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By *s_4_u OP   Couple
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

We met someone the other day that just wanted to watch us have sex,wich was fine he wanted to pay for the hotel and give us 100 pound, spoke about the 100 pound with him and he explained this was all part of the thrill for him and insisted that we take it.

Now i no wot u must be thinking is he a weired o, but no was very pleasent and was all enjoyed by all. So wot u do uthink bout it lol. See me diggin a grave her lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant see a thing wrong with that as long as everyone was happy with it

Dont let it worry ya lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

How do you feel about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We met someone the other day that just wanted to watch us have sex,wich was fine he wanted to pay for the hotel and give us 100 pound, spoke about the 100 pound with him and he explained this was all part of the thrill for him and insisted that we take it.

Now i no wot u must be thinking is he a weired o, but no was very pleasent and was all enjoyed by all. So wot u do uthink bout it lol. See me diggin a grave her lol "

nothing wrong with prostitution,its the oldest and one of the most honest professions in the world,n by being paid to perform sexually in front of him for money,thats what its called,prostitution

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"We met someone the other day that just wanted to watch us have sex,wich was fine he wanted to pay for the hotel and give us 100 pound, spoke about the 100 pound with him and he explained this was all part of the thrill for him and insisted that we take it.

Now i no wot u must be thinking is he a weired o, but no was very pleasent and was all enjoyed by all. So wot u do uthink bout it lol. See me diggin a grave her lol "

We'd be willing to join you if he increased the price!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We met someone the other day that just wanted to watch us have sex,wich was fine he wanted to pay for the hotel and give us 100 pound, spoke about the 100 pound with him and he explained this was all part of the thrill for him and insisted that we take it.

Now i no wot u must be thinking is he a weired o, but no was very pleasent and was all enjoyed by all. So wot u do uthink bout it lol. See me diggin a grave her lol

nothing wrong with prostitution,its the oldest and one of the most honest professions in the world,n by being paid to perform sexually in front of him for money,thats what its called,prostitution"

How can getting paid to have sex with ur own partner be prostitution..? What if he never paid, what will that be. ?

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By *s_4_u OP   Couple
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

well we enjoyed it . but like someone said it is a form of prostitution, and we defo dnt class our selves as that.We didnt really want the money tho . Then again nice to be paid for something u enjoy hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well we enjoyed it . but like someone said it is a form of prostitution, and we defo dnt class our selves as that.We didnt really want the money tho . Then again nice to be paid for something u enjoy hahaha "

GEtting paid to have sex with ur partner is like having ur cake and eating ot.. As long as both party had fun. When things appear to be too good to be true people usually feel awkward but we just need to admit people have various fantasies and he probably wouldnt have had thesame thrill if he never paid.. He must be a public school guy lol.. They come up with some wierd fantasies lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We met someone the other day that just wanted to watch us have sex,wich was fine he wanted to pay for the hotel and give us 100 pound, spoke about the 100 pound with him and he explained this was all part of the thrill for him and insisted that we take it.

Now i no wot u must be thinking is he a weired o, but no was very pleasent and was all enjoyed by all. So wot u do uthink bout it lol. See me diggin a grave her lol

nothing wrong with prostitution,its the oldest and one of the most honest professions in the world,n by being paid to perform sexually in front of him for money,thats what its called,prostitution

How can getting paid to have sex with ur own partner be prostitution..? What if he never paid, what will that be. ?"

voyeurism/exhibitionism,not quite sure,what i do know if you accept cash for a sexual act surely thats prostitution,wether you are playing with your own partner or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

n just too repeat what i said earlier,we dont condone the act,each to their own,we just see that as an act of prostitution,purely because money was exchanged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We met someone the other day that just wanted to watch us have sex,wich was fine he wanted to pay for the hotel and give us 100 pound, spoke about the 100 pound with him and he explained this was all part of the thrill for him and insisted that we take it.

Now i no wot u must be thinking is he a weired o, but no was very pleasent and was all enjoyed by all. So wot u do uthink bout it lol. See me diggin a grave her lol

nothing wrong with prostitution,its the oldest and one of the most honest professions in the world,n by being paid to perform sexually in front of him for money,thats what its called,prostitution

How can getting paid to have sex with ur own partner be prostitution..? What if he never paid, what will that be. ?

voyeurism/exhibitionism,not quite sure,what i do know if you accept cash for a sexual act surely thats prostitution,wether you are playing with your own partner or not"

I think the thin line between the word prostitution and non prostitution is when u demand to get paid... If u ever get offered without demanding especially if the watcher feels it will fullfil their fantasy , I think calling that prostitution is quite idealistic..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

then i must be idealistic,in your opinion

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

We got offered money for sex one day, and it offended the hell out of me ( I was surprised it did ) so I couldn't accept it and probably if he offered while at a meet, he would have been sent home fast.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

PS on another matter, charging for sex isn't allowed on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"then i must be idealistic,in your opinion"

Its not personal hun... U are entitled to ur opinion as I am.. Neither is wrong or right..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"PS on another matter, charging for sex isn't allowed on the site."

i dont believe they charged the guy,apparently he offered,in fact insisted,but by accepting the cash,to me thats prostitution

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By *oobCouple
over a year ago

Netherlands

As a bonus you might turn up online on an amateur/voyeur/porn/video website.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"then i must be idealistic,in your opinion

Its not personal hun... U are entitled to ur opinion as I am.. Neither is wrong or right.."

oh i know that,i didnt take it personal,in fact,i take the fact you called me hun,more personal than being idealistic,lol

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Look at it as acting.....they were performing an act for payment, just as an actor does every night on TV.

Not quite the same thing as having sex with the Payee........

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"PS on another matter, charging for sex isn't allowed on the site.

i dont believe they charged the guy,apparently he offered,in fact insisted,but by accepting the cash,to me thats prostitution"

I was just reminding people

I am not sure this is as cut and dried so wasn't commenting on this case.

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By *s_4_u OP   Couple
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

who mentioned charging any 1 for sex ?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

You go into a sex club in Hamburg and on the stage there are a couple having live sex.....prostitution or performing arts?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"You go into a sex club in Hamburg and on the stage there are a couple having live sex.....prostitution or performing arts?"

Not sure, they mst be getting paid for it I suppose.

I wouldn't know what it is called to be honest, and why I said it doesn't sound black or white.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Well in Germany it is classed as a performing art, as they are not being paid to have sex with a third party.

Another piece of useless information....

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I nearly said you are full of it then, but thought it might not come across very well

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I nearly said you are full of it then, but thought it might not come across very well"

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I've only skimmed the posts - sorry! But I can't see anything wrong here - it's totally different from being paid to have sex, I would also be extremely offended if some one asked me to sleep with them for money and wouldn't do it! But, in this instance, the guy obviously got a thrill from handing money over- it's like role playing I suppose - with the element of prostitution there but in a different way. I'm tying meself in knots here! Basically, if you were happy, he was happy and no one was hurt and no laws were broken - what the hell! One mans meat is another man's poison! Z xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish i had a partner, id do it, will help pay towards fitting my new kitchen or a holiday as ive not had one for about 5 yrs

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

what's the guys phone number?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"We met someone the other day that just wanted to watch us have sex,wich was fine he wanted to pay for the hotel and give us 100 pound, spoke about the 100 pound with him and he explained this was all part of the thrill for him and insisted that we take it.

Now i no wot u must be thinking is he a weired o, but no was very pleasent and was all enjoyed by all. So wot u do uthink bout it lol. See me diggin a grave her lol "

if he insisted then it would be rude to say no

as with anything its what you think about it that matters and if you werent intentionally going out to get the money then i dont think it is prostitution.

i have had guys pay my petrol money to meet them and it did feel a bit odd to be honest.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Just been reading up on prostitution as a matter of interest. One thing is clear and that is the public use the term very loosely and it often gets applied to situations incorrectly. It would also seem that the legal phrase ‘living off immoral earnings (pimping)’ has been dropped, no doubt arguments were made as to what is or isn’t immoral.

Working as a prostitute is not currently illegal in the UK but the act of prostitution is illegal. This specific act can only exist in a public place or brothel and is subject to a person asking for sex in exchange for money or offering sex in exchange for money in a public place. It also seems that soliciting and curb-crawling can stand up on their own as an offence, whereas it used to need an act of prostitution to have taken place… if I’ve understood what I read correctly.

Exchanging money for sex in private is not illegal in the UK on the basis that the place isn’t a brothel. A place could be considered a brother if more than two people are involved in exchanging sex/money… so now the plot thickens in respect of the event that the OP describes LOL

Because there were more than two people involved IF either had ASKED for anything sexual in exchange for money or OFFERED anything sexual in exchange for money, then you could be looking at pimping, operating a brothel and prostitution – WOW!!!

But on the other hand if this guy had said, “That was fantastic, thank you, here is a bouquet of flowers (that happened to cost £100) this thread/post probably wouldn’t exist!

This makes two more things clear, one is I talk a lot of bollocks, no change there then but more importantly it seems that prostitution laws are also a load of old bollocks!

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Just been reading up on prostitution as a matter of interest. One thing is clear and that is the public use the term very loosely and it often gets applied to situations incorrectly. It would also seem that the legal phrase ‘living off immoral earnings (pimping)’ has been dropped, no doubt arguments were made as to what is or isn’t immoral.

Working as a prostitute is not currently illegal in the UK but the act of prostitution is illegal. This specific act can only exist in a public place or brothel and is subject to a person asking for sex in exchange for money or offering sex in exchange for money in a public place. It also seems that soliciting and curb-crawling can stand up on their own as an offence, whereas it used to need an act of prostitution to have taken place… if I’ve understood what I read correctly.

Exchanging money for sex in private is not illegal in the UK on the basis that the place isn’t a brothel. A place could be considered a brother if more than two people are involved in exchanging sex/money… so now the plot thickens in respect of the event that the OP describes LOL

Because there were more than two people involved IF either had ASKED for anything sexual in exchange for money or OFFERED anything sexual in exchange for money, then you could be looking at pimping, operating a brothel and prostitution – WOW!!!

But on the other hand if this guy had said, “That was fantastic, thank you, here is a bouquet of flowers (that happened to cost £100) this thread/post probably wouldn’t exist!

This makes two more things clear, one is I talk a lot of bollocks, no change there then but more importantly it seems that prostitution laws are also a load of old bollocks! "

bollocks all round then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fair play to the lad , can understand your predicament though . if he was happy and it was part of the tuen on for him and your were comfortable with the situation then all is well in my book .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was put in a similar position on what i thought was a normal meet ....did i take the money ???? you betcha ! it was part of the buzz for him and he always does the same whenever we meet ...i really dont see it as prostitution ...what if a guy buys u perfume or chocolates or champagne its kinda the same thing isnt it ??

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"i was put in a similar position on what i thought was a normal meet ....did i take the money ???? you betcha ! it was part of the buzz for him and he always does the same whenever we meet ...i really dont see it as prostitution ...what if a guy buys u perfume or chocolates or champagne its kinda the same thing isnt it ??"

add to this allowing them to d things for you like fix your car etc

i have often entertained the idea of finding a mechanic cos my car is crap but is this wrong?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"We met someone the other day that just wanted to watch us have sex,wich was fine he wanted to pay for the hotel and give us 100 pound, spoke about the 100 pound with him and he explained this was all part of the thrill for him and insisted that we take it.

Now i no wot u must be thinking is he a weired o, but no was very pleasent and was all enjoyed by all. So wot u do uthink bout it lol. See me diggin a grave her lol

nothing wrong with prostitution,its the oldest and one of the most honest professions in the world,n by being paid to perform sexually in front of him for money,thats what its called,prostitution

How can getting paid to have sex with ur own partner be prostitution..? What if he never paid, what will that be. ?

voyeurism/exhibitionism,not quite sure,what i do know if you accept cash for a sexual act surely thats prostitution,wether you are playing with your own partner or not"

So......... a couple invite you to play, and insist on meeting somewhere to have a meal first, which they insist on paying for, then off to the hotel which, again, they insist on paying for.....

would you class that as prostitution too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've often been told I'd make a fortune from the sub men I tie up and do naughty things to with wax and the like but that would change the dynamic of the meet for me.

There are professional Dommes out there, if any one mentioned money there wouldn't be a meet.

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By *ickens CiderMan
over a year ago

taunton

Contra Exchange... That's an accountable term for what's happen surely... If both parties are happy and all that?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Cant say i would see it as prostitution but dont think i personally would be comfortable with it. However i sell myself every day when i show up for work.

Steve

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Cant say i would see it as prostitution but dont think i personally would be comfortable with it. However i sell myself every day when i show up for work.

Steve "

Well, in all fairness love, you are a rent boy! Z hee hee Sorry!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Ya daft tart some of the silly buggers on here will think your joking

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice one,as long as everyone got what they wanted,wheres the problem.

Pity you can't do it a couple of times a week eh?

Its only the same as doing a porn film but with an audience of one and he can't freeze frame.

XXXX

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Ya daft tart some of the silly buggers on here will think your joking

Steve"

you two look like you have a split personality disorder when you get going lol

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Ya daft tart some of the silly buggers on here will think your joking

Steve

you two look like you have a split personality disorder when you get going lol"

I know - we've got a laptop each and sat next to each other on the settee!! Confusing even for us! Z

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

I don't think I would mind tbh I would not organize a meet for being pade but if it happend within a meet I am not sure I would say no. we are skint but have no debt so I may just think ah that would pay for the food bill this week. or two

michelle

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By *arlitos WayMan
over a year ago

London

I wish I could get £100 for every time I am being watched having sex... this would help me get by this recession!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We met someone the other day that just wanted to watch us have sex,wich was fine he wanted to pay for the hotel and give us 100 pound, spoke about the 100 pound with him and he explained this was all part of the thrill for him and insisted that we take it.

Now i no wot u must be thinking is he a weired o, but no was very pleasent and was all enjoyed by all. So wot u do uthink bout it lol. See me diggin a grave her lol

nothing wrong with prostitution,its the oldest and one of the most honest professions in the world,n by being paid to perform sexually in front of him for money,thats what its called,prostitution"

hahaha you obviously dont think theres nothing wrong with it, just by the fact you've rubbed their noses in what they was doing in a blatant act to make them feel bad about what they did shows that

I personally have no issues with anyone making money from sex, i think anyone who can make a few bob from having a shag has their heads screwed on lol

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By *INKKKYMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL/ WIRRAL

theres your answer then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like easy money to me

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

did you meet here 1st or was it just a random meet in a bar etc ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ridiculous calling it prostitution, I've helped a lady out with some things in connection with her moving house, I didn't take money from her and yes we had sex. A non swinging ex of mine used to enjoy having 20 pound notes on the bed when we fucked, she said it made her feel like a cheap whore, that was her fantasy. The guy who gave the couple the money clearly had a fantasy and he's fulfilled it, fair play to all involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ita against rules im sure to offer/accept money for sexual favours s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We met someone the other day that just wanted to watch us have sex,wich was fine he wanted to pay for the hotel and give us 100 pound, spoke about the 100 pound with him and he explained this was all part of the thrill for him and insisted that we take it.

Now i no wot u must be thinking is he a weired o, but no was very pleasent and was all enjoyed by all. So wot u do uthink bout it lol. See me diggin a grave her lol "

Take the money are you some kind of fool it's £100 for something you would do for nothing

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By *uv2play2Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

One of my fantasY's pass his number to us lol .. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my fantasY's pass his number to us lol .. x"
. Message me I'll happily do it

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By *aralewisCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Our fantasy toooo

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By *s_4_u OP   Couple
over a year ago

nottinghamshire


"did you meet here 1st or was it just a random meet in a bar etc ? "

We met off another site we used to use before we new about fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"did you meet here 1st or was it just a random meet in a bar etc ?

We met off another site we used to use before we new about fab"

I wonder if anyone has a fantasy of paying for sex in advance and then the person they paid blocking them as soon as they got the money ?

Seems almost anything is a sexual thrill to some these days

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I'm a total prostitute.. just good for me that I have another form of income

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By *inytitsbigcockCouple
over a year ago

glos

think we are all prostitutes in a way

go to work and provide a service and get paid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if I'm honest that this is a bit of a fantasy for me... I know it is looked down upon but maybe that's the thrill of it...

PS... I have never done it before I get slated about rules, prostitution etc lol

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