FabSwingers.com forum: cuckold and cuckoldress

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some couples will decide to enter into a cuckold relationship. Those that do will normally have been in their relationship long enough to really get to know and trust one another.

However, are there any single men and women that would want to be in a cuckold relationship from the very beginning? If so, why do you want to be in one?

Also, can anyone already in a cuckold relationship give advice to those single people considering being in one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh my...

lol, does that mean you want to be a cuckoldress?

are there any men in here that fantasise about seeing their girlfriend having sex with another man whilst they remained faithful?

If you are a woman, would you like your boyfriend to give you permission to have sex with other men whilst he remains faithful to you?

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By *ubslave27Man
over a year ago

trowbridge

I dream of finding a woman to cuckold me, ive already thought long and hard about my next partner cuckholding me from the start, i feel i cant tell my current partner about these feelings and feel it may be easier to find someone with the same thoughts as me,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope x been there done that x it evolves naturally x and happens when it's least expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dream of finding a woman to cuckold me, ive already thought long and hard about my next partner cuckholding me from the start, i feel i cant tell my current partner about these feelings and feel it may be easier to find someone with the same thoughts as me, "

i understand your point of view.

what i think you are saying is that you can't tell your current partner because you fear they might not understand the reasons why you find the cuckold fantasy so attractive. also, you may fear that she will tell other people about it.

in order to keep your fantasy a secret, you may feel more comfortable finding a woman that wants to be in a cuckold relationship rather than tell your current partner how you feel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope x been there done that x it evolves naturally x and happens when it's least expected

yes i agree, that is typically how it happens. however, there are some people that fantasise about a cuckold relationship and would like to enter one from the beginning.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold."

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait for it......that 5 letter word is coming....I can feel it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some couples will decide to enter into a cuckold relationship. Those that do will normally have been in their relationship long enough to really get to know and trust one another.

However, are there any single men and women that would want to be in a cuckold relationship from the very beginning? If so, why do you want to be in one?

Also, can anyone already in a cuckold relationship give advice to those single people considering being in one?"

Whilst in aware of the kink - and know men and women who are into it from both a cuckold and cuckqueen perspective - I find the whole thing bizarre and cannot relate to it one bit.

That said, I don't judge people over their reasonable fantasies and sexual preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold."

Please can you tell me whatnot actually is then because I've been asked to cuckold and I declined as I wasn't fully sure or understood the swingin cuckold way so to speak

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By *aisy2012Couple
over a year ago

everywhere

"Oh my...

lol, does that mean you want to be a cuckoldress?

are there any men in here that fantasise about seeing their girlfriend having sex with another man whilst they remained faithful?

If you are a woman, would you like your boyfriend to give you permission to have sex with other men whilst he remains faithful to you?"

I encourage Sexy to have guys (& women) as often as possible. I love to know she is being pleasured as much as she wants. I don't play with other women unless it's part of a couple meet or mff. I adore knowing she's MY slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here."

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe."

wow, you are completely wrong !!!

firstly the word 'cuckold' is not an insult.

secondly, a man does have to be aware. actually, it is normally the man that asks his partner to have sex with other men.

a cuckold is a man that derives great sexual gratification from his partners adulterous behaviour, he is aware of it and encourages it.

lol, i strongly recommend that you read the threads on this forum titled 'cuckold'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some couples will decide to enter into a cuckold relationship. Those that do will normally have been in their relationship long enough to really get to know and trust one another.

However, are there any single men and women that would want to be in a cuckold relationship from the very beginning? If so, why do you want to be in one?

Also, can anyone already in a cuckold relationship give advice to those single people considering being in one?

Whilst in aware of the kink - and know men and women who are into it from both a cuckold and cuckqueen perspective - I find the whole thing bizarre and cannot relate to it one bit.

That said, I don't judge people over their reasonable fantasies and sexual preferences.

it can be hard to relate to if you do not understand it.

basically, the cuckold enjoys being sexually humiliated.

a cheating partner is the basic sexual humiliation that the cuckold will derive sexual satisfaction from.

some cuckolds are more extreme and can derive sexual pleasure from the humiliation of licking the bull's sperm from their partners vagina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe.

wow, you are completely wrong !!!

firstly the word 'cuckold' is not an insult.

secondly, a man does have to be aware. actually, it is normally the man that asks his partner to have sex with other men.

a cuckold is a man that derives great sexual gratification from his partners adulterous behaviour, he is aware of it and encourages it.

lol, i strongly recommend that you read the threads on this forum titled 'cuckold'. "

I strongly recommend you read a dictionary. Cuckold is an old English insult as I have described.

Have a look and see for yourself.

Or do you get all your information from the threads on here?

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Yawn..think i will have a coffee..Angell x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe.

wow, you are completely wrong !!!

firstly the word 'cuckold' is not an insult.

secondly, a man does have to be aware. actually, it is normally the man that asks his partner to have sex with other men.

a cuckold is a man that derives great sexual gratification from his partners adulterous behaviour, he is aware of it and encourages it.

lol, i strongly recommend that you read the threads on this forum titled 'cuckold'.

I strongly recommend you read a dictionary. Cuckold is an old English insult as I have described.

Have a look and see for yourself.

Or do you get all your information from the threads on here?

Maybe your both correct, I think the term 'cuckold' is ambiguous enough to have several meanings, depends on the individuals involved

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By *uy4couplesMan
over a year ago

south kent

now now, x

im in a relationship where i love to watch my wife have fun with another guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

now now, x

im in a relationship where i love to watch my wife have fun with another guy

Well you are a Wittol not a Cuckold but nobody seems to want to use the correct terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe.

wow, you are completely wrong !!!

firstly the word 'cuckold' is not an insult.

secondly, a man does have to be aware. actually, it is normally the man that asks his partner to have sex with other men.

a cuckold is a man that derives great sexual gratification from his partners adulterous behaviour, he is aware of it and encourages it.

lol, i strongly recommend that you read the threads on this forum titled 'cuckold'.

I strongly recommend you read a dictionary. Cuckold is an old English insult as I have described.

Have a look and see for yourself.

Or do you get all your information from the threads on here?

Maybe your both correct, I think the term 'cuckold' is ambiguous enough to have several meanings, depends on the individuals involved "

It's not ambiguous at all. It is purely an insult to a married guy who has an adulterous wife. Look it up in any major dictionary, Oxford, Collins etc.

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By *abMichaelaTV/TS
over a year ago

Fareham

"It's not ambiguous at all. It is purely an insult to a married guy who has an adulterous wife. Look it up in any major dictionary, Oxford, Collins etc." The beauty of the English language is that words change with time. While you are looking up cuckold in the dictionary, look up "Wicked"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""It's not ambiguous at all. It is purely an insult to a married guy who has an adulterous wife. Look it up in any major dictionary, Oxford, Collins etc." The beauty of the English language is that words change with time. While you are looking up cuckold in the dictionary, look up "Wicked""

Words do change but the term cuckold hasn't.

You can look at hundreds of words such as cool, chick, hot, bad etc but it's not the case here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe.

wow, you are completely wrong !!!

firstly the word 'cuckold' is not an insult.

secondly, a man does have to be aware. actually, it is normally the man that asks his partner to have sex with other men.

a cuckold is a man that derives great sexual gratification from his partners adulterous behaviour, he is aware of it and encourages it.

lol, i strongly recommend that you read the threads on this forum titled 'cuckold'.

I strongly recommend you read a dictionary. Cuckold is an old English insult as I have described.

Have a look and see for yourself.

Or do you get all your information from the threads on here?

Maybe your both correct, I think the term 'cuckold' is ambiguous enough to have several meanings, depends on the individuals involved

It's not ambiguous at all. It is purely an insult to a married guy who has an adulterous wife. Look it up in any major dictionary, Oxford, Collins etc."

Rubbish, of course it is, words evolve with the times, go and look up the word bad in the dictionary, to some it means good to others not good,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Words do change but the term cuckold hasn't.

You can look at hundreds of words such as cool, chick, hot, bad etc but it's not the case here."

How do you know?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe.

wow, you are completely wrong !!!

firstly the word 'cuckold' is not an insult.

secondly, a man does have to be aware. actually, it is normally the man that asks his partner to have sex with other men.

a cuckold is a man that derives great sexual gratification from his partners adulterous behaviour, he is aware of it and encourages it.

lol, i strongly recommend that you read the threads on this forum titled 'cuckold'. "

You are describing a cuckold fetish and not what Cuckold is described at originally

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Words do change but the term cuckold hasn't.

You can look at hundreds of words such as cool, chick, hot, bad etc but it's not the case here."

It retains its original meaning as well as having developed another.

Ask people on here or any other site what cuckolding is and what a cuckold is and I strongly suspect the majority who know, will describe the type of relationship the OP is talking about.

If a large number of people understand a word to have a particular meaning, it has obviously taken on that meaning.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The meaning of cuckold, now there's a interesting subject , you could ask 100 people on here and get 100 different answers, in answer to your question however our version of cuckolding has had a natural progression over our time together , we're happy how we play and don't worry about how others think we should ( or shouldn't ) do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe.

wow, you are completely wrong !!!

firstly the word 'cuckold' is not an insult.

secondly, a man does have to be aware. actually, it is normally the man that asks his partner to have sex with other men.

a cuckold is a man that derives great sexual gratification from his partners adulterous behaviour, he is aware of it and encourages it.

lol, i strongly recommend that you read the threads on this forum titled 'cuckold'. "

Sorry but the lady is correct. The word cuckold comes from the same Latin origin as the word cuckoo. It referred to a man who unknowingly brought up a child, the result of an adulterous affair, as if the child was his own...

A true cuckold is, therefore, totally unaware. It is only recently that through porn films various forms of voyeurism have tended to be included. Often with abuse of the man added in.

You appear from your OP to be quite new to the scene and have locked horns with a lady who clearly knows far better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what the OP is trying to get across is regardless of what any dictionary says...the word cuckold is commonly known as how he describes it....if you asked many people what the word cuckold means then PROBABLY In capaital letters most people would either describe it the same as OP with a few variations, or they dont know what the word means and do not know the word at all, and the minority will have read a dictionary and understand the word cuckold by that description. ....I think the common man/woman using the english language in modern times will understand it the same as

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooops. The same as OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My understanding of the definition is also as the OPs. Pretty sure it's most on here's understanding.

I for one like the thought if it. Huge turn on and really gets the adrenalin flowing.

There's varying definitions for different things if we want to get all pedantic. Below is a fine example; and to be fair would be a pretty shit night out

To Swing

a seat suspended by ropes or chains, on which someone may sit and swing back and forth.

an act of swinging.

"with the swing of her arm, the knife flashed through the air"

synonyms: swaying, oscillation, undulation

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By *istressdebssubCouple
over a year ago

cambridge

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe."
here we go again ! another history lesson from the dark ages that bares no relivance to the modern perceptive !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My understanding of the definition is also as the OPs. Pretty sure it's most on here's understanding.

I for one like the thought if it. Huge turn on and really gets the adrenalin flowing."

i do fantasise about the cuckold sex fetish. as a single guy, i can only fantasise about it from an imaginary perspective. nevertheless, i would love to try it with a girlfriend.

the thought of her having sex with another man, whilst i watched, is very arousing.

however, do many women fantasise about having a cuckold relationship? would a woman like to have sex with other men whilst her cuckold partner is denied from having sex with other women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My understanding of the definition is also as the OPs. Pretty sure it's most on here's understanding.

I for one like the thought if it. Huge turn on and really gets the adrenalin flowing.

i do fantasise about the cuckold sex fetish. as a single guy, i can only fantasise about it from an imaginary perspective. nevertheless, i would love to try it with a girlfriend.

the thought of her having sex with another man, whilst i watched, is very arousing.

however, do many women fantasise about having a cuckold relationship? would a woman like to have sex with other men whilst her cuckold partner is denied from having sex with other women?"

Can honestly say I have never fantasised about having a cuckold relationship - it leaves me cold but then I like my men to be assertive but as with all things fab, each to their own.

Having read some of "your" previous threads OP it doesn't come as any surprise that it is another area that fascinates you - enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow with the semantics!

I have gone out to have sex with others while my husband has stayed at home - sometimes with a chastity device on. I have also had sex at home while my husband has waited downstairs or watched.

We're not into humiliation in any way and he is about as assertive as you can possibly be. I don't care what anybody wants to call this, or what other people define it as - all I can say is we had fun doing it and no doubt will do it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe.

wow, you are completely wrong !!!

firstly the word 'cuckold' is not an insult.

secondly, a man does have to be aware. actually, it is normally the man that asks his partner to have sex with other men.

a cuckold is a man that derives great sexual gratification from his partners adulterous behaviour, he is aware of it and encourages it.

lol, i strongly recommend that you read the threads on this forum titled 'cuckold'.

A true cuckold is, therefore, totally unaware. It is only recently that through porn films various forms of voyeurism have tended to be included. Often with abuse of the man added in.

You appear from your OP to be quite new to the scene and have locked horns with a lady who clearly knows far better."

Thanks for that, apart from I'm the hubby and not the lady.

Looking at the majority of posts on here and it's clear to me that they believe that cuckolding means a variety of things.

And therein lies the problem. The word cannot mean everything to everyone otherwise it loses it's definition.

To some it has to include humiliation. Some say that this is limited to verbal whilst others say it must include physical humiliation with devices such as cock cages etc.

Some say cuckolded men are free to join in sexual acts as part of a threesome whilst others say it is essential to deny the male from any form of sexual contact.

So what is it humiliation or not, hubby included or not? All words need definitions otherwise they are meaningless, definitions are to be found in dictionaries and if you look up the word cuckold in the main volumes you will see that it has no relevance to the activities described above.

Unlike other words, such as cool which has 19 different definitions in the Collins dictionary, the term cuckold has only one. So it would appear that it hasn't evolved over time and has a very specific meaning.

We are not suggesting that having fun in the way people are describing in their posts is in anyway inferior or that we are poking fun at them, indeed we have played with many single guys over the years. All we are suggesting is that the word cuckold does not describe the name of any activity, it is merely a old insult for a man who has an adulterous wife.

Why there is such opposition to us saying that people are misusing this term is beyond us.

Surely if you are unsure of the meaning of a word you have never come across before, you would look up it's definition in a dictionary. That just seems common sense to us but maybe we are wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow with the semantics!

I have gone out to have sex with others while my husband has stayed at home - sometimes with a chastity device on. I have also had sex at home while my husband has waited downstairs or watched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe.here we go again ! another history lesson from the dark ages that bares no relivance to the modern perceptive !!

Hello again x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wow with the semantics!

I have gone out to have sex with others while my husband has stayed at home - sometimes with a chastity device on. I have also had sex at home while my husband has waited downstairs or watched.

cuckolding is based on humiliation

if a 'normal' man learned that he had an adulterous wife he probably would feel angry and humiliated.

however, there are some men that can derive great pleasure from sexual humiliation, particularly the humiliation of a cheating wife. normally, these men will deliberately encourage their wives to be adulterous.

these men, cuckolds, may not feel like they are being humiliated because of the pleasure they enjoy. also, their wives may not feel like they are humiliating the cuckold.

nevertheless, the cuckold will derive great sexual gratification from the humiliation of a cheating wife.

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By *istressdebssubCouple
over a year ago

cambridge

"You are totally unaware of what the meaning of cuckold is.

You are just talking about a false view propagated by the porn industry.

The kink you describe has nothing to do with being a cuckold.

i am confident that my definition of a cuckold relationship is technically correct.

i would like to read what your definition is, please post it here.

The word cuckold is an insult to a man who has an adulterous wife. The man in question does not even have to be aware that his wife has been unfaithful.

Nothing to do with the kink you describe.

wow, you are completely wrong !!!

firstly the word 'cuckold' is not an insult.

secondly, a man does have to be aware. actually, it is normally the man that asks his partner to have sex with other men.

a cuckold is a man that derives great sexual gratification from his partners adulterous behaviour, he is aware of it and encourages it.

lol, i strongly recommend that you read the threads on this forum titled 'cuckold'.

A true cuckold is, therefore, totally unaware. It is only recently that through porn films various forms of voyeurism have tended to be included. Often with abuse of the man added in.

You appear from your OP to be quite new to the scene and have locked horns with a lady who clearly knows far better.

Thanks for that, apart from I'm the hubby and not the lady.

Looking at the majority of posts on here and it's clear to me that they believe that cuckolding means a variety of things.

And therein lies the problem. The word cannot mean everything to everyone otherwise it loses it's definition.

To some it has to include humiliation. Some say that this is limited to verbal whilst others say it must include physical humiliation with devices such as cock cages etc.

Some say cuckolded men are free to join in sexual acts as part of a threesome whilst others say it is essential to deny the male from any form of sexual contact.

Why there is such opposition to us saying that people are misusing this term is beyond us.

Surely if you are unsure of the meaning of a word you have never come across before, you would look up it's definition in a dictionary. That just seems common sense to us but maybe we are wrong."
yes you are wrong lol

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over a year ago

cuckolding is based on humiliation

if a 'normal' man learned that he had an adulterous wife he probably would feel angry and humiliated.

these men, cuckolds, may not feel like they are being humiliated because of the pleasure they enjoy. also, their wives may not feel like they are humiliating the cuckold.

nevertheless, the cuckold will derive great sexual gratification from the humiliation of a cheating wife."

Wow that right there shows you don't understand the dynamics of a couples relationship in cuckolding, you see it as himilitaion which mean you can't understand how a man ( or woman) can enjoy seeing the pleasure on their partners face , the joy of the vouyerism , you seem to think that a man must feel humiliation because his partner is having sex? Completely wrong in our eyes . Sex is sex ( satisfying a basic urge so to speak, yet whe. The couple make love they have extra feelings and sensations developed through the intimacy and love, some people are able to distinguish and recognise the difference) I have not one ounce of jealousy therefore no humiliation at the sight or thought of my partner having sex

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over a year ago

"Wow with the semantics!

I have gone out to have sex with others while my husband has stayed at home - sometimes with a chastity device on. I have also had sex at home while my husband has waited downstairs or watched.

cuckolding is based on humiliation

if a 'normal' man learned that he had an adulterous wife he probably would feel angry and humiliated.

these men, cuckolds, may not feel like they are being humiliated because of the pleasure they enjoy. also, their wives may not feel like they are humiliating the cuckold.

nevertheless, the cuckold will derive great sexual gratification from the humiliation of a cheating wife."

Once again - wow with the semantics!

And once again:

"I don't care what anybody wants to call this, or what other people define it as - all I can say is we had fun doing it and no doubt will do it again."

And also again:

"We're not into humiliation in any way"

Now if you want to tug yourself off over the perceived humiliation of seeing your imaginary partner 'cuckolded' or whatever else - good for you. In your fantasy land it can be exactly how you want it. In my real life experience I can only tell you how the experience was for me and it has nothing to do with the aspects you claim.

Humiliation would come from feeling ashamed. Neither of us have ever felt ashamed for our sexual activities, including as described above.

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By *istressdebssubCouple
over a year ago

cambridge

the main thing is modern times (forget the out dated oxford english )is that the wife is unfaithful and the male is faithful ! then anything from mild to extreme cuckolding is every ones personal choice and couples will agree how little or how far they want to go ! we are a femdom cuckold couple and those that contact us tend to know what that means despite the fact that you won't find it in the oxford english !

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over a year ago

cuckolding is based on humiliation

if a 'normal' man learned that he had an adulterous wife he probably would feel angry and humiliated.

these men, cuckolds, may not feel like they are being humiliated because of the pleasure they enjoy. also, their wives may not feel like they are humiliating the cuckold.

nevertheless, the cuckold will derive great sexual gratification from the humiliation of a cheating wife.

no, i wrote that the cuckold may not feel humiliated because the sexual satisfaction from the humiliation of his adulterous wife is so great.

most 'normal' men that have an adulterous wife would feel humiliated! the cuckold man is special because he experiences sexual pleasure rather than the negative feeling of humiliation.

the cuckold is a able to transform sexual humiliation into sexual pleasure. this is unique to the cuckold because most men can not do this.

jealousy and humiliation are two completely different emotions.

jealousy is like being envious, but in a negative way.

humiliation is an extreme form of embarrassment.

therefore, being humiliated has absolutely nothing to do with jealousy.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

There are lots of fetishes which aren't described in a dictionary.

That the definition of cuckold is limited to its original meaning and does not include a description of the fetish for which the name is also used comes as no surprise to me.

I can't be bothered to look, but how does a standard dictionary define "snowball", "airtight" or "spitroast"?

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over a year ago

"I can't be bothered to look, but how does a standard dictionary define "snowball", "airtight" or "spitroast"?"

In the most recent edition they're all defined as: Most pleasurable.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"Wow with the semantics!

I have gone out to have sex with others while my husband has stayed at home - sometimes with a chastity device on. I have also had sex at home while my husband has waited downstairs or watched.

cuckolding is based on humiliation

if a 'normal' man learned that he had an adulterous wife he probably would feel angry and humiliated.

these men, cuckolds, may not feel like they are being humiliated because of the pleasure they enjoy. also, their wives may not feel like they are humiliating the cuckold.

nevertheless, the cuckold will derive great sexual gratification from the humiliation of a cheating wife."

cuckolding is not based on humiliation, you are wrong in your 1st line, I stopped reading then, the word cuckolding covers a very very wide scope of things, it cannot and isnt given to 1 definition.

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over a year ago

now now, x

im in a relationship where i love to watch my wife have fun with another guy

same hear ... some call it ' hot wife ' some call it cuckold we call it fun with a lucky guy lol.

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over a year ago

"Wow with the semantics!

I have gone out to have sex with others while my husband has stayed at home - sometimes with a chastity device on. I have also had sex at home while my husband has waited downstairs or watched.

cuckolding is based on humiliation

if a 'normal' man learned that he had an adulterous wife he probably would feel angry and humiliated.

these men, cuckolds, may not feel like they are being humiliated because of the pleasure they enjoy. also, their wives may not feel like they are humiliating the cuckold.

nevertheless, the cuckold will derive great sexual gratification from the humiliation of a cheating wife.

Once again - wow with the semantics!

And once again:

I don't care what anybody wants to call this, or what other people define it as - all I can say is we had fun doing it and no doubt will do it again.

And also again:

We're not into humiliation in any way

Humiliation would come from feeling ashamed. Neither of us have ever felt ashamed for our sexual activities, including as described above."

no, i don't want to 'tug' myself off. i am using the forum as a platform to expose my soul to the world. i want to share my desires and emotions with other users on the forum. hopefully, i will be able to discuss these things with other like minded people.

unfortunately, the latest comment you posted, regarding 'tugging' myself off in an imaginary fantasy land, is crass and trivializes my personal sexual development.

for most 'normal' people, humiliation can come from being ashamed.

however, the cuckold is special because he does not feel the negative emotions from having an adulterous wife. on the contrary, he derives great sexual gratification from it. he takes a situation that most people would regard as being humiliating and derives great pleasure from it.

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over a year ago

Life shouldnt be this complicated

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over a year ago

"unfortunately, the latest comment you posted, regarding 'tugging' myself off in an imaginary fantasy land, is crass and trivializes my personal sexual development.

for most 'normal' people, humiliation can come from being ashamed.

Your personal sexual development will progress more quickly and more smoothly with a little more tugging and a lot less analysing.

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over a year ago

"Wow with the semantics!

I have gone out to have sex with others while my husband has stayed at home - sometimes with a chastity device on. I have also had sex at home while my husband has waited downstairs or watched.

cuckolding is based on humiliation

if a 'normal' man learned that he had an adulterous wife he probably would feel angry and humiliated.

these men, cuckolds, may not feel like they are being humiliated because of the pleasure they enjoy. also, their wives may not feel like they are humiliating the cuckold.

nevertheless, the cuckold will derive great sexual gratification from the humiliation of a cheating wife.

Once again - wow with the semantics!

And once again:

I don't care what anybody wants to call this, or what other people define it as - all I can say is we had fun doing it and no doubt will do it again.

And also again:

We're not into humiliation in any way

Humiliation would come from feeling ashamed. Neither of us have ever felt ashamed for our sexual activities, including as described above.

unfortunately, the latest comment you posted, regarding 'tugging' myself off in an imaginary fantasy land, is crass and trivializes my personal sexual development.

for most 'normal' people, humiliation can come from being ashamed.

Have you any 'real' experience regarding cuckolding??

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over a year ago

cuckolding is based on humiliation

if a 'normal' man learned that he had an adulterous wife he probably would feel angry and humiliated.

these men, cuckolds, may not feel like they are being humiliated because of the pleasure they enjoy. also, their wives may not feel like they are humiliating the cuckold.

nevertheless, the cuckold will derive great sexual gratification from the humiliation of a cheating wife.

no, i wrote that the cuckold may not feel humiliated because the sexual satisfaction from the humiliation of his adulterous wife is so great.

most 'normal' men that have an adulterous wife would feel humiliated! the cuckold man is special because he experiences sexual pleasure rather than the negative feeling of humiliation.

the cuckold is a able to transform sexual humiliation into sexual pleasure. this is unique to the cuckold because most men can not do this.

jealousy and humiliation are two completely different emotions.

jealousy is like being envious, but in a negative way.

humiliation is an extreme form of embarrassment.

therefore, being humiliated has absolutely nothing to do with jealousy."

Your line of reasoning is so badly flawed that you seem to argue time and time again that someone feels humiliated ( even if you seem to think they transform it into pleasure your presumption still exists that there is a form if himiliation)

Jealousy is a example of what most would think of from a "normal" person as you put it therefore, humiliation and jealousy are part of the same dynamics that you seem to describe onto others,

no one transforms their sexual humiliation , because they don't have any , if they don't have any all the arguments you describe are a mute point surely ?

please explain what humiliation you seem to think exists when no one is humiliated ? In fact don't worry this is one conversation where we can see you really just don't get it , good luck trying to figure it out

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over a year ago

cuckolding is based on humiliation

if a 'normal' man learned that he had an adulterous wife he probably would feel angry and humiliated.

these men, cuckolds, may not feel like they are being humiliated because of the pleasure they enjoy. also, their wives may not feel like they are humiliating the cuckold.

nevertheless, the cuckold will derive great sexual gratification from the humiliation of a cheating wife.

no, i wrote that the cuckold may not feel humiliated because the sexual satisfaction from the humiliation of his adulterous wife is so great.

most 'normal' men that have an adulterous wife would feel humiliated! the cuckold man is special because he experiences sexual pleasure rather than the negative feeling of humiliation.

the cuckold is a able to transform sexual humiliation into sexual pleasure. this is unique to the cuckold because most men can not do this.

jealousy and humiliation are two completely different emotions.

jealousy is like being envious, but in a negative way.

humiliation is an extreme form of embarrassment.

therefore, being humiliated has absolutely nothing to do with jealousy.

Jealousy is a example of what most would think of from a "normal" person as you put it therefore, humiliation and jealousy are part of the same dynamics that you seem to describe onto others,

no one transforms their sexual humiliation , because they don't have any , if they don't have any all the arguments you describe are a mute point surely ?

if a 'normal' man sees his wife having sex with another man then it is reasonable to assume he will feel humiliated from his wife's cheating behaviour.

why does a cuckold enjoy seeing his wife with another man? the answer is that the humiliation of his wife's adulterous behaviour is a 'turn on' for the cuckold. he does not feel the humiliation, he just feels the sexual satisfaction.

some cuckolds have a very high tolerance for sexual humiliation. this explains why some cuckolds can: lick the bull's sperm from the wife's vagina; compare his small penis to the bull's bigger penis; enjoy the 'verbal abuse' from his wife.

there are a lot more humiliating actions that the cuckold can derive pleasure from, but this will depend on the his tolerance for humiliation.

what i am saying is that an adulterous wife is the basic form of humiliation that all cuckolds enjoy.

for a cuckold, a cheating wife is a pleasurable humiliation.

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over a year ago

Just to clarify, in a cuckold relationship the man remains faithful to the female despite her adulterous behaviour.

If the man is allowed to have sex with other women then the couple have a swingers relationship.

Swinging is not the same as cuckolding.

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over a year ago

"Just to clarify, in a cuckold relationship the man remains faithful to the female despite her adulterous behaviour.

If the man is allowed to have sex with other women then the couple have a swingers relationship.

Swinging is not the same as cuckolding.

Have you any real life experiences regarding cuckolding? Or do you get your information from books and the internet?

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over a year ago

"Just to clarify, in a cuckold relationship the man remains faithful to the female despite her adulterous behaviour.

If the man is allowed to have sex with other women then the couple have a swingers relationship.

Swinging is not the same as cuckolding.

Have you any real life experiences regarding cuckolding? Or do you get your information from books and the internet? "

why, do you disagree with my analysis of cuckolding?

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over a year ago

This was a fun thread.

As far as anyone going on a rant to the OP about the "dictionary def"? Pure silliness! On this site, why, oh why would anyone say they want to be in a relationship with an adulteress? AND not know about it? May as well say, "Hi, I'm Roger and I have a monogamous, blissful relationship and I just popped in to say NYAH!" Surely, such a man would not even KNOW about this site!

It's pretty obvious (to me) the thrill of this fetish is to find gratification in the joy the woman gets from humiliating her man.

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over a year ago

And by the way, all information comes from books or the Internet. Only the first mook got it firsthand..

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over a year ago

"This was a fun thread.

It's pretty obvious (to me) the thrill of this fetish is to find gratification in the joy the woman gets from humiliating her man."

lol, thank you very much.

both the woman and the man enjoy it

the cuckold sex fetish is really kinky, i like it a lot

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over a year ago

"Just to clarify, in a cuckold relationship the man remains faithful to the female despite her adulterous behaviour.

If the man is allowed to have sex with other women then the couple have a swingers relationship.

Swinging is not the same as cuckolding.

Have you any real life experiences regarding cuckolding? Or do you get your information from books and the internet?

why, do you disagree with my analysis of cuckolding?

No, just curious to know where you get your information??you seem to be well informed

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over a year ago

"And by the way, all information comes from books or the Internet. Only the first mook got it firsthand..

Bollocks, did you learn how to take a shit by reading a book

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over a year ago

"And by the way, all information comes from books or the Internet. Only the first mook got it firsthand..

Books are fun for those times between actually doing stuff. The Internet is full of wankers. Much of it is written by wankers.

While the initial post invited people to share advice, what was received were extracts from some sort of technical manual, informing people they'd been doing it all wrong. This is what happens when the people writing the manual didn't test the product - and further down the line the manual ends up in the hands of people who don't even have the product.

Fantasise about whatever you like, but lecturing people that are doing the things you fantasise about is only going to make you look silly.

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By *andG4moreCouple
over a year ago

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"Just to clarify, in a cuckold relationship the man remains faithful to the female despite her adulterous behaviour.

If the man is allowed to have sex with other women then the couple have a swingers relationship.

Swinging is not the same as cuckolding.

Wow just realised am in a cuckold relationship as I never play only mrs plays. Its not about being allowed to play its just I dont want to with anyone other than G.

She plays as often and with whom she likes.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"And by the way, all information comes from books or the Internet. Only the first mook got it firsthand..

Books are fun for those times between actually doing stuff. The Internet is full of wankers. Much of it is written by wankers.

Fantasise about whatever you like, but lecturing people that are doing the things you fantasise about is only going to make you look silly."

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

OP, your imagined idea of cuckolding may well be based around humiliation but that is not the case for everyone who engages in such activities.

You invited discussion but now seem to be using this as a platform to tell everyone else what they should think and feel.

Some of these people have a lot of experience of real cuckold type behaviour so are very well placed to know why they enjoy it.

It's rather arrogant to decree that your way is the only way, especially to people who do this, when you've no real experience at all.

How about you use the thread to discuss what cuckolding means to other people, and how they make it work, rather than sounding like a petulant broken record on what you think it would mean to you.

There is no "right way" here. What you imagine may actually turn out to be very different, and even if it didn't, it won't be representative of the experiences of everyone else.

OP, so young, and with no real experience of this aspect of sexual relations, you are sounding a bit daft trying to lecture people with much more sexual, and life, experience, some of which includes real experience of cuckold type relationships.

Chill out a bit and realise that your (imagined) way is not the only way, eh?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

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"OP, your imagined idea of cuckolding may well be based around humiliation but that is not the case for everyone who engages in such activities.

You invited discussion but now seem to be using this as a platform to tell everyone else what they should think and feel.

Some of these people have a lot of experience of real cuckold type behaviour so are very well placed to know why they enjoy it.

It's rather arrogant to decree that your way is the only way, especially to people who do this, when you've no real experience at all.

How about you use the thread to discuss what cuckolding means to other people, and how they make it work, rather than sounding like a petulant broken record on what you think it would mean to you.

There is no "right way" here. What you imagine may actually turn out to be very different, and even if it didn't, it won't be representative of the experiences of everyone else.

Chill out a bit and realise that your (imagined) way is not the only way, eh?"

this..

OP as the green arrow indicates you have a fixation with your definition of what this aspect must be..

as VV says if you invite a discussion you will need to recognise that others (quite often with actual experience) may well differ..

perhaps stop trying to lecture about something you seem to know nothing about in real terms..

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"Just to clarify, in a cuckold relationship the man remains faithful to the female despite her adulterous behaviour.

If the man is allowed to have sex with other women then the couple have a swingers relationship.

Swinging is not the same as cuckolding.

that is also bullshit, as I stated the cuckolding covers a very very wide range of things, it is not and cannot be defined to 1 explanation.

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over a year ago

"And by the way, all information comes from books or the Internet. Only the first mook got it firsthand..

Books are fun for those times between actually doing stuff. The Internet is full of wankers. Much of it is written by wankers.

Fantasise about whatever you like, but lecturing people that are doing the things you fantasise about is only going to make you look silly."

i may not possess the linguistic ability of a poet. however, i assure you that i am perfectly capable of articulating my own opinions. therefore, i do not need nor require to copy extracts from a 'technical manual'.

you have the audacity to claim that i am lecturing people on this thread, that is completely false and deliberately misleading. i am just simply trying to express my opinion.

my opinion is that a 'normal' man will be humiliated by his wife's adulterous behaviour. however, the 'cuckold' does not feel the negatives of humiliation but the positives of great sexual gratification. that is, the cuckold derives pleasure from the humiliation of an adulterous wife and can, according to his tolerance for humiliation, derive greater pleasure from further acts of sexual humiliation.

i do not require you or anyone else to agree with me, but merely understand my opinion from a few simple sentences of written english. unfortunately, irrespective of how many times i attempt to rephrase it, some users do not make an attempt to understand and just lecture me about how wrong i am and how right they are.

you claim i am lecturing you; on the contrary, you are lecturing me.

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over a year ago

You are expressing your opinion on something that you seem to not have experienced and are trying to tell those that actually have , what they MUST be feeling / thinking and giving interpretations of what you believe is the only form of cuckolding .

Then lecturing others on how wrong they are.

Instead why don't you actually allow others to inform you of their dealings with the subject and take on board what they are saying instead of arguing with them about something you know so little of ?

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over a year ago

Oh and no matter how many times you state something it's doesn't make it true , humiliation is NOT something that I feel/ have thrust upon me, or turn Into some other form of emotional state.

There are as many forms of cuckold as there are ways to swing it's a broad spectrum, realise this and I'm sure you would enjoy things a lot more

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over a year ago

"And by the way, all information comes from books or the Internet. Only the first mook got it firsthand..

Books are fun for those times between actually doing stuff. The Internet is full of wankers. Much of it is written by wankers.

Fantasise about whatever you like, but lecturing people that are doing the things you fantasise about is only going to make you look silly.

you have the audacity to claim that i am lecturing people on this thread, that is completely false and deliberately misleading. i am just simply trying to express my opinion.

you claim i am lecturing you; on the contrary, you are lecturing me."

I keep asking but where do yiu get your information from?

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over a year ago

"OP, your imagined idea of cuckolding may well be based around humiliation but that is not the case for everyone who engages in such activities.

You invited discussion but now seem to be using this as a platform to tell everyone else what they should think and feel.

Some of these people have a lot of experience of real cuckold type behaviour so are very well placed to know why they enjoy it.

It's rather arrogant to decree that your way is the only way, especially to people who do this, when you've no real experience at all.

How about you use the thread to discuss what cuckolding means to other people, and how they make it work, rather than sounding like a petulant broken record on what you think it would mean to you.

There is no "right way" here. What you imagine may actually turn out to be very different, and even if it didn't, it won't be representative of the experiences of everyone else.

Chill out a bit and realise that your (imagined) way is not the only way, eh?"

other users are more than welcome to post their comments on my thread, providing they choose to articulate their opinions respectfully.

i have never claimed to be an 'authority' on cuckolding. however, i do have an opinion and i am entitled to express it, particularly on my own thread.

i am more than willing to debate any of the opinions i express on my threads. furthermore, with respect to those people that have an alternative opinion to mine, i will do my up most to understand things from their perspective. moreover, i will conduct my actions with the utmost decorum.

however, what i am not willing to do is to accept that the opinions of other users are in anyway superior to mine, irrespective of their experience.

i have always tried to engage with those people that have an alternative opinion to mine, but never once have i had the audacity to patronise them the way you have just patronised me, so sad really.

you claim that i am 'arrogant', but maybe it is you that is 'arrogant' for challenging me about defending my opinions just because they are different to some of the other users and probably your own.

with regard to lecturing, i assure you that there are many more people on this thread trying to consistently lecture me. nevertheless, irrespective of the constant lecturing, i remain resolute in defending my opinions.