FabSwingers.com forum: Waster Ratio

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What sort of ratio is expected on site between time wasters and gen people?

What are the odds of a whole string of time wasters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would say about 1000-1 are time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in our experience, the percentage of timewasters are quite high, weve had 3 meets arranged in the last month and all 3 have let us down, we think all timewasters should be shot lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OH brilliant,no wonder we think we are wasting our time on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but on the other hand there are some genuine lovely people on here, so it does even its self out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well going by the amount of posts you read on here moaning about timewasters, the majority of folks must be genuine, why don't all the people who moan about timewasters just meet each other, problem solved

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

we've had a generally good success rate, and only been mildly messed about before arranging to meet, with people who start to chat or email then go quiet. The ones who we have set up meets with have mostly turned up as promised. We rarely try last minute affairs, and put a bit of effort into getting to know them first. Persevere, it is worth it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been on here for years and can honestly say we have never had a problem with timewasters xx

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"OH brilliant,no wonder we think we are wasting our time on here!"

well what exactly is the problem?

there are ways and means of ing out the ones that are less than genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have had a few and being honest im glad as they turned out to be totally idiots

and people womder why im fussy

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We've never had a problem with time wasters - fakes and dreamers for sure but they're totaly different! If you've got a good system in place of chatting, a quick cam or call then there shouldn't be a problem! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here six months and never had a time waster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends upon what you call a timewaster ?

Someone who doesn't want to meet you ? in that case probably 50/50

Otherwise - who knows, someones 'perceived' timewaster may be someone elses golden egg.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OH brilliant,no wonder we think we are wasting our time on here!"

No-one is forcing you to stay, it's quite easy to delete your profile.

Go to:

My Account / Delete Profile ....

Members for 5 weeks and their 'wasting their time' Jeeeeeeeez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratio is 99.6 wasters to 1 genuine person.

Personally I wouldnt bother with trying to meet and would just try clubs instead.

Wonder if this thread will get over 100 replies like the single guy moaning did

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"The ratio is 99.6 wasters to 1 genuine person.

Personally I wouldnt bother with trying to meet and would just try clubs instead.

Wonder if this thread will get over 100 replies like the single guy moaning did

I don't think it's quite that high! You can't class people who don't want to meet you as timewasters! We have had a lot of good meets from here and continue to do so! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

People will only waste your time if you allow them to

There are dreamers on here,there are people that log on horny and therefore can't think straight and expect every message to lead to a meet

There are also loads of genuine lovely people that will shine through

Its easy to sort out just who is who

Don't give up but don't expect it to be handed to you on a plate either xx

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Never had a problem with time wasters at all on this site.

Before you class people as time wasters, maybe you should look at how you do things.

What is it thats said?? How can you expect anything to change, if you are not willing to change your approach???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These thread pop up all the time. What's a timewaster? Someone who won't meet you? Someone who doesn't reply to your messages?

Debs says I'm a timewaster. I waste most of my day on here

You get out what you put in. It's easy to out those who fit your criteria, and you theirs. Those who are dreamers, and those who are not.

We are on here for the craic. If we find people who we match, and it goes further, brills! If not, so what? We enjoy the forums, and the odd chat with others.

We attend clubs, and we've met some great friends through them who are also on here. Fab is just another string to our swingin bow, and we love it!

Relax, chill out, don't expect too much and you'll have a FAB time

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

lol at the odds given out , I wonder who did the research !!

We have been on here a while now, and not met with any timewasters, mainly because we any talkers rather than doers out at the very beginning....so we waste no time at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

here is one for you all, a single guy, got chatting to a single lady, a few messages later, a phone call, or two, all seem ok, she said call me in 5 mins, wouldn't pick up, then all messages deleted, tried to asked if i'd said or done something to upset them, no reply, just message deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol at the odds given out , I wonder who did the research !!

We have been on here a while now, and not met with any timewasters, mainly because we any talkers rather than doers out at the very beginning....so we waste no time at all

I sat on the fence and said 50/50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What sort of ratio is expected on site between time wasters and gen people?

What are the odds of a whole string of time wasters? "

Depends... Some people think a timewaster is someone who wont reply to emails or i was called a timewaster and a fake before for turning a guy down,so i would imagine that would be a high figure or others including ourselves think a timewaster is someone who doesnt show.. Luckily we have only had a couple of timewasters over the years.

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By *lumsy colinMan
over a year ago

basingstoke

ive arranged 6 meetings and they have all turned up and we have had plenty of fun.no one who has agreed to meet has let me down as for the people i have exchanged messages with well if they dont fancy then surely thats thier choice i dont really see that as timewasting

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

having had a quick peep at the OPs profile, I think its fairly obvious where they are coming from.

as they are ONLY looking for single ladies, they are going to struggle - not least because the excrement of the lesser spotted rocking horse is more common than a genuine bi female who meets couples alone, but also because be-fem profiles seem to have more than their fair share of fakes.

Best advice I can give them is to recognise that they are looking for the rarest of the rare and it isnt just going to jump into their lap - go to socials, go to clubs, get to know people and let them get to know you, and if you are messaging folks on the site only concern yourself with ladies profiles which have been already verified by couples.

Oh and prepare for what might be a VERY long wait

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"lol at the odds given out , I wonder who did the research !!

We have been on here a while now, and not met with any timewasters, mainly because we any talkers rather than doers out at the very beginning....so we waste no time at all

I sat on the fence and said 50/50

Better than 1000-1 lol

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

oh and a few tips in fake-spotting.

if the pics and/or the conversation is too good to be true - it probably is.

if the profile has been on for more than 3 or 4 months and they havent had a meet - there's a pretty good chance they never will.

if they come up with numerous excuses about speaking on the phone - or their webcam is constantly "broken" - or whatever the excuse might be as to why they cant verify that there's a real flesh and blood woman at the other side of the computer screen they probably arent genuine.

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By *INKKKYMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL/ WIRRAL

"in our experience, the percentage of timewasters are quite high, weve had 3 meets arranged in the last month and all 3 have let us down, we think all timewasters should be shot lol

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here here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol at the odds given out , I wonder who did the research !!

We have been on here a while now, and not met with any timewasters, mainly because we any talkers rather than doers out at the very beginning....so we waste no time at all

Yes, that's how I do it too: hardly rocket science is it?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate my webcam but i will use it so someone can see im gsnuine

if im alone i will speak to the person on the phone if its got that far

and im really learning the pic collectors to the fakes to the genuine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't put my cam on until my kid is in bed, so only cam at night and won't cam at all if I'm having a bad hair day!

I am a real flesh and blood single bi-fem though. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry guys but the biggest time wasters are single guy's, you can normally pick them out via thier mating call.... Do you have MSN? This is when I end all contact, what they mean is "can I ask silly questions like"do you have panties on" whilst I have a wank"!They have no intention of meeting so why do they bother?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I always laugh when i see a post with regards to people moaning to timewasters....

we encourage people to go to the various socials and clubs and events across the country... but how many of the people who complain actually take the time and effort to go to these???

The site does give you the facilities to make it work... if you only then decide to go down one course for getting your meets then the blame lies on the person looking at yourself in the mirror.......

they may not always be your cup of tea.. but then at least you'll never complain about timewasters again, because you will have met people who have made the effort.....

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

A Timewaster.....Someone who arranges to meet then doesn't turn up for that arranged meet.

Anything else is all part and parcel of the game of swinging.....and guys, if someone chooses not to meet you out of preference it doesn't make them a timewaster.....it's called personal preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry guys but the biggest time wasters are single guy's, you can normally pick them out via thier mating call.... Do you have MSN? This is when I end all contact, what they mean is "can I ask silly questions like"do you have panties on" whilst I have a wank"!They have no intention of meeting so why do they bother?"

do you have panties on lol

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"lol at the odds given out , I wonder who did the research !!

We have been on here a while now, and not met with any timewasters, mainly because we any talkers rather than doers out at the very beginning....so we waste no time at all

I sat on the fence and said 50/50

Better than 1000-1 lol"

Or even more odd "The ratio is 99.6 wasters to 1 genuine person"

What's .6 of a person?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Has anyone ever met a timewaster?

just a thought...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well going by the amount of posts you read on here moaning about timewasters, the majority of folks must be genuine, why don't all the people who moan about timewasters just meet each other, problem solved

marvellous idea though been suggested already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Upto now not had any problems with timewasters.............but whats the betting we get let down next time!!! lol

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

"if the profile has been on for more than 3 or 4 months and they havent had a meet - there's a pretty good chance they never will".

Mmmmm not sure about this one!

Remember that alot on fab swingers are members of other sites and arrange meets through those,and also that most genuine swingers will swing when they feel like it...not to satisfy any time scale.We have been swinging for 7 years ...no breaks or time out but we swing when we feel like it with other suitable swingers who enjoy the same.

Time wasters...we have had our fair share but have never been let down by a no show or cancellation at last minute...you need to be able to pick the swingers who you feel will be right for you those who you are fairly sure you will be able to get on with and then e mail...exchange pics if still happy, speak on the phone and arrange a meet.If we were let down by a no show or last minute cancellation(without good reason...shit happens!) we would blame ourselves for not choosing wisely enough in the first place...no we are not "picky" and love to meet swingers from all walks of life ....but they must be honest,genuine and up front from the start...otherwise the fun just doesnt work for anyone

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By *ethot69Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

""if the profile has been on for more than 3 or 4 months and they havent had a meet - there's a pretty good chance they never will".

Mmmmm not sure about this one!

Neither are we - we signed up a while ago (nearly a year) but promptly took a break from swinging. We returned the other day, meaning our profile was technically a year old and unverified, despite being as genuine as the sky above ^^

There's no set rules for identifying timewasters; you just have to follow common sense rules, like asking for telephone calls/webcam/face pics and following your instinct.

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By *ethot69Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

What's .6 of a person?

Joe Pasquale

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's .6 of a person?

Joe Pasquale

Funny, I was thinking more Harry Corbett!

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

""if the profile has been on for more than 3 or 4 months and they havent had a meet - there's a pretty good chance they never will".

Mmmmm not sure about this one!

It's a general rule of thumb nothing more - there will be exceptions naturally.

But considering the scenario that you mentioned with people swinging on multiple sites, there's usually at least someone else on both sites who can leave a "I know this person from another site" type of verification.

So in the main, my point still stands.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

""if the profile has been on for more than 3 or 4 months and they havent had a meet - there's a pretty good chance they never will".

Mmmmm not sure about this one!

It's a general rule of thumb nothing more - there will be exceptions naturally.

So in the main, my point still stands.

Still totally disagree with your 3-4 months thingy!

All sorts of reasons why it can take that long and they might wait for 3-4 months then get loads of meets from then on - who are you or anyone, in fact, to say what is right or wrong for the length of time before a first meet?

Just my tuppence worth as always!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just read one of the replies and laugh myself silly - we dont mess people around - no they dont, but ask you to meet up and then send a message saying "sorry your hubby looks like her ex dont want to meet", never talked with us at the club - rant over - but honest there are some serious nice people here and fun to be with Helen xx

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Still totally disagree with your 3-4 months thingy!

Just my tuppence worth as always!

I'm just going by my experience on this site, the genuine single women and couples (its different for some single guys admittedly as it can sometimes take them longer to establish themselves), more often than not are able to find someone they find suitable to meet within the first month, either that or they leave soon after.

A large proportion of the rest (but by no means all - I completely accept that for a minority of the rest there are good reasons why they havent done anything) just sit on unverified profiles with an ever growing friends list seemingly forever.

The simple fact is that if someone has been on here for a relatively long period of time and havent met or been verified, the odds of them never meeting are dramatically increased - end of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i havent had a problem with singel Guys on here being Timewasters only with singel Woman and Couples

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By *INKKKYMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL/ WIRRAL

""if the profile has been on for more than 3 or 4 months and they havent had a meet - there's a pretty good chance they never will".

Mmmmm not sure about this one!

There's no set rules for identifying timewasters; you just have to follow common sense rules, like asking for telephone calls/webcam/face pics and following your instinct."
Phone calls are the easiest but the hardest to get! I will give my number out and accept witheld calls at first but some people make out like iv asked them to lend me a 100quid wen ive asked for a fone call!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""if the profile has been on for more than 3 or 4 months and they havent had a meet - there's a pretty good chance they never will".

Mmmmm not sure about this one!

There's no set rules for identifying timewasters; you just have to follow common sense rules, like asking for telephone calls/webcam/face pics and following your instinct. Phone calls are the easiest but the hardest to get! I will give my number out and accept witheld calls at first but some people make out like iv asked them to lend me a 100quid wen ive asked for a fone call!!

You have to ask yourself then if they are genuine...

We always insist on a quick phone call if people cant speak on phone then we dont agree to meet them.

Also dont agree that if someone has been on here 3 or 4 months then they are not genuine if they not been verified,only last weekend we met a lovely guy who has been on here 7months without being verified.

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By *anetandNickCouple
over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

If you've made a date with a couple, and the ladies have spoken on the phone (essential) then there's a 90% chance they will show up.

If it's single guys you're after, for a gangbang or bukkake party, and you have exchanged direct email with them, then about 40% will actually show up. Many single guys are single for very good reasons (e.g. total incompetence).

Janet & Nick

"What sort of ratio is expected on site between time wasters and gen people?

What are the odds of a whole string of time wasters? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you've made a date with a couple, and the ladies have spoken on the phone (essential) then there's a 90% chance they will show up.

Janet & Nick

What sort of ratio is expected on site between time wasters and gen people?

What are the odds of a whole string of time wasters? "

We have had several gangbangs and meet guys and we have not had any problems with them,they have all been lovely guys

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I recon it's about 30 - 1. That is I must have only encountered 1 timewaster for every 30 meets I have arranged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would say about 1000-1 are time wasters"

lol dont be silly, i get more genuine people than time wasters, most of the guys do just want to sit and wank over women in the chat room, i grant you that but when it gets to the point of swapping phone numbers etc i say only 1 in 10 of the people i talk to turn out to be a time waster, so in my experience 90% of the people have been genuine

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

You've missed the context and nuance.

we aren't talking about single guys at all (altho if I were a couple I would suspect that a guy who takes 7 months to get a meet might not be the pick of the litter perhaps).

what I said was the chances of someone (specifically referring to single ladies - but included couples) being genuine if they havent had a single verification after having been here 3-4 months are drastically reduced.

And it is unequivocally true - there are enough opportunities i.e. socials, parties, club meets, web camming, or phone calls, or photo verification, and of course private meets, for someone to get at least some sort of verification -and enough people willing to give one - so there has to be an VERY good reason for them not to have been over a 3-4 month time period.

That reason MIGHT be a genuine one but the chances get slimmer as time passes as sites like this have a culture of people trying to prove their validity - not hide it - and its not as if there's a lack of opportunity either.

so you can quote a few exceptions, but it doesnt make them meaningful in the bigger picture.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

You've missed the context and nuance.

we aren't talking about single guys at all (altho if I were a couple I would suspect that a guy who takes 7 months to get a meet might not be the pick of the litter perhaps).

so you can quote a few exceptions, but it doesnt make them meaningful in the bigger picture."

Still disagree with your points and it isn't "end of" as you put it in your earlier reply.

I known of couples as well as single females and males who haven't arranged meets for a few months for all sorts of reasons and then went on to have lots more meets than most get! Not everyone just wants to meet to get verified, they might be more selective in their meets and not be just desperate for fun!

You might see people without meet verifications as less genuine but that is just your own opinion, whereas I see it different and again that is just my opinion which won't change.

I leave folk to run their profile, meets, chat, etc as they see fit seeing as it is their own choice after all!

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

so are you saying that the chances of a and an "old" non verified profile being genuine are exactly the same as those of a verified profile of the same age?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

so are you saying that the chances of a and an "old" non verified profile being genuine are exactly the same as those of a verified profile of the same age?"

Yeah they can be, just because you believe they can't it doesn't mean it's true

Why are you so hung up on proving whether or not people are genuine? If you think they aren't then move onto profiles that you "think" are genuine, it's not rocket science really!

Again, as always, just my tuppence worth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with _b430,when i first joined the site must be nearly 4 years ago as a single fem i was on here for a few months before i got verified,my reasons were because i wanted to be 100% certain swinging was what i wanted to do,i was in no rush to get verified just so people didnt think i was a timewaster or a single man with a single fem profile,and im sure its the same for lots of couples and single fems.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Yeah they can be, just because you believe they can't it doesn't mean it's true

you evaded answering the question directly - the issue isnt whether they might or can be genuine, the question is which one is more likely - and the answer to that is so obvious its clear why you are trying to wriggle so much.

Why are you so hung up on proving whether or not people are genuine? If you think they aren't then move onto profiles that you "think" are genuine, it's not rocket science really! "

I'm not hung up about it - the OP was concerned about timewasters and fake profiles, and I offered some reasonably reliable estimations by which you can appraise the validity of a profile - when others for whatever reason decided to muddy the waters of a very simple, straightforward - and above all correct position - and didnt really bother to read or understand what it said, I merely clarified it for the hard of thinking.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it doesnt,what i was trying to say is couples and single fems could be on here for 3,4,5 months even longer,it doesnt make them all fakes there could be reasons for them not to want to rush into it,and why should people meet someone just for the sake of getting verified so people dont think they are fakes?

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"Agree with _b430,when i first joined the site must be nearly 4 years ago as a single fem i was on here for a few months before i got verified,my reasons were because i wanted to be 100% certain swinging was what i wanted to do,i was in no rush to get verified just so people didnt think i was a timewaster or a single man with a single fem profile,and im sure its the same for lots of couples and single fems."

actually you don't - you agree with me but you just dont realise it.

after a few months you went ahead and got verified, had you not you would either have left and deleted your profile, or your profile would have remained a dormant, non-meeting profile.

precisely what I have said all along.

aiiithangyou

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Yeah they can be, just because you believe they can't it doesn't mean it's true

I aint wriggling at all - I said "yeah they can be"

Why are you so hung up on proving whether or not people are genuine? If you think they aren't then move onto profiles that you "think" are genuine, it's not rocket science really!

I am not "hard of thinking" or trying to "muddy the waters"

I am putting my tuppence worth into a forum post which isn't as straight forward as you think!

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

actually you don't - you agree with me but you just dont realise it.

after a few months you went ahead and got verified, had you not you would either have left and deleted your profile, or your profile would have remained a dormant, non-meeting profile.

precisely what I have said all along.

aiiithangyou"

Senses a man who never likes to be wrong

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"No it doesnt,what i was trying to say is couples and single fems could be on here for 3,4,5 months even longer,it doesnt make them all fakes.

well clearly you havent bothered reading my posts properly (please tell me you're better with profiles).

At no point have I said anything of the sort - merely pointed out that the probablility diminishes as time increases - a sentiment echoed many times across these boards.

there could be reasons for them not to want to rush into it,and why should people meet someone just for the sake of getting verified so people dont think they are fakes? "

again with the "not reading my posts" bit.

I've clearly stated that there's a multitude of ways to get verified that DONT require a meet.

And are you, in all seriousness, trying stretch you credibility by trying to tell me that this site and other sites like it DOESNT have a culture of people actively trying to show that they are genuine?

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over a year ago

actually you don't - you agree with me but you just dont realise it.

after a few months you went ahead and got verified, had you not you would either have left and deleted your profile, or your profile would have remained a dormant, non-meeting profile.

precisely what I have said all along.

aiiithangyou"

No i dont agree with you,you obviously have not got what im trying to say.

Not everyone on here who have profiles for over 3 months and not been verified are fakes,what i was trying to say is there can be reasons for not jumping in amd meeting people straight away,but if thats what you think then you only have to avoid those profiles x

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over a year ago

"No it doesnt,what i was trying to say is couples and single fems could be on here for 3,4,5 months even longer,it doesnt make them all fakes.

well clearly you havent bothered reading my posts properly (please tell me you're better with profiles).

At no point have I said anything of the sort - merely pointed out that the probablility diminishes as time increases - a sentiment echoed many times across these boards.

there could be reasons for them not to want to rush into it,and why should people meet someone just for the sake of getting verified so people dont think they are fakes?

again with the "not reading my posts" bit.

I've clearly stated that there's a multitude of ways to get verified that DONT require a meet.

Yes i know there are other ways to get verified,but not everyone likes clubs or wants to go to socials or parties...

Also,what has our profile got to do with this post?

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over a year ago

This seems to have gone into a thing about being verified, we were on here before but changed our profile because of a change in what we were looking for, we were verified and never had a single time waster, but now we are looking at single woman we have had three on the trot, A timewaster to us is - meeting arranged photos/e-mail exchanged and they not only dont show but we are unable to make contact again

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over a year ago

"What sort of ratio is expected on site between time wasters and gen people?

What are the odds of a whole string of time wasters? "

We find the ratio is around 1000 timewasters contacting us to every genuine person.

That ratio is totally fine for us, the one genuine person makes dealing with the timewasters absolutely worthwhile.

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over a year ago

i have been on this site and a few more for several years ,, think in that time i have been let down on day of the meet about 4 times ,,, and thats out of maybe 100 plus meets ,,,, you do get to spot genuine folk ,, verification does help greatly , though not all sites have such a system ,,, good luck and there are loads of genuine lovely folk out there ,,, as we all know

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