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Bare back, I don't think so, but . . . ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do some profiles read: 'Prepared to do bare back'?

. . . Do some like risking their lives?

Any comments?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Why do some profiles read: 'Prepared to do bare back'?

. . . Do some like risking their lives?

Any comments?"

Put your tin hat on.

We're all adults (allegedly). Some make the choice to take the risk.

I'd rather they are honest so I can make an informed decision whether to meet them.

Do what suits you. Let others get on with their own thing.

The why is simple. They prefer it and think the risk is worth it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also as has been said many times if people are honest it gives everyone a chance to make an informed choice. Drive it underground with continued censure and no one knows where they stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some profiles read: 'Prepared to do bare back'?

. . . Do some like risking their lives?

Any comments?"

Why is it of any concern to you what other people do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is key for me. I don't have a problem with people who BB, what I do have a problem is, is with people who say they don't and then try to. If I know that they want BB I can then say no.

We're all on here with different wants and should be able to express those without the fear of being marginalised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is about the 5th time the OP has put this or similar up...not got an answer yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is about the 5th time the OP has put this or similar up...not got an answer yet?"

Trying to win brownie points ?

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By *ickle66Couple
over a year ago

Colchester


"Why do some profiles read: 'Prepared to do bare back'?

. . . Do some like risking their lives?

Any comments?"

I understand the question you pose but my question is does that mean if you meet a couple do you not go down on the woman?

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By *asyukMan
over a year ago

West London


"This is about the 5th time the OP has put this or similar up...not got an answer yet?"

Somebody always writes that the post has been up before! How many pages do you expect someone to trawl through to see if someone else had the same thought?

People like it despite, or because of, the risks. I thought it would be an interesting question to ask too but had only a few people explain why. Lots of people explained to me at length that it was none of my business or that I shouldn't be so, apparently, judgemental.

People often answer the questions they want to rather than the ones that have been written

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"This is about the 5th time the OP has put this or similar up...not got an answer yet?"

Is it? Green arrow shows just this bareback thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is about the 5th time the OP has put this or similar up...not got an answer yet?"

Erm, no it's not! This is my first time of asking this - but thank you for your 'constructive' comment anyway . . .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Perhaps it's those who want to ensure any conditions or contagious diseases they have already stand the best chance of infecting others, hence their willingness to go unprotected .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps it's those who want to ensure any conditions or contagious diseases they have already stand the best chance of infecting others, hence their willingness to go unprotected ."

Could be ..... sharing is caring and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like someones caught a dose, and its completely the other persons fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me thanks but each to there own so as long as it does not affect me then let them choose what they want to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Even though I vehemently hate it (rubbers), what's wrong with people who risk their lives for '10' minutes of enjoyment?

To put your mind at rest 'Jimp1', I'm only trying to understand the mentality of others, if you want a more detailed reply on this subject, maybe I could suggest you write the question in it's own forum . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice when you can do it. The smell of condoms makes me gag. They don't feel any different to me and it's much better not dripping after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even though I vehemently hate it (rubbers), what's wrong with people who risk their lives for '10' minutes of enjoyment?

To put your mind at rest 'Jimp1', I'm only trying to understand the mentality of others, if you want a more detailed reply on this subject, maybe I could suggest you write the question in it's own forum . . ."

Shhh don't mention 10 minutes of enjoyment they will all be after that and will now be disappointed with the 2.53 mins I currently offer...

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"the 2.53 mins I currently offer... "

Long stayer are you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does "OP" mean?

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"What does "OP" mean? "

Original Poster

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By *anyoufeelmeMan
over a year ago

near you


"Why do some profiles read: 'Prepared to do bare back'?

. . . Do some like risking their lives?

Any comments?

Why is it of any concern to you what other people do?"

Often wonder why some people on here are rude for no reason ....

The op asked a question which you may not agree with ... But no reason to be rude

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

as long as they were honest its ok then you decide

its the ones that say safe sex only then push to leave the condom off and try to convince you they don't take risks!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some profiles read: 'Prepared to do bare back'?

. . . Do some like risking their lives?

Any comments?"

At least they are honest and you can avoid there a lot more who do it anyway but claim they always play safe.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Why do some profiles read: 'Prepared to do bare back'?

. . . Do some like risking their lives?

Any comments?

Why is it of any concern to you what other people do?

Often wonder why some people on here are rude for no reason ....

The op asked a question which you may not agree with ... But no reason to be rude "

How is that rude???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer bareback, and if I know the person great. It's each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got no problem with wearing a glove for love. I have respect for myself and the lady I'm with

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

To be honest, if you're familiar with the person you're playing with (i.e. you've cultivated some ongoing relationship with them) and you're both comfortable with it, go bareback. There's no denying it feels far more satisfying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is about the 5th time the OP has put this or similar up...not got an answer yet?

Erm, no it's not! This is my first time of asking this - but thank you for your 'constructive' comment anyway . . ."

Another Constructive comment:

The risks associated with dying from doing bare back sex are considerably less than many "socially acceptable" activities.

What others do is however their own business but on the risk scale smokers, for example, are the far more likely to die than bare backers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got no problem with wearing a glove for love. I have respect for myself and the lady I'm with"

Have you never had sex in your 51 years without a condom? If so did you disrespect the person you had sex with?

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I've got no problem with wearing a glove for love. I have respect for myself and the lady I'm with

Have you never had sex in your 51 years without a condom? If so did you disrespect the person you had sex with? "

It's like a church in here at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. I do however prefer guys to be honest if they BB. That way I can decide whether or not I want to meet them or not... I also choose not to meet guys that have BB pics on display, regardless of who it is they playing with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In response to 'Banana cake's' inquiry / statement: sex is markedly less enticing when wearing a 'latex' garment. It feels like one has a bin bag over it. I do so much prefer it with no 'protection', though using a rubber on here is a must I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a guy who refuses to wear a condom, so he just doesn't do penetrative sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got no problem with wearing a glove for love. I have respect for myself and the lady I'm with"

Good for you.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Why do some profiles read: 'Prepared to do bare back'?

. . . Do some like risking their lives?

Any comments?"

There are millions, literally millions, of people in the uk who smoke or drink excessively, activities that are far more life risking than bareback sex (which does carry that risk of course)

The reason people do all these things?

Enjoyment and the risk/ reward dynamic, it's an inevitable part of human psychology and always will be, simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even though I vehemently hate it (rubbers), what's wrong with people who risk their lives for '10' minutes of enjoyment?

To put your mind at rest 'Jimp1', I'm only trying to understand the mentality of others, if you want a more detailed reply on this subject, maybe I could suggest you write the question in it's own forum . . ."

Tell you what, many people do just that when they jump out of an aeroplane at 20 thousand feet with a scrap of silk strapped to their back, or jump 200 feet with a rubber bungee attached to their feet. Cross a busy A road without a pelican crossing. Snort something that someone said will make them high and is legal because someone has just tweaked the molecules slightly. We all take risks for the sake if fun. If you don't want to that's fine, enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP is of course on the very overcrowded bareback post bandwagon so why post I wonder unless to say "I'M CLEAN - fuck me please!!!"

If, as some suggest, bareback kills faster than a speeding bullet then don't worry, natural selection dictates the bare-backers will soon all be dead and we can have a plethora of posts entitled "Does anyone remember the bare-backers?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

'Bare' in mind the consequences of HIV though, as in 'Who'd want to fuck me now?'

Those '10' minutes of fun may restrict your future conquests too.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"'Bare' in mind the consequences of HIV though, as in 'Who'd want to fuck me now?'

Those '10' minutes of fun may restrict your future conquests too. "

Just don't do it then, for fuck's sakes stop going on, you decided to resurrect the thread after three weeks.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

did you get your answer ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Though I hate to admit it, this is getting old.

Anymore messages will (probably) get ignored.

Thank you for your views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Bare' in mind the consequences of HIV though, as in 'Who'd want to fuck me now?'

Those '10' minutes of fun may restrict your future conquests too. "

"Consequences" of AIDS? The life expectancy of those with aids is now similar to the general population.

The chances of dying from it are 400 times less than being killed in a car accident. 1,000 times less than dying in childbirth and 3 times less than being killed by being struck by lightening! Leave people to make up their own mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Bare' in mind the consequences of HIV though, as in 'Who'd want to fuck me now?'

Those '10' minutes of fun may restrict your future conquests too. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP is of course on the very overcrowded bareback post bandwagon so why post I wonder unless to say "I'M CLEAN - fuck me please!!!"

If, as some suggest, bareback kills faster than a speeding bullet then don't worry, natural selection dictates the bare-backers will soon all be dead and we can have a plethora of posts entitled "Does anyone remember the bare-backers?" "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Bare' in mind the consequences of HIV though, as in 'Who'd want to fuck me now?'

Those '10' minutes of fun may restrict your future conquests too.

"Consequences" of AIDS? The life expectancy of those with aids is now similar to the general population.

The chances of dying from it are 400 times less than being killed in a car accident. 1,000 times less than dying in childbirth and 3 times less than being killed by being struck by lightening! Leave people to make up their own mind."

Just think of all those tablets you would have to take though, for the rest of your life and they have side effects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always keep my sock on.

As much for her peace of mind aswell as mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does "OP" mean?

Original Poster"

Oral Penetration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Bare' in mind the consequences of HIV though, as in 'Who'd want to fuck me now?'

Those '10' minutes of fun may restrict your future conquests too.

"Consequences" of AIDS? The life expectancy of those with aids is now similar to the general population.

The chances of dying from it are 400 times less than being killed in a car accident. 1,000 times less than dying in childbirth and 3 times less than being killed by being struck by lightening! Leave people to make up their own mind.

Just think of all those tablets you would have to take though, for the rest of your life and they have side effects.

"

You are right of course but the usual worry is dying. In that respect alone if you smoke or travel on the roads, statistically, you might as well go bb as you are already more likely to die of something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some profiles read: 'Prepared to do bare back'?

. . . Do some like risking their lives?

Any comments?"

It seems that way. If that's what they say. Lots of us risk our lives. Smoking, taking drugs, climbing mountains. The list goes on.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"'Bare' in mind the consequences of HIV though, as in 'Who'd want to fuck me now?'

Those '10' minutes of fun may restrict your future conquests too.

"Consequences" of AIDS? The life expectancy of those with aids is now similar to the general population.

The chances of dying from it are 400 times less than being killed in a car accident. 1,000 times less than dying in childbirth and 3 times less than being killed by being struck by lightening! Leave people to make up their own mind.

Just think of all those tablets you would have to take though, for the rest of your life and they have side effects.

You are right of course but the usual worry is dying. In that respect alone if you smoke or travel on the roads, statistically, you might as well go bb as you are already more likely to die of something else."

So if you don't have bare back sex, you don't smoke or travel on the roads you'll never die. Whooo hooo imortality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Bare' in mind the consequences of HIV though, as in 'Who'd want to fuck me now?'

Those '10' minutes of fun may restrict your future conquests too.

"Consequences" of AIDS? The life expectancy of those with aids is now similar to the general population.

The chances of dying from it are 400 times less than being killed in a car accident. 1,000 times less than dying in childbirth and 3 times less than being killed by being struck by lightening! Leave people to make up their own mind.

Just think of all those tablets you would have to take though, for the rest of your life and they have side effects.

You are right of course but the usual worry is dying. In that respect alone if you smoke or travel on the roads, statistically, you might as well go bb as you are already more likely to die of something else.

So if you don't have bare back sex, you don't smoke or travel on the roads you'll never die. Whooo hooo imortality "

I missed that on highlander

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In response to 'Banana cake's' inquiry / statement: sex is markedly less enticing when wearing a 'latex' garment. It feels like one has a bin bag over it. I do so much prefer it with no 'protection', though using a rubber on here is a must I think."

I never use a rubber on here, only when I meet someone for sex!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to give women creampies, owt is better

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

When did taking a risk start to mean in a life or death way? Comparing the risks of going bareback with sky diving etc is ridiculous. I don't want to risk catching a disease, it doesn't matter whether or not that disease is likely to kill me or mean a course of antibiotics, a few minutes of pleasure isn't worth my health, nor in fact is it worth just the worry until the test results come back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When did taking a risk start to mean in a life or death way? Comparing the risks of going bareback with sky diving etc is ridiculous. I don't want to risk catching a disease, it doesn't matter whether or not that disease is likely to kill me or mean a course of antibiotics, a few minutes of pleasure isn't worth my health, nor in fact is it worth just the worry until the test results come back."

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By *lam rockerMan
over a year ago

Tain


"This is about the 5th time the OP has put this or similar up...not got an answer yet?

Trying to win brownie points ?

"
wrong hole for that, I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You're at the clinic & your results are positive. So what? Will it deter you from going BB in future? HIV infects many, but actually kills very few, so I'll run the risk because I think I 'probably' won't die from it, & because I lack any altruism, I'll try to infect the whole population?

And if I withdraw so as not to deliver my 'warm & wet' potion to you & that in itself serves as protection enough!

All because I think the 'risk' is worth it ? ! ? !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMO the worst liars are men desperate for sex. They will tell you they are clean and that they are tested every 3 Months but you would be an idiot to believe them (unless they brought documented proof)

STI's are on a massive rise at the moment (especially with young people) and I think older people think that they don't need to worry about protection so much.

We certainly wouldn't meet anyone that admitted they have done bareback with someone they barely know as It proves they don't really care about their sexual health.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do have a HIV check on average (depending on 'where' it's been & if I was wearing a 'rain-coat') once a year, for my own piece of mind.

I've heard different reports on rubbers from females (that I've met off line). Some say that it feels better when it's bare, others report to me there's no difference.

What I'm asking now is can you REALLY tell the difference (answers from females ONLY please, I've very little interest with answers from males. I know it desensitizes me, & I've no plans to see what it feels like 'in' me anyway).

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

people say theyre straight and theyre not.

guys say they play safe and dont..its a dangerous game some of us play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps it's those who want to ensure any conditions or contagious diseases they have already stand the best chance of infecting others, hence their willingness to go unprotected ."

Or maybe they just prefer the feeling.

All that matters is you look after your own personal sexual health. I would much rather know someone prefers bareback so I can make informed choices about who I play with.

For the record, yes I have done bareback.....

do I actively seek it out in here? No

do I practice safe sex? yes most of the time, but there have been instances when we've both got carried away

I manage my own sexual health, I'm responsible for my actions and no-one else

Every week there are 5 or 6 bareback threads, every week the same things are said.

Yes playing bareback is like Russian Roulette, but no sex is 100% safe so even with condoms you only reduce not remove your risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do have a HIV check on average (depending on 'where' it's been & if I was wearing a 'rain-coat') once a year, for my own piece of mind.

I've heard different reports on rubbers from females (that I've met off line). Some say that it feels better when it's bare, others report to me there's no difference.

What I'm asking now is can you REALLY tell the difference (answers from females ONLY please, I've very little interest with answers from males. I know it desensitizes me, & I've no plans to see what it feels like 'in' me anyway)."

Yes it feels different and I can tell the difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honesty is key for me. I don't have a problem with people who BB, what I do have a problem is, is with people who say they don't and then try to. If I know that they want BB I can then say no.

We're all on here with different wants and should be able to express those without the fear of being marginalised."

I hate it when a guy tries it on especially this new trend of 'stealthing' where they try to bareback by stealth. I've had it twice where I was being fucked doggy when a guy pulled out, pulled condom off and tried to ram it back in again bare, like I wasn't gonna tell the difference. Then the excuse oops it slipped off. What a load of bollocks, especially as we agreed to film it and on replay its obvious he pulled it off! Girls have your wits about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When did taking a risk start to mean in a life or death way? Comparing the risks of going bareback with sky diving etc is ridiculous. I don't want to risk catching a disease, it doesn't matter whether or not that disease is likely to kill me or mean a course of antibiotics, a few minutes of pleasure isn't worth my health, nor in fact is it worth just the worry until the test results come back."

Do you wear rubber gloves and a face mask all the time? Do you disinfect your food and drink and check restaurant kitchens before you eat? If not you are bound to catch a disease.

Or is it only SEXUALLY transmitted diseases that matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honesty is key for me. I don't have a problem with people who BB, what I do have a problem is, is with people who say they don't and then try to. If I know that they want BB I can then say no.

We're all on here with different wants and should be able to express those without the fear of being marginalised.

I hate it when a guy tries it on especially this new trend of 'stealthing' where they try to bareback by stealth. I've had it twice where I was being fucked doggy when a guy pulled out, pulled condom off and tried to ram it back in again bare, like I wasn't gonna tell the difference. Then the excuse oops it slipped off. What a load of bollocks, especially as we agreed to film it and on replay its obvious he pulled it off! Girls have your wits about you. "

If you agree to sex on the grounds that the man wears a condom and he removes it without you knowledge and concent then he has commited a criminal offence under the sexual offences act. Tell the police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps it's those who want to ensure any conditions or contagious diseases they have already stand the best chance of infecting others, hence their willingness to go unprotected .

Or maybe they just prefer the feeling.

All that matters is you look after your own personal sexual health. I would much rather know someone prefers bareback so I can make informed choices about who I play with.

For the record, yes I have done bareback.....

do I actively seek it out in here? No

do I practice safe sex? yes most of the time, but there have been instances when we've both got carried away

I manage my own sexual health, I'm responsible for my actions and no-one else

Every week there are 5 or 6 bareback threads, every week the same things are said.

Yes playing bareback is like Russian Roulette, but no sex is 100% safe so even with condoms you only reduce not remove your risk. "

With Russian roulette you have a 1 in 6 chance of blowing your brains out with a weapon. No sexual disease does that so please can we stop this verbal hyperbole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Or is it only SEXUALLY transmitted diseases that matter? "

All diseases matter but the reality is that sexually transmitted ones have a completely different implication. Catching an STI automatically means that you have cheated on a partner and can lead to marital breakdown (and don't start on morality, the majority of people on this site are married or partnered especially the men and their partners don't know about them playing away from home). Additionally, Chlamydia can lead to infertility in women, lead to painful testicular pain in men and also lead to septic arthritis which can completely destroy a person's knee and leave them disabled. Herpes is lifelong and causes recurrent painful ulcers and may need lifelong preventative medication. Syphilis can be disfiguring and also cause permanent brain damage, and HIV can and does still kill people and means a lifetime of taking very toxic medications with 99% compliance while increasing your risk of further infections and certain cancers, not to mention the social stigma and discrimination people face and the fact that passing it on could land you with a criminal conviction.

Comparing the above to the common cold which is pretty harmless in the grand scheme of things or gastroenteritis which is transient is ridiculous, and actually, yes people even take reasonable precautions to avoid these such as washing hands before eating, cooking food well, not mixing raw and cooked foods and also making sure they avoid close contact and sharing of items with people who actively have a cold. People also try to prevent the spread by covering their nose when they sneeze, washing hands after sneezing and using the toilet. These are all pretty standard precautions and using a condom is a standard precaution against STIs. Unlike most illnesses which usually pass after a week or two, you can't uncatch herpes, HIV or warts. Once you have the virus you have it for life which complicates things for you and disclosure to any potential future partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Or is it only SEXUALLY transmitted diseases that matter?

All diseases matter but the reality is that sexually transmitted ones have a completely different implication. Catching an STI automatically means that you have cheated on a partner and can lead to marital breakdown (and don't start on morality, the majority of people on this site are married or partnered especially the men and their partners don't know about them playing away from home). Additionally, Chlamydia can lead to infertility in women, lead to painful testicular pain in men and also lead to septic arthritis which can completely destroy a person's knee and leave them disabled. Herpes is lifelong and causes recurrent painful ulcers and may need lifelong preventative medication. Syphilis can be disfiguring and also cause permanent brain damage, and HIV can and does still kill people and means a lifetime of taking very toxic medications with 99% compliance while increasing your risk of further infections and certain cancers, not to mention the social stigma and discrimination people face and the fact that passing it on could land you with a criminal conviction.

Comparing the above to the common cold which is pretty harmless in the grand scheme of things or gastroenteritis which is transient is ridiculous, and actually, yes people even take reasonable precautions to avoid these such as washing hands before eating, cooking food well, not mixing raw and cooked foods and also making sure they avoid close contact and sharing of items with people who actively have a cold. People also try to prevent the spread by covering their nose when they sneeze, washing hands after sneezing and using the toilet. These are all pretty standard precautions and using a condom is a standard precaution against STIs. Unlike most illnesses which usually pass after a week or two, you can't uncatch herpes, HIV or warts. Once you have the virus you have it for life which complicates things for you and disclosure to any potential future partner."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have seen soo many bareback pictures and plus i have come across meets in the past where a women didnt want safe sex!! that is just unreal are they trying to catch something! jeeze i know this is a sex site but fuck sake wrap it up!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's already been established that women can feel the difference, but which feels best from the females perspective.

I can rarely complete the task in hand when I'm wearing a 'love glove', so as I think I already stated, I've a dislike for protection.

She may already be harboring a disease / condition she intends to give to you by asking you not to wear anything.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

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over a year ago

Brigadoon

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"When did taking a risk start to mean in a life or death way? Comparing the risks of going bareback with sky diving etc is ridiculous. I don't want to risk catching a disease, it doesn't matter whether or not that disease is likely to kill me or mean a course of antibiotics, a few minutes of pleasure isn't worth my health, nor in fact is it worth just the worry until the test results come back.

Do you wear rubber gloves and a face mask all the time? Do you disinfect your food and drink and check restaurant kitchens before you eat? If not you are bound to catch a disease.

Or is it only SEXUALLY transmitted diseases that matter? "

I cook my food properly, clean my utensils, choose restaurants that have a good reputation as far as I know. Of course there are diseases we are exposed to everyday but we do things to minimise the risks. Some you can never control, I'm likely to catch a cold this year, but it's not on the same level as syphilis, gonorrhea, herpes, chlamidia, HIV or any one of the other many sexually transmitted diseases.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"It's already been established that women can feel the difference, but which feels best from the females perspective.

I can rarely complete the task in hand when I'm wearing a 'love glove', so as I think I already stated, I've a dislike for protection.

She may already be harboring a disease / condition she intends to give to you by asking you not to wear anything."

Actually it's been established that some women say they can feel a difference, I certainly can't.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"This is about the 5th time the OP has put this or similar up...not got an answer yet?

Somebody always writes that the post has been up before! How many pages do you expect someone to trawl through to see if someone else had the same thought?

People like it despite, or because of, the risks. I thought it would be an interesting question to ask too but had only a few people explain why. Lots of people explained to me at length that it was none of my business or that I shouldn't be so, apparently, judgemental.

People often answer the questions they want to rather than the ones that have been written "

A/sex is better bare.

That's why people do it.

Most people already know the answer,they only ask the question,

Seeking a heightened guise of responsibility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah the weekly "look at me ladies I say bare back is bad, come shag me" thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Or is it only SEXUALLY transmitted diseases that matter?

All diseases matter but the reality is that sexually transmitted ones have a completely different implication. Catching an STI automatically means that you have cheated on a partner and can lead to marital breakdown (and don't start on morality, the majority of people on this site are married or partnered especially the men and their partners don't know about them playing away from home). Additionally, Chlamydia can lead to infertility in women, lead to painful testicular pain in men and also lead to septic arthritis which can completely destroy a person's knee and leave them disabled. Herpes is lifelong and causes recurrent painful ulcers and may need lifelong preventative medication. Syphilis can be disfiguring and also cause permanent brain damage, and HIV can and does still kill people and means a lifetime of taking very toxic medications with 99% compliance while increasing your risk of further infections and certain cancers, not to mention the social stigma and discrimination people face and the fact that passing it on could land you with a criminal conviction.

Comparing the above to the common cold which is pretty harmless in the grand scheme of things or gastroenteritis which is transient is ridiculous, and actually, yes people even take reasonable precautions to avoid these such as washing hands before eating, cooking food well, not mixing raw and cooked foods and also making sure they avoid close contact and sharing of items with people who actively have a cold. People also try to prevent the spread by covering their nose when they sneeze, washing hands after sneezing and using the toilet. These are all pretty standard precautions and using a condom is a standard precaution against STIs. Unlike most illnesses which usually pass after a week or two, you can't uncatch herpes, HIV or warts. Once you have the virus you have it for life which complicates things for you and disclosure to any potential future partner."

Very good points - thanks.

"Automatically means you have cheated"; sorry, nope. Not All the consenting couples and singles on here are cheating. Alternatively what if a vanilla wife caught flu from snogging another guy? Is that just as bad or is it ok because it is not sexual?

Untreated diseases of any type will cause nasty side effects. STIs are no worse or better than other diseases.

Shingles is a lifelong and painful viral infection. Is that better because it is not classed as a sti?

Ok, comparisons. Chlamydia or common Cold? Identified and treated chlamydia causes far less discomfort than a cold. Gonorrhea has less serious symptoms than influenza and kills far far fewer people. Syphilis, untreated, is bad but would you rather have malaria because it is not a STI? What of the big hitters? Would you rather tell people you have AIDS or the Ebola virus?

The point I am trying to make is that irrespective of the physical impact of the disease or injury the fact it is sexually transmitted makes it much worse or even taboo.

People who would happily struggle into A&E after dislocating a hip doing a bungee jump but would sneak in the back door of the GUM clinic if they had chlamydia. Yet surely sex is far more natural than throwing yourself off a bridge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah the weekly "look at me ladies I say bare back is bad, come shag me" thread"

No maybe they just think bare back is bad. Dont think the women on here are that desperate are they? well not me anyway.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ah the weekly "look at me ladies I say bare back is bad, come shag me" thread

No maybe they just think bare back is bad. Dont think the women on here are that desperate are they? well not me anyway."

I really can't see a problem with a guy using any means at his disposal to attract attention, we are all doing that one way or another aren't we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah the weekly "look at me ladies I say bare back is bad, come shag me" thread

No maybe they just think bare back is bad. Dont think the women on here are that desperate are they? well not me anyway.

I really can't see a problem with a guy using any means at his disposal to attract attention, we are all doing that one way or another aren't we?"

its no bad thing to know some men are actualy thinking about these things.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks


"You're at the clinic & your results are positive. So what? Will it deter you from going BB in future? HIV infects many, but actually kills very few, so I'll run the risk because I think I 'probably' won't die from it, & because I lack any altruism, I'll try to infect the whole population?

And if I withdraw so as not to deliver my 'warm & wet' potion to you & that in itself serves as protection enough!

All because I think the 'risk' is worth it ? ! ? !"
do you know anyone with HIV ?. Only Ihave a friend with it. Yes she is lucky as its controlled by drugs. What a cocktail of drugs she takes. Some days she feels so weak and rough she can't even get out of bed. She has lost all her friends, cannot hold down a job. Lost her house which made her and her pensioner mother homeless. Oh and passed hiv on to her husband which ended their marriage. She was on another site chatting people up and still doing bb. Call me a bitch I warned people. So if people don't mind going through all that then fine. I just cant understand it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're at the clinic & your results are positive. So what? Will it deter you from going BB in future? HIV infects many, but actually kills very few, so I'll run the risk because I think I 'probably' won't die from it, & because I lack any altruism, I'll try to infect the whole population?

And if I withdraw so as not to deliver my 'warm & wet' potion to you & that in itself serves as protection enough!

All because I think the 'risk' is worth it ? ! ? ! do you know anyone with HIV ?. Only Ihave a friend with it. Yes she is lucky as its controlled by drugs. What a cocktail of drugs she takes. Some days she feels so weak and rough she can't even get out of bed. She has lost all her friends, cannot hold down a job. Lost her house which made her and her pensioner mother homeless. Oh and passed hiv on to her husband which ended their marriage. She was on another site chatting people up and still doing bb. Call me a bitch I warned people. So if people don't mind going through all that then fine. I just cant understand it."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was 'Spooning' a member of FS recently, & if I withdrew my 'dick' from her pussy she'd reach down with her hand to check I'd not removed the rubber. I thought she was being responsible though it was unnecessary because there was no need to check (but I realize we didn't 'know' each other well enough for that level of trust to have developed yet).

The reason for me withdrawing my 'dick': condoms have split on me in the past, leaving just the 'opening' remains intact, so I'm having the most fun possible but my 'dick's' being strangled & there's no protection anyway.

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By *ngelsdevilWoman
over a year ago

Merseyside


"You're at the clinic & your results are positive. So what? Will it deter you from going BB in future? HIV infects many, but actually kills very few, so I'll run the risk because I think I 'probably' won't die from it, & because I lack any altruism, I'll try to infect the whole population?

And if I withdraw so as not to deliver my 'warm & wet' potion to you & that in itself serves as protection enough!

All because I think the 'risk' is worth it ? ! ? ! do you know anyone with HIV ?. Only Ihave a friend with it. Yes she is lucky as its controlled by drugs. What a cocktail of drugs she takes. Some days she feels so weak and rough she can't even get out of bed. She has lost all her friends, cannot hold down a job. Lost her house which made her and her pensioner mother homeless. Oh and passed hiv on to her husband which ended their marriage. She was on another site chatting people up and still doing bb. Call me a bitch I warned people. So if people don't mind going through all that then fine. I just cant understand it."

Call you a bitch? Id have informed the police about her!!! it is against the law to knowingly pass on HIV to others, unless they want it which I very much doubt! Shocking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do have a HIV check on average (depending on 'where' it's been & if I was wearing a 'rain-coat') once a year, for my own piece of mind.

I've heard different reports on rubbers from females (that I've met off line). Some say that it feels better when it's bare, others report to me there's no difference.

What I'm asking now is can you REALLY tell the difference (answers from females ONLY please, I've very little interest with answers from males. I know it desensitizes me, & I've no plans to see what it feels like 'in' me anyway)."

you can tell and it feels crap.... but still use them .

and once a year for a swinger is not really often enough to be tested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok let me put this into perspective, I prefer bareback for 2 reasons, one more natural, the other a bit long, but bare with me it's worth it and all true, a few years ago we went with a cpl who liked condoms, fair enough, afterwards, we left and 2 days later I became ILL, after a week, I was rushed into hospital, where they operated on me, they found, the guy had left the condom inside me and it had caused a disease, to cut a long story short I nearly died, and had to have 3 major operations in 12 months, having my colon removed, and then wearing a bag for 9 months while it healed. Now this was because the guy said nothing to us about the condom. So no it's NOT always safe with condoms. Please don't come back and say this was a one off, the doctors have told us it happends a lot, maybe not as bad as me but it does happen. Anyway my point it the risk is there as much as doing so called safe sex. I would now run a mile from a condom, and do you blame me. So hope that's put you right on your question.

Sandy xxx

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By *ajandroseMan
over a year ago

tamworth


"This is about the 5th time the OP has put this or similar up...not got an answer yet?

Somebody always writes that the post has been up before! How many pages do you expect someone to trawl through to see if someone else had the same thought?

People like it despite, or because of, the risks. I thought it would be an interesting question to ask too but had only a few people explain why. Lots of people explained to me at length that it was none of my business or that I shouldn't be so, apparently, judgemental.

People often answer the questions they want to rather than the ones that have been written "

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford


"Why do some profiles read: 'Prepared to do bare back'?

. . . Do some like risking their lives?

Any comments?"

Why is it mainly single guys who keep treading this well worn path? Do they think it will get them more meets?

Freedom of choice, boring, move on.

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By *entfootloverMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"where they operated on me, they found, the guy had left the condom inside me"

That was just down to an irresponsible person who didn't tell you as soon as it happened. Surely he must have known he was wearing one on the way in and it wasn't on on the way out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No he didn't, but like I said the doctors said it's more common than you think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"where they operated on me, they found, the guy had left the condom inside me

That was just down to an irresponsible person who didn't tell you as soon as it happened. Surely he must have known he was wearing one on the way in and it wasn't on on the way out..."

guys wont always say... I have had a lost one... but I tell guys to hold it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes proberley right about that sooner be honest, lots of cpls we have met say it, but when we meet they don't. It's just the sigma of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No he didn't, but like I said the doctors said it's more common than you think."

He probably said that to make you feel less worried, its much less likely to happen than someone catching an sti or hiv, which would be much worst.

I mean how many people do you hear of who nearly die because a condom got left inside them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How much worst can it be Hun, I nearly died? And no he didn't say it like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How much worst can it be Hun, I nearly died? And no he didn't say it like that."

to be fair I get your fear but I have had things happen... but I nearly died having a baby but still had another..

I would still rather wear one... as the risk of that happening again are slim.. but chances of catching something real..

But it is your choice and as long as you are telling people then its their choice too. x

I think as long as you dont try to sneak bareback with someone then its up to those involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How much worst can it be Hun, I nearly died? And no he didn't say it like that."

yes you were unlucky that happened to you but its not something that happens as often as people catching hiv.

what if everyone decided not to use condoms, just in case one happened to cum off and get lost inside them?

millions of people would catch hiv.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks


"You're at the clinic & your results are positive. So what? Will it deter you from going BB in future? HIV infects many, but actually kills very few, so I'll run the risk because I think I 'probably' won't die from it, & because I lack any altruism, I'll try to infect the whole population?

And if I withdraw so as not to deliver my 'warm & wet' potion to you & that in itself serves as protection enough!

All because I think the 'risk' is worth it ? ! ? ! do you know anyone with HIV ?. Only Ihave a friend with it. Yes she is lucky as its controlled by drugs. What a cocktail of drugs she takes. Some days she feels so weak and rough she can't even get out of bed. She has lost all her friends, cannot hold down a job. Lost her house which made her and her pensioner mother homeless. Oh and passed hiv on to her husband which ended their marriage. She was on another site chatting people up and still doing bb. Call me a bitch I warned people. So if people don't mind going through all that then fine. I just cant understand it.

Call you a bitch? Id have informed the police about her!!! it is against the law to knowingly pass on HIV to others, unless they want it which I very much doubt! Shocking! "
perhaps I should of done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What has that got to do with you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For the attention of 'Little Miss Cali': I do have relationships with partners I meet socially, (so I'm not an exclusive swinger) & am blessed with the capability of having some morals.

When involved in a R/ship I see no need for a test, so on average it's yearly I'm checked, more to dispel any guilt if I was to infect others.

For 'Sexysandyandhubby': I never realised they were prone to splitting completely, I thought the designed 'opening' was tough enough. When my sheath failed on me, it remained restricted at the opening (so never parted company) I should have guessed it'd failed because I was on the verge of praising the makers of that particular brand for increased sensation.

Though I'm concerned with your experience, I don't think it wouldn't deter me from using one again though. I think I'd rather be subjected to the pain than be given a death sentence, & I'd be more inclined to check it hadn't split again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What has that got to do with you?"

If that inquiry was aimed at me, it has very little to do with me, except to see the mentality of people who fail to wear their "sou' wester".

I would much rather have someone 'trustworthy' that trusted me to fuck 'BB'.

I can see you don't care about your own sexual health. That's the impression you give anyway . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"people say theyre straight and theyre not.

guys say they play safe and dont..its a dangerous game some of us play"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What has that got to do with you?

If that inquiry was aimed at me, it has very little to do with me, except to see the mentality of people who fail to wear their "sou' wester".

I would much rather have someone 'trustworthy' that trusted me to fuck 'BB'.

I can see you don't care about your own sexual health. That's the impression you give anyway . . ."

I care about life not what others are doing with theirs. YOU GET THAT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the attention of 'Little Miss Cali': I do have relationships with partners I meet socially, (so I'm not an exclusive swinger) & am blessed with the capability of having some morals.

When involved in a R/ship I see no need for a test, so on average it's yearly I'm checked, more to dispel any guilt if I was to infect others.

For 'Sexysandyandhubby': I never realised they were prone to splitting completely, I thought the designed 'opening' was tough enough. When my sheath failed on me, it remained restricted at the opening (so never parted company) I should have guessed it'd failed because I was on the verge of praising the makers of that particular brand for increased sensation.

Though I'm concerned with your experience, I don't think it wouldn't deter me from using one again though. I think I'd rather be subjected to the pain than be given a death sentence, & I'd be more inclined to check it hadn't split again."

You do understand that 6 months is the minimum recommended.. and your tone implies that those that swing more have morals.. and why wouldnt you be tested in a relationship..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oops - sorry if I seemed to have different ideas on morals!

I think more regular STD / STI tests for me would be unnecessary because they're unwarranted.

I was only reporting that I do get checked, but only if the situation demands it. i.e. I've had unprotected sex or the condoms split.

Re: 'G/f's'; 'We're' both tested before any BB takes place (well, that's what I would like in an ideal world).

But I can admit to getting pissed in the past & using no protection (that's the danger of alcohol)!

I state again: it has very little to do with me - yes.

But I've gained some knowledge, that though I wasn't previously aware of the regime of tablet taking, I now appreciate the difficulties involved, & the worry of a disease that's with you until the end . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ill keep this short and sweet

How many people do you see in profile pics on this site wearing a condom?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ill keep this short and sweet

How many people do you see in profile pics on this site wearing a condom?."

quite a few and the ones who aren't are likely to be having sex with their partners.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ill keep this short and sweet

How many people do you see in profile pics on this site wearing a condom?."

I can quite categorically state that I am not wearing a condom in any of my pictures.

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