reality they're not relaxed or able to "let go".

Others may have hang ups, you'd be surprised to know some men think it's "dirty", love it, but can't shoot, not really into the girl or simply used to erm diy!

I have to say as my playmates know I swallow I seldom encounter men with this problem!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

very close last night with a certain someone from this site! God yes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi and thanks for taking time to look the problem i have is. I have never come though a blow job or hand job without helping myself. Do you think this is psychological or just not have the correct woman doing it?"

I think you have touched on something here, you may be right about it not being the right woman, I may be able to help.

Try a Man.

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By *ickedWWoman
over a year ago

Chester


"very close last night with a certain someone from this site! God yes x"

Good for you hunni..

Sounds like you need to relax more, and stop thinking about the end before you've started

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