FabSwingers.com forum: FABBER WHO VIST FOR CUP OF TEA n CAKE ASKING TO GET VERIFIED!!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Has any body had this done to them

Intention to Swing, as arranged,Just sit drinking

Not getting Down n Dirty

Had this ages ago,one partner did other cried

And then asked bloody cheeky to be verified, sexually.

And from what ive heard there still doing this timewasting,

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

cant say its ever happened - ever

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

From what I understand verifications are to prove that someone is genuinely not a sexual recommendation but since you can't verify either I do think it's a cheek, yes. We did have one guy ask us to verify him even though we hadn't even met......he has long since left the site

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for replies guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So meeting someone and not shagging is timewasting ?

Am I reading that correctly ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we met someone and got on but didn't play because the sexual connection was not there we'd still verify them. Why wouldn't we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And from what ive heard there still doing this timewasting,

Discretion at it's finest...

How would you hear this unless you are bitching about them to other people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id simply verify saying "met for tea and cake, confirm they are real"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No you havnt

Meeting when all around was agreed a swing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As i wrote

It happen ages ago,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met for a brew. What's up with that? The option was there but chatter was better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there was no connection then they did right thing to walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has any body had this done to them

Intention to Swing, as arranged,Just sit drinking

Not getting Down n Dirty

Had this ages ago,one partner did other cried

And then asked bloody cheeky to be verified, sexually.

And from what ive heard there still doing this timewasting,

Is it possible that they had the intention to play but didn't find you attractive but politely stayed and socialised?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has any body had this done to them

Intention to Swing, as arranged,Just sit drinking

Not getting Down n Dirty

Had this ages ago,one partner did other cried

And then asked bloody cheeky to be verified, sexually.

And from what ive heard there still doing this timewasting,

I've had the same. Already met for a social. Agreed to play at a later date. When to theirs. Sat talking for three hours and then she suddenly felt ill. My free time is short so a little frustrating. I'd rather people were just honest about their intentions.

Had already verified them for the social though as they did turn up and were pleasant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No you havnt

Meeting when all around was agreed a swing!"

He / they probably didn't fancy you once in your company.

Not timewasting. Why shag someone you don't fancy ?

No need to be impolite though. Stay and have a drink whilst you work out ur exit strategy.

Asking for a veri may then seem a bit rich, but I have seen several where it is obvious from one or both perspective(s) there was no sexual connection.

Smile and move on. No point in having a smacked arse over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So someone agreed to meet you for fun but changed their mind once they met you in person and they're labelled a timewaster.

Perhaps you'd have preferred they got down to it through gritted teeth then.............?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No you havnt

Meeting when all around was agreed a swing!"

Did they sign a contract?!! If someone meets and doesn't feel comfortable to play for whatever reason, then they have that right. A verification is to say they are genuine, not a sexual performance review!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met for a brew. What's up with that? The option was there but chatter was better. "

Chatterbox...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you say so Boss

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No if you read, they do it all the time.and one half did have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just ignore them if they are doing the same with others then sounds a bit like timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its only a topic of conversation

Just was interested in others comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No if you read, they do it all the time.and one half did have fun."

How do you know they do it all the time?

And you said they didn't play nut now yoy saybone half had fun?

Is it just me getting confused?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you at last someone who read and understood what i was saying,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone has the right to say no, at any point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

From others who had meets with them. And the long list of tea meets on profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met for a brew. What's up with that? The option was there but chatter was better.

Chatterbox...

You just wouldn't shut up!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes you correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we met someone and got on but didn't play because the sexual connection was not there we'd still verify them. Why wouldn't we?"

Yea I do this . I meet a lot of people socially and ok they may have issues or not be my cuppa tea but they are still real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From others who had meets with them. And the long list of tea meets on profile"

Then they are easily avoided if that's not your cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they like tea and cake and meeting new people. Maybe he's fussy and decides he doesn't want to play when actually meeting.

Boo fucking hoo. People do what they want and if he didn't want to play and cake was on offer of course he'd take it.

Everybody loves tea and cake!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No if you read, they do it all the time.and one half did have fun."

Confused now as doesnt match original post. And bloody heck been on site 9 weeks and you say it was ages ago. Can think of better ways to get people to notice your profile than a thread like this. Yawn bored now going back to oiling my floggers ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you just make a bloody good cuppa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they didn't want to come out and say no in person because they were worried that they would be on the receiving end of the same ire you display in your message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can verify them. I don't see why not. It just might be the first ever negative veri on fab rather than the usual 'OMG! If only i could keep him to myself but am doing you all a favour by sharing him' verifications lol.

You could say 'they told me to say that they are amazing in bed in the veri'.

Just like when you tell the kids to tell someone over the phone that i'm not home and they start by saying 'he said to tell you that he's not home'. Haha. Something like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh never thought of tha

And my baps oh and my nice

Slices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

actualy if i see a verification on someones profile saying they met for tea then i either think theres something wrong with them or they arent going to be much fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From others who had meets with them. And the long list of tea meets on profile"

how do you know that the "tea" meets on their veris did not involve play ... not everyone advertises what they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"actualy if i see a verification on someones profile saying they met for tea then i either think theres something wrong with them or they arent going to be much fun."

or they are a little more discrete about details of their meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP if you use the 'reply and quote' option it might be easier for others to follow who you are responding to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ha ha

Same as writing a

Excuse note for school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From others who had meets with them. And the long list of tea meets on profile

how do you know that the "tea" meets on their veris did not involve play ... not everyone advertises what they do "

Maybe they told them.

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By *affy72Woman
over a year ago

Herefordshire

The original post does say one half of the couple played the other didn't (they cried?!).

I can see from both sides... but if one of the couple played, then they're not really timewasters in my opinion, but the other half of the couple seems to have got cold feet/felt uncomfortable and you can't always foresee that happening, can you, so I think the OP is perhaps being a bit unreasonable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP if you use the 'reply and quote' option it might be easier for others to follow who you are responding to

Oh thanks for that

New to this

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

He sounds great.......

A bloke that asks for D.P. and means Darjeeling and Pavlova.......

It's something you should remember and smile and learn from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A verification is to say they are genuine, not a sexual performance review! "

I was wondering about that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The original post does say one half of the couple played the other didn't (they cried?!).

I can see from both sides... but if one of the couple played, then they're not really timewasters in my opinion, but the other half of the couple seems to have got cold feet/

felt uncomfortable and you

can't always foresee that

Always one

happening, can you, so I think the OP is perhaps being a bit unreasonable."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"actualy if i see a verification on someones profile saying they met for tea then i either think theres something wrong with them or they arent going to be much fun.

or they are a little more discrete about details of their meets "

We don't give graphic verification and we don't display them either. It's not our thing.

Clearly we are timewasters who never play!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"actualy if i see a verification on someones profile saying they met for tea then i either think theres something wrong with them or they arent going to be much fun."

This

We would have verified them as a waste of time , or simply said they were just on here to drink tea and eat cake .

Hang on , they wouldn't display it would they ... And they would have a meet in person veri ....no we wouldn't verify them .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From others who had meets with them. And the long list of tea meets on profile

how do you know that the "tea" meets on their veris did not involve play ... not everyone advertises what they do "

From other ive meet they did the same Tea n cried. To get sympathy veries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"actualy if i see a verification on someones profile saying they met for tea then i either think theres something wrong with them or they arent going to be much fun.

This

We would have verified them as a waste of time , or simply said they were just on here to drink tea and eat cake .

Hang on , they wouldn't display it would they ... And they would have a meet in person veri ....no we wouldn't verify them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really can't see the problem. They both showed, were obviously genuine, you had a cuppa and a chat presumably then one decided they didn't want to play. No one has to do anything they don't want to. Then you say all their meets are tea meets, if you knew this before you met and didn't like it then why did you arrange a meet? If you didn't then hey ho, meets don't always go to plan and at least they showed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"actualy if i see a verification on someones profile saying they met for tea then i either think theres something wrong with them or they arent going to be much fun.

or they are a little more discrete about details of their meets

We don't give graphic verification and we don't display them either. It's not our thing.

Clearly we are timewasters who never play!"

To be fair , there are some people who never meet at clubs , parties or organised events .

For them a veri is part of their selection process .

We don't arrange meets other than clubs so it matters not to us , and maybe not to you either

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"No you havnt

Meeting when all around was agreed a swing!"

Maybe they changed their minds? It's not an obligation to have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From others who had meets with them. And the long list of tea meets on profile

how do you know that the "tea" meets on their veris did not involve play ... not everyone advertises what they do

From other ive meet they did the same Tea n cried. To get sympathy veries"

If you read that they had so many of these 'tea' veri's......why did you agree to meet them? Surely this would be a warning sign against meeting them......

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"No you havnt

Meeting when all around was agreed a swing!

Maybe they changed their minds? It's not an obligation to have sex."

Sorry DB......but if you partake of the parkin you are duty bound ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And from what ive heard there still doing this timewasting,

Discretion at it's finest...

How would you hear this unless you are bitching about them to other people? "

Doesnt mean she was bitching about them to others, people talk about others on here a lot and sometimes you would rather not know.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I think if we met a couple and one was so uncomfortable they cried and couldn't play, then we wouldn't play with either of them. I just couldn't enjoy shagging a bloke whilst his partner was distressed - it'd put me right off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was the woman who shagged. There still doing it now.

They only just joined had 3 meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt give them tea and cake, maybe a cup of tea afterwards if they were good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was the woman who shagged. There still doing it now.

They only just joined had 3 meets."

Block them and move on, no point making a song and dance about how others run their meets just because it wasn't for you.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

"Was the woman who shagged. There still doing it now.

They only just joined had 3 meets."

SO the bloke sat there and cried and you still played with the woman?

My comment still stands - we wouldn't play with one half of a couple if the other was clearly distressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No if you read, they do it all the time.and one half did have fun."

Yet sometimes only one half of a couple play as the other prefers to watch!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Was the woman who shagged. There still doing it now.

They only just joined had 3 meets."

You said earlier that this was ages ago??

Im guessing the other members dont know that they are being discussed in the forums so Im closing this now sorry.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think tea, cake AND sex would have been a good combination and Bull n Sub - it was polite and friendly to offer tea an cake. I'd leave a veri saying they were real enough whilst they were noshing me tea n cake but the sex was just a dream.

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