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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm just wondering because I don't think I've ever had a mail off a women while I've been here only replys... X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i send first messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weve had them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It must just be me that's never got one then x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it quite a lot and actually had better results from it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm waiting for the mail rolling in then must be something I'm doing wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always mail first when I'm looking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always mail first when I'm looking. "

My mail box is always open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often send the first mail But only when I find an interesting profile

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds


"I often send the first mail But only when I find an interesting profile"

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I've messaged people first. Don't see it being an exclusively male thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens...rarely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send them...I know we are a couple but I as wifey am the proactive one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just wondering because I don't think I've ever had a mail off a women while I've been here only replys... X"

Yes they do. Then they vanish!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens...rarely. "

Hey......I messaged you once!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just wondering because I don't think I've ever had a mail off a women while I've been here only replys... X"

I have had quite a few which is good my messages are less succesful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes....from experience sometimes they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I message and wink. Made a couple of good friends by making the 1st move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep - only a few, but become quite friendly from them.

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By *usky Couple01Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Our mail box is open

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Not yet, but never say never

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I message a guy occasionally, especially if I like something he's written in the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep plenty of ladies do, not very often to me but they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been messaged first a few times. I'll normally put more effort in if they message first,it shows they are confident and predatory both huge tun ons for me. x jack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish they would stop too or I might need to hire a PA.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they dont, never happend to me, well some do and say nice pics to me and things, but never a first msgs like hey fancy a shag tonight lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No they dont, never happend to me, well some do and say nice pics to me and things, but never a first msgs like hey fancy a shag tonight lol ."

Because women make more effort generally and don't send "fancy a shag" one liners.....that's also why they ignore similar messages from guys....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After being mucked about and let down a couple of times I went through a phase of blocking men in my message filters to stop any messages and concentrated on finding people I was interested in, checked their profile, veris etc to see if I'd be someone they would maybe want to meet and sent a constructive message. Some replied, some didn't but I generally have much more success and less time wasters doing it this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No they dont, never happend to me, well some do and say nice pics to me and things, but never a first msgs like hey fancy a shag tonight lol .

Because women make more effort generally and don't send "fancy a shag" one liners.....that's also why they ignore similar messages from guys...."

No but they do send 'hi' messages. I don't think women need to make any effort messaging blokes so they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After being mucked about and let down a couple of times I went through a phase of blocking men in my message filters to stop any messages and concentrated on finding people I was interested in, checked their profile, veris etc to see if I'd be someone they would maybe want to meet and sent a constructive message. Some replied, some didn't but I generally have much more success and less time wasters doing it this way."

Yeah this is how it should be done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No they dont, never happend to me, well some do and say nice pics to me and things, but never a first msgs like hey fancy a shag tonight lol .

Because women make more effort generally and don't send "fancy a shag" one liners.....that's also why they ignore similar messages from guys....

No but they do send 'hi' messages. I don't think women need to make any effort messaging blokes so they don't. "

I make an effort as they dont send me messages

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I have been messaged first 3 times in the last year and 4 winks . Damn I must be ugly with a dire profile xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest with us it's the lady who does the majority of the messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After being mucked about and let down a couple of times I went through a phase of blocking men in my message filters to stop any messages and concentrated on finding people I was interested in, checked their profile, veris etc to see if I'd be someone they would maybe want to meet and sent a constructive message. Some replied, some didn't but I generally have much more success and less time wasters doing it this way."

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Sometimes they do, then others time they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just wondering because I don't think I've ever had a mail off a women while I've been here only replys... X"

After reading many threads like this it seems most don't although one or two do for various reasons though the more confident ones are the ones who do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely in my experience - but it's nice when it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some do they tend to be quite terrible messages, worse than the often complained about singles guys single line jobbies.

although it is quite funny how offended and insulting they get if you treat it the same as you would as if it didn't come from someone with a vagina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I will message but it's generally off the back of a forum post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some do they tend to be quite terrible messages, worse than the often complained about singles guys single line jobbies.

although it is quite funny how offended and insulting they get if you treat it the same as you would as if it didn't come from someone with a vagina."

Meow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No they dont, never happend to me, well some do and say nice pics to me and things, but never a first msgs like hey fancy a shag tonight lol ."

Put some effort into your reply and then you might get a meet with them!! Abit of respect and not be pushy goes along way

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I've had 2 in 10 months. And one was a massive time waster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occassionally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nowhere near as much as the guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send lots of first messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rarely in my experience - but it's nice when it happens "

Pretty sure I messaged you first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the women I've met (which isn't a massive amount), have been women who have either messages or winked first.

I'm a shy, timid, all around rubbish swinger... Thankfully many women aren't as wimpish as I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my profile used to be a bit funny before. Many did used to message me saying my profile made them laugh. Which to me was a lovely thing to say..

..and to this day. We're still friends.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have been known to message first. Then I get my message deleted.

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By *spot50Man
over a year ago

rochester


"I'm just wondering because I don't think I've ever had a mail off a women while I've been here only replys... X"

Only ever had one in neatly a year then became a couple got a few

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

I both message and wink. I have a very specific type and don't expect to just sit back and for them to notice me.

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By *jloversCouple
over a year ago

teynham

We have had a couple of messages from women messaging us first

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By *spot50Man
over a year ago

rochester

Your lucky if you even get a reply lol

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By *exyhornycplCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

i've sent message when I see something I like and it has usually ended in a favourable outcome, if you don't ask lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've sent message when I see something I like and it has usually ended in a favourable outcome, if you don't ask lol"

I agree with this...I was recently brave enough to message a lady who I was almost sure wouldn't be interested in me....but nonetheless, something compelled me to do so... and we just a delightful social meet earlier this evening.

Fortune does favour the brave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes, but remember most single woman get a huge response from us guys

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

V.rare but why should they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish they wouldnt send me fanny shots though...especially over the toilet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say its a rare thing but I also have found the ladies via the forums to me more of the type of ladies I would personally go for as you have a better insight into what there personality is like and sense of humor..

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By *rinterestingMan
over a year ago

London

Doesn't happen very often but I have received a few definitely gives you a buzz. A woman confident enough to message you is quite sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish they wouldnt send me fanny shots though...especially over the toilet!"

You replied though!!!!

Ive sent messages first...why not? On the whole the guys I've msgd have been pleased to receive mail...its a rare occurrence apparently which is kinda sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish they wouldnt send me fanny shots though...especially over the toilet!

You replied though!!!!

Ive sent messages first...why not? On the whole the guys I've msgd have been pleased to receive mail...its a rare occurrence apparently which is kinda sad.

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sorry but those polaroid 1970's bush pics didnt turn me on...now send ur up to date shaven haven snaps ASAP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish they wouldnt send me fanny shots though...especially over the toilet!

You replied though!!!!

Ive sent messages first...why not? On the whole the guys I've msgd have been pleased to receive mail...its a rare occurrence apparently which is kinda sad.

sorry but those polaroid 1970's bush pics didnt turn me on...now send ur up to date shaven haven snaps ASAP"

I sent them last week! How quickly they forget......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have. Usually if I see somebody cute who viewed me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sure if i ever did when i had single account - i do now as part of us - but thats not the same thing

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Always. Why would I just sit back and wait, when I can be looking for the ones most appealing to me?

I get ignored occasionally, or knocked back, but I take it on the chin and carry on looking and messaging. I don't understand why some ladies never message guys or couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have had women message us first - gives us a warm fuzzy feeling especially when its taken further and we meet etc

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

it can be hard work keeping up with all the messages I get from single women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been known to send the first message. Doesn't always get the response I was after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You messaged me first!... I think.

Guessing my response was ok, as I'm still planning on visiting you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done....

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i sometimes get the first message from a lady i know ..but ive never been first messaged out of the blue

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Yes, but I won't even look at a profile without a profile picture let alone send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just wondering because I don't think I've ever had a mail off a women while I've been here only replys... X"

Yes some do, in fact it happened yesterday however i think it all stems from chatting in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking messages. I do recommend reading the subject of the message not just the message it's self. I had a message you free didn't read the subject fancy a coffee. I replied fancy going dogging. Let's just say no hot drinks were exchanged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not anymore I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never used to but I'm going to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always mail first when I'm looking. "
Problem is men dint know how to rite profiles lot just put pics then out "will fill in later " or " looking for sex with woman and couples" bit of imagination often works but I don't read many that get my attention

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes I always sent the first message. My filters are on and I prefer to do the looking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice "

I've only ever sent a few first messages and got a delete no reply. So I agree they are just as bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've done it quite a lot and actually had better results from it."

I'm the same, if I've initiated contact it always seems to go better. No idea why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice "

If they don't reply it means they aren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always. Why would I just sit back and wait, when I can be looking for the ones most appealing to me?

I get ignored occasionally, or knocked back, but I take it on the chin and carry on looking and messaging. I don't understand why some ladies never message guys or couples."

Because some can't take rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice

If they don't reply it means they aren't interested. "

Exactly! I really can't get why some people are so annoyed that they don't get a reply. I'd much rather have my message ignored than have my time wasted chatting because they can't say sorry, not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice

If they don't reply it means they aren't interested. "

I reply to all messages interested or not....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice

If they don't reply it means they aren't interested.

I reply to all messages interested or not...."

Me too. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never messaged first but have had women message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice

If they don't reply it means they aren't interested.

I reply to all messages interested or not....

Me too. x"

Plus one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice

If they don't reply it means they aren't interested.

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Men should accept this from us then

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By *ooldaddyMan
over a year ago

st albans

Would all you women stop sending me messages without face pic !!!! If I want a single women I will find you !.

Taking me hours to shift through all the mail !!!

always wanted to say that !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never messaged first but have had women message me "

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner does if she sees a interesting well written or witty profile she will message first. She loves to chat and get to know people and we will meet or she will meet alone if that's what she wants.

So YES woman do message first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get loads. I am fighting them off with a double ender lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe it or not, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to but whenever i sent a first message i never seemed to get a reply so i stopped and now i just reply to men i like who message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no only twice i messaged a couple of men who i had met before. they werent interested because if somone wants to see or hear from you again they will contact you first, usualy when they cant find anyone else.

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By *andVCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We've had quite a few women message us, but single women seem to be very bad at replying to your reply lol Literally had about 5 or 6 introduce themselves, with the usual "Hi how are you?, Love your profile and pics" line, so we reply with a similar response and never here from them again lol

Women in couples tend to speak a lot more! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no only twice i messaged a couple of men who i had met before. they werent interested because if somone wants to see or hear from you again they will contact you first, usualy when they cant find anyone else."

does that work both ways? Did you only message them because you couldn't find someone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had quite a few women message us, but single women seem to be very bad at replying to your reply lol Literally had about 5 or 6 introduce themselves, with the usual "Hi how are you?, Love your profile and pics" line, so we reply with a similar response and never here from them again lol

Women in couples tend to speak a lot more! x"

Sounds like the 'single females' are actually guys. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah they do....the sheer volume gets annoying actually! Every few months I'll get inundated with a message from a lady. Think I've had two since Christmas!....am struggling to keep up to be honest.....

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

I have had messages off ladies & couples since i started my profile a while back, its mainly for me taking their photo's or films not my body worst luck lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no only twice i messaged a couple of men who i had met before. they werent interested because if somone wants to see or hear from you again they will contact you first, usualy when they cant find anyone else.

does that work both ways? Did you only message them because you couldn't find someone else?"

Yes i probably did.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Always. Why would I just sit back and wait, when I can be looking for the ones most appealing to me?

I get ignored occasionally, or knocked back, but I take it on the chin and carry on looking and messaging. I don't understand why some ladies never message guys or couples.

Because some can't take rejection.

"

I'm fine with rejection...it helps to while away the long evenings using my CIA contacts to track the bastards who've said no and then stalk them for a few weeks before letting BlondeTaz out to practice his filleting skills

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Always. Why would I just sit back and wait, when I can be looking for the ones most appealing to me?

I get ignored occasionally, or knocked back, but I take it on the chin and carry on looking and messaging. I don't understand why some ladies never message guys or couples.

Because some can't take rejection.

I'm fine with rejection...it helps to while away the long evenings using my CIA contacts to track the bastards who've said no and then stalk them for a few weeks before letting BlondeTaz out to practice his filleting skills "

Being totally honest, rejection still stings a little since I've never been one to put myself out there until I joined this site. It's far preferable than having to be the one doing the rejecting though! Especially when you get the 'but why not' response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind rejection at all, it means its their loss and they cant touch my 6pack lol x.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Nope, I admit I don't message first, the reason for that is due to most men's profile up here are piss poor, so there is nothing to interest or entice me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner does if she sees a interesting well written or witty profile she will message first. She loves to chat and get to know people and we will meet or she will meet alone if that's what she wants.

So YES woman do message first

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By *spot50Man
over a year ago

rochester


"Always. Why would I just sit back and wait, when I can be looking for the ones most appealing to me?

I get ignored occasionally, or knocked back, but I take it on the chin and carry on looking and messaging. I don't understand why some ladies never message guys or couples.

why is it rejection when somone says sorry not interested or not my type I dont think it should be called rejection , just not my type or not fitting into my preferences, we are all grown ups on here? So things shouldnt get taken personal, trust me when I was a single guy I would have only lastest a week in here if I took things personal,

just my thoughts

Because some can't take rejection.

I'm fine with rejection...it helps to while away the long evenings using my CIA contacts to track the bastards who've said no and then stalk them for a few weeks before letting BlondeTaz out to practice his filleting skills

Being totally honest, rejection still stings a little since I've never been one to put myself out there until I joined this site. It's far preferable than having to be the one doing the rejecting though! Especially when you get the 'but why not' response."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never messaged first. Not for any reason other than I've not felt the need to look for anyone.

When I was single woman on here I got tons to sift through anyway.

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over a year ago

Yes they do. Although friends have told me they get so inundated with messages, they rarely bother looking.

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over a year ago

rarely i get messages from ladies on here is it my aftershave??? any advice so on how the ladies wud notice me

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over a year ago

I have many a times why not x

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