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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello fabbers.

Im looking for a little guidance and advice.

Ive recently met a girl (far from this site) who seems to be into being dominated.

It was a little surprising to Me as she is not at all submissive out side the bedroom. Shes just a normal sweet girl.

Although im no pussy in the bedroom, ive never actually gone down the road of being that dominant one.

Id really like some help and pointers. I definately like the idea but I dont want to go to far... Im sure after the first time we will talk and I can guage how she likes things but id like some advice on how to start this kind of activity off..... Even the seasoned doms out there started somewhere...

Maybe someone will let me come and see them in action.....

Thanks for any advice you can offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She must have read 50 shades and got her eyes opened to that kind of kink. So go and read it and get some ideas from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple

Talk to her

There are many different levels and types of being Dominated

To go in balls deep and blind will be a disaster

Some women are pain sluts and others just like to be humiliated

Then there are ones that just like to be tied up and teased

Even the professional Doms will chat first ,there is no point in doing something she won't get enjoyment from

So talk with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple

Talk to her

There are many different levels and types of being Dominated

To go in balls deep and blind will be a disaster

Some women are pain sluts and others just like to be humiliated

Then there are ones that just like to be tied up and teased

Even the professional Doms will chat first ,there is no point in doing something she won't get enjoyment from

So talk with her "

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"She must have read 50 shades and got her eyes opened to that kind of kink. So go and read it and get some ideas from it "

Except there's not rely any kink in it lol its a love story that was marketed well as kinky.

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge


"She must have read 50 shades and got her eyes opened to that kind of kink. So go and read it and get some ideas from it

Except there's not rely any kink in it lol its a love story that was marketed well as kinky. "
correct over hyped momy porn for the Oprah generation openly laughed at through out the fetish community

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She must have read 50 shades and got her eyes opened to that kind of kink. So go and read it and get some ideas from it

Except there's not rely any kink in it lol its a love story that was marketed well as kinky. correct over hyped momy porn for the Oprah generation openly laughed at through out the fetish community "

But it did do wonders for the adult shops, sales were booming. So it was good in that respect.

Mr Grey is way to soft for me, I like Mr Black

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She must have read 50 shades and got her eyes opened to that kind of kink. So go and read it and get some ideas from it

Except there's not rely any kink in it lol its a love story that was marketed well as kinky. correct over hyped momy porn for the Oprah generation openly laughed at through out the fetish community

But it did do wonders for the adult shops, sales were booming. So it was good in that respect.

Mr Grey is way to soft for me, I like Mr Black "

I like Mr Black with red eyes

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough


"

Mr Grey is way to soft for me, I like Mr Black

I like Mr Black with red eyes "

Never look them in the eyes or they will suck out your willpower and leave you a gibbering mindless wreck!

If your lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go on amazon,they sell bondage kits for 10 quid and they good quality.same thing on the uk shops is 30+

get her involved,make some spreader bars also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Mr Grey is way to soft for me, I like Mr Black

I like Mr Black with red eyes

Never look them in the eyes or they will suck out your willpower and leave you a gibbering mindless wreck!

If your lucky "

Sounds perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Mr Grey is way to soft for me, I like Mr Black

I like Mr Black with red eyes

Never look them in the eyes or they will suck out your willpower and leave you a gibbering mindless wreck!

If your lucky "

I want to be that lucky

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By *aisy2012Couple
over a year ago

everywhere


"Hello fabbers.

Im looking for a little guidance and advice.

Ive recently met a girl (far from this site) who seems to be into being dominated.

It was a little surprising to Me as she is not at all submissive out side the bedroom. Shes just a normal sweet girl.

Although im no pussy in the bedroom, ive never actually gone down the road of being that dominant one.

Id really like some help and pointers. I definately like the idea but I dont want to go to far... Im sure after the first time we will talk and I can guage how she likes things but id like some advice on how to start this kind of activity off..... Even the seasoned doms out there started somewhere...

Maybe someone will let me come and see them in action.....

Thanks for any advice you can offer."

Oddly enough this is exactly like Sexy & I. Away from the bedroom she is anything but sub & with other guys she is definitely a lady who knows exactly what she wants & how to get it. But with me she is increasingly more sub. I am no ones idea of a Dom (there is some element of control freakery going on lol) so I take it very gently when I am suggesting new scenarios. We started with the idea of "ownership", having her collared & being available for "use", & moved on from there. I look at it like I am opening doors for her to peep through - up to her if she goes through them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She must have read 50 shades and got her eyes opened to that kind of kink. So go and read it and get some ideas from it

Except there's not rely any kink in it lol its a love story that was marketed well as kinky. correct over hyped momy porn for the Oprah generation openly laughed at through out the fetish community "

If 50 Shades gets people interested in kink and helps them develop their kinkier side then it has done a good job as far as I am concerned.

Not everyone is naturally confident enough to be kinky.

My Mrs liked reading the trilogy while on holiday last year and it helped her realise her submissive side. However she isn't too chuffed about the casting choice of Mr Grey in the forthcoming movies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello fabbers.

Im looking for a little guidance and advice.

Ive recently met a girl (far from this site) who seems to be into being dominated.

It was a little surprising to Me as she is not at all submissive out side the bedroom. Shes just a normal sweet girl.

Although im no pussy in the bedroom, ive never actually gone down the road of being that dominant one.

Id really like some help and pointers. I definately like the idea but I dont want to go to far... Im sure after the first time we will talk and I can guage how she likes things but id like some advice on how to start this kind of activity off..... Even the seasoned doms out there started somewhere...

Maybe someone will let me come and see them in action.....

Thanks for any advice you can offer.

Oddly enough this is exactly like Sexy & I. Away from the bedroom she is anything but sub & with other guys she is definitely a lady who knows exactly what she wants & how to get it. But with me she is increasingly more sub. I am no ones idea of a Dom (there is some element of control freakery going on lol) so I take it very gently when I am suggesting new scenarios. We started with the idea of "ownership", having her collared & being available for "use", & moved on from there. I look at it like I am opening doors for her to peep through - up to her if she goes through them. "

Great way to look at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you see on the outside isn't always what's on the inside, for example professional 6ft, works in the city and wears pin stripe suits, not the kind of man you would see as a sub but they are, sometimes its about being able to let go of the daily control and giving that to someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple

Talk to her

There are many different levels and types of being Dominated

To go in balls deep and blind will be a disaster

Some women are pain sluts and others just like to be humiliated

Then there are ones that just like to be tied up and teased

Even the professional Doms will chat first ,there is no point in doing something she won't get enjoyment from

So talk with her "

This says it all. Communication is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As people have said, talking is the key.

Remember that as the dominant her safety is in your hands, she is giving you the control over her, treat it with respect and don't push too quickly.

Find out if she has done anything before, what she likes and what she doesn't and go from there, use what she tells you as ingredients in your play, mix them up together and drive her wild

One great tool to remember is patience, don't rush the play. Mind games can be a big part of S&M play, keep her guessing. If she is tied and blindfolded pause between actions, the waiting will make her mind go into overload and it heightens the sensations.

When I first started I was told to think, is what I am doing Safe, Sane and Consensual. If your play meets all those conditions you should be ok, have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple

Talk to her

There are many different levels and types of being Dominated

To go in balls deep and blind will be a disaster

Some women are pain sluts and others just like to be humiliated

Then there are ones that just like to be tied up and teased

Even the professional Doms will chat first ,there is no point in doing something she won't get enjoyment from

So talk with her "

well said above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She must have read 50 shades and got her eyes opened to that kind of kink. So go and read it and get some ideas from it "

50 Shades of shite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't kill her. That's never good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She must have read 50 shades and got her eyes opened to that kind of kink. So go and read it and get some ideas from it

Except there's not rely any kink in it lol its a love story that was marketed well as kinky. correct over hyped momy porn for the Oprah generation openly laughed at through out the fetish community

If 50 Shades gets people interested in kink and helps them develop their kinkier side then it has done a good job as far as I am concerned.

Not everyone is naturally confident enough to be kinky.

My Mrs liked reading the trilogy while on holiday last year and it helped her realise her submissive side. However she isn't too chuffed about the casting choice of Mr Grey in the forthcoming movies.

"

I agree with that. People keep slating the books, but if they gave people the interest/ confidence to try something then I think it's a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As people have said, talking is the key.

Remember that as the dominant her safety is in your hands, she is giving you the control over her, treat it with respect and don't push too quickly.

Find out if she has done anything before, what she likes and what she doesn't and go from there, use what she tells you as ingredients in your play, mix them up together and drive her wild

One great tool to remember is patience, don't rush the play. Mind games can be a big part of S&M play, keep her guessing. If she is tied and blindfolded pause between actions, the waiting will make her mind go into overload and it heightens the sensations.

When I first started I was told to think, is what I am doing Safe, Sane and Consensual. If your play meets all those conditions you should be ok, have fun "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What you see on the outside isn't always what's on the inside, for example professional 6ft, works in the city and wears pin stripe suits, not the kind of man you would see as a sub but they are, sometimes its about being able to let go of the daily control and giving that to someone else"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any of you filthy people fancy letting an observer into your games?

I don't necessarily need to get involved.... And I'm not just into watching, this is purely for educational purposes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

But watch some videos

There are plenty out there available xvideos and hamster have endless vids for all sorts of kink and fetishes

Ideally watch them with your partner, then she might give you some idea of what she likes

As I said there are many different types of fetish, kinks etc all at varying levels

So until you know what she wants,likes ,dislikes its unlikely she will get the full benefits of what you want to do.

Also remember it's a very personal and private thing ,not something a lot of women will offer up lightly so be patient and start off slow

It is like most things to do with women all in the mind

Orouse there brain ,stimulate them ,it's a lot about suggestion

Unfortunately women are wired different to us,they dont turn on and off

You need to do it over time to gain there trust

Once you unlock that door though and they let you in ,they WILL share there innermost dirtiest secrets with you.

Patients, trust ,and communication ,if you don't have any of the above then don't do it

Hopefully were see a post in here in a few weeks telling us all how fucked up your partner is and your shocked to find out she's a deviant to the 1st degree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple

Talk to her

There are many different levels and types of being Dominated

To go in balls deep and blind will be a disaster

Some women are pain sluts and others just like to be humiliated

Then there are ones that just like to be tied up and teased

Even the professional Doms will chat first ,there is no point in doing something she won't get enjoyment from

So talk with her "

Exactly this..!!

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