FabSwingers.com forum: Balance

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just curious, well a bit more than curious actually, about how much importance people place on the sexual balance when in a relationship?

What I mean by that really is certain sexual acts that you either do or don't like. For example, one person may like pretty straight up stuff, sex and oral basically I guess, but what if the other half likes the whole hog? i.e. most of the things you could see on someones interests list on this site.

How would that affect your relationship? Would it place a strain on it? Would it make you consider finding someone else? Or would you try to work past that?

Obviously sex isn't everything in a relationship (maybe preaching to the wrong audience here?

), but sex can also be the downfall of many a relationship too.

This could also cover the balance of one just having a higher sex drive than the other (although I know you lot are horny feckers!). I guess perhaps no relationship is totally equal in these sorts of things, but I'd like to hear your views and experiences.

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By *pecial bbCouple
over a year ago

london

I think it would cause issues if your libidos didnt match up, or if your levels of freakiness were out of kilter too. One of you would feel pressured to do things you were not happy to do to keep the other happy. not a good situation. Or do like others do and come on here and meet people that can satisfy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult to say, id like someone on equal pegging with me otherwise its pointless. I like to be adventurous but one ex boyfriend, who caught me masturbating, didnt have a clue what to do

kind of kills it then, plus i was never satisfied with him. Have only really started enjoying sex since being on here, soaked the sheets quite often, plus i can either choose to go for a 2nd, 3rd visit or not

I think sex is important in a relationship, if there are differences, someone has to make a compromise and that to me, doesnt make for good sex and would possibly destroy the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

We both match each other in libido but have some differing likes and fantasies

What we do is compromise,each of us allow the other to fulfill theirs on occasions so we both not only participate in what we love but enjoy the fact that we're allowing each other to be open and to enjoy what turns us on

I love to see him enjoy what turns him on the most,and vice versa

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

I think so far we are pretty well equally turned on by our separate fantasies, because watching the other person lose themselves in ecstasy is our ultimate turn-on... not found anything (yet!) that one wants that the other would be unwilling to do, or permit/watch.

But I can easily see how different perceptions and desires to experiment could break a couple up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your thoughts guys... anyone else got anything to add?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

alot of the stuff on my intersts are things that i like the sound of but have not yet done so dont know if i will like them or not

i agree with HPC in that if in a relationship there must be comprmises to fulfil each persons desires.

I have been in a relationsip where on persons sex drve (mine) was higher than the other persons and it did not end well purely for that reason. yes sex isnt everything but it is a big part of a relationship

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, well, i have to say in my last relationship, we seemed pretty well matched at the beginning, it soon became apparent that i wanted to try different things , he didnt, sex became very boring, then non existent.....the relationship ended ( not just because of that, although it was a contributing factor) I now have a very balanced sexual relationship with my partner, yin/yang.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being in a long term relationship and maintaining a happy equilibrium means a bit of give-and-take in all areas, not just sex.

Sometimes (male half here) I want sex and my OH doesn't and vice versa; but it also means one of us will have sex even if we're not initially in the same sexy mood as the other one.

However, Helen's favourite trick is just to start masturbating in the bed beside me, if I don't want sex.

I usually end up wanting it.

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By *INKKKYMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL/ WIRRAL

"I think so far we are pretty well equally turned on by our separate fantasies, because watching the other person lose themselves in ecstasy is our ultimate turn-on... not found anything (yet!) that one wants that the other would be unwilling to do, or permit/watch.

But I can easily see how different perceptions and desires to experiment could break a couple up."
Great answer, summed up perfectly!

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