FabSwingers.com forum: long winded foreplay

By *enderbycouple OP Couple
over a year ago

derbyshire or localish

ok a lil rant if you like...why do so many guys think its pleasurable to be ramming thier fingers into females,,like they think its what women want,,when all it does is make her sore and uncomfortable,,,hardly pleasurable is it...yes we like foreplay but some guys just dont have a clue..making a lady sore and uncomfortable is not fun..your opinions if youve had similar experiences??? thanks guys,xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why do you let them continue until you're sore and uncomfortable? just tell them what they're doing wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how long are they doin this for!

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By *enderbycouple OP Couple
over a year ago

derbyshire or localish

dont worry we do,,we not afraid to speak our minds,,,just does our heads in that the majority of guys we came across seem to behave this way,,seem to think its what women want,,,well its not in our case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We allowed a single male to play in a club. He went straight into trying to fist Debs, and was told, not too politely, that playtime was over.

It didn't put us off, but did make us wary. Not quite sure how he thought that was going to do anything for anyone but himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it easier to ask what fems like and dislike and stay way from dislikes.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

well maybe worth while laying cards on table before hand to the guys you play with ? let them know any no nos before hand . after all what people like and how they like it is all very indervidual .

im sure the guys would only be too happy to know what to avoid and what the fem likes ,after all nobody on the site is a mind reader.makes meet pleasurable for all concerned then ..win win !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok a lil rant if you like...why do so many guys think its pleasurable to be ramming thier fingers into females,,like they think its what women want,,when all it does is make her sore and uncomfortable,,,hardly pleasurable is it...yes we like foreplay but some guys just dont have a clue..making a lady sore and uncomfortable is not fun..your opinions if youve had similar experiences??? thanks guys,xx"

Too much Porn viewed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree re the porn a friend has had this problem with roughness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it easier to ask what fems like and dislike and stay way from dislikes."
exactly the same heya. i always love to give oral though an i dont really ever have to ask that because i have never met a women who didnt want it

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I agree

too much porn viewed

I think there is a reason many guys are single

says she who is also single oops

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By *enderbycouple OP Couple
over a year ago

derbyshire or localish

again agree with the watching of too much porn,,, because they see it on porn films they think its what all females want,,,well get a grip guys because its not!!! theres no fun in pain..unless your into that kinda stuff,,and we clearly are not,,and says so on our profile.though more times than not they dont bother to read it,,again something that happens all too often,,

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

"I find it easier to ask what fems like and dislike and stay way from dislikes.

exactly the same heya. i always love to give oral though an i dont really ever have to ask that because i have never met a women who didnt want it"

there are women that dont like it by all accounts

I have had lots of men tell me this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"again agree with the watching of too much porn,,, because they see it on porn films they think its what all females want,,,well get a grip guys because its not!!! theres no fun in pain..unless your into that kinda stuff,,and we clearly are not,,and says so on our profile.though more times than not they dont bother to read it,,again something that happens all too often,,"
i can see how frustrating that can be. thats why i kind of like it when people ask for a code word to be used in the pm title

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it easier to ask what fems like and dislike and stay way from dislikes. exactly the same heya. i always love to give oral though an i dont really ever have to ask that because i have never met a women who didnt want it there are women that dont like it by all accounts I have had lots of men tell me this"
wow well i can imagine that but i have never came across it ( or had any complaints )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why do you let them continue until you're sore and uncomfortable? just tell them what they're doing wrong!"

That was my first thought!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much Porn viewed.

And that was my second thought!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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We tell each other what likes and dislikes there are before a meet....but obviously you won't cover every little thing.......but having said that , if someone was doing something I don't like, I would just move , if they tried it again I would ask them to stop or move their hand.

Saying that, I don't mind a mixture anyway , as long as it isn't just that.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

This is one of the reasons that we emphasize that we like gentle sex on our profile.Big turn off when the guy thinks that this is the way to get a lady "turned on".This links in with http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/28146

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually on a meet Trace will be upstairs breaking the ice with the woman,that gives us guys a chance to find out what sort of thing the girls like.

Hopefully that will help prevent any embarrassing moments later on.

Its all down to communication.

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By *iceguydaveMan
over a year ago

Monmouth

I think there are two recurring themes here, each worth re-emphasising:

1. Communication is key - it might seem a bit embarrassing to sit and discuss the details of what floats your boat (and more importantly, what you find really unpleasant!), but it has to be done!

If you don't feel comfortable bringing up what you don't want a fella to do in advance, imagine how much harder it'll be to do it when he's busy slathering his gonads in Deep Heat and whistling for his Rottweilers!

2. Lots of people have mentioned that the prevalence of rather brutal porn may be in part to blame, and I think there's some truth in this - if fellas who maybe aren't very experienced with real women suddenly find themselves face to face

with a pussy, they may well think the 'right and cool' thing to do is spit on it, slap it, call you a bitch and try to ram as much of their lower arm as possible inside, because that's what they saw on the internet the night before. Worrying, but more common than many of us might like to think!

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

"well maybe worth while laying cards on table before hand to the guys you play with ? let them know any no nos before hand . after all what people like and how they like it is all very indervidual .

im sure the guys would only be too happy to know what to avoid and what the fem likes ,after all nobody on the site is a mind reader.makes meet pleasurable for all concerned then ..win win !! "

Errmm excuse us for saying this but the first couple we ever met while swinging (in fact the only couple we shagged for the first month or so until we discovered websites etc) were very experienced and they taught us that whilst having sex or foreplay with someone for the first time you should always ask as you do something new whether the other person is enjoying it or not

We thought that was quite common practice and is something we always have done maybe it's not so common as we have found

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