FabSwingers.com forum: No means no

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Get the hint why are guys so pushy. Been chatting to a guy all afternoon. Wants to meet thats fine but need notice because I have two children. He got pushy saying why cant he come over when they in bed I said no. No strangers in while they here. And yet he still pushes so I blocked him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you did right, jeez !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done girl, nobody needs tw@s like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get the hint why are guys so pushy. Been chatting to a guy all afternoon. Wants to meet thats fine but need notice because I have two children. He got pushy saying why cant he come over when they in bed I said no. No strangers in while they here. And yet he still pushes so I blocked him."

yep agree quite right, your home and family so it's your choice on who, what where and when

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

nobody likes an arse.... and a very pushy one at that....

think of it as a lucky escape......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had two single guys really pushing their luck even had one stalker but we're not saying all guys are like that but you do get plonkers on this site and other sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ceases to amaze me how stupid some guys are!

He'll probably pick up some d*unk slapper later on, as usual!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

works the other way as well....was chatting to a guy for a while, knew he was a single parent..and he invited me to his.

I accepted, and assumed that he had made other childcare arrangements. When I questioned him on this he told me " thats ok they never wake up once they have gone to bed"!!!

But what if this was the one time they did????

Needless to say I didn't go to his....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just cant do it, Its my lifestyle not the kids and I have too much respect for them has been a rule since they were born and will be till they leave home.

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By *enderbycoupleCouple
over a year ago

derbyshire or localish

hit the block button,,take no crap,,too many disrespectful single guys on here,getting to the point where hubby is gonna say no more meets with single guys,

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By *INKKKYMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL/ WIRRAL

"Just cant do it, Its my lifestyle not the kids and I have too much respect for them has been a rule since they were born and will be till they leave home."
and quite rite you are!!

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

I know what you mean, my son lives with me, he may be 23 but I dont want him knowing everything, and the number of guys who cant understand, that I only allow anyone to my house is when is is away and I know the really well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is why I have meets at chams so much easier and safer and I get to be a greedy girl too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the single men on here are clueless!

Had an unsolicited mail today saying I was up my own arse: why? Because I had the audacity to have on my profile I don't meet in hotels ever, so don't ask!

He wanted to know why hotels weren't accommodation.

Looked at his profile he couldn't accommodate: quelle surprise but travelled with his job and stayed in hotels!

So I get insulted because I don't want to meet a desperate horny travelling salesman in the local Travel Lodge!

Clueless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know what you mean, my son lives with me, he may be 23 but I dont want him knowing everything, and the number of guys who cant understand, that I only allow anyone to my house is when is is away and I know the really well. "

Likewise!

My daughters at home are 18 and 22. I meet when they're not home and yes, only playmates I know well.

Why is it so difficult for men not to understand single women are not going to invite strangers into their homes especially if there are children - no matter their ages - into their homes?!!

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By *nkednkinky_bbwWoman
over a year ago

cannock

"Just cant do it, Its my lifestyle not the kids and I have too much respect for them has been a rule since they were born and will be till they leave home."

i will not accommodate whether my kids are here or not, i also never give anyone my address. i have children and this is their home not my playground and i'm not willing to risk a meet 'popping in on the offchance'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame there's so many idiots who spoil things for genuine, non-pushy, nice guys like me. I'm sure lots of people have missed out on good meets because they've had to block single guys because of the morons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

SIMPLE blockem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im not blocking all the single guys thats why im on here as a single lady just the few that spoils it for the rest and I have met some fantastic guys throught fabs

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By *ltraglideCouple
over a year ago

mansfield

"This is why I have meets at chams so much easier and safer and I get to be a greedy girl too."

Meeting at a club is great, makes life much easier.

And don't matter if they don't turn up

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I do meet at my home but that is because I cannot afford hotel rooms let alone petrol to get thee and have to borrow the car from my parents.

Luckily I have never ever in 4 years of swinging had anyone just pop over on the off chance. All the couples and men have been very respectful but doesnt go to say it wont happen. You do have to be careful and choosy tho of who you trust.

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

good for you some guys are so pushy and i totally agree that no means no and if they cant accept it then tough luck , am a single parent as well with a daughter of 13 and i never have any guy in the house when she is in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Desperation sometimes makes some people see NO as maybe. Why? Well because frustration and rejection twists some peoples views of reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never ceases to amaze me how stupid some guys are!

He'll probably pick up some d*unk slapper later on, as usual!

OP: good on you girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had that a lot, a lot of guys on here seem to think its perfectly ok for you to invite them round while your kids are in bed, but could you imagine what people would say if you did and something happened to your kids

i never ever have anyone round to my house, even if my kids are not in, my home is my home not a free brothel for guys to come get a shag, whats makes me laugh tho is most of these guys do not accommodate themselves, usually because they have a wife, so its ok for you have have men in your home with your kids but not for you to go shag at their house while their wifes asleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never ceases to amaze me how stupid some guys are!

He'll probably pick up some d*unk slapper later on, as usual!

d*unk slapper?

nice to know what you really think about women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never ceases to amaze me how stupid some guys are!

He'll probably pick up some d*unk slapper later on, as usual!

d*unk slapper?

nice to know what you really think about women

I have a feeling that's how most of the single men view women hence the expectation of meets after sending message "fancy a shag", expect to turn up at all hours etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the single guys I know personally...dont view women this way...Yes there are some creeps on here..but most guys I know would condem behaviour like this..

Pleaes dont tar all single guys with the same brush...there are some great fellas on here...as well as some proper assholes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just cant do it, Its my lifestyle not the kids and I have too much respect for them has been a rule since they were born and will be till they leave home."
Totally agree with you. Mine are all adults now but I still do not want to have people home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep you did right gives us singles guys bad press hard sometimes to get meets and guys like this dont help

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By *lumsy colinMan
over a year ago

basingstoke

surely whatever reason you have for saying no should be good enough just because you exchange messages dont mean you will get to do anything i know its not easy for single guys but idiots like the op is talking about make it even harder ii think block em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good on you

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