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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many meet for socials first?

Or is messaging and pic swaps enough?

Just curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a lover of socials....each to their own way of doing things I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials for us every time before any playtime, just to be sure we get on and we're gonna produce fireworks in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do a social first. No play on first meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done a social , and don't intend starting now .

We should clarify though , 90% of our meets are in clubs .

The other 10% are either with those we have met before , hotel meets , or through pics and messages .

Simply on here to play , not too socialise

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By *anatee175Couple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I have social meets. I've met people and not played. I find it's best but that maybe just me.

Claire

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By *ack Genuine BullMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Every meet is different.

Every couple are different.

Sometimes it is straight down to business. No messing about, straight upstairs, and get your kit off!

But far nicer to socialise, chat, have a laugh, some outrageous flirting, building up the excitement and anticipation, unhurried and leisurely, letting things happen naturally!

Whatever is right for the lady or the couple, I am happy to go with the flow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my meets have been socials so far. One if the social lead to more at the weekend when we met up again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many meet for socials first?

Or is messaging and pic swaps enough?

Just curious."

Do whatever you feel is right for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont bother with socials.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I never used to do social meets, but i quite like them now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i dont bother with socials."

Wot if u meet and they got bad breath or b.o. or something?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they meet me for a social they wanna shag me anyhow . So may just aswell cut to the chase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends as I talk for ages most of the time I skip social

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When they meet me for a social they wanna shag me anyhow . So may just aswell cut to the chase "

Cant say I can blame them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they meet me for a social they wanna shag me anyhow . So may just aswell cut to the chase

Cant say I can blame them! "
Awww cheers chuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they meet me for a social they wanna shag me anyhow . So may just aswell cut to the chase

Cant say I can blame them! "
Want a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to meet socially first to ensure there is a connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to meet socially first to ensure there is a connection. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When they meet me for a social they wanna shag me anyhow . So may just aswell cut to the chase

Cant say I can blame them! Want a social "

Defo

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

I prefer a social first to see if we click and to also make sure I'm protecting myself. Heard too many stories about people being in dodgy situations and being lucky myself to have met in a public place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they meet me for a social they wanna shag me anyhow . So may just aswell cut to the chase

Cant say I can blame them! Want a social

Defo "
its a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meet first...cuppa and a chat to see if there is a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many meet for socials first?

Or is messaging and pic swaps enough?

Just curious."

I do, after messaging and pic swaps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done a social , and don't intend starting now .

We should clarify though , 90% of our meets are in clubs .

The other 10% are either with those we have met before , hotel meets , or through pics and messages .

Simply on here to play , not too socialise "

do you chat to the people you meet at clubs before getting down to business?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should have read the OP properly first

We have met for purely a social if people are close enough to us and we have met at clubs and parties,no guarantee of sex at any venue,its normally logistics that prevent too many socials

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

we only ever meet for a social first, but each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they meet me for a social they wanna shag me anyhow . So may just aswell cut to the chase "

Mmmm i can see why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first definatly !

A good laugh and a bit of banter makes a meet complete .

Not into just fukin like robots .

Plus they might be a minger ?

I mean c'mon weve all met someone who looks nothing like there pics ?

Those pics were usually taken before she had 4 kids and a cream cake habit on holiday in toromolinos in 1982 ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done a social , and don't intend starting now .

We should clarify though , 90% of our meets are in clubs .

The other 10% are either with those we have met before , hotel meets , or through pics and messages .

Simply on here to play , not too socialise "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Played by ear every time.....sometimes its a social, sometimes its more....either way I'm happy....I'm a people person so love a good natter and a laugh anyhow so its all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never had a social, but definitely would like to. Time is precious for us which is why it tends to be spontaneous meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a social first . Im not on here just to fuck any one I meet , plus there has to be chemistry there , I have meet a couple people who turned out to be the most boring people ever , and that was after messaging for a while and still expected to fuck me , I think not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely a social first . Im not on here just to fuck any one I meet , plus there has to be chemistry there , I have meet a couple people who turned out to be the most boring people ever , and that was after messaging for a while and still expected to fuck me , I think not "

Ooohhhh been there!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done a social , and don't intend starting now .

We should clarify though , 90% of our meets are in clubs .

The other 10% are either with those we have met before , hotel meets , or through pics and messages .

Simply on here to play , not too socialise "

if you're chatting through messages or at clubs, you're still socialising

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me, for me its a shag the first meeting .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not me, for me its a shag the first meeting ."

and a member over a year and not a meet yet ...... wonder why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not me, for me its a shag the first meeting .

and a member over a year and not a meet yet ...... wonder why "
Yawn zz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done a social , and don't intend starting now .

We should clarify though , 90% of our meets are in clubs .

The other 10% are either with those we have met before , hotel meets , or through pics and messages .

Simply on here to play , not too socialise

do you chat to the people you meet at clubs before getting down to business?"

Most of the time , yes , but at clubs like Chams we often just connect and play with little or no chat first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ost of the time its been socials but occasionally iv done a play meet without a social

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

As the meet will be in my home I always meet socially to ensure we get on and I feel comfortable with them. I've dodged a couple of bullets in the past that's for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually meet couples for socials first as theres four people to click ...single guys we dont usually bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet and play the social is having a chat and a drink before hand then on to play if we get on if not we say our good byes and leave. We on a swingers site to play and have fun not to test the coffee and hub nobs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social with a room booked just in case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done a social , and don't intend starting now .

We should clarify though , 90% of our meets are in clubs .

The other 10% are either with those we have met before , hotel meets , or through pics and messages .

Simply on here to play , not too socialise

do you chat to the people you meet at clubs before getting down to business?

Most of the time , yes , but at clubs like Chams we often just connect and play with little or no chat first "

Done that before too. When meeting as a couple it's different than when I meet on my own, for obvious reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always want a social and if all parties get on then can always play that night but never expect it to happen. Chatting on phone, messaging, pic swap doesn't mean you will click face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are happy to meet at home first, have the brew and chat and see where it goes, no pressure to play, usually us girls have had a phone chat prior to this anyway, equally happy to meet in a coffee shop/bar - have done both all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest. Majority of my meets haven't really been social meets but that's usually because i used to meet people from the chatrooms and we'd be speaking for a while before we met up.

Usually i've gone round to their place and we have built up a level of trust with each other - i am still a stranger she is letting in to her home (which is a big thing. For me anyway).

The expectation is always for a social meet and if things don't go how we would have wanted or there's no sexual chemistry we can still chill as good friends and have a laugh.

But, i have been lucky. The meets tend to last a bit longer and sweatier than i would have thought

I have had purely social meets. But, that's been with those who i'm good friends with but where we both know there'd be nothing more.

Like i say. It depends how and what you're using the site for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a few said I do prefer a social first as you get to gauge the person you are potentially going to have fun with and if there not fun over a social whats going to be different later on?

Plus from a ladies point of view I would be happier knowing she felt safe and relaxed in my company..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we like a nice chat over a couple of drinks, although we dont rule out taking things further on a first date, it helps to ensure all 4 parties click.

its easy for those that are messaging to hit it off, but its extremely rare to get all 4 people to message at the same time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont bother with socials.

Wot if u meet and they got bad breath or b.o. or something?! "

Before you meet you tell them,if you stink of BO or have grotty teeth and bad breath you aren't getting your fuck. If they aren't friendly with soap and toothpaste I don't think they will be offended if you tell them that. Be honest,you want a good time as much as they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont bother with socials.

Wot if u meet and they got bad breath or b.o. or something?!

Before you meet you tell them,if you stink of BO or have grotty teeth and bad breath you aren't getting your fuck. If they aren't friendly with soap and toothpaste I don't think they will be offended if you tell them that. Be honest,you want a good time as much as they do "
In such cases, no kissing, just fuck them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always insist on a social meet,but most men's idea of a social meet is a bit different to mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I almost always have a social meet first, ever since I had an unfortunate meet where the woman I was meeting had clearly gone to an awful lot of trouble, but looked nothing like her pictures and I politely made my excuse feeling somewhat guilty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont bother with socials.

Wot if u meet and they got bad breath or b.o. or something?!

Before you meet you tell them,if you stink of BO or have grotty teeth and bad breath you aren't getting your fuck. If they aren't friendly with soap and toothpaste I don't think they will be offended if you tell them that. Be honest,you want a good time as much as they do In such cases, no kissing, just fuck them "

And put a peg on your nose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont bother with socials.

Wot if u meet and they got bad breath or b.o. or something?!

Before you meet you tell them,if you stink of BO or have grotty teeth and bad breath you aren't getting your fuck. If they aren't friendly with soap and toothpaste I don't think they will be offended if you tell them that. Be honest,you want a good time as much as they do In such cases, no kissing, just fuck them "

Or get your mouth on his stinky cock then go for a snog with a mouth full of cock cheese.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind having a social.The main problem is finding a venue where you can talk openly otherwse you never get past the usual holidays, hobbies and house prices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont bother with socials.

Wot if u meet and they got bad breath or b.o. or something?!

Before you meet you tell them,if you stink of BO or have grotty teeth and bad breath you aren't getting your fuck. If they aren't friendly with soap and toothpaste I don't think they will be offended if you tell them that. Be honest,you want a good time as much as they do In such cases, no kissing, just fuck them

Or get your mouth on his stinky cock then go for a snog with a mouth full of cock cheese. "

yummy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind having a social.The main problem is finding a venue where you can talk openly otherwse you never get past the usual holidays, hobbies and house prices. "

have never had a problem discussing this kind of thing openly on a social meet.

you just dont shout from the top of your voice.

its not really that difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always suggest a social meet first, seems to me a lot less pressure on each party and you can tell very quickly if there is a connection/ attraction. I would not meet again if there was no chemistry between us.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Always meet in a public place first, always tell my text buddy where I'm at and profile name and any other info I have, sometimes play on first meet, always tell text buddy when meet is over. Works for me, I'd say do whatever feels right for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont bother with socials.

Wot if u meet and they got bad breath or b.o. or something?!

Before you meet you tell them,if you stink of BO or have grotty teeth and bad breath you aren't getting your fuck. If they aren't friendly with soap and toothpaste I don't think they will be offended if you tell them that. Be honest,you want a good time as much as they do "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a Social first for me, if theres no connection then its the last meet with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind having a social.The main problem is finding a venue where you can talk openly otherwse you never get past the usual holidays, hobbies and house prices.

have never had a problem discussing this kind of thing openly on a social meet.

you just dont shout from the top of your voice.

its not really that difficult"

I've had social meets with couples in busy pubs. We discussed allsorts! No-one paid any attention.

Apart from one time we were talking about bondage and the tables next to us went quiet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind having a social.The main problem is finding a venue where you can talk openly otherwse you never get past the usual holidays, hobbies and house prices.

have never had a problem discussing this kind of thing openly on a social meet.

you just dont shout from the top of your voice.

its not really that difficult

I've had social meets with couples in busy pubs. We discussed allsorts! No-one paid any attention.

Apart from one time we were talking about bondage and the tables next to us went quiet. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind having a social.The main problem is finding a venue where you can talk openly otherwse you never get past the usual holidays, hobbies and house prices.

have never had a problem discussing this kind of thing openly on a social meet.

you just dont shout from the top of your voice.

its not really that difficult"

I find it quite a naughty turn on talking about such things in public places...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet for a social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet for a social first "

Cup of tea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont bother with socials.

Wot if u meet and they got bad breath or b.o. or something?! "

You probably wouldnt notice if they were smelly just meeting them for a drink, not until you get right up close to them, usualy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet for a social first

Cup of tea?

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind having a social.The main problem is finding a venue where you can talk openly otherwse you never get past the usual holidays, hobbies and house prices.

have never had a problem discussing this kind of thing openly on a social meet.

you just dont shout from the top of your voice.

its not really that difficult

I find it quite a naughty turn on talking about such things in public places...lol "

Yes with hindsight one or two I have met seemed to get very aroused over such topics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials should be like the 14 day cooling off period x if you don't like the goods. ...return them x unused and in the same packaging x if sharks fly. ..why not fuck like rabbits x too many people with rules in here. ...become a traffic warden you get the uniform too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet for a social first

Cup of tea?

"

Oh alright. Hot chocolate then.

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By *utterflywingsWoman
over a year ago

Creswell Derbyshire


"How many meet for socials first?

Or is messaging and pic swaps enough?

Just curious."

Social meet everytime for me....i want to see if there's a spark and an attraction plus i have found so many pics dont match the actual person..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely a social first . Im not on here just to fuck any one I meet , plus there has to be chemistry there , I have meet a couple people who turned out to be the most boring people ever , and that was after messaging for a while and still expected to fuck me , I think not "

This and I've also had a couple of guys who were serious odd bods and nothing like their pictures or messages, plus one guy who could have been my very out of shape uncle

I will do straight play meets but they are rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different for a bloke I guess but, because I'm meeting single women it's usually somewhere public, drink, coffee etc, most of the time it's been straight off somewhere for sex anyway. Always be safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind having a social.The main problem is finding a venue where you can talk openly otherwse you never get past the usual holidays, hobbies and house prices.

have never had a problem discussing this kind of thing openly on a social meet.

you just dont shout from the top of your voice.

its not really that difficult"

we start off talking quietly but as we get more comfy with who we are chatting with - tend to forget ourelves -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social meet first. Get to know each other a bit.

There's more to sex than a cock and pussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like more socials but heyho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always do a social first. No play on first meet. "

Being a single fem, a social only, no sex first meet takes the pressure off.

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By *punkyhelmet5Man
over a year ago

Weston-super-mare

Maybe meet in pub for quick drink then home for what the meet is all about. Nobody wants to waste time with small talk thats wasting time. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer social meet first, then decide if to meet again. Especially when I am meeting seperately from hubby, x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We always meet socially first, no playing on first meet. It's on our profile and we make no exceptions and we never justify our choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am happy either way as long as the person/ people i am meeting are comfortable and feel at ease.

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By *acymarkMan
over a year ago

Bournmouth

I've done both, and both are a pleasure, but I like to get to know my lover as well as the physical stuff so my preference is social followed by play and with lots and lots of kissing too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first definatly !

A good laugh and a bit of banter makes a meet complete .

Not into just fukin like robots .

Plus they might be a minger ?

I mean c'mon weve all met someone who looks nothing like there pics ?

Those pics were usually taken before she had 4 kids and a cream cake habit on holiday in toromolinos in 1982 ! Lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy either way as long as the person/ people i am meeting are comfortable and feel at ease."
Your avatar pic makes me tilt my head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually say social meet first, sometimes you just can't get a feel for the person even through pix and messaging.

Last week, my mind was changed a bit, when I was tricked by a charming guy from the UK here on work, we had been chatting for a while and he asked if we could have a social meet, I agreed,and all I have to say is his idea of social is a lot different than mine lol

First time for everything

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