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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we are a soft swinging couple,we really enjoy meeting other couples but find it so hard because we wont go all the way,we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not prudes swinging is what you want it to be but for us we prefer non soft swinging.

If as couple soft is how you want it stick to what you wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are a soft swinging couple,we really enjoy meeting other couples but find it so hard because we wont go all the way,we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we, "

Same here.

We have even had rude mail asking why the fxxk we are on here if we don't fxxk?

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

No your not being prudes but why soft swing if you love each other so much why not spend more time alone instead of with people you don,t want to have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are a soft swinging couple,we really enjoy meeting other couples but find it so hard because we wont go all the way,we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we,

Same here.

We have even had rude mail asking why the fxxk we are on here if we don't fxxk?

"

Sadly some in here whether it be singles or couples cannot accept others choices.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"No your not being prudes but why soft swing if you love each other so much why not spend more time alone instead of with people you don,t want to have sex with."

Interesting question. Look forward to the reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, think that's fine. Different people like different things. Nothing wrong with that at all.

Hope you just enjoy what your doing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thankyou xx

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

We don't swap either but quite frankly, we don't give a rat's about what others think. We're in this to have fun and enhance OUR lives which means we'll play the way WE want to.

For us, that tends to be with bi males. If we met a couple and all four of us were interested in playing though, it would involve horny group fun but with penetration being reserved for our own partners.

There really isn't a rule book for swinging, despite some people thinking there is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we like the fun thats all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

oh we do really enjoy it xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what pleases you. There must be other couples who like that too. May I ask what your interpretation of soft swap is?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

you just enjoy yourselves like we do then when we get home omg do we play with each other oh yes we do bigtime and yes we fuck each other so thats what we mean re soft swinging xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what you like

We, only at the moment like watching and being watched.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

fair play to you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

you may ask we like all 4 to play in same room everything goes except penertration to the other female thats just for us,we love ladies both to receive oral off both men, ladies to give oral to both men,women to play giving oral to each other,ladies having strapons on etc etc etc xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you may ask we like all 4 to play in same room everything goes except penertration to the other female thats just for us,we love ladies both to receive oral off both men, ladies to give oral to both men,women to play giving oral to each other,ladies having strapons on etc etc etc xxxx"

ok. I just wondered because everyone has a different view on it. Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about preferences. Many couples won't give us the time of day because we're not in a romantic relationship and we won't give cheaters or smokers the time of day. Preferences, preferences, preferences. No-one is in the wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love soft swap - some things can be sacred between two people. Fun is always had by us and the sex afterwards is amazing!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some peoplethink your here for their pleasure and forget your here mainly for yourselves.

Youve already said after your meets you go home and have the best sex ever, so it's working for you, and long may it continue.

As long as you make sure you inform the people its soft swing only before the meet I dont see an issue, if they dont like they dont have to meet do they.

Have fun x

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

Swinging, playing etc are what you want them to be. What ever you are happy with, you will find someone to join you and someone to criticise you. Don't worry about what other people think, be true to yourselves...

But.... You say you love each other too much to fuck other people... Does that mean that people that are full swap love each other less??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We love soft swap - some things can be sacred between two people. Fun is always had by us and the sex afterwards is amazing!!!!"

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Don't have to justify anything to anyone, we are not even soft swap couple yet, just waiting for the right moment, saying that the mrs gets hot and wet on a fantasy that id never thought id hear.

Just do what you want to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In no way saying that we love each other more than full swap swingers do.

Every couple has their own brand of love and does it differently to others.

We just like to keep sex just for us, a boundary if you like.

We make no judgment on others if they choose to gang bang or just play once a year. As long as everyone is happy, having fun and not being forced into something they not happy with. Then we fine with it.

We here to have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I wonder if a interests badge worn by clubbers would be appropriate similar to the gay scene of different coloured scarfs for different interests lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thankyou for that nice message xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

no it didnt mean that sorry about that xx

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By *sian_coupleukCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We love soft swapping and even though we have tried & tested full swap - we find soft swap more suited to our needs.

As stated above - the thrill of having penetrative sex with own partner after the build up foreplay and soft play with other people is mind-blowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't swap either but quite frankly, we don't give a rat's about what others think. We're in this to have fun and enhance OUR lives which means we'll play the way WE want to.

For us, that tends to be with bi males. If we met a couple and all four of us were interested in playing though, it would involve horny group fun but with penetration being reserved for our own partners.

There really isn't a rule book for swinging, despite some people thinking there is."

I like that attitude. Why should you accept another persons rules?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"we are a soft swinging couple,we really enjoy meeting other couples but find it so hard because we wont go all the way,we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we, "

No you're not, but if you tell people you love each other too much to have sex with someone else you are implying that if they DO that they love each other less than you love each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We enjoy soft swap as well as full.

Some of our soft swap meets have been more enjoyable than the full ones.

As long as everything is agreed beforehand it's all good.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We love soft swapping and even though we have tried & tested full swap - we find soft swap more suited to our needs.

As stated above - the thrill of having penetrative sex with own partner after the build up foreplay and soft play with other people is mind-blowing. "

This can be very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some peoplethink your here for their pleasure and forget your here mainly for yourselves.

Youve already said after your meets you go home and have the best sex ever, so it's working for you, and long may it continue.

As long as you make sure you inform the people its soft swing only before the meet I dont see an issue, if they dont like they dont have to meet do they.

Have fun x"

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By *bovethekneeCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire / Herefordshire

Softswop works just fine for us too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think if anyone asks you to justify your preferences they clearly aren't the people you want to be meeting anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we only soft swap and are very happy with it, so if it works for you .. then carry on.

If people don't like it, then they shouldn't try and change your mind to do full swap and should respect your wishes.

we've never had a problem with anyone we've played with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet a soft swap couple fairly regularly, and always have a lovely time..

Their profile clearly says soft swap is all they're looking for, so when I meet them for the evening I know it's just snogging and a fumble!

Now having said that, I've also met with couples who want full sex but have a rule of no kissing..

Again, they're quite clear about it from the outset, as long as everyone's happy, have your own do's and don'ts, and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you guys enjoy it, carry on! Dont worry about thinking that people with other preferences might get more meets, we would sooner have 1 good meet that we all enjoy than loads that make you unsure x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No your not being prudes but why soft swing if you love each other so much why not spend more time alone instead of with people you don,t want to have sex with."

There is far more to great sex than sliding a cock into a pussy.

Soft swap prudish? No but it is only for those that know there is more to great sex than penetration.

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By *usky Couple01Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

We are a soft swing couple to and we find it hard to meet couples or females that want soft swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are a soft swinging couple,we really enjoy meeting other couples but find it so hard because we wont go all the way,we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we, "

I think soft swing fun is hugely underrated by a lot of people on Fab. Some of the best meets I have had have been soft swing but im a sucker for foreplay!

Fair play to you and just do what you feel comfortable with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some peoplethink your here for their pleasure and forget your here mainly for yourselves.

Youve already said after your meets you go home and have the best sex ever, so it's working for you, and long may it continue.

As long as you make sure you inform the people its soft swing only before the meet I dont see an issue, if they dont like they dont have to meet do they.

Have fun x"

wise words

the lifestyle is all about freedom and not just about notches on bed posts enjoy what you love doing with the people who respect your wishes and be happy.

Happy swinging x

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

We're own partner penetration only (baring strap ons).

We have met those who think we just a challenge, those who think we will convert and had those who will not meet due to our choices.

We on the other hand prefer not to meet with others who's profiles contain areas we are not comfortable with.

so it fairly simple fun for those that match our preferences disappointment for anyone who can't read hehehe.

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford


"we are a soft swinging couple,we really enjoy meeting other couples but find it so hard because we wont go all the way,we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we, "

We also started out as soft swing and kept it that way for the same reasons as you. What we found happend was the same curiosity that led us to soft swing also had us wondering what it would be like to push another boundary and another and here we are now safe,sound, deeply in love and totally committed to each other. Our advise go at you own pace! Stick with what you feel comfortable with as it's no fun if your not enjoying what you are doing. Oh yeah and don't waste your time with the narrow minded oxygen thieves that give you stick. Have fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't swap either but quite frankly, we don't give a rat's about what others think. We're in this to have fun and enhance OUR lives which means we'll play the way WE want to.

For us, that tends to be with bi males. If we met a couple and all four of us were interested in playing though, it would involve horny group fun but with penetration being reserved for our own partners.

There really isn't a rule book for swinging, despite some people thinking there is."

You ve hit the nail on the head, there s no rules and if people want to play with you's the rules are there. People are here for there own reasons so if you were genuine you de respect people decisions

X

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By *ubybabyCouple
over a year ago

lincoln ish

I love soft swing its very horny erotic sexy fun xxx anyone wana try xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love soft swing its very horny erotic sexy fun xxx anyone wana try xxxx"

i think you may be inudated by single males although you are quite clear on your profile

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By *abcouple11Couple
over a year ago

Truro

We've had totally delightful meets where soft swing or only playing in same room as another couple doing same with eachother - sometimes been brilliant antidote to recent no-holds-barred "hard" swinging events which didn't deliver.

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By *untimeanytimeMan
over a year ago

kings lynn


"we are a soft swinging couple,we really enjoy meeting other couples but find it so hard because we wont go all the way,we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we, "

You do what ever you want to do. Sometimes soft swing is so much better than full. There is more excitement an more sexual tension built up for all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if anyone asks you to justify your preferences they clearly aren't the people you want to be meeting anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you guys enjoy it, carry on! Dont worry about thinking that people with other preferences might get more meets, we would sooner have 1 good meet that we all enjoy than loads that make you unsure x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we, "

We are soft swap at present as we are taking baby steps in our journey. Not because we love each other too much to fuck someone else. In fact, we love each other too much not to let that happen in the near future. Seeing each other enjoying ourselves and being pleasured/giving pleasure is what brought us here.

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By *ickle66Couple
over a year ago

Colchester

We like soft too just the licking and sucking all together and watching the other couple getting horny xx

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

we are just happy to meet..lol..soft or whatever fine with us,,connie x

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By *jloversCouple
over a year ago

teynham

No you are not bring a prude, we have done full and soft swap, which ever kind of meet we have, we always have sex when we get home

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

each to their own ...blah blah blah but i find this ..we love each other to much to have sex with another person tiresome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't decided if we will ever do a full swap. We're kind of "do what feels right in the moment" people. Honestly, I think I lean towards penetration with only my partner...but I could never say until in that moment.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

We are mainly a soft swap couple. We've never had an issue with anyone we have met.

We have done fullswap but it's the exception rather than the rule.

If it feels right then do it!

Some full swap couples don't kiss, other soft swap couples kiss all night.

Intimacy is different for everyone. We all have our own boundaries. Check out the gangbang thread, some thought 5 was enough some had 10+ and wanted more.

If you are finding meets tricky, then it's only similar to lots of other couples and singles on here.

We are all trying to find the right swingers for us, who are available at the same time as us in a reasonable locality as us.

But searching and playing with each other whilst you do is part of the fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are mainly a soft swap couple. We've never had an issue with anyone we have met.

We have done fullswap but it's the exception rather than the rule.

If it feels right then do it!

Some full swap couples don't kiss, other soft swap couples kiss all night.

Intimacy is different for everyone. We all have our own boundaries. Check out the gangbang thread, some thought 5 was enough some had 10+ and wanted more.

If you are finding meets tricky, then it's only similar to lots of other couples and singles on here.

We are all trying to find the right swingers for us, who are available at the same time as us in a reasonable locality as us.

But searching and playing with each other whilst you do is part of the fun..

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester


"we are a soft swinging couple,we really enjoy meeting other couples but find it so hard because we wont go all the way,we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we, "

You can do whatever your comfortable with, where also a soft swing couple and far from prudish. If people are going to take offence that's their problem not yours.

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By *ixmaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Do you think you guys would ever go the ultimate step further and go full penetration or just keep it at soft swing forever?

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Sounds hot that you share pleasurable times with another couple. Happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a soft swing couple to and we find it hard to meet couples or females that want soft swing "

we have found that in ireland especially.

almost as if this new found sexual freedom, away from the churches leanings of chastity, just goes to the fullest extreme and nothing in between.

we are a soft swing couple, as have discussed many times, we are the hardest end of the soft play spectrum, which means many soft couples dont want to play with us, as its only penetrative sex with others we dont do.

even though tat seems to be bore out in this thread, that is the way some others play too, we spell it out on our profile as its stops those at the softest end of the spectrum getting the wrong idea.

as for people saying soft play is too frustrating, i dont buy it at all.

we have as many no no's as some full swap couples, just different.

some will fuck, but not kiss

others will fuck, but wont put a cock in the female halfs mouth

so, if swinging to you is all about getting your dick in another womans pussy (or indeed the other way around) then i feel those people will NEVER understand just how much fun prolonged foreplay, then joining in with a couple as they fuck each other, can actually be.

each to their own, is an overused phrase on this site, but very appropriate

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples


"we are a soft swinging couple,we really enjoy meeting other couples but find it so hard because we wont go all the way,we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we, "

Everyone is free to swing in way that's right for them.

'Love each other to much to fuck somebody else' - statements like this do give the implication that those that do can't love as strong as you, which frankly is a nonsense.

Its bit like me saying couples that can share themselves fully with others are just more secure and don't have jealousy issues.

Keep the sweeping statements out and care not what others think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i also think the loving each other too much thing is a misnoma.

swingers must have a special kind of love anyway, to do what we do, soft or full.

how many vanilla relationships have the partners commenting on the looks of someone they meet, telling each other how sexy they are, without the feelings of jealousy, or wanting to rip each others heads off? lol.

to watch the person you love more than anyone else in the world doing sexual and sensual acts with another person, and not only accept it, but actually find it sexy yourself, well, thats a special love, imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not prudish at all, it'w what ever works for you, we have done both Soft and Full Swap and enjoyed both, but lately done more Soft it's still a turn on at the end of the day, and as long as everyone enjoys it, why worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you may ask we like all 4 to play in same room everything goes except penertration to the other female thats just for us,we love ladies both to receive oral off both men, ladies to give oral to both men,women to play giving oral to each other,ladies having strapons on etc etc etc xxxx"

What's not to like! Sounds like fun. Enjoy!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"i also think the loving each other too much thing is a misnoma.

swingers must have a special kind of love anyway, to do what we do, soft or full.

how many vanilla relationships have the partners commenting on the looks of someone they meet, telling each other how sexy they are, without the feelings of jealousy, or wanting to rip each others heads off? lol.

to watch the person you love more than anyone else in the world doing sexual and sensual acts with another person, and not only accept it, but actually find it sexy yourself, well, thats a special love, imo."

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"we are a soft swinging couple,we really enjoy meeting other couples but find it so hard because we wont go all the way,we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we,

Everyone is free to swing in way that's right for them.

'Love each other to much to fuck somebody else' - statements like this do give the implication that those that do can't love as strong as you, which frankly is a nonsense.

Its bit like me saying couples that can share themselves fully with others are just more secure and don't have jealousy issues.

Keep the sweeping statements out and care not what others think "

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By *av1970Man
over a year ago

Tattershall

Not prudish, as others have said you swing how you swing it is an entirely personal choice. I myself love soft fun with a couple it is just another experience and if all are happy at the end then what the hey anyway

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"we are a soft swinging couple,we really enjoy meeting other couples but find it so hard because we wont go all the way,we save the ultimate for ourselves because we are married and love each other to much to fuck somebody else,surely we are not being prudes are we, "
no not at all! You do what is right for you both. Judging by your veries all enjoy and are happy etc. Do agree tho with what others have said re the ' love too much to fuck any one eles' ... There are many variations to swinging . Love, trust and respect is deffinatly all there for the couples we know who swing, and share full swinging.

Enjoy all you do with likeminded others and frankly those who don't want soft swing will find what they crave too

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