FabSwingers.com forum: meeting people that have been drinking

By *apasmurfking OP Man
over a year ago

costa del Littlehampton

Had been talking to a lady all day yesterday when out of the blue she asks how long would it take you to get here. Me thinks result!

Turn up, say hello and it becomes quite obvious that she was worse for wear - this immediately makes alarm bells ring. She insist it's what she wants, cautiously go back to hers, by that point it seems to be a mood swing every minute, cant stand up without support.

I think this isn't gonna happen and leave. Needless to say by this morning has left the site!

Why do women (and men I am sure) get themselves in such a state and think anything will happen. Far to much risk for the sober party.

Just realised that may be a bit of a rant - oops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good on you for walking away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always walk away. I met a woman from here who got increasingly d*unk and when I turned her down (in her house) she went mental and started screaming at me.

Alcohol and sex do not mix. The people that need to be d*unk to meet others are best avoided.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Because quite simply, some people won't walk away, they'll carry on regardless of how d*unk a person is.

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"Had been talking to a lady all day yesterday when out of the blue she asks how long would it take you to get here. Me thinks result!

I think this isn't gonna happen and leave. Needless to say by this morning has left the site!

Why do women (and men I am sure) get themselves in such a state and think anything will happen. Far to much risk for the sober party.

Just realised that may be a bit of a rant - oops

yep you are so right walk away! not only is she d*unk but there a lot of mixed upemotions and gulit going on who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever used to drink with last fb and never too many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had been talking to a lady all day yesterday when out of the blue she asks how long would it take you to get here. Me thinks result!

I think this isn't gonna happen and leave. Needless to say by this morning has left the site!

Why do women (and men I am sure) get themselves in such a state and think anything will happen. Far to much risk for the sober party.

Just realised that may be a bit of a rant - oops

You're a gent then. I am glad she had the fortune to chat to you and not someone indecent.

She sounds in turmoil. I hope she's okay.

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By *ove121LustCouple
over a year ago

LaLa Land

Why do women (and men I am sure) get themselves in such a state and think anything will happen. Far to much risk for the sober party.

Just realised that may be a bit of a rant - oops

Nerves and bottle!!

She wants to meet but is nervous and when youve built up 'Dutch courage' it goes a step to far!!!!

I'm sure she's embarrassed about it today!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do women (and men I am sure) get themselves in such a state and think anything will happen. Far to much risk for the sober party.

Just realised that may be a bit of a rant - oops

Nerves and bottle!!

She wants to meet but is nervous and when youve built up 'Dutch courage' it goes a step to far!!!!

I'm sure she's embarrassed about it today!!!!

Everyone gets nervous, that's all part of the fun, but to get d*unk and act like an idiot is just not acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One or two drinks okay. But if you have any doubt that the other person is incapable of making a proper informed decision about sex with you, walk away like you did OP. I think you're spot on about your fears, she could have woken in the morning and accused you of rape.

We walked away from playing with a really nice looking couple some months back. They were staying at a hotel and were pissed when we got there. We stayed and had a couple of drinks with them, then upon announcing we were leaving practically begged us to stay and play. No way. Apart from her not being sober enough to consent, he seemed to have a bit of a nasty streak and I'd got images of him going beserk seeing his gf being fucked. Thanks but no thanks, no matter how hot you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One or two drinks okay. But if you have any doubt that the other person is incapable of making a proper informed decision about sex with you, walk away like you did OP. I think you're spot on about your fears, she could have woken in the morning and accused you of rape.

Exactly. Sex is ALL about consent and NOTHING to do with alcohol or coercion.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I never drink on a meet. Apart from with my fb who's a mate anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people drink for courage, I think a lot would do it without drink if they were more confident, drink gives them that confidence to do what they wish they could do sober

Personally I don't like d*unk people be it swinging or in the real world, I would never play with anyone who had been drinking

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

she is a fool inviting strangers into her home in that state...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

There's a very fine line between tipsy and d*unk sometimes. I have been known to cross that line unfortunately but luckily last time I took myself off to bed before things got silly.

As said earlier, I am sure (if she remembers it at all) she's regretting it now, both drinking too much and missing out on a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there and went to meet a couple... On turning up they were so out of it they could barley stand... Said sorry but I didn't think it would be the right thing and left ... Then got hounded by abusive texts... Well they would have been if they could have seen to check the words... .. Would never follow through with a meet if the other party(s) were so out of it on drink or anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she is a fool inviting strangers into her home in that state..."

to be fair being a woman its risky inviting a stranger into your home if your sober, if a mans the type to attack you he will do it if your d*unk or not and being a woman alone there's very little you could do either way, not many women could over power a man even sober

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"she is a fool inviting strangers into her home in that state...

that is very true

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By *ove121LustCouple
over a year ago

LaLa Land

Why do women (and men I am sure) get themselves in such a state and think anything will happen. Far to much risk for the sober party.

Just realised that may be a bit of a rant - oops

Nerves and bottle!!

She wants to meet but is nervous and when youve built up 'Dutch courage' it goes a step to far!!!!

I'm sure she's embarrassed about it today!!!!

Everyone gets nervous, that's all part of the fun, but to get d*unk and act like an idiot is just not acceptable. "

Absolutely agree, but sometimes that extra glass of wine is the tipping point between combatting nerves and being a twat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone gets nervous, that's all part of the fun, but to get d*unk and act like an idiot is just not acceptable.

Absolutely agree, but sometimes that extra glass of wine is the tipping point between combatting nerves and being a twat! "

For sure - I would say that if a person can't control themselves and regulate how much they drink, then they're probably not very balanced and I find that really unattractive as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what I would be worried about if I was a man would be here being up for it because she's drink and horny and regretting it and screaming rape the next day, its happened, men have been convicted of rape for having sex with women that d*unk they didn't know what they were doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what I would be worried about if I was a man would be here being up for it because she's drink and horny and regretting it and screaming rape the next day, its happened, men have been convicted of rape for having sex with women that d*unk they didn't know what they were doing "

Yep. D*unk girls = bad news. No thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So pleased I don't drink

What a state to get in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So pleased I don't drink

What a state to get in

I don't drink either. We should be together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So pleased I don't drink

What a state to get in

I don't drink either. We should be together

Mmmmmm loving the avatar. Suit porn ! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So pleased I don't drink

What a state to get in

I don't drink either. We should be together

Mmmmmm loving the avatar. Suit porn ! Xx"

Likewise, cleavage porn! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So pleased I don't drink

What a state to get in

I don't drink either. We should be together

Mmmmmm loving the avatar. Suit porn ! Xx

Likewise, cleavage porn! Xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy who sounded like he'd had a few when I spoke to him on the phone, but he insisted he'd only had a couple of drinks. Anyway met him, as he was walking towards me he had that 'alcoholics walk' and he'd certainly had more than a couple. We went to the pub and 3 pints later it was apparent that he wanted to stay there for the night. Being a woman I put a 'face' on (haha) and we left. I then left to go home because I couldn't have (first meet) sex with someone d*unk even though he said he needed a couple of drinks to be able to perform! A couple in the pub beforehand is a different matter of course. And I'm sure he wasn't drinking as Dutch courage it was a regular thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd agree with you all here, meet in a pub for a drink or two then enjoy what may happen. It's all about knowing when is too much and If found to be uneasy on their legs then walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd agree with you all here, meet in a pub for a drink or two then enjoy what may happen. It's all about knowing when is too much and If found to be uneasy on their legs then walk away."

Or run. D*unk people are rubbish at running

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good on you for walking away. "

Well done fella, wise move

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

"some people drink for courage, I think a lot would do it without drink if they were more confident, drink gives them that confidence to do what they wish they could do sober

Personally I don't like d*unk people be it swinging or in the real world, I would never play with anyone who had been drinking"

A couple of drinks for dutch courage is one thing... but having to get hammered to swing is something else.... if that's the case they shouldn't be swingers...simples

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"some people drink for courage, I think a lot would do it without drink if they were more confident, drink gives them that confidence to do what they wish they could do sober

Personally I don't like d*unk people be it swinging or in the real world, I would never play with anyone who had been drinking

A couple of drinks for dutch courage is one thing... but having to get hammered to swing is something else.... if that's the case they shouldn't be swingers...simples

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exactly this

plus if someone had to be rat arsed to enjoy themselves we avoid totaly... Leaves the flood gates wide open for drama and shit too ... Oh my no way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always walk away. I met a woman from here who got increasingly d*unk and when I turned her down (in her house) she went mental and started screaming at me.

Alcohol and sex do not mix. The people that need to be d*unk to meet others are best avoided."

Going to fully agree with that. It's not worth the hassle.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

I never drink myself, as I'm always driving. I've had meets where the female's had a glass or two of wine to relax before playing, which is fine....

Some time ago, I met one FB couple from here who did afternoon meets in an office - she was laid on the floor ready and waiting, and as soon as I got over here the smell of lager hit me. Though I 'performed', it wasn't at my best, as she was breathing fumes all over me, and it was quite off-putting! After I'd finished and her FB went down on her to 'clean up', I then noticed three or four empty cans in the bin under the desk....

And in a similar situation to the OP, many years ago I was invited for a middle-of-the-night meet with a single fem. She'd said she'd leave the door open for me (which I had questioned the wisdom of) in case she fell asleep, and when I arrived I did indeed find it on the latch. Making my way in and straight upstairs as she'd said to do, on entering the bedroom I saw her sprawled half-naked on the bed sound asleep, with an empty wine bottle by the bed and empty glass still in her hand. When I leant over to wake her, the smell of wine was over-powering, and I decided to forget it and leave - at which point she stirred, half-opened her eyes, muttered a slurred 'Hello', and tried to pull me down to kiss her. Tempting as it was - she was attractive, with a great body - she was clearly in no fit state to know what she was doing, and I simply told her to go back to sleep, covered her with the duvet which was half on the floor, and left, locking the door behind me....

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