FabSwingers.com forum: Thanks but no thanks Rant

By *ilthygorgeous1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

Why do people feel the need to get eggy and send shitty msg's when you have politely say thanks but no thanks to their offers???

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"Why do people feel the need to get eggy and send shitty msg's when you have politely say thanks but no thanks to their offers???"

Some people don't take rejection very well. Look at it a different way, be glad you did'nt actually meet these people if that is what they are really like and get offensive when you turn them down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos they think tey are studs and t hat every woman should want them! im seeing this kinda thread alot lately here and it ruins fun for decent users !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people feel the need to get eggy and send shitty msg's when you have politely say thanks but no thanks to their offers???"
i know what u mean...im absolutely sick of gettin called names aftr i send a polite no thanks...so now i reply then block....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how ya fixed trixy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm gorgeous and sexy until I say politely no thankyou, then I'm a fat slag

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By *arabeefWoman
over a year ago

otley

Most men are children nice to try get what they want and when that doesnt work BAM the abuse starts

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"cos they think tey are studs and t hat every woman should want them! im seeing this kinda thread alot lately here and it ruins fun for decent users ! "

Its not just men, i've had a few nasty messages from women on this site and other similar sites i use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG! I can't stand it when this happens!

I try to be polite, even wish them well but they always come back with something nasty! I'm thinking about pulling my images down, changing my profile title to 'NOT MEETING' just to escape the endless harassment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're probably the same people who start posts saying, "why don't people at least reply to my messages, even if it's to say thanks but no thanks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people feel the need to get eggy and send shitty msg's when you have politely say thanks but no thanks to their offers???

Some people don't take rejection very well. Look at it a different way, be glad you did'nt actually meet these people if that is what they are really like and get offensive when you turn them down."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm gorgeous and sexy until I say politely no thankyou, then I'm a fat slag

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awwwwww scissor u ll always be gorgeous

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Simple solution. Say no then block immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm feeling quite left out as I don't really get abuse even though I do my best to reply to every single message so send quite a lot of rejections.....maybe I'm just speshul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont speak too soon lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont speak too soon lol

Why? Are you going to abuse me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont speak too soon lol

Why? Are you going to abuse me?

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mmmmmmmmmm but it cud be the abuse ud like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea, we don't get them.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If people send annoying messages then you can either ignore them or block them.

If they send abusive messages then report them.

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

I think the polite 'no thanks' messages don't do anyone any favours...we all seem to be getting abuse for being nice so I'm going to change tack...In future my polite no thanks messages will be truthful I.e. Yeah fucking right you moron, or 'sorry there's not enough vodka in a bottle for me to go there' heheh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people send annoying messages then you can either ignore them or block them.

If they send abusive messages then report them.

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shur who s gonna abuse that sexy ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the polite 'no thanks' messages don't do anyone any favours...we all seem to be getting abuse for being nice so I'm going to change tack...In future my polite no thanks messages will be truthful I.e. Yeah fucking right you moron, or 'sorry there's not enough vodka in a bottle for me to go there' heheh

I love the no-nonsense approach!

I would need any vodka for you though sexy lady - Red Bull maybe

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

I love the no-nonsense approach!

I would need any vodka for you though sexy lady - Red Bull maybe

Too right heheh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never received one so havent a clue.i say no thanku alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the no-nonsense approach!

I would need any vodka for you though sexy lady - Red Bull maybe ;

Too right heheh

I'll get a six pack - what times the next bus to Blackpool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some say delete and block is rude.....I say it leaves me more time to chat to those I'm interested in and I don't feel that I need to rant. Win win.

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

LADIES...

Maybe we should reject ALL mens initial responses..

See what reactions come in.See who trips up and can`t contain their venom..

They nice guys will only ever be polite (its our choice after all,isnt it?)

and the DICKHEADS will expose themselves as exactly that!!

Bisex

ps... and please,let`s report EVERY abusive type to admin ..

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because you rustled their ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not just block if it causes that much of a problem?

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"LADIES...

Maybe we should reject ALL mens initial responses..

See what reactions come in.See who trips up and can`t contain their venom..

They nice guys will only ever be polite (its our choice after all,isnt it?)

and the DICKHEADS will expose themselves as exactly that!!

Bisex

ps... and please,let`s report EVERY abusive type to admin ..

Is why it always pays to be polite. One woman who initially turned me down before changed her mind when i wrote back to her and politely thanked her for taking the time to reply to me and i hoped she would find what she was looking for.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Simple solution is delete and block any you arent interested in without reply, and concentrate on the ones you are interested in, it isnt rude not to reply and shouldnt be deemed that way, even site rules state that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be an idea to gave this kinda thing as a ban.

no means no.

I had a no recently from a couple and we ended up having a bit of a laugh about it and left on good terms.

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By *ollipop77Couple
over a year ago

Sunny Manchester

I have had some very rude responses when I have said 'no thank you'.

If I have the manners to reply the least a guy can do is say ok!

Manners cost nothing x

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

"I have had some very rude responses when I have said 'no thank you'.

If I have the manners to reply the least a guy can do is say ok!

Manners cost nothing x"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had some very rude responses when I have said 'no thank you'.

If I have the manners to reply the least a guy can do is say ok!

Manners cost nothing x

This

second that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

s ometimes i get mails from guys but i just dont answer

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By *abswimmersMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

I can't understand why people get abusive for a lady or couple saying no thanks!

Tbh its life that we don't fancy everyone that we see on sites like this, and if a woman or couple take the time in replying to a message I send them I'm very happy to read a thanks but no, its not personal its just I'm not what there looking for for whatever reason its there choice, but I always thank them for there reply and wish them the best of luck

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Lol @ eggy. I haven't heard anyone say that for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol @ eggy. I haven't heard anyone say that for years

World Cup is making me EGGGGGGGYYYYYYYY!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men are children nice to try get what they want and when that doesnt work BAM the abuse starts "

Did the op actually say it was a man??

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"I have had some very rude responses when I have said 'no thank you'.

If I have the manners to reply the least a guy can do is say ok!

Manners cost nothing x"

but not replying has nothing to do with manners, if you want to reply to every message thats upto you, if people choose not to then thats your choice, but please dont assume it means you have more manners because you choose to reply to all messages and another doesnt.

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By *ourbonCouple
over a year ago

Lutterworth

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By *ilthygorgeous1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

"Most men are children nice to try get what they want and when that doesnt work BAM the abuse starts

Did the op actually say it was a man??"

The guilty party was a single woman asking to me us with her F&@k buddie. We didn't find her attractive so we replied saying thank you for taking the time to contact us but sorry it's a polite no thank you on this occasion. To which she replied " How come I can get single guys anytime I want but couples never seemed to be interested?" To which we replied pointing out single guys were in abundance but couples would be tricky as a four way attraction had to be there. We received a message saying "thanks a fucking lot so I'm easy and unattractive brilliant!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people feel the need to get eggy and send shitty msg's when you have politely say thanks but no thanks to their offers???"

At least you where polite and replied. You just can't win with some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm gorgeous and sexy until I say politely no thankyou, then I'm a fat slag

Yeah i get that too. If i had a pound...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm gorgeous and sexy until I say politely no thankyou, then I'm a fat slag

Yeah i get that too. If i had a pound..."
you would share it with me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well guys i respect every one on here i try and answer every one back but some times i get abuse cause ive not answered straught bk .they dont own me but think simple message is to get in my nickers straught away dont work like that us ladies are on here to fun not to be treated like door mats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this alot I have stopped replying now... if anyone has taken the time to write a half decent message they will always get a reply, copy and paste and "hey hows you" get no response from me. Also hate the " what is wrong with me " reply you get back to a thanks but no thanks message sigh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It comes down to how the reply is written and how the mindset of the person is. Sometimes, no matter how polite you are it just goes down the wrong way but more often than not a straight rejection is just fine.. it's par for the course here. Hope you get more of the polite ones in the future...bob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always polite in my messages to ladies and some do reply back.

I state that I do accept a no without drama and that seems to show a few that they can indeed reply and not get abuse back.

However I have had abuse from women on here that I had to report them to admin. One called me a f**king bed hopper etc etc

No need for this even on a site like this!

As been said before, manners which adults all should have, cost nothing.

The way I look at those women who choose to abuse, were what I would call a lucky escape!!!!

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

possibly confidence issues x you both look hot so more than likely beautiful too and people feeling rejected take humpbridge to what they see as *you only think you're above normal* when clearly angered x obviously it's not that at all ...... we aren't gonna be attracted to people we're not attracted to x I just block immediately because it isn't worth the hassle x

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By *ynxMan
over a year ago

Stafford

I also don't get why some people need to get all abusive when they get a thanks but no thanks. Usually for me if someone says to me thanks but you a little too young for me I'm like ok thanks for replying but good luck in your search no need for rudeness.

Also when couples read your message and delete it I don't get annoyed I just take it that they aren't interested and move on, it's no skin of my nose tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply to the no thanks msgs, instead I am rude and delete it ha

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By *ilthygorgeous1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

"possibly confidence issues x you both look hot so more than likely beautiful too and people feeling rejected take humpbridge to what they see as *you only think you're above normal* when clearly angered x obviously it's not that at all ...... we aren't gonna be attracted to people we're not attracted to x I just block immediately because it isn't worth the hassle x"

Thank you for your kind words. And I think we will take the delete and block approach if anyone starts to relocate their toys in future. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people feel the need to get eggy and send shitty msg's when you have politely say thanks but no thanks to their offers??? i know what u mean...im absolutely sick of gettin called names aftr i send a polite no thanks...so now i reply then block....

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Yes its

Thee only way you can go with those types

Since comeing on such sites as fab as I use two similar sites, on fab thou there are some nice folk who come on the forums Its the forums that high light

What pig swill there is out there never

Sure how long it took for them to find

Such sites as fab but from all the forums I use they seem everywhere thou

Its mentioned more on the forum with fab

but there,s more topic,s as well so More

Interesting to here than thee others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could not agree with you more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm gorgeous and sexy until I say politely no thankyou, then I'm a fat slag

Not just me then this happens to

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Burnley

If someone does actually take the time and effort to send me a "thanks but no thanks" message I always thank them and wish them all the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't, I don't expect for 1 minute to be everyone's cup of tea. In fact, I'm quite surprised I'm anyone's most of the time lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op - this is why so many don't want to take the polite route of replying in the first place

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By *ilthygorgeous1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

"Op - this is why so many don't want to take the polite route of replying in the first place

It's understandable but I guess we are a soft touch as we feel if someone has made the effort to get in touch we should at least try to let them know either way.

From now on any bad eggs get a block!!

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By *lipperyWhenWet!Couple
over a year ago

Rochester

We gave up replying for a while, but have started again if the message shows any effort.

So far we have had no problems, possibly because those that make the effort in the first place, don't send crap back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op - this is why so many don't want to take the polite route of replying in the first place

It's understandable but I guess we are a soft touch as we feel if someone has made the effort to get in touch we should at least try to let them know either way.

From now on any bad eggs get a block!!

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I'm the same I do reply but it gets tedious when when they ask why instead of just leaving it at that :-/

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