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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work?

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

Does it matter , perhaps better than a load of abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "

If you said no why are you bothered?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Becoming a trend on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "
what ye blocked for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that's fine as you wont meet them, I would do the same in some instances to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its more a case of shocked than bothered. we wouldnt mind if we had told them to sod off or something, but we said goid luck and wished them well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its the height of bad manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the height of bad manners"
how? Bet your block list is just as full as others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the height of bad manners"
totally agree! can u block t hem back lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still, I don't see a problem with it, its not like the op would continue to msg them after the no interest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have blocked people yes, but for good reason, not for saying no! Thats just stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have blocked people yes, but for good reason, not for saying no! Thats just stupid"
welcome to the world of fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have blocked people yes, but for good reason, not for saying no! Thats just stupid welcome to the world of fab"

seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have blocked people yes, but for good reason, not for saying no! Thats just stupid"
ah shur ppl do stupid things here! forget em their loss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They are of little consequence. It is the act of doing it I the first place, not the people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser. "

We went to remove the friend link, hence we discovered it had hapoened.. look surely if someone politely says no then it is good manners to either just let it go or reply politely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser.

We went to remove the friend link, hence we discovered it had hapoened.. look surely if someone politely says no then it is good manners to either just let it go or reply politely. "

They did let it go, that's why they blocked you.

They didn't block you to be nasty or rude it just saves them the embarrassment of messaging you again in a few months time. If they did this you'd wonder why they were hassling you again. By blocking it saves a lot of aggro.

Blocking is not bad manners at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser.

We went to remove the friend link, hence we discovered it had hapoened.. look surely if someone politely says no then it is good manners to either just let it go or reply politely.

They did let it go, that's why they blocked you.

They didn't block you to be nasty or rude it just saves them the embarrassment of messaging you again in a few months time. If they did this you'd wonder why they were hassling you again. By blocking it saves a lot of aggro.

Blocking is not bad manners at all. "

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Burnley


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser.

We went to remove the friend link, hence we discovered it had hapoened.. look surely if someone politely says no then it is good manners to either just let it go or reply politely.

They did let it go, that's why they blocked you.

They didn't block you to be nasty or rude it just saves them the embarrassment of messaging you again in a few months time. If they did this you'd wonder why they were hassling you again. By blocking it saves a lot of aggro.

Blocking is not bad manners at all. "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Then it proves that we all have different ideas as to what constitutes bad manners and rudeness.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser.

We went to remove the friend link, hence we discovered it had hapoened.. look surely if someone politely says no then it is good manners to either just let it go or reply politely.

They did let it go, that's why they blocked you.

They didn't block you to be nasty or rude it just saves them the embarrassment of messaging you again in a few months time. If they did this you'd wonder why they were hassling you again. By blocking it saves a lot of aggro.

Blocking is not bad manners at all. "

^ this

It saves them having to remember who they have contacted in the past and who said no thank you. It also means you won't show in their searches, so searches show those who may be interested rather than a lot of people who aren't.

They weren't being rude. I can't see why you would think that. It's just a practical way of using the site tools to find people interested in meets.

If they'd replied "fuck you then" and then blocked you, that would be rude. Just blocking isn't rude. They assumed you wouldn't want to exchange further messages and took a practical step to avoid bothering you.

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By *exbomb35Couple
over a year ago

Argyll


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser.

We went to remove the friend link, hence we discovered it had hapoened.. look surely if someone politely says no then it is good manners to either just let it go or reply politely.

They did let it go, that's why they blocked you.

They didn't block you to be nasty or rude it just saves them the embarrassment of messaging you again in a few months time. If they did this you'd wonder why they were hassling you again. By blocking it saves a lot of aggro.

Blocking is not bad manners at all. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its more a case of shocked than bothered. we wouldnt mind if we had told them to sod off or something, but we said goid luck and wished them well. "
then they block you to save messaging again by mistake, when you've already politely said no thank you.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Its more a case of shocked than bothered. we wouldnt mind if we had told them to sod off or something, but we said goid luck and wished them well. "

Why shocked? You said no thanks, they blocked you to prevent inadvertently contacting you again. If you said no why go back and look at their profile?

People can't win!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We have blocked people yes, but for good reason, not for saying no! Thats just stupid"

Their "good reason" could be to not contact people who have already said "no". May I suggest you get over yourselves.

YOU said no: what's your problem?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We have blocked people yes, but for good reason, not for saying no! Thats just stupidah shur ppl do stupid things here! forget em their loss "

How is it their loss?!! You're as daft as the op: THEY said no, yet THEY are upset the other party blocked them to make sure they didn't pester them again.

From where I'm sat I think they dodged a bullet being knocked back.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser. "

So not just me then!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser.

We went to remove the friend link, hence we discovered it had hapoened.. look surely if someone politely says no then it is good manners to either just let it go or reply politely.

They did let it go, that's why they blocked you.

They didn't block you to be nasty or rude it just saves them the embarrassment of messaging you again in a few months time. If they did this you'd wonder why they were hassling you again. By blocking it saves a lot of aggro.

Blocking is not bad manners at all. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user."

What are you on about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?"

LMAO hes either d*unk or mental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?"

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?"

If you've blocked them for whatever reason, if you're that bothered you can leave a note on their profile stating why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

If you've blocked them for whatever reason, if you're that bothered you can leave a note on their profile stating why."

but people don't do that

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?"

a) Why does it matter? You don't want to exchange messages with them. Why does it matter why?

b) Use the private notes function to jot down the reason for the block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is a time for everything and this is our time to dance..... (im not quite sure how to get over myself)

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

If you've blocked them for whatever reason, if you're that bothered you can leave a note on their profile stating why.

but people don't do that"

How do you know what notes other people make about other profiles???

And yes, some people most certainly do do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

a) Why does it matter? You don't want to exchange messages with them. Why does it matter why?

b) Use the private notes function to jot down the reason for the block."

a) because when you are in the forum/chat room people like to chat. you might want to chat with someone you don't want to meet and not chat to the abusive person.

b) i assume most people don't do that, they just block.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Some people worry far too much about who has blocked them and why.

Concentrate on the people who are interested, or might be interested, and forget the ones who aren't.

It's a waste of time and energy worrying about being blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The point is this, manners count. It really is that simple. And as for dodging bullets, insults only show the level of your intellect.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


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It's a waste of time and energy worrying about being blocked.

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Obviously not for some!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

a) Why does it matter? You don't want to exchange messages with them. Why does it matter why?

b) Use the private notes function to jot down the reason for the block.

a) because when you are in the forum/chat room people like to chat. you might want to chat with someone you don't want to meet and not chat to the abusive person.

b) i assume most people don't do that, they just block."

Huh?

You're talking about people that block. The question is whether they use the private notes to remind themselves why.

Whatever you assume, I am telling you for a fact that some people DO use the private notes to make a note of why they blocked someone.

Plus, not everyone uses the chatroom so don't worry whether they'd want to chat to people there.

And some people don't block people who've turned them down or that they don't want to meet. They use the private notes to note that they've been turned down and, well, they know if they don't want to meet someone!

I'm really not seeing why this is complicated or why so many people waste time bothering about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally, i would only block someone if they are abusive. however, i do not get over 100 e-mails a day

i can understand why people choose do do it, but there is a disadvantage.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"The point is this, manners count. It really is that simple. And as for dodging bullets, insults only show the level of your intellect. "

Some see it as good manners to take steps to avoid bothering you again. YOU made the decision that you weren't interested.

Why is it bad manners? You weren't interested, they have accepted that and removed you from their pool of interested/might be interested.

That decision was yours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people worry far too much about who has blocked them and why.

Concentrate on the people who are interested, or might be interested, and forget the ones who aren't.

It's a waste of time and energy worrying about being blocked.

"

and I never said I was worried about it. The word I used was shocked. Which is something completely different. But I do owe you all a thank you because the last part of my night shift has gone quite quickly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

a) Why does it matter? You don't want to exchange messages with them. Why does it matter why?

b) Use the private notes function to jot down the reason for the block.

a) because when you are in the forum/chat room people like to chat. you might want to chat with someone you don't want to meet and not chat to the abusive person.

b) i assume most people don't do that, they just block.

Huh?

You're talking about people that block. The question is whether they use the private notes to remind themselves why.

Whatever you assume, I am telling you for a fact that some people DO use the private notes to make a note of why they blocked someone.

Plus, not everyone uses the chatroom so don't worry whether they'd want to chat to people there.

And some people don't block people who've turned them down or that they don't want to meet. They use the private notes to note that they've been turned down and, well, they know if they don't want to meet someone!

I'm really not seeing why this is complicated or why so many people waste time bothering about it."

i am talking about people that block because the op was blocked, not for being abusive, but for turning down a meet from the person that sent the e-mail.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

It's a waste of time and energy worrying about being blocked.

Obviously not for some!"

Xxx

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"personally, i would only block someone if they are abusive. however, i do not get over 100 e-mails a day

i can understand why people choose do do it, but there is a disadvantage."

Obviously there isn't a disadvantage or people wouldn't do it.

I don't find any disadvantage in blocking people I'm not interested in meeting. I don't want to chat with them.

Just because you run your account a certain way does not mean that way would suit everyone.

Each person uses the site in a way that's right for them, whether that suits you or not. They're here for their benefit, not yours.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The point is this, manners count. It really is that simple. And as for dodging bullets, insults only show the level of your intellect. "

I'm honestly stumped by your attitude. If someone said no to me I would block. Not to be "rude" but to prevent myself bothering them again sometime in the future.

You somehow see that as a slight.

What would your reaction be if they contacted you in a couple of weeks? A forum thread about people pestering you after you've said no?

As for my intellect: hmmm...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol sorry i though you said 'why am i talking about people that block'.

sorry my mistake, it's late

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

a) Why does it matter? You don't want to exchange messages with them. Why does it matter why?

b) Use the private notes function to jot down the reason for the block.

a) because when you are in the forum/chat room people like to chat. you might want to chat with someone you don't want to meet and not chat to the abusive person.

b) i assume most people don't do that, they just block.

Huh?

You're talking about people that block. The question is whether they use the private notes to remind themselves why.

Whatever you assume, I am telling you for a fact that some people DO use the private notes to make a note of why they blocked someone.

Plus, not everyone uses the chatroom so don't worry whether they'd want to chat to people there.

And some people don't block people who've turned them down or that they don't want to meet. They use the private notes to note that they've been turned down and, well, they know if they don't want to meet someone!

I'm really not seeing why this is complicated or why so many people waste time bothering about it.

i am talking about people that block because the op was blocked, not for being abusive, but for turning down a meet from the person that sent the e-mail."

You don't get that it's a convenient way of ensuring they don't contact someone not interested again in future and ensuring their searches aren't full of people who are not interested?

Why would anyone waste time chatting to people who aren't interested? Move on. Find the people who are interested.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The point is this, manners count. It really is that simple. And as for dodging bullets, insults only show the level of your intellect.

Some see it as good manners to take steps to avoid bothering you again. YOU made the decision that you weren't interested.

Why is it bad manners? You weren't interested, they have accepted that and removed you from their pool of interested/might be interested.

That decision was yours."

That's my point of view too: I don't get the "angst".

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over a year ago


"personally, i would only block someone if they are abusive. however, i do not get over 100 e-mails a day

i can understand why people choose do do it, but there is a disadvantage.

Obviously there isn't a disadvantage or people wouldn't do it.

I don't find any disadvantage in blocking people I'm not interested in meeting. I don't want to chat with them.

Just because you run your account a certain way does not mean that way would suit everyone.

Each person uses the site in a way that's right for them, whether that suits you or not. They're here for their benefit, not yours."

i never implied that anyone here is here for my benefit. also, i have never instructed anyone how to run their account. i am just expressing an opinion.

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over a year ago


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

a) Why does it matter? You don't want to exchange messages with them. Why does it matter why?

b) Use the private notes function to jot down the reason for the block.

a) because when you are in the forum/chat room people like to chat. you might want to chat with someone you don't want to meet and not chat to the abusive person.

b) i assume most people don't do that, they just block.

Huh?

You're talking about people that block. The question is whether they use the private notes to remind themselves why.

Whatever you assume, I am telling you for a fact that some people DO use the private notes to make a note of why they blocked someone.

Plus, not everyone uses the chatroom so don't worry whether they'd want to chat to people there.

And some people don't block people who've turned them down or that they don't want to meet. They use the private notes to note that they've been turned down and, well, they know if they don't want to meet someone!

I'm really not seeing why this is complicated or why so many people waste time bothering about it.

i am talking about people that block because the op was blocked, not for being abusive, but for turning down a meet from the person that sent the e-mail.

You don't get that it's a convenient way of ensuring they don't contact someone not interested again in future and ensuring their searches aren't full of people who are not interested?

Why would anyone waste time chatting to people who aren't interested? Move on. Find the people who are interested."

i understand perfectly the advantages of it.

lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

a) Why does it matter? You don't want to exchange messages with them. Why does it matter why?

b) Use the private notes function to jot down the reason for the block.

a) because when you are in the forum/chat room people like to chat. you might want to chat with someone you don't want to meet and not chat to the abusive person.

b) i assume most people don't do that, they just block.

Huh?

You're talking about people that block. The question is whether they use the private notes to remind themselves why.

Whatever you assume, I am telling you for a fact that some people DO use the private notes to make a note of why they blocked someone.

Plus, not everyone uses the chatroom so don't worry whether they'd want to chat to people there.

And some people don't block people who've turned them down or that they don't want to meet. They use the private notes to note that they've been turned down and, well, they know if they don't want to meet someone!

I'm really not seeing why this is complicated or why so many people waste time bothering about it.

i am talking about people that block because the op was blocked, not for being abusive, but for turning down a meet from the person that sent the e-mail.

You don't get that it's a convenient way of ensuring they don't contact someone not interested again in future and ensuring their searches aren't full of people who are not interested?

Why would anyone waste time chatting to people who aren't interested? Move on. Find the people who are interested.

i understand perfectly the advantages of it.

lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums."

Blocking doesn't prevent anyone from chatting in the fora

Block who you like. Chat to whom you like. Why concern yourself with those who don't want to chat to you? Why does the reason matter? Knowing it wouldn't change anything.

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over a year ago


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

a) Why does it matter? You don't want to exchange messages with them. Why does it matter why?

b) Use the private notes function to jot down the reason for the block.

a) because when you are in the forum/chat room people like to chat. you might want to chat with someone you don't want to meet and not chat to the abusive person.

b) i assume most people don't do that, they just block.

Huh?

You're talking about people that block. The question is whether they use the private notes to remind themselves why.

Whatever you assume, I am telling you for a fact that some people DO use the private notes to make a note of why they blocked someone.

Plus, not everyone uses the chatroom so don't worry whether they'd want to chat to people there.

And some people don't block people who've turned them down or that they don't want to meet. They use the private notes to note that they've been turned down and, well, they know if they don't want to meet someone!

I'm really not seeing why this is complicated or why so many people waste time bothering about it.

i am talking about people that block because the op was blocked, not for being abusive, but for turning down a meet from the person that sent the e-mail.

You don't get that it's a convenient way of ensuring they don't contact someone not interested again in future and ensuring their searches aren't full of people who are not interested?

Why would anyone waste time chatting to people who aren't interested? Move on. Find the people who are interested.

i understand perfectly the advantages of it.

lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

Blocking doesn't prevent anyone from chatting in the fora

Block who you like. Chat to whom you like. Why concern yourself with those who don't want to chat to you? Why does the reason matter? Knowing it wouldn't change anything."

lol, i am not concerned why some people don't want to chat to me.

i did not create the thread, i just gave my opinion from my perspective

however, i would not want to chat with someone in the forum that had been abusive to me.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"

lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

Blocking doesn't prevent anyone from chatting in the fora

Block who you like. Chat to whom you like. Why concern yourself with those who don't want to chat to you? Why does the reason matter? Knowing it wouldn't change anything.

lol, i am not concerned why some people don't want to chat to me.

i did not create the thread, i just gave my opinion from my perspective

however, i would not want to chat with someone in the forum that had been abusive to me."

You asked how people know why they blocked someone. I answered.

The question is not about how you run your account, since you don't do what the OP is talking about.

The question is why people do it. You don't do it and the tone of your posts suggests it is something you think about, something you also don't understand and don't think people should do (because of the "disadvantages").

I'm explaining why people do it and pointing out that to many there are no disadvantages.

Your posts do somewhat suggest "I do it this way and others should too (because what they do doesn't make sense)".

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums."

And some don't. I'm not seeing the issue or why, if you understand it, what is the point of the discussion.

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over a year ago


"

lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

Blocking doesn't prevent anyone from chatting in the fora

Block who you like. Chat to whom you like. Why concern yourself with those who don't want to chat to you? Why does the reason matter? Knowing it wouldn't change anything.

lol, i am not concerned why some people don't want to chat to me.

i did not create the thread, i just gave my opinion from my perspective

however, i would not want to chat with someone in the forum that had been abusive to me.

You asked how people know why they blocked someone. I answered.

The question is not about how you run your account, since you don't do what the OP is talking about.

The question is why people do it. You don't do it and the tone of your posts suggests it is something you think about, something you also don't understand and don't think people should do (because of the "disadvantages").

I'm explaining why people do it and pointing out that to many there are no disadvantages.

Your posts do somewhat suggest "I do it this way and others should too (because what they do doesn't make sense)"."

i understand why people do it.

i already stated that if i had over 100 emails a day, like many couple and single females get, i can see why they they do it.

however, if they do not use the 'note function' then they will not be able know who was blocked for what reason. as a guy, i can't see that many couples using the not function if the husband is at the pc.

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over a year ago


"Your posts do somewhat suggest "I do it this way and others should too (because what they do doesn't make sense)"."

lol, i do not mean to come across that way. maybe, it is my northern accent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

And some don't. I'm not seeing the issue or why, if you understand it, what is the point of the discussion."

yes you are correct, i should have said 'some chat to me', lol it's late.......or early.

what's the point of the discussion? lol, i did not create the thread i just gave an opinion to a comment that was made

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"

lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

Blocking doesn't prevent anyone from chatting in the fora

Block who you like. Chat to whom you like. Why concern yourself with those who don't want to chat to you? Why does the reason matter? Knowing it wouldn't change anything.

lol, i am not concerned why some people don't want to chat to me.

i did not create the thread, i just gave my opinion from my perspective

however, i would not want to chat with someone in the forum that had been abusive to me.

You asked how people know why they blocked someone. I answered.

The question is not about how you run your account, since you don't do what the OP is talking about.

The question is why people do it. You don't do it and the tone of your posts suggests it is something you think about, something you also don't understand and don't think people should do (because of the "disadvantages").

I'm explaining why people do it and pointing out that to many there are no disadvantages.

Your posts do somewhat suggest "I do it this way and others should too (because what they do doesn't make sense)".

i understand why people do it.

i already stated that if i had over 100 emails a day, like many couple and single females get, i can see why they they do it.

however, if they do not use the 'note function' then they will not be able know who was blocked for what reason. as a guy, i can't see that many couples using the not function if the husband is at the pc."

Some don't care why they blocked. They don't want to chat and that's that. Why do you assume because you want to know why you blocked that everyone does, or should, want to know?

The ones that want to know use the notes. The ones that aren't bothered why don't use the notes.

Some don't care why they blocked. They've decided they don't want to chat, for whatever reason and don't chat.

I'm still not seeing the problem. If they aren't worried about knowing why they blocked, why are you concerned with them knowing why they blocked?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

And some don't. I'm not seeing the issue or why, if you understand it, what is the point of the discussion.

yes you are correct, i should have said 'some chat to me', lol it's late.......or early.

what's the point of the discussion? lol, i did not create the thread i just gave an opinion to a comment that was made "

No you didn't. The OP said why do people do it. You said you don't do it and asked how people know why they block. You implied you think blocking except for abuse is wrong but you actually asked a question.

I answered but am, in turn, asking why it matters to you whether they know why they blocked you?

You seem to be saying it doesn't, so what's your point? Genuine question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

Blocking doesn't prevent anyone from chatting in the fora

Block who you like. Chat to whom you like. Why concern yourself with those who don't want to chat to you? Why does the reason matter? Knowing it wouldn't change anything.

lol, i am not concerned why some people don't want to chat to me.

i did not create the thread, i just gave my opinion from my perspective

however, i would not want to chat with someone in the forum that had been abusive to me.

You asked how people know why they blocked someone. I answered.

The question is not about how you run your account, since you don't do what the OP is talking about.

The question is why people do it. You don't do it and the tone of your posts suggests it is something you think about, something you also don't understand and don't think people should do (because of the "disadvantages").

I'm explaining why people do it and pointing out that to many there are no disadvantages.

Your posts do somewhat suggest "I do it this way and others should too (because what they do doesn't make sense)".

i understand why people do it.

i already stated that if i had over 100 emails a day, like many couple and single females get, i can see why they they do it.

however, if they do not use the 'note function' then they will not be able know who was blocked for what reason. as a guy, i can't see that many couples using the not function if the husband is at the pc.

Some don't care why they blocked. They don't want to chat and that's that. Why do you assume because you want to know why you blocked that everyone does, or should, want to know?

The ones that want to know use the notes. The ones that aren't bothered why don't use the notes.

Some don't care why they blocked. They've decided they don't want to chat, for whatever reason and don't chat.

I'm still not seeing the problem. If they aren't worried about knowing why they blocked, why are you concerned with them knowing why they blocked?"

not knowing why you have blocked someone is a disadvantage. they might not be bothered about it, i understand that.

i am not really concerned if they know or do not know the reason why. i am just saying that i would want to know because i would not want to chat with someone who has been abusive to me.

if i was concerned about them knowing then i would have created the thread, lol i did not create it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

And some don't. I'm not seeing the issue or why, if you understand it, what is the point of the discussion.

yes you are correct, i should have said 'some chat to me', lol it's late.......or early.

what's the point of the discussion? lol, i did not create the thread i just gave an opinion to a comment that was made

No you didn't. The OP said why do people do it. You said you don't do it and asked how people know why they block. You implied you think blocking except for abuse is wrong but you actually asked a question.

I answered but am, in turn, asking why it matters to you whether they know why they blocked you?

You seem to be saying it doesn't, so what's your point? Genuine question. "

i just want to be 100% sure of the people that have been abusive to me. that's why i only put abusive people in my block list.

if you mix it up with other people then how do you tell? am just saying that i want to know coz i don't want to chat with abusive people.

i will chat with anyone but people that have been abusive to me.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"

lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

Blocking doesn't prevent anyone from chatting in the fora

Block who you like. Chat to whom you like. Why concern yourself with those who don't want to chat to you? Why does the reason matter? Knowing it wouldn't change anything.

lol, i am not concerned why some people don't want to chat to me.

i did not create the thread, i just gave my opinion from my perspective

however, i would not want to chat with someone in the forum that had been abusive to me.

You asked how people know why they blocked someone. I answered.

The question is not about how you run your account, since you don't do what the OP is talking about.

The question is why people do it. You don't do it and the tone of your posts suggests it is something you think about, something you also don't understand and don't think people should do (because of the "disadvantages").

I'm explaining why people do it and pointing out that to many there are no disadvantages.

Your posts do somewhat suggest "I do it this way and others should too (because what they do doesn't make sense)".

i understand why people do it.

i already stated that if i had over 100 emails a day, like many couple and single females get, i can see why they they do it.

however, if they do not use the 'note function' then they will not be able know who was blocked for what reason. as a guy, i can't see that many couples using the not function if the husband is at the pc.

Some don't care why they blocked. They don't want to chat and that's that. Why do you assume because you want to know why you blocked that everyone does, or should, want to know?

The ones that want to know use the notes. The ones that aren't bothered why don't use the notes.

Some don't care why they blocked. They've decided they don't want to chat, for whatever reason and don't chat.

I'm still not seeing the problem. If they aren't worried about knowing why they blocked, why are you concerned with them knowing why they blocked?

not knowing why you have blocked someone is a disadvantage. they might not be bothered about it, i understand that.

i am not really concerned if they know or do not know the reason why. i am just saying that i would want to know because i would not want to chat with someone who has been abusive to me.

if i was concerned about them knowing then i would have created the thread, lol i did not create it. "

The thread isn't about whether they know why they blocked someone

There's no disadvantage to not knowing why you blocked someone if you don't care why.

I block people I've declined to meet, or who have declined to meet me, sometimes. I can assure you there is no disadvantage to not knowing why I did it. All I need to know is that I don't want to exchange messages with them.

If you do care, as you do, there is means to address that.

If you potentially do want to chat, I'd simply suggest not blocking! By blocking you will, by default, not chat to anyone abusive, as well as anyone else you don't want to chat to. If you don't want to chat, you don't want to chat. I still don't see why knowing the reason matters.

You seem to think I mean there is no need to know why you have blocked someone because they might not be bothered.

That's not what I am saying. I'm saying some people who do the blocking don't care if they (in future) know why. They know they don't want to exchange messages and that's all they need to know.

I'm still confused here.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

And some don't. I'm not seeing the issue or why, if you understand it, what is the point of the discussion.

yes you are correct, i should have said 'some chat to me', lol it's late.......or early.

what's the point of the discussion? lol, i did not create the thread i just gave an opinion to a comment that was made

No you didn't. The OP said why do people do it. You said you don't do it and asked how people know why they block. You implied you think blocking except for abuse is wrong but you actually asked a question.

I answered but am, in turn, asking why it matters to you whether they know why they blocked you?

You seem to be saying it doesn't, so what's your point? Genuine question.

i just want to be 100% sure of the people that have been abusive to me. that's why i only put abusive people in my block list.

if you mix it up with other people then how do you tell? am just saying that i want to know coz i don't want to chat with abusive people.

i will chat with anyone but people that have been abusive to me."

Why do you need to tell?

You block people you don't want to talk to. You don't want to talk to them. Why does it matter if you remember why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

And some don't. I'm not seeing the issue or why, if you understand it, what is the point of the discussion.

yes you are correct, i should have said 'some chat to me', lol it's late.......or early.

what's the point of the discussion? lol, i did not create the thread i just gave an opinion to a comment that was made

No you didn't. The OP said why do people do it. You said you don't do it and asked how people know why they block. You implied you think blocking except for abuse is wrong but you actually asked a question.

I answered but am, in turn, asking why it matters to you whether they know why they blocked you?

You seem to be saying it doesn't, so what's your point? Genuine question.

i just want to be 100% sure of the people that have been abusive to me. that's why i only put abusive people in my block list.

if you mix it up with other people then how do you tell? am just saying that i want to know coz i don't want to chat with abusive people.

i will chat with anyone but people that have been abusive to me.

Why do you need to tell?

You block people you don't want to talk to. You don't want to talk to them. Why does it matter if you remember why?"

the only people i do not want to chat to again are those people that have been abusive to me.

i understand you get over 100 emails a day, but i dont.

therefore, i dont have the opportunity to block people because the have requested a meet but i have declined.

i understand why single women and couples do it, i have already stated that.

personally, i just would not want to mix them up

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over a year ago

i will tell you what i do want though.

if i have blocked someone then i don't think they should be allowed to post on the threads i create.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the height of bad manners"

What is? Blocking someone?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

And some don't. I'm not seeing the issue or why, if you understand it, what is the point of the discussion.

yes you are correct, i should have said 'some chat to me', lol it's late.......or early.

what's the point of the discussion? lol, i did not create the thread i just gave an opinion to a comment that was made

No you didn't. The OP said why do people do it. You said you don't do it and asked how people know why they block. You implied you think blocking except for abuse is wrong but you actually asked a question.

I answered but am, in turn, asking why it matters to you whether they know why they blocked you?

You seem to be saying it doesn't, so what's your point? Genuine question.

i just want to be 100% sure of the people that have been abusive to me. that's why i only put abusive people in my block list.

if you mix it up with other people then how do you tell? am just saying that i want to know coz i don't want to chat with abusive people.

i will chat with anyone but people that have been abusive to me.

Why do you need to tell?

You block people you don't want to talk to. You don't want to talk to them. Why does it matter if you remember why?

the only people i do not want to chat to again are those people that have been abusive to me.

i understand you get over 100 emails a day, but i dont.

therefore, i dont have the opportunity to block people because the have requested a meet but i have declined.

i understand why single women and couples do it, i have already stated that.

personally, i just would not want to mix them up"

You block people you don't want to chat to. The only people you don't want to chat to are abusive people, so you can keep them separate easily. You could also use the note function if it helped.

You could block people who have turned you down to avoid messaging them again. You choose not to. That's your choice. Others make a different choice.

I've been blocked by men after I've said "no thank you". They want to remove me from their searches and not risk contacting me again.

Other people block those they don't wish to exchange messages with, just like you. Some don't want to message people they aren't interested in meeting as well as those that are abusive. They either don't care about mixing them up or they use the note function.

You asked how people know why they blocked someone. They either don't care or they use the notes.

You seem to think there's a problem with not knowing why you blocked someone. There isn't, or people use the notes.

If you blocked for other reasons than abuse, I understand that you personally would want to know the reason. The sensible course of action would be to use the notes function.

Since you only block for abuse it's not something you need to worry about.

(PS I don't get 100 messages per day because I use various filters and because I live in the arse end of nowhere. I still block people simply because I'm not interested in meeting them sometimes. I'm not interested in chatting to them so there's no advantage to knowing why I blocked them.)

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over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "

It works on a very basic level.

Get blocking, tidies up the search.

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over a year ago


"lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

And some don't. I'm not seeing the issue or why, if you understand it, what is the point of the discussion.

yes you are correct, i should have said 'some chat to me', lol it's late.......or early.

what's the point of the discussion? lol, i did not create the thread i just gave an opinion to a comment that was made

No you didn't. The OP said why do people do it. You said you don't do it and asked how people know why they block. You implied you think blocking except for abuse is wrong but you actually asked a question.

I answered but am, in turn, asking why it matters to you whether they know why they blocked you?

You seem to be saying it doesn't, so what's your point? Genuine question.

i just want to be 100% sure of the people that have been abusive to me. that's why i only put abusive people in my block list.

if you mix it up with other people then how do you tell? am just saying that i want to know coz i don't want to chat with abusive people.

i will chat with anyone but people that have been abusive to me.

Why do you need to tell?

You block people you don't want to talk to. You don't want to talk to them. Why does it matter if you remember why?

the only people i do not want to chat to again are those people that have been abusive to me.

i understand you get over 100 emails a day, but i dont.

therefore, i dont have the opportunity to block people because the have requested a meet but i have declined.

i understand why single women and couples do it, i have already stated that.

personally, i just would not want to mix them up

You block people you don't want to chat to. The only people you don't want to chat to are abusive people, so you can keep them separate easily. You could also use the note function if it helped.

You could block people who have turned you down to avoid messaging them again. You choose not to. That's your choice. Others make a different choice.

I've been blocked by men after I've said "no thank you". They want to remove me from their searches and not risk contacting me again.

Other people block those they don't wish to exchange messages with, just like you. Some don't want to message people they aren't interested in meeting as well as those that are abusive. They either don't care about mixing them up or they use the note function.

You asked how people know why they blocked someone. They either don't care or they use the notes.

You seem to think there's a problem with not knowing why you blocked someone. There isn't, or people use the notes.

If you blocked for other reasons than abuse, I understand that you personally would want to know the reason. The sensible course of action would be to use the notes function.

Since you only block for abuse it's not something you need to worry about.

(PS I don't get 100 messages per day because I use various filters and because I live in the arse end of nowhere. I still block people simply because I'm not interested in meeting them sometimes. I'm not interested in chatting to them so there's no advantage to knowing why I blocked them.)"

well if someone blocked me, i would have to consider if it would be appropriate for me to chat to them in the forum.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"lots of people are not interested in meeting me, but they still chat to me in the chat rooms and the forums.

And some don't. I'm not seeing the issue or why, if you understand it, what is the point of the discussion.

yes you are correct, i should have said 'some chat to me', lol it's late.......or early.

what's the point of the discussion? lol, i did not create the thread i just gave an opinion to a comment that was made

No you didn't. The OP said why do people do it. You said you don't do it and asked how people know why they block. You implied you think blocking except for abuse is wrong but you actually asked a question.

I answered but am, in turn, asking why it matters to you whether they know why they blocked you?

You seem to be saying it doesn't, so what's your point? Genuine question.

i just want to be 100% sure of the people that have been abusive to me. that's why i only put abusive people in my block list.

if you mix it up with other people then how do you tell? am just saying that i want to know coz i don't want to chat with abusive people.

i will chat with anyone but people that have been abusive to me.

Why do you need to tell?

You block people you don't want to talk to. You don't want to talk to them. Why does it matter if you remember why?

the only people i do not want to chat to again are those people that have been abusive to me.

i understand you get over 100 emails a day, but i dont.

therefore, i dont have the opportunity to block people because the have requested a meet but i have declined.

i understand why single women and couples do it, i have already stated that.

personally, i just would not want to mix them up

You block people you don't want to chat to. The only people you don't want to chat to are abusive people, so you can keep them separate easily. You could also use the note function if it helped.

You could block people who have turned you down to avoid messaging them again. You choose not to. That's your choice. Others make a different choice.

I've been blocked by men after I've said "no thank you". They want to remove me from their searches and not risk contacting me again.

Other people block those they don't wish to exchange messages with, just like you. Some don't want to message people they aren't interested in meeting as well as those that are abusive. They either don't care about mixing them up or they use the note function.

You asked how people know why they blocked someone. They either don't care or they use the notes.

You seem to think there's a problem with not knowing why you blocked someone. There isn't, or people use the notes.

If you blocked for other reasons than abuse, I understand that you personally would want to know the reason. The sensible course of action would be to use the notes function.

Since you only block for abuse it's not something you need to worry about.

(PS I don't get 100 messages per day because I use various filters and because I live in the arse end of nowhere. I still block people simply because I'm not interested in meeting them sometimes. I'm not interested in chatting to them so there's no advantage to knowing why I blocked them.)

well if someone blocked me, i would have to consider if it would be appropriate for me to chat to them in the forum."

There's no reason not to, unless it's to try to discuss the block or to attack them. If they have a problem with you, they can simply ignore you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well they have either blocked you because they are butthurt at the rejection or they blocked you because it saves them messaging you again by mistake

people can assume which ever they like but only the couple in question know why they blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not rocket science

everyone has the freedom to do what they want

its called choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the height of bad manners"

No it's not. Some people block so they don't message you again or waste your time. To some it's another filter. If you think its rude you really need to grow a thicker skin whilst your on this site.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "

I've been blocked for sending (on request) a face pic so if that upset me for like 3 seconds, I'm sure you'll both get over your block

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work?

I've been blocked for sending (on request) a face pic so if that upset me for like 3 seconds, I'm sure you'll both get over your block "

Not without therapy it would appear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work?

I've been blocked for sending (on request) a face pic so if that upset me for like 3 seconds, I'm sure you'll both get over your block

Not without therapy it would appear! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "

Did you want to keep in touch with them? Did you like looking at their pics? If they mailed in. week asking for a meet, what would you say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have blocked people yes, but for good reason, not for saying no! Thats just stupid"

I block people because I'm not interested in chatting with or meeting them, not because they have offended me always. That saves either of us getting in contact again by accident, so prevents any time being wasted in unfruitful messaging. It's not like they reported you, that's different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

each to their own - we been blocked for allsorts doesnt bother us - we wouldnt bother with anybody who didnt want to look/chat/meet us - we have also blocked and been blocked purely by accident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

If you've blocked them for whatever reason, if you're that bothered you can leave a note on their profile stating why."

As long as you do it before blocking as you can't message someone you have blocked.

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "

Typical, you ignore a message they complain, you give a polite no, they block you, you can never win sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "

Why is that an issue?

You said no!

They probably blocked you so that you don't come up in a search and so that they can't send you further messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It maybe they have blocked you so they dont bother contacting you again, a couple we declined politely did the same to us.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?

If you've blocked them for whatever reason, if you're that bothered you can leave a note on their profile stating why.

As long as you do it before blocking as you can't message someone you have blocked."

You don't need to be able to message someone to make a note in the private notes section. You can still write private notes after blocking someone.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work?

I've been blocked for sending (on request) a face pic so if that upset me for like 3 seconds, I'm sure you'll both get over your block "

I've been blocked for the same. In fact my face scared one guy off the site totally (except he didn't actually leave) It doesn't bother me at all. I know I'm not one of the beautiful people.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work?

I've been blocked for sending (on request) a face pic so if that upset me for like 3 seconds, I'm sure you'll both get over your block

Not without therapy it would appear! "

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By *elfish...Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"personally, i would only block someone if they are abusive. however, i do not get over 100 e-mails a day

i can understand why people choose do do it, but there is a disadvantage.

Obviously there isn't a disadvantage or people wouldn't do it.

I don't find any disadvantage in blocking people I'm not interested in meeting. I don't want to chat with them.

Just because you run your account a certain way does not mean that way would suit everyone.

Each person uses the site in a way that's right for them, whether that suits you or not. They're here for their benefit, not yours."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not rude at all to block after a polite no thanks. As others have said, it stops them contacting you again in the future. I have lost count of the number of times the same guys have messaged me clearly not realising they've messaged before. Its a waste of their time and mine. I think its a good thing to do and in a strange way, they're actually doing you a favour. Why some people get so worked up about being blocked by a total stranger they don't know are are not interested in I'll never know.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have blocked people yes, but for good reason, not for saying no! Thats just stupid"

Not stupid at all, it's just another filter and saves wasting time at a later date. I often block those I don't wish to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?"

Because the forum rules state that you shouldn't use the forum to get around persional blocks. It would also bugger up the continuity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Because the forum rules state that you shouldn't use the forum to get around persional blocks. It would also bugger up the continuity."

well if you create a thread in the forum and everyone you blocked is banned from posting on your thread, how will that bugger up the continuity? none of their posts will get on your thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Because the forum rules state that you shouldn't use the forum to get around persional blocks. It would also bugger up the continuity.

well if you create a thread in the forum and everyone you blocked is banned from posting on your thread, how will that bugger up the continuity? none of their posts will get on your thread."

That would be impractical. It's also an open forum, blocking certain people from posting on certain threads is the worst form of censorship, especially if they've not broken the forum rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not rude at all to block after a polite no thanks. As others have said, it stops them contacting you again in the future. I have lost count of the number of times the same guys have messaged me clearly not realising they've messaged before. Its a waste of their time and mine. I think its a good thing to do and in a strange way, they're actually doing you a favour. Why some people get so worked up about being blocked by a total stranger they don't know are are not interested in I'll never know."

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I once blocked a couple (and it must have been by accident with my fumble fingers on the iPhone) then got chatting to them at a social and all going well and good, a right laugh etc then they told me I'd blocked them. 30 secs later they were unblocked. Talk about social situation embaressment though!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?"

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Because the forum rules state that you shouldn't use the forum to get around persional blocks. It would also bugger up the continuity.

well if you create a thread in the forum and everyone you blocked is banned from posting on your thread, how will that bugger up the continuity? none of their posts will get on your thread.

That would be impractical. It's also an open forum, blocking certain people from posting on certain threads is the worst form of censorship, especially if they've not broken the forum rules."

in my personal opinion there is not difference in posting a private e-mail and posting a comment in the forum. a block should be a block. it all should be blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no."

lol, i am not surprised by that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Because the forum rules state that you shouldn't use the forum to get around persional blocks. It would also bugger up the continuity.

well if you create a thread in the forum and everyone you blocked is banned from posting on your thread, how will that bugger up the continuity? none of their posts will get on your thread.

That would be impractical. It's also an open forum, blocking certain people from posting on certain threads is the worst form of censorship, especially if they've not broken the forum rules.

in my personal opinion there is not difference in posting a private e-mail and posting a comment in the forum. a block should be a block. it all should be blocked."

There is a big difference in my opinion. Posting on a thread is taking part in the discussion of that particular thread and maybe commenting on what others have said, not just the blocked person. If they say something personal that has nothing to do with the thread then it could be seen as trying to get around a block which is against site rules. Many people block others in the forums for whatever reason and have never actually privately messaged them so they are probably blissfully unaware they're blocked. It would take out huge chunks of a thread and wouldn't make sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the height of bad manners

No it's not. Some people block so they don't message you again or waste your time. To some it's another filter. If you think its rude you really need to grow a thicker skin whilst your on this site."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a load of wasted huffiness over getting blocked by someone you had no interest in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a load of wasted huffiness over getting blocked by someone you had no interest in "

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a load of wasted huffiness over getting blocked by someone you had no interest in

Well said!"

Lol. This too

As she said tho; it helped pass the night shift

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a load of wasted huffiness over getting blocked by someone you had no interest in

Well said!

Lol. This too

As she said tho; it helped pass the night shift "

I didn't get that far but I agree with helping pass the night

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Well that's fine as you wont meet them, I would do the same in some instances to."

wait, no lol ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Its the height of bad manners"

Some people block to stop them from.mistakenly contacting people who have turned them down. It's how they manage their profile and their prerogative.

What is the height of bad manners is loudly declaiming that person all over a public forum where they will be able to recognise themselves. If your self image is such that being blocked by a stranger makes you this angry you probably need to step back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if someone is abusive to you then you block them. you can block someone, maybe a nice person, after they have sent you an e-mail because you don't like their profile. they both appear on your block list, but how do you tell the difference between them?

if your in the forum/chat room and you notice that you have blocked a user, how do you know why you have block them? personally, i would want to know why i had blocked the user.

What are you on about?

if you block someone because you don't want to meet them, for whatever reason, then they appear on you block list.

if you block someone because they are abusive to you then they appear on you block list.

if your in the forum and you notice you have blocked someone, how do you tell the difference?"

Does it bloody matter Jeez if you are that bothered by it, use the note facility then you will ALWAYS know

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that"

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

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By *arabeefWoman
over a year ago

otley


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser.

We went to remove the friend link, hence we discovered it had hapoened.. look surely if someone politely says no then it is good manners to either just let it go or reply politely.

They did let it go, that's why they blocked you.

They didn't block you to be nasty or rude it just saves them the embarrassment of messaging you again in a few months time. If they did this you'd wonder why they were hassling you again. By blocking it saves a lot of aggro.

Blocking is not bad manners at all. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that"

Not wholly true, if for example I have blocked you, any thread that I look at where you have commented will appear disjointed and the comments made by all those on the thread won't make sense, that's why it wouldn't work. Plus admin would have to ensure that every thread was checked and for each person only viewing it (how would they know who is viewing it?), that anyone they have blocked cannot be seen by them. Pointless illogical waste of time

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view."

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "

sometimes ppl do that so they dont contact you again once you said no. its a good way otherwise they keep pestering you not realising they have contacted you before., well thats what some do lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have blocked people yes, but for good reason, not for saying no! Thats just stupid"

I'm sorry op but it's not stupid at all.

I block all those that I say no to or that say no to me.

For me the block button is a contact management system and saves me harassing others and them harassing me when avatars are changed etc

Lots of people don't read profiles to see if they have corresponded before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The point is this, manners count. It really is that simple. And as for dodging bullets, insults only show the level of your intellect. "

In my opinion them blocking you is manners on their account, you politely said no so they are being polite by not contacting you again by mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here. "

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"Its the height of bad manners"

It happens a lot get used to it, in a way it saves you the hassle of doing it later.

I hope I don 't blocked for this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block. "

It would make a thread disjointed because every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed ONLY for the person(s) who have blocked them.

Go through this thread and remove the comments made by someone who has contributed the most, now read it back, it won't make any sense will it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block.

It would make a thread disjointed because every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed ONLY for the person(s) who have blocked them.

Go through this thread and remove the comments made by someone who has contributed the most, now read it back, it won't make any sense will it"

lol, do not get what i am suggesting. let me re-write it in your words:

every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed FOR EVERY USER looking at the thread, even if the other users have not blocked. the most important thing is that the original poster has blocked. this means that the blocked users on the op's list can not access the thread.

please do not confuse what i am suggesting with how the chat rooms work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block.

It would make a thread disjointed because every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed ONLY for the person(s) who have blocked them.

Go through this thread and remove the comments made by someone who has contributed the most, now read it back, it won't make any sense will it

lol, do not get what i am suggesting. let me re-write it in your words:

every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed FOR EVERY USER looking at the thread, even if the other users have not blocked. the most important thing is that the original poster has blocked. this means that the blocked users on the op's list can not access the thread.

please do not confuse what i am suggesting with how the chat rooms work."

So how do you stop people you blocked contacting you on a thread you haven't started but commented on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block.

It would make a thread disjointed because every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed ONLY for the person(s) who have blocked them.

Go through this thread and remove the comments made by someone who has contributed the most, now read it back, it won't make any sense will it

lol, do not get what i am suggesting. let me re-write it in your words:

every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed FOR EVERY USER looking at the thread, even if the other users have not blocked. the most important thing is that the original poster has blocked. this means that the blocked users on the op's list can not access the thread.

please do not confuse what i am suggesting with how the chat rooms work.

So how do you stop people you blocked contacting you on a thread you haven't started but commented on?"

what, sorry, i am not sure what you mean?

let me say it another way. the op 'owns' the thread. therefore, the op and only the op can decide who uses the thread. if a user is on the op's block list then the 'post message' button will not be there to click. therefore the blocked user can not post anything on threads the op has created.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block.

It would make a thread disjointed because every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed ONLY for the person(s) who have blocked them.

Go through this thread and remove the comments made by someone who has contributed the most, now read it back, it won't make any sense will it

lol, do not get what i am suggesting. let me re-write it in your words:

every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed FOR EVERY USER looking at the thread, even if the other users have not blocked. the most important thing is that the original poster has blocked. this means that the blocked users on the op's list can not access the thread.

please do not confuse what i am suggesting with how the chat rooms work.

So how do you stop people you blocked contacting you on a thread you haven't started but commented on?

what, sorry, i am not sure what you mean?

let me say it another way. the op 'owns' the thread. therefore, the op and only the op can decide who uses the thread. if a user is on the op's block list then the 'post message' button will not be there to click. therefore the blocked user can not post anything on threads the op has created."

I totally get what you're saying but what is the purpose for the forum block? To stop them contacting you? To stop them seeing what you've posted? If you block a user specifically from viewing and commenting on your threads, what is so stop them commenting or contacting you on another persons thread that you have posted on? Its not workable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block.

It would make a thread disjointed because every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed ONLY for the person(s) who have blocked them.

Go through this thread and remove the comments made by someone who has contributed the most, now read it back, it won't make any sense will it

lol, do not get what i am suggesting. let me re-write it in your words:

every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed FOR EVERY USER looking at the thread, even if the other users have not blocked. the most important thing is that the original poster has blocked. this means that the blocked users on the op's list can not access the thread.

please do not confuse what i am suggesting with how the chat rooms work.

So how do you stop people you blocked contacting you on a thread you haven't started but commented on?"

yes, sorry i get you now

good question. the short answer is you can not. this is because the op and only the op has the authority to block people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block.

It would make a thread disjointed because every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed ONLY for the person(s) who have blocked them.

Go through this thread and remove the comments made by someone who has contributed the most, now read it back, it won't make any sense will it

lol, do not get what i am suggesting. let me re-write it in your words:

every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed FOR EVERY USER looking at the thread, even if the other users have not blocked. the most important thing is that the original poster has blocked. this means that the blocked users on the op's list can not access the thread.

please do not confuse what i am suggesting with how the chat rooms work.

So how do you stop people you blocked contacting you on a thread you haven't started but commented on?

what, sorry, i am not sure what you mean?

let me say it another way. the op 'owns' the thread. therefore, the op and only the op can decide who uses the thread. if a user is on the op's block list then the 'post message' button will not be there to click. therefore the blocked user can not post anything on threads the op has created.

I totally get what you're saying but what is the purpose for the forum block? To stop them contacting you? To stop them seeing what you've posted? If you block a user specifically from viewing and commenting on your threads, what is so stop them commenting or contacting you on another persons thread that you have posted on? Its not workable. "

the forum block is there to give the op authority and control of the thread that has been created.

the blocked user will still be able to see everything. however, it's just that the blocked user will not be able to comment on any of the threads the op has created.

it is true that the blocked user will be able to make contact on another thread that has been commented on. however, if a person decides to comment on another thread then they do so voluntarily and therefore must accept that risk.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "

the way it works is quite simple really:

you - thanks but no thanks

them - 'ok best block so I don't message them again'

whats so hard to understand?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I really don't understand the op ' s position ? It's certainly not rude I block most that I get a rejection from its the best way to prevent accidental re messaging . Sadly very few reply so on all my first messages I politely request to be blocked if the person is not interested .I don't understand why being blocked seems to be such an issue or threat ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser. "

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block.

It would make a thread disjointed because every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed ONLY for the person(s) who have blocked them.

Go through this thread and remove the comments made by someone who has contributed the most, now read it back, it won't make any sense will it

lol, do not get what i am suggesting. let me re-write it in your words:

every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed FOR EVERY USER looking at the thread, even if the other users have not blocked. the most important thing is that the original poster has blocked. this means that the blocked users on the op's list can not access the thread.

please do not confuse what i am suggesting with how the chat rooms work.

So how do you stop people you blocked contacting you on a thread you haven't started but commented on?

what, sorry, i am not sure what you mean?

let me say it another way. the op 'owns' the thread. therefore, the op and only the op can decide who uses the thread. if a user is on the op's block list then the 'post message' button will not be there to click. therefore the blocked user can not post anything on threads the op has created."

I think you've got the wrong idea about this place if you think that anyone who starts a thread "owns" it or has any right to dictate how it goes.

This is Admin's playground and they've given the mods authority but for everyone else, once they write a post, it's out there in the wild.

It strikes me as a bit childish and petulant to want to ban people you don't like from your threads. We're adults (supposedly). Ignore the posts by people you don't like and, if they're abusive, report them.

If you want to "own" threads, you need to start your own site!

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this still going on, the op sais they are not interested why should they excpect a reply back? A block is fine yes. I would do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block.

It would make a thread disjointed because every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed ONLY for the person(s) who have blocked them.

Go through this thread and remove the comments made by someone who has contributed the most, now read it back, it won't make any sense will it

lol, do not get what i am suggesting. let me re-write it in your words:

every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed FOR EVERY USER looking at the thread, even if the other users have not blocked. the most important thing is that the original poster has blocked. this means that the blocked users on the op's list can not access the thread.

please do not confuse what i am suggesting with how the chat rooms work.

So how do you stop people you blocked contacting you on a thread you haven't started but commented on?

what, sorry, i am not sure what you mean?

let me say it another way. the op 'owns' the thread. therefore, the op and only the op can decide who uses the thread. if a user is on the op's block list then the 'post message' button will not be there to click. therefore the blocked user can not post anything on threads the op has created.

I think you've got the wrong idea about this place if you think that anyone who starts a thread "owns" it or has any right to dictate how it goes.

This is Admin's playground and they've given the mods authority but for everyone else, once they write a post, it's out there in the wild.

It strikes me as a bit childish and petulant to want to ban people you don't like from your threads. We're adults (supposedly). Ignore the posts by people you don't like and, if they're abusive, report them.

If you want to "own" threads, you need to start your own site! "

lol, i understand what you are saying and i don't really want to own anything.

earlier, there were some users that did not fully understand my suggestion. i think they thought i wanted a blocking system like in the chat room. therefore, i tried to think of another way i could explain my idea. i used the word 'own'. however, a more accurate word would be 'manage'.

people don't have to agree with each other. yes we are all adults, supposedly. i emphasise supposedly. however, as you are probably aware, there are some abusive people in this forum.

people write nice profiles to help them sell themselves on this site. however, you can really see someone's true personality from what they write in the forum. what they write in the forum and what is written on their profiles are not always consistent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Dear god, it this still going...lol I've been asleep for 8 hours..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will occasionally block people who are not interested just so we don't stumble over their profile again or see them in searches a while later and waste both ours and their time by re engaging.

It's not rude to block x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block.

It would make a thread disjointed because every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed ONLY for the person(s) who have blocked them.

Go through this thread and remove the comments made by someone who has contributed the most, now read it back, it won't make any sense will it

lol, do not get what i am suggesting. let me re-write it in your words:

every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed FOR EVERY USER looking at the thread, even if the other users have not blocked. the most important thing is that the original poster has blocked. this means that the blocked users on the op's list can not access the thread.

please do not confuse what i am suggesting with how the chat rooms work.

So how do you stop people you blocked contacting you on a thread you haven't started but commented on?

what, sorry, i am not sure what you mean?

let me say it another way. the op 'owns' the thread. therefore, the op and only the op can decide who uses the thread. if a user is on the op's block list then the 'post message' button will not be there to click. therefore the blocked user can not post anything on threads the op has created.

I think you've got the wrong idea about this place if you think that anyone who starts a thread "owns" it or has any right to dictate how it goes.

This is Admin's playground and they've given the mods authority but for everyone else, once they write a post, it's out there in the wild.

It strikes me as a bit childish and petulant to want to ban people you don't like from your threads. We're adults (supposedly). Ignore the posts by people you don't like and, if they're abusive, report them.

If you want to "own" threads, you need to start your own site!

lol, i understand what you are saying and i don't really want to own anything.

earlier, there were some users that did not fully understand my suggestion. i think they thought i wanted a blocking system like in the chat room. therefore, i tried to think of another way i could explain my idea. i used the word 'own'. however, a more accurate word would be 'manage'.

people don't have to agree with each other. yes we are all adults, supposedly. i emphasise supposedly. however, as you are probably aware, there are some abusive people in this forum.

people write nice profiles to help them sell themselves on this site. however, you can really see someone's true personality from what they write in the forum. what they write in the forum and what is written on their profiles are not always consistent. "

Sometimes the profile and posting style don't match up and then when you meet the person they are different to both.

You just have to use your judgement. I insist on a social meet too, to check further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "
just wondering how you knew you were blocked after saying no, did you look again ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to shag you but I want to be able to perv at your profile

that's what this thread could have been titled

Crazy thread

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

How difficult can blocking be? have sent 15 introduction messages requesting a block if not interested . only one has managed? the block button is right next to the delete . Of course I then have to send another message to ensure they find me repulsive and not that their in box is full and done a mass deletion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't read the whole replies but it could be something simple like you have said you don't want to meet, so they don't want to bother you again so block you so they don't accidentally send you another message in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting blocked is all part of the game. IT's happened to me a couple of times and will probably happen more.

It's best to just get over it and focus on the people on here who do have time for you or are more worth your time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blocked ! you mean there is something other than being blocked xxx

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"Its the height of bad manners"

No, its not!

They most likely blocked you to remove you from their search and to avoid asking again....

I someone isn't interested in meeting....block them....simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

why will it make the thread disjointed? if you block someone then that person will not be able to post anything on the threads you create, not one word or letter.

if a user is on your block list then that implies you not interested in what they have to say.

if you block someone you can't send them email or view what they have written in the chat room. why should the forum be special? a block should be a complete block.

It would make a thread disjointed because every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed ONLY for the person(s) who have blocked them.

Go through this thread and remove the comments made by someone who has contributed the most, now read it back, it won't make any sense will it

lol, do not get what i am suggesting. let me re-write it in your words:

every comment by the blocked person would have to be removed FOR EVERY USER looking at the thread, even if the other users have not blocked. the most important thing is that the original poster has blocked. this means that the blocked users on the op's list can not access the thread.

please do not confuse what i am suggesting with how the chat rooms work."

Get it right, I'm not confusing the forums with the chat rooms as I don't actually use the chat rooms so don't know how they work

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use block to filter out people that appear on my searches that either don't want to meet single men or are so full of themselves I wouldn't want too meet them. That saves them appearing on the next search I do.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Its the height of bad manners"

Worse than farting loudly when having tea with ones new partners family..?

maybe it's their way of not contacting you again..

its just another function of the site..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "

i always thank the person and then block..saves contacting again in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

"

but, what if i block them?

i still don't understand. why would i be interested in what they have to say in here if i have blocked them?

also, why would i want anyone from my block list posting comments on my threads?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have blocked people who have said no to us. It takes them out of the equation when we are looking for meets another time. After all. We are of no interest to them. So why should it bother them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

but, what if i block them?

i still don't understand. why would i be interested in what they have to say in here if i have blocked them?

also, why would i want anyone from my block list posting comments on my threads?"

It would be disjointed and very difficult to follow. This thread isnt the OPs property. Anyone on site can comment (apart from newbies) and the forums are in the public domain so anyone on the internet can see.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


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i still don't understand. why would i be interested in what they have to say in here if i have blocked them?

also, why would i want anyone from my block list posting comments on my threads?"

Ok. As others have said they are not 'your' threads. You might start them but then anyone can post on them as long as forum rules arent broken.

You have no say at all who posts on the thread. That includes people that you have blocked or have blocked you .

If someone is posting on the thread to cause trouble because you have blocked them then report the post .

The only people that can remove or delete posts are Admin and the forum mods. That isnt going to change as much as you might want it to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no interest in perving profiles nor any interaction with anyone we don't wish to meet . So the block button is our best filter .

It works both ways though and we encourage those who have no interest in us to do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the height of bad manners"

It really sounds like your massive ego has taken a hit you just can't seem to believe that someone would have the audacity to block you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just re-joined fab again and must admit I've blocked a few basically I'll send a message if gets deleted or if the unthinkable happens and I get a no thanks reply lol, I block them never thought was bad manners for me it so I don't message again surely it's best thing to do as I said person has said no isn't it better to leave it there??. I wouldn't be at all bothered if I got blocked for same reason. As they say plenty more fish in the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crumbs we've blocked people that we have never spoke to

Nothing personal but if we are not interested it save us looking at them over and over & so we don't waste their time either

Didn't know people find that rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?"

because this isnt a one to one conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

after going through this post...I think I can safely say ive developed a slight phobia to the word 'block'

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"They probably blocked you so they don't message you again. It's not being rude it's a practical way of removing you from their searches. You've said no therefore it shouldn't bother at all.

If you hadn't had looked at their profile after you'd said no you would be none the wiser.

We went to remove the friend link, hence we discovered it had hapoened.. look surely if someone politely says no then it is good manners to either just let it go or reply politely.

They did let it go, that's why they blocked you.

They didn't block you to be nasty or rude it just saves them the embarrassment of messaging you again in a few months time. If they did this you'd wonder why they were hassling you again. By blocking it saves a lot of aggro.

Blocking is not bad manners at all.

^ this

It saves them having to remember who they have contacted in the past and who said no thank you. It also means you won't show in their searches, so searches show those who may be interested rather than a lot of people who aren't.

They weren't being rude. I can't see why you would think that. It's just a practical way of using the site tools to find people interested in meets.

If they'd replied "fuck you then" and then blocked you, that would be rude. Just blocking isn't rude. They assumed you wouldn't want to exchange further messages and took a practical step to avoid bothering you."

yes, this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? "
. Some people block you Saves them sending you a message again. In the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work? . Some people block you Saves them sending you a message again. In the future. "

Beat us to it lol...

We were just about to say the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we got blockd after a bad meet he got nasty with us we blocked in return we have blocked a few that view profile regular but no messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow this thread is long.

Blocking someone is not bad manners. Everybody has the choice to do it

Or would you rather they messaged you every so often to see if you changed your mind?

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


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It strikes me as a bit childish and petulant to want to ban people you don't like from your threads. We're adults (supposedly). Ignore the posts by people you don't like and, if they're abusive, report them.

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exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work?

i always thank the person and then block..saves contacting again in the future"

that is good manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have just been blocked because we said no. How does that work?

i always thank the person and then block..saves contacting again in the future

that is good manners. "

Isn't that what most people have been saying all along ?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

but, what if i block them?

i still don't understand. why would i be interested in what they have to say in here if i have blocked them?

also, why would i want anyone from my block list posting comments on my threads?"

A thread is there for discussion amongst many people, even though you start it, it's not "your" thread. The person you have blocked may have points to make that interest others and they have the right to express them within the rules. They are probably commenting to discuss the thread, not to communicate with you. They could very well have as little interest in communicating with you as you do with them. They may have an interest in discussing the thread with others.

Wanting "your" threads to be your domain, directed by you is very much playground behaviour. I don't like you, so you can't play with us, so ner.

Blocking someone from messaging prevents direct, private, one-to-one messages. It's not the same as trying to exclude someone from a group discussion.

"Your" threads aren't solely about what you are interested in so whether you are interested in the comments of someone you don't like is irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BLOCKED

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you block someone should it be applied to the forum as well? what is the difference between sending e-mail and posting on someone's thread?

Admin have asked this in the past. Apparently the majority vote was no.

lol, i am not surprised by that

I vote no too so I'm glad Admin went with the prevailing view.

It would make the threads horribly disjointed and if someone quoted them, you'd see some of it anyway. Also, just because someone has blocked you, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy what they have to say in here.

but, what if i block them?

i still don't understand. why would i be interested in what they have to say in here if i have blocked them?

also, why would i want anyone from my block list posting comments on my threads?

A thread is there for discussion amongst many people, even though you start it, it's not "your" thread. The person you have blocked may have points to make that interest others and they have the right to express them within the rules. They are probably commenting to discuss the thread, not to communicate with you. They could very well have as little interest in communicating with you as you do with them. They may have an interest in discussing the thread with others.

Wanting "your" threads to be your domain, directed by you is very much playground behaviour. I don't like you, so you can't play with us, so ner.

Blocking someone from messaging prevents direct, private, one-to-one messages. It's not the same as trying to exclude someone from a group discussion.

"Your" threads aren't solely about what you are interested in so whether you are interested in the comments of someone you don't like is irrelevant. "

unlike other people, i only block people that have been abusive to me. therefore, why would i be interested in anything that these people have to say. if you block someone in chat chat room then you can not see what they written and vice versa.

i have been informed that the chat room is more popular than the forum. what is the reason for this? maybe people feel more comfortable in the chat rooms because they know they will not communicate with people on their blocked list.

you imply that a blocked person will not try and make contact with the person that has blocked them on the thread. however, what about those blocked people that just deliberately and frequently open a thread to post a negative comment against the op or the topic that the op has created? what then?

lol, i know the thread is not mine and i don't want to own it. originally, when i was explaining my idea, i did not use the word 'own'. i used that word to when i was explaining my idea in a different way to people that did not understand my original point.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"you imply that a blocked person will not try and make contact with the person that has blocked them on the thread. however, what about those blocked people that just deliberately and frequently open a thread to post a negative comment against the op or the topic that the op has created? what then?"

No I don't imply that. I said a blocked person may have input on a thread without being interested in contacting the OP.

And in answer to "what then?", you report them. It's against the rules to use the fora to attempt to get round a block.

You really do seem to think this site should run entirely for your convenience, even if what you want is in direct opposition to what the majority want.

I'll say it again. It DOES NOT MATTER if you are interested in what someone else has to say on a thread you start. Others might be. The thread, and the fora, are there for everyone, not just you. It isn't all about you and what you want.

Besides, you clearly are interested in what people you block post on threads because you respond to them and debate with them. If you weren't interested you'd ignore them.

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