FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging Limboland :(

By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Hey guys, just wanted to know if anyone is/was stuck in swinging limboland, and if so what are you going too or what did you end up doing about it?

We started talking about swinging nearly a year and a half ago and still haven't popped that cherry so to speak

We started out the same as most people, A d*unk conversation one night that got us both horny as anything, so decided the day after to join a swinging site to see if it was for us!

We spoke and cammed with tons of different people, some nice some.... well not so nice

But we still learned lots of things from all of them, to the point were very quickly we seemed too both lose any doubts we had about giving it a go!

Since then we haven't got any less turned on by it, If anything its 10 times hornier now lol

But as much as we've spoken about it, tried lots of things on cam together, and other things, Something just always seem to stop us going for it at the last hurdle

One time we were gonna go to La Chambre with a lovely couple we had been speaking too (who have now removed us

lol) signed up to it and everything to then find out we couldn't get a hotel room anywhere because the st ledger was on in Donny?!

So even though at that point we were convinced a club meet would be a lot less nervy than just meeting up with a couple somewhere, we gave arranging a meet with a couple in the daytime a try!

Literally on the morning of going to meet them, I was being sick

not through nerves but bloody food poisoning lol So came on to cancel it only to see a message saying they needed to cancel

So saved us a job!

But joking aside Things are not helped by both working 40+ hours, on different shift patterns, neither of us driving, my mum constantly at ours looking after the kids, having 2 children 4 and 2 and getting married this year (august

lol But at the minute it just feels like its never going to happen for us

So sorry for the essay lol but if anyone has been in this situation when starting out, then any advice or reassurance you can give would be very much appreciated

Vicki and tommy xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had exactly the same problem, we resolved it by making it clear the first meet was to be a social one, after the first meet you will find it easier

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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"we had exactly the same problem, we resolved it by making it clear the first meet was to be a social one, after the first meet you will find it easier"

Hopefully we will in the not too distant future

just so frustrating at the minute

lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol, yes it is, but even a coffee meet is useful, don't give up on the idea, it's well worth the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we had exactly the same problem, we resolved it by making it clear the first meet was to be a social one, after the first meet you will find it easier

Hopefully we will in the not too distant future

just so frustrating at the minute

lol xxx

We felt like this alot, untill we stopped bothering about peoples impatience, not everyone has the money or resourses to find the free time for fun, just take it at your own pace, your better off attracting folk who'll understand and have similar circumstances.

Good luck, be safe, have fun

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Or just go to a couples night at a club to have a look around, just you guys.

Treat it as a night to explore rather than a night to definitely play.

You just have to swallow your nerves and jump in. Once we had done that we never looked back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our situation is the reverse of yours, we chatted about it and went headlong into it, had several meets, then visited clubs and have enjoyed everything we have done with no regrets.

However our meets have now tailed off as we no longer have the urgency we felt we should have in the beginning.

We turn down lots of requests now, mainly from single guys, as, to be honest, few put very little effort in and really say nothing to interest us, most just mail saying free to meet today, wanna chat lol, then get annoyed when we just reply No.

If we do get mails from people who have obviously read our profile and say more than wanna meet then we do still meet people, but not very often now.

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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Thx guys, and yeah we would never go Expecting anything to happen, same as we wouldn't expect anyone to think it definitely would with us! But we are both happy to just see were it goes! Just gotta take that final leap, It just seems a lot easier said than done lol xxx

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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

yeah, we've had people get shirty with us before for writing too much in our profile lol I don't understand why people expect you'd want to meet them when their profile says something like "looking for ffm, mmf for horny fun" and then you check their pics and there's 2 pics on their public list boobs and a cock, and no private pics?! Its not blind date! But that wouldn't be too bad if they then didn't get mardy because you try and find out a bit about them lol

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By *unsurreycouple1Couple
over a year ago

Surrey

Had all the same emotions our first time, I think you would be very cold if you didn`t.

We would recommend a club for your first time, just wonder around and have a look if you want, Chams is our favourite.

We have never looked back but sex with each other is still fantastic, swinging is our hobby with perks.

Its good to extend your circle of friends as well.

We find it hard with shifts etc so we tend to be very picky and make out time count.

Good luck..x

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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Had all the same emotions our first time, I think you would be very cold if you didn`t.

We would recommend a club for your first time, just wonder around and have a look if you want, Chams is our favourite.

We have never looked back but sex with each other is still fantastic, swinging is our hobby with perks.

Its good to extend your circle of friends as well.

We find it hard with shifts etc so we tend to be very picky and make out time count.

Good luck..x"

Thx guys xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a start by posting this and if you read it back it will help you realise that if you are going to start doing this for real , you need to just get on with it .

18 months and no meet is enough to make most of us think it will never happen and you will be ignored by many .

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

Try going to to a social and chat to a few people, I think you will find you are not alone..

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

There is a social organised in Sheffield I believe sometimes, usually in a vanilla venue so no pressure and just a good laugh with like minded foil will probably put you at ease more. X

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"There is a social organised in Sheffield I believe sometimes, usually in a vanilla venue so no pressure and just a good laugh with like minded foil will probably put you at ease more. X"

Folk!! Not foil x

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

We haven't swung yet either, although we go to clubs for the last year.

We love going to them and have no pre conceptions of doing anything.

unless someone switches our switch.

We want both of us to be sure and ready.

Its not a race, but when we do go we do get turned on and fuck there. Just on our own with people watching if they want.

Do what you want, time will tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or just go to a couples night at a club to have a look around, just you guys.

Treat it as a night to explore rather than a night to definitely play.

You just have to swallow your nerves and jump in. Once we had done that we never looked back

This. Go to a club just the two of you and see what you think. Maybe agree beforehand that you won't play with anyone, just watch.

It's not a race. Do whatever you feel comfortable with.

Once you start.... there can be no going back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember our first meet like it was yesterday! (5 years ago now)

We met the guy socially in a pub first, and got on really well. .

He invited us back to his and I panicked, big style, he understood and was great about it .

Made our excuses and left saying we'd phone him to make plans for a 'playmeet'

As we drove home, and with my other half driving. . I rang him, asked for his address and said we were now on our way . Lol

Made my fella laugh and still does to this day.

Sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns .. I did. . And never looked back . Lol

Good luck !! X

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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"It's a start by posting this and if you read it back it will help you realise that if you are going to start doing this for real , you need to just get on with it .

18 months and no meet is enough to make most of us think it will never happen and you will be ignored by many .

Lol thank you for the helpful yet very stark friendly warning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a start by posting this and if you read it back it will help you realise that if you are going to start doing this for real , you need to just get on with it .

18 months and no meet is enough to make most of us think it will never happen and you will be ignored by many .

Lol thank you for the helpful yet very stark friendly warning

You're welcome lol

It's a reality check to he honest , and a thick skin is important too

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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Try going to to a social and chat to a few people, I think you will find you are not alone..

Yeah your right I no

we just need that right social at the right time! or alternatively make it the right time! x

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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"It's a start by posting this and if you read it back it will help you realise that if you are going to start doing this for real , you need to just get on with it .

18 months and no meet is enough to make most of us think it will never happen and you will be ignored by many .

Lol thank you for the helpful yet very stark friendly warning

You're welcome lol

It's a reality check to he honest , and a thick skin is important too

Lol my skins thicker than school custard

Made that way long before we even considered swinging

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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"There is a social organised in Sheffield I believe sometimes, usually in a vanilla venue so no pressure and just a good laugh with like minded foil will probably put you at ease more. X

Folk!! Not foil x "

Lol I thought it must be some sort of new kink ;p x

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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"We haven't swung yet either, although we go to clubs for the last year.

We love going to them and have no pre conceptions of doing anything.

unless someone switches our switch.

We want both of us to be sure and ready.

Its not a race, but when we do go we do get turned on and fuck there. Just on our own with people watching if they want.

Do what you want, time will tell"

Thx x

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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Or just go to a couples night at a club to have a look around, just you guys.

Treat it as a night to explore rather than a night to definitely play.

You just have to swallow your nerves and jump in. Once we had done that we never looked back

This. Go to a club just the two of you and see what you think. Maybe agree beforehand that you won't play with anyone, just watch.

It's not a race. Do whatever you feel comfortable with.

Once you start.... there can be no going back.

Yeah that's one of the things we keep umming and rring over whether to go to a club or not! Were not worried about each other playing, I think its just indecision is stalling us, and don't no if were just finding excuses! or whether the gods are just aligning to stop us having fun

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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I remember our first meet like it was yesterday! (5 years ago now)

We met the guy socially in a pub first, and got on really well. .

He invited us back to his and I panicked, big style, he understood and was great about it .

Made our excuses and left saying we'd phone him to make plans for a 'playmeet'

As we drove home, and with my other half driving. . I rang him, asked for his address and said we were now on our way . Lol

Made my fella laugh and still does to this day.

Sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns .. I did. . And never looked back . Lol

Good luck !! X "

lol literally in your case

I think that's probably what we need to do, not necessarily go meet a single guy, but just stop faffing about and just make things happen, rather than talking about them so much and getting nowhere! xx

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